by
Black Girl With Long Hair
*UPDATE: In the original version of this article we incorrectly stated that this rant was recorded after Trump’s victory. It was actually recorded during election season, before Trump’s November 8 victory.*
As a country we are still processing the implications of Trump’s surprising presidential victory. Some black Americans in interracial relationships have been posting to social media about their struggle to help white partners understand the depths of their anger and fear. Unfortunately, in some of those instances white partners have shown their true, deeply racist colors.
One black woman named Madison secretly recorded her boyfriend, who she has since dumped, going off on an anti-black, Pro-Trump rant.
She says she shared the video because she knew she couldn’t be the only one experiencing it.
“I know I cant be the only one to have experienced and I wanted people to know that there is so much love on the other side of an abusive relationship. It’s scary to leave, but well worth it.”
The video is below. If you would rather not listen, here is the transript by Gille Wade. Please be warned both the video and transcript are graphic;
“Him –
“You don’t like it, get the fuck out.
You know what? That’s what Trump should do. The second he’s elected, give all you mother fuckers your tickets back.
You don’t like it, peace! black lives matter? Go matter to fucking Ghana. Go dig for fucking diamonds over there. Have fun.”
Her –
“You do realize you sound like a racist, right?”
Him –
“Maddie I don’t care. You want to know why? Cause I’m not up there saying white lives matter. White lives come to the front.
Black lives go to the back. I’m just like ‘hey what’s up. How you doing?’ but when you want to come at me with your fucking black lives matter
and this that and the other thing and the white people need to go to the back because black people always had to go to the back now the white people need to do it?
Fuck your black ass. Get the fuck out. Get out of my country. You’re causing the fucking problem. Bye! Here’s your ticket back to mother fucking Nigeria. Peace out.”
Her-
“I never said any of that.”
Him –
“The guy you voted for is the number one fucking head of that fucking bullshit. Fucking started the shit and fucking incites fucking riots. When he said I support the black lives matter movement,
that’s it, you’re done. You’re done. You’re a dumb fucking n*gg*r in my book. You have no fucking value to me.”
Her –
“You do realize that makes you sound like a racist when you use racial slurs that way.”
Him –
“Then don’t be a dumb n*gg*r. Don’t be a dumb fucking n*gg*r. Don’t be an average shoe shine boy. Get a job, go to work, do something other than sitting there making fucking videos about ‘fuck Donald Trump. Going take my mom’s fucking food stamps away. blahblahblah I’mma start a war. I’mma go to war.’ Why don’t you get a fucking job, you fucking n*gg*r?
Jesus christ. Sound like a racist all the fuck I want. I’m right.”
66 Responses
And so it begins…
How about the fact that there are more whites on welfare than blacks? Always has been. Smh.
The comments were more exhausting than the video.
Let’s focus on this asshat please.
He could name two countries in the African continent. Progress? ?
That is so sad. Smh
I don’t like the victim blaming from the Black women (I understand from self hating Black men and racist) she got out of the relationship. So what if he did it before OR she heard it before. She got out. She needs to heal – with love. She’s young, she’ll recover. Her next story will be her finding love again, married with babies. Don’t tear her apart. Society already does that. She deserves a 2nd and 3rd chance. Leave her be.
Oh please does anyone really think that’s the first time he spoke to her like that? She didn’t even act shocked. It rolled all too easily off his tongue… maybe she should take a good hard look at herself in a mirror. Know a heap of BW with WM who talk to them like that. Sorry but zero sympathy from me. Victim blaming? Nah, more like fool spotting
Yes, she seems to tolerate this bs. I don’t feel sympathy for people who put themselves in situations and stay in denial; it’s true that he could be manipulating her but she can always walk away…and she didn’t! hmm
So what. She’s a young lady that got out. She’s alive. Learn how to love and support your sister. You are your sister.
Does the fact that he is White somehow make her more weak, more of a disgrace to BW? This situation would be just as scary and demeaning if it were a Black man screaming at her and calling her a low-life dirty b**ch or wh*re. An attack from any man of any race is scary.
She didn’t just sit and take it. Not only did she quit this relationship, but made sure to record him and share it. This was the smartest way of standing up to her abuser. He is so busted and I wish I could see the look on his face now!
Some may say she responded to calmly. I think she purposely kept calm in her responses, not only to show proof that his rant was unprovoked by her, but he could have physically hurt her or worse if she had responded more aggressively.
I agree. She is smart and did the right thing. She is out of the relationship. Black women and girls are gentil and can be easily intimated by males White or Black. You are your sister. Learn to love and support her. She got out. She’s safe – that’s the real story.
This woman should be praised for taping this! How many BW stay in abusive relationships with BM? Should it have made a difference just because he was white?
At least she had the courage to not only leave him, but made a video as proof and shared it to help others. No doubt he is humiliated, and he derves it. If only other women, and men, in abusive relationships would do this!
I believe she purposely remained calm in her responses because not only is it proof that his rant was unprovoked by her, but who knows if he would have hurt her physically or worse. An angry, abusive man is scary no matter what race he is.
I applaud her.
Me too!! I applaud her. She’s out and alive.
Gurl…you need to run!! That is not your boyfriend!! Wow!!!
Why is this BW with a WM whe talks like this about her and her people? This couldn’t have been the first time he spoke like this. When I was in college I wouldn’t have dreamed of talking to my girlfriend that way. I loved her too much. This guy is a scumbacg. She should leave——NOW!
Im sick of Black Males like Maceo Patterson who is 62 yrs old coming on women’s forums portrayiing themselves as BW when he’s a Black man that hates Black women and worships only White women! Its wrong for him to come and and tells lies on Black women!
He’s a Black MRA in Return of Kings run by White Supremacy and White Nationalist.
Wow that was nuts. That accent though. New hampeshire? Maybe Boston?? Could def see it being Boston because Irish Americans are the most racists people in America
Yes!!! And why they’re called on it they say, we were slaves too!!! Which is a lie.
I am starting to see why my grandfather did not want his children to get involved with white people. He came from a time when white men used black woman for pleasure and discarded them later like trash. I have seen a white woman disrespect her black man is public calling him every racist name she could think of and it was okay. All I am saying, is you will never know a persons true nature, until you see their dark side. #endoftheswirlmovement
I highly doubt that that is the first time she has has heard her racist boyfriend make racist comments, and she was still with him when he spewed this nonsense. So what does that say about this “Sistah?”
Nothing!! She’s stuck between anti Black men who are secret White Supremacy and actual White Supermacy. She’s doing the best she can in a world where EVERYONE wants to treat her badly. I support out. She got her. Some Black men are the same. She has to pick better.
Oh girl… I am sorry that ignorant a$$hole crossed your path.
Yes. It’s not her fault men (Black or White) can be jerks.
What is that “they” don’t get is I have no connection with Africa because that was taken from my ancestors when they were brought to America. I’m an American born and raised and you can’t put me out – period.
I’m kind of pleased she released this. I hope it will stop swirlers or IR daters boasting about their white partners and disrespecting BM or BW. Its time to go silently swirlers. Most of them are the ones causing a gender divide, especially the BM.
What bout black men who denigrate black woman though..they do the same thing and their black men.
“My country”….the climax of his stupidity and the comic relief in the video lol
White folks kill me they act as if every black person is sitting on there asses and have there handouts for the government. In all actuality its them! Ugh and this girl is dumb for not even saying shit else except “I didn’t say that”, ma’am your just as wrong as he is!
No she’s not. He is abusive. Learn to support Black women.
White people even have food stamp schemes! Look at the news, this guy is a damn idiot and most likely dropped out of highschool!!!
White fragility meets self hate.
Sounds like someone was under the delusion of inclusion.
I agree with those saying this is not the first time he has gone off.
Exactly. And she was still with him when he spewed…
You can’t tell me he’d never been abusive towards her before.
WOW. And she was in a relationship with that guy? There had to have been some sort of signs beforehand, as race comes up often based off the general nature of IR relationships.
Interesting… I was hooking up with this white dude for about a month up until the election. He was super sweet for the most part and I no issues. We were just casual F buddies so we usually knew what was up when we saw each other. One day after doing the deed, we were talking in bed and somehow the topic landed on Trump. Oh boy – it all went left out of nowhere! He didn’t necessarily go on a racist rant, but he made it very clear that he doesn’t want whites to become the minority and he wants his people to still hold the position of power. He thinks BLM are just a bunch of rioters and fools. He thinks Mexicans are taking all of our jobs. He believes that we didn’t steal our land from Native Americans or Mexicans, “we just had better technology,” he laughed as he showed me FBI stats for crime rates in the black communities vs. other communities, and on & on. Please believe I was going back and forth with him (I even questioned him on possibly being a white supremacist/nationalist) but at the end of the day it made me realize: it doesn’t matter if you happen to be in a IR relationship with a white man, it doesn’t mean he’s woke. Sometimes it means that he just likes how black women look, likes how his D looks coming out of a black V, etc. But white men can date black women and still be problematic AF. It’s up to you decide if your self esteem allows the behavior or nah.
And you slept with that knuckle dragger? I’m not sure if women like you need mental health help or a slap. You couldn’t be any dumber if you tried for letting scum like him touch you. YUCK!
You need to learn some reading comprehension…
I’m not sure if you were able to properly comprehend my comment. Clearly not so I’ll explain again. He said what he said AFTER we had slept together a few times. I don’t judge men based on the color of their skin and you shouldn’t either hun.
Don’t attack other women for their choices or you’re no different then a MRA. Learn to support Black women. You are your sister.
Sleeping with the enemy…
Apparently so.
you know what? this definitely isn’t the first time, so shame on her for staying with him. There is no way in hell that someone just begins speaking and ranting like this out of the blue. These are deeply held, personal convictions he has about POC. eff this dude, and eff this woman for video taping him while offering only the most mild suggestions of displeasure. If she stays with him, in a few months BGLH will doubtlessly be posting an article about the tragic death of a poor young woman at the hands of her outrageously racist boyfriend. This is what self-hate within our community does. we are literally offering ourselves up to partners, family members, friends, and strangers who HATE US TO THEIR VERY CORE and we completely ignore it and let them hurt us, abuse us, and kill us because we do no believe we are worthy of real love.
We don’t victim blame here or anywhere else. There is no shame on her in fact we should be proud that she left when she did.
Nah, yes shame on her. I understand why you’re saying we don’t victim blame, but like I said in my previous comment: this isn’t new, this isn’t even unusual, listen to how calm she sounds! oh, and where does it say she left? for all we know she is still with this man. Miss me with what “we” do or don’t do here. this is a shameful display and I have no problem saying so.
It says right in the article that she has since dumped the racist. Abusive relationships can be hard to comprehend from the outside, but from the inside, it usually looks a lot like this: you meet a person, you fall in love with the person, and gradually they become more and more abusive. But it happens slowly, and you still love them, and they often apologize after they hurt you – so you’re like the proverbial frog in the slowly boiling water.
Also, I wouldn’t necessarily say she sounds calm – to me, she sounds like she’s trying to call him out on his BS without making him angrier. Possibly for her own safety, if he was physically abusive as well as verbally abusive. Please have some empathy for this person and realize that you don’t know the full situation.
WOW, coming from the person you love that’s horrible. Leave him and quick he never loved you.
Oh my days.. Have we gone back in time? This is so disappointing to hear. I’m heavily uncomfortable, especially since my partner in Caucasian (although he would never say such disgusting things!). There is so much controversy in this, emotional abuse, aggression, discrimination, and racism. People like him are the problem, not the groups he mentioned. However, with the power of the internet these people will feel more ashamed about themselves.. All what I’m hoping is that this girl does NOT FORGIVE HIM! She is living her life, so she should not feel ashamed to prioritize her best interests. This is a toxicated relationship and he doesnt deserve to be around anyone with a beautiful spirit. May the Lord watch over her, and all of us.
how do you know your partner wouldn’t say such things? She may have thought that her partner wouldn’t say such things, too. We REALLY don’t know what our partners will say in the heat of
anger or passion or excitement!! JUST MY OPINION!!
True. Elections, especially elections this divisive, tend to bring out the worst in people. Us vs. Them never ends well.
Donald Trump isn’t making white people racist, if that’s your idea. Instead, the people who inherited this mentality feel more comfortable with exposing themselves. I’m situated in a culturally diverse workplace, where emitting the slightest form of ignorance/racism would permanently destroy one’s social live within our group. Years before this election, my friends and I could already tell who is racist even if they haven’t expressed it as much as this woman’s boyfriend. Just because trump is about to be president, doesn’t mean that my partner will transform into a racist pest… “us vs them” is an ambiance i’m starting to feel though, but within our home nothing has changed.
How do I know? Honey, I don’t confide my feelings trust to an acquaintance. Traits of ignorance (that includes racism), violence, and lack of respect in general are a TURN OFF for me and they should be for everyone else! I don’t have the right to determine how they have come to this point, maybe she denied the red flags that have presented themselves earlier on in the relationship. Of course “nobody is perfect”, we can’t expect no quirks at all, however this acts as an anchor to individuals entering a toxic relationship. So I do know 🙂 Have never seen any uncivilized behaviour towards me or our surroundings.
He must’ve called her that before, to respond so calmly.
Ok I SERIOUSLY doubt he JUST STARTED displaying this behavior during the election year.
Why is she trying to reason with him? He knows he sounds (and is) racist. I guarantee this isn’t the first time he has done something like this.So while he looks like a racist; she looks like an idiot for being with him.
Why is she still sitting there? After the first comment I would have gotten my crap and left.
I don’t care one way or the other if someone dates/marries interracial. But ladies you need to VET ALL MEN!!!! I don’t care if he is African American, Scottish, Italian, Nigerian, South African, Mexican, Ecuadoran, Korean, or Japanese. VET VET VET VET!
A piece of sh*t smells the same regardless of the color.
I hear you sis. All men need serious vetting. With white men there is added trauma of racism, but I say ALL men need screening to the max.
I am in an interracial relationship I was so worried about this happening to us but my fiancé told me I’m not going to let Trump’s racist ass do anything to us.I cried if you are a mixed couple and he or she truly loves you Trump as president won’t affect your relationship.It has made us closer surprisingly.
If he loved her, none of this would have fallen from his yap.
I refuse to believe she didn’t know he was a racist before this rant. She put up with it for whatever reason, self hate, whatever. No f*cks given, properly vet a person before dating them.
Why would be scary to leave an abusive white supremacist? Is it because she has so much self hatred that she feels like she deserves this terrorism that he is inflicting on her? This is not the first time he has said these things, she just finally recorded it. She’s heard this before…she’s way too calm. My question is: the first time this white supremacist spouted his views, why didn’t she leave? Women like this get no sympathy from me.
My guess is he spouted it towards other races so she was okay with it. Then the tables got turned. He was like this waaayyyy before this election.
Yes! A Mexican and Asian X friend were dating racist White guys, but it was ok because the raciam was at Blacks. Many level here.
I don’t understand how anyone of any race is okay with dating a bigot. Don’t they realize that it’s just luck of the draw that the bigot isn’t prejudiced towards them?
No. You deal with it and have your half White kids who feel superior to Blacks but inferior to Whites.
Good point.