Often, naturals are met with stares and curiosity about their hair. For years, most black women were wearing their hair relaxed or pressed. The kinky, curly, coily and wavy phenomenon is still very new for the world. It only makes sense that you are asked questions about something that wasn’t very popular in the past. Some find your natural hair so interesting that they may even feel the need to, dare I say, touch it. This is where most naturals draw the line. Legitimate questions are welcomed, but your random hand in their hair is NOT.
I can’ tell you how many times people have rudely touched my hair. I say “rudely” because it’s extremely rude to touch a part of another person’s body without even thinking about asking. It’s very weird for me to see someone run their fingers through a strangers head. Why don’t you just slap them on the behind while you’re at it? You already invaded their personal space, what’s another offense?
People randomly touch a natural haired woman’s hair for different reasons. They want to see if it’s really all their hair, they want to feel the texture or perhaps they’re just inquisitive. Whatever their reasons, it’s not okay to put your hands in a strangers head. Do folks really expect you to sit there while they pet you and poke at your head?
Two years ago, I was at a meeting where I was sporting a half wig. I purchased the wig for those days when I just didn’t feel like doing my hair, but still wanted my hair to look cute. The whole time I was styling and blending the wig, I was thinking “I know how invasive people can be; I hope no one tries to touch my hair today.” This was my first time wearing a wig.
Sure enough, after the meeting was over, Jane, the organizer of the meeting, walked up to me and told me that she loved my hair. I smiled and said thank you. Next thing I knew, her frail manicured hand was headed for my head. I leaned my head away, she turned red and I walked away. I was irritated, but I can’t say that I was completely surprised. It wasn’t my first “strange hand in hair” experience and I knew it wouldn’t be the last.
On the other hand, a few weeks ago, I experienced something different. I was sitting at my desk at work when Nancy, an older Caucasian co-worker, walked up to me and started a conversation about my hair. It seems that in the office, I’m sort of the go to person when it comes to questions about natural hair. Nancy explained to me that she admires my natural hair and that she often hears me talking to others about how to care for their hair. We chit chatted for a bit and then she asked politely…”Can I touch your hair? Do you mind?” I smiled at her and gave her permission touch my afro. Afterwards, she stated that it was so beautiful and soft. She had never touched black hair before. She learned something that day.
Why was it okay for Nancy to touch my hair and not Jane? Nancy politely asked to touch my hair, but Jane didn’t. Jane got ahead of herself and decided to invade my personal space by putting her strange hands in my hair. She didn’t even know who I was and we had never even had a conversation with each other. Nancy was already having a conversation with me before she ASKED to touch my hair. I thanked Nancy for asking me because that’s the way it should be done. Give people the right to say “yes, you may or “no, you may not touch my hair.” Understand that like arms and legs, hair is an extension of the body and it should be respected.
Would you allow someone to touch your hair if they asked politely?
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An Indian woman I worked with grabbed my hair out of the blue while I bent over to check my computer’s connections. It was the most alarming feeling I had ever felt! Did my hair catch on a rack? What the heck was that?! She almost got karate chopped! She quickly apologized when she realized how she had caught me off gaurd and startled me. She flinched when I jumped lol. The apology : I’m sorry but I just had to I’m so curious about this hair. It’s surprising soft, blah blah blah!” Not just white people yall.
I am so tired of them saying it’s surprisingly soft and all that. This whole “black people hair feel like a brillo pad” thing is getting old af…”
I can only speak for my own head of hair. I just love my hair and every natural part of my body. I don’t mind if people play in it, tug or inspect my hair. I encourage it and tell most “Go on, I know you want to touch it!” Especially if it’s new to them. I guess I’m one of those weirdos that love when people play in my hair it’s soothing. Fgrew up with everyone taking care of my hair so I was accustomed to family and friends helping me mantain my hair. Also many friends of mine had straight hair so I we both touched each others hair. I dated a few blonde hair boys and the same thing occurred, just enjoying each others difference. I can say if I strong dislike someone then I want them no where near me. In the end: we all have different histories and it’s up to you what makes you comfortable. I can’t sway that opinion because my experience with my hair is different.
Grr I hate typos. I wish I could go back and edit. I accidentally posted this before rereading. I did enjoy the article and I can understand if an individual feels this way.
I’m the same way! The only thing I absolutely HATE is when people tell me, rudely and arrogantly “oh come on, that’s a wig!” I mean what if it was, can you imagine? I never let those types of MFers get a hold of this Juicy Gold. ????
Hair touching is a thing – black, white, purple,etc etc Different is interesting.
We live overseas. I’m white and when we lived in Zimbabwe lots of kids (and sometimes adults) wanted to touch my hair, especially in places they hadn’t seen many white folks up close. Now we live in Central America and my black husband is the novelty. But that’s not why I’m commenting.
I’d love advice for how natural kiddos can avoid hair-touching. My bi-racial girls get their hair touched ALL the time by everyone in every country we’ve been to. I know it drives them crazy. (And me too. I just spent 3 hours washing, de-tangling, styling that head! Who knows where hose hands have been!)
My biracial daughter had the same issue at 6 years old. Theres no remedy honestly, only letting them know that is OK to have boundaries and to say no. For my little one, I tell her to say her mommy said no. Then I proceed to style in a way that will withstand a rambunctious 6 year old and will ward off garnering unsolicited attention…like french braids and braided buns. She wears it out or in curly ponytails only when she’s with me.
But you’re right, different is peculiar. But in American culture, this kind of touching is just inexcusable. It is ignorant, invasive and unmannerly. People chuck the rules of manners and respect as if it doesn’t apply to us brown-skinned counterparts. Would anyone dare reach up without permission and touch the gelled freshly razored cut of a white man in a suit? Or the long shiny locks of the young white barrista without encroaching upon the boarders of harassment? Whose touching an Indian woman’s sari or religious facial jewelry, or (God forbid) her bindi? But it’s OK in America to grab at mine and my daughter’s hair like we are specimens in a petting zoo?
Amen, I love your comparisons!
I may or may not. I let a white coworker who asked but I didn’t let some stranger black man in Walmart who asked. If I don’t know you, don’t like you then no no matter how politely you ask. Also like others have pointed out I have just as many issues with black people sticking their hands in my hair without asking as non black people. Actually it’s more annoying and sad when a black woman touches your hair and acts so surprised how soft it is. I want to scream why wouldn’t my hair be soft. There are blacks just as ignorant about natural hair.
I feel you! Another thing that gets to me is when black people WITH natural hair act so surprised about shrinkage. My mom does this and sounds just like the white people who don’t get that if you straighten something curly, then…uh…yes, it’s long now because you stretched it out. We argue because I’m there like HOW DO YOU NOT GET THIS YOUR OWN HAIR DOES IT.
Depending on the hairstyle I don’t mind if someone asks nicely to touch my hair but sticking your hand in my hair without permission will get it swatted like I would a fly. Along with a comment about being in my bubble (personal space.)
I do not really mind people that I know touch my hair. At all, actually. I have a white, male friend (who, incidentally is a bit of a******) and he has been touch my hair since I first went natural, about 3 years after we me. He likes to see the springy curls bounce. I do not blame him for that, so do I. When around the same time another white male, who I knew by virtue of seating proximity in a math class and a few small chats touched my hair, I was annoyed and a bit bemused by his audacity but not bothered. Definitely not insulted. When my mom’s pervy colleague touched my hair, I nearly severed a limb. Seriously. As in all of single, black, female, walking out at night in an urban environment, survival instincts kicked in.
I liken it to touching (of any sort). The first is like the long overbearing hug you get from loved ones that you pretend to dislike but sort of love. The second is like a hug from someone you know, but didn’t realize you thought that ya’ll were cool like that. The 3rd is like someone grabbing at your butt on the bus. Not okay and potentially fatal.
I have to admit, it’s a bit more off-putting when a white person does it :-/
I think part of it is that I, unfortunately, tend to be on “condescension alert” when it comes to white people.
Also, maybe it’s because I, like so many other black kids, was instructed to keep my hands out of other kids’ hair, ESPECIALLY white kids; and not to let anyone, especially white kids, play in mine.
*Did anyone else get these instructions when they were little?*
If they ask, I don’t mind. It’s the not asking that bothers me, like somehow my body is yours to touch freely and at will. When I see people of color who want to root through my hair, I give them the “No” if they haven’t asked me just like I would a white person. Most of the time, it’s a sly way to check if its real and then the question about heritage start.
I work for an airline and when I had my crochet braids, random, extremely old white women would feel like they had the right to just reach out and touch my hair. It annoyed the hell out of me even though it wasn’t mine. Like to the point where I wanted to slap them, but I couldn’t because #1 they were older than Jesus and #2 for the time being I like my job. I have had three employees touch my hair without permission. One (annoying black guy) got popped so hard that I broke a nail. He had the nerves to stroke my scalp and say “oh its so clean”. Wtf?! Yes its clean idiot. I do wash it. Then my immediate supervisor (black woman that always rants about my “perfect curls” and how I’m always flaunting and shaking them…jealous much lol), almost got punched while she was trying to do a length check on the sly but I let the shock of my hair reaching midback length shut her up. And the other was upper level management. Took everything in me not to hit her. I’m not a puppy. You are not free to stroke my hair to satisfy your curiosity. Ask if you want…the answer is no.
I chose to read the post because I thought maybe it was talking about the writer’s experience getting her hair done by a White stylist, but to learn that it was about touching?! And the touches described can happen from anyone, no matter their race.
The title of this post rub me the wrong way and I find it offensive.
In my experience Black people have been the ones to touch my hair without asking. I think the protocol for hair touching should be like it is for your pregnant belly. Family and friends have a free pass (most of the time) but everyone else needs to ASK before they touch.
I haven’t minded in MOST cases because they all were just curious and they usually have questions. We are walking billboards showing others how healthy, long and versatile kinky/coily/curly hair can be. Use it as a teaching opportunity. When people know better, they do better. At least that’s what we hope for.
Ummm…seriously? Silly title. Who cares who you did or didn’t let touch your hair, or what the “race” of the potential touchee is…people wanting to touch another’s hair is NOT a new or an interesting phenomenon. Children and women do it all the time–in fact, someone somewhere in the world is probably doing it at this very moment (gasp!). Any original articles in the works? This subject is a bit tired….
When you come from a cultural background that has people touching you whether you want them to or not for around, oh say, 400 years you get a little irritated that personal space is still disregarded and people who are “white” have the nerve to be offended. The race does matter at first because flashback to Sarah Bartje and her being labeled a Hottentot Venus, black womens/ bodies were never our own. I do agree that the race doesn’t matter as much, but it still makes a difference if the person who is doing the unwarranted touching misses the reasons why it would be a) offensive from a racial standpoint and b) invasive.
Well said. I think too many people like to pretend the historic context is nonexistent.
Well said sister!
I don’t like to generalize or discriminate, so I would never have an issue with a person of another ethnicity/cultural background touching my hair as long as he or she asks nicely and isn’t filthy/sick with the flu. If my answer happens to be no for whichever reason, i’d simply say that “I’ve just got it styled perfectly and don’t want to start over again” or something.
I dont let anyone touch my hair… they tug at it like its some animal so nooo i dont.
It depends on the case and scenario…
Asking politely is very important but I may reply with a “Yes” or “No”. On the day that I wash my hair, I like to seal my hair with castor oil which is thick and oily. If someone asks to touch my hair then or any time that my hair is oily, I would politely decline so that they don’t end up embarrassed and with oily hands. Also, depending on the person and their hygiene, I may decline or accept. I’m not being a snob, I work very hard to take care of my natural hair and I don’t want someone to ruin it or my hairstyle out of curiosity. Once a woman complimented my twist-out, just before proceeding to dig her fingers into it, scratching my scalp and messing up my hairstyle( an attempt to find out if it was a weave ). I was horrified and though I used to allow people to touch my natural hair freely before that, That incident made me know that I had to set limits.
SMH at some of the articles on this website…I swear at times this blog reminds me of a gossip column.
Ditto
I know how you feel about your hair being touched without your permission,ive had coloured dread locks for over a decade now and have developed a mechanism of walking away from stares and people usking if my hair is really mine?some would just touch it on public transport thinking i will not feel the touch but when i turn around they get embarrassed that i actually felt it and they would just confess what they thought about my hair,mind you i am South African and people here are still sceptical about embracing our natural hair post apartheid.more over i have a 16 months old baby daughter who has course natural hair and people just dish out advice as to what i should do with her hair without me asking
As a black woman my question is, how do you prevent POC from touching your hair without asking? In instances were people have “rooted” my hair it has been more difficult to tell people who look like me “no, please don’t touch my hair”.
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The same way I prevent others. I make it clear that my hair is in my personal space to everyone, orange, black, pink, white, blue & purple.
I am polite about it, but if someone reaches for my hair without asking I simply tell them, “I prefer to have people ask before touching my hair. It’s something I consider to be very personal and I don’t share my hair with everyone.”
People usually respect that.
If people ask and I am in the right mood the answer is always yes.
It did not bother me when it was done. I think I have been ask twice perhaps. On the other hand I have been ask many times by My own race black women and men.
I was wondering however, were you wearing your half afro wig blend when the second lady politely ask? The reason I am asking, is because in the past when I would wear wigs/weave fake ponytail I did not want people to touch my hair no matter what the race was. No man, women or child could touch my hair. Lol. I don’t feel that way now that I’m natural. I love my hair 4b/c. I know in past some viewed our hair as bad, it’s not. I guess I just don’t want to react in a way that make people think I’m trying to protect their hands from being cut up by my hair.
I have–and I would– allow people to touch my hair if they asked politely. Reaching out and touching it w/o asking? You might come back with a stump. (^_^)
A white co-worker asked to touch my hair and I obliged. I had crochet braids at the time not sure she realized it was fake or not. lol
People I know and have know for a while and if they ask: yes.
People I know/don’t know if they just go for it: no
People I don’t know and they ask: no/depends on the vibe they are giving off
Friends and family ONLY!
And I better see you wash your hands thoroughly with dish liquid first.
I’ve witnessed strangers do the following publicly: dig in their noses, teeth, ears, pink eye, wedgies, nether regions, toes, clip toenails, lick fingers, scratch their scalps, pick stuff off the floor, change diapers. Even if asking politely, not just anyone can touch my hair.
I also believe that intentionally touching a woman’s body without permission, ANY PART, is harassment. A Black woman’s body is not public domain, stop treating it like it’s one.
I don’t mind if someone asks to touch my hair because I’m a hair touch-er myself! LOL – whenever I am at a meetup or at Target, I find myself asking to touch someone’s hair. I have a good friend with locs and I’m always touching her hair, I had to check myself one day and asked her if she was ok with me playing in her hair all the time, she said she didn’t mind but now I always ask. But I actually like it when someone asks to touch my hair, I love the look on their face when they realize how soft it is.
Ummm…seriously? Silly title. Who cares who you did or didn’t let touch your hair, or what the “race” of the potential touchee is…people wanting to touch another’s hair is NOT a new or an interesting phenomenon. Children and women do it all the time–in fact, someone somewhere in the world is probably doing it at this very moment (gasp!). Any original articles in the works? This subject is a bit tired….
Hey there you salty lil troll
Yes I would and have, hell I’ve even asked to to touch another fellow curly girls hair myself lol. If someone asks nicely and they don’t have any ill will behind it..I don’t see why not..you can kind of tell who to let or not let touch the hair lol
After chutch, one lady with bone straight relaxed hair reached out and touched one of my twist. I thought something was in my hair by the way she was touching it. I asked her was something in my hair and what she was doing. She just looked at me funny and smule. It is a good thing i knew her or else something else would have came out of my mouth that would have sent to back to the altar that day. Yes, they can touch my hair with my permission. It can turn into a teaching lesson with the right person.
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Yeah… I have a real “thing” about personal space. I don’t like when people touch me out of the blue–so much so that my instinct is to respond defensively. Like, physically defensively lol. This instinct almost resulted in a really bad scenario. Back in ’03 or so, when I was sporting a big Afro (and was a lot more hot headed), my boss at the time walked up to me and, without a word, reached for my hair. Well… My hand immediately recoiled into the “backhand slap” position. All at the same time, I stopped myself and she flinched. Then she said, “You almost hit me!” to which I replied, “You almost petted me like a dog.” Her face said that she was both flustered and surprised that I hadn’t apologized for almost giving her the right hand of fellowship lol.
Some time went by and I guess it was just killing her, because one day she walked up and asked, “Can I PLEASE touch your hair?” My mean side was thinking *nope, I don’t even like you*. But my even meaner side enjoyed seeing her humble herself enough to actually ask. So I said yes. And she touched it. And that’s when I found out what white people think of black hair lol. She said, “Wow, it isn’t greasy or hard. It’s actually really soft.” Duh. I have a fluffy, floppy Afro and you expected it to be hard lol. I think it was supposed to be a compliment. But I just said “yeah” lol. I’m a much nicer person now, but I am still glad she got a good education.
When I was in 7th grade, a young man whom had been my boyfriend for 2 days in 5th grade, was my science partner for the week. We were sitting two-by-two in class as it makes for better partner work in the lab. Well, for some reason he thought it would be okay to touch my thigh!! I immediately stabbed his hand and his thigh with a pen. I knew that if he said anything to the teacher about the ‘asault’ to his person, he’d then have to explain why he thought it was correct to touch me against my wishes…..
THat story turned into a novel, for which I apologize. Anyways, I don’t like it when people do such things without asking, and respecting my wishes, whether I say yes or no. I think this culture has a hard time teaching respect on a much larger scale: 1 in 3 women apparently has been sexually assualted. That seems a BIT OUTRAGEOUS.
I am glad you politely walked away from Jane, without even feeling the need to EXPLAIN yourself. Beautiful moment. 🙂
I completely agree with your logic of touch/don’t touch. Of course, it all boils down to the person’s comfort level. In my early 20s people touched my hair without asking. I’ve unwittingly developed a very expressive face over the years (I’m 33 now). So people know with one glance that if I don’t know you well, the hair is off limits.
Lol – sounds like a lesson for the kids.
i don’t know if i’m the only one LOL but i take it as a compliment when people want to touch my hair and when they are fascinated by it.
I used to not care about this probably because no one ever touched or touches my hair. Now, I feel uncomfortable about the topic because whenever white people have spoken about natural hair around me, it has had a negative connotation and contrary to popular comments on natural hair sites, they DO uphold a hierarchy with regards to afro textured hair. If they didn’t we wouldn’t see black women being wiped out of ads and other beauty based media in favour of an ambiguous look. Just like some ignorant black people they often heap praise on looser textures and make slick comments about tighter textures. I live in the UK and white women here will often fawn over mixed race girls and their features specifically hair as if to say it’s beautiful or more acceptable than more Africanised features and hair. To some white people, looser hair is the acceptable afro hair.
No one should ask to touch our hair out of curiousity, get on the Internet and google. We are not curiosities, zoo animals, exhibits or oddities. So often I think that that is the point from which non black people view our hair and features as opposed to innocent curiousity.
Funnily enough, I’ve been asked by a few white women, why black women wear weave as if they were born yesterday. Don’t fall for the naive Nancy act. It’s pure ignorance and sly put downs because often non black women think we are further down the beauty totem pole than them and in Western society, they are encouraged to do so.
In short, you can’t touch my hair.
So many good points made here. It blows my mind to read comments implying that white people are somehow more accepting and appreciative of darker skin, kinkier hair, and more “African features,” as if whites were not the very architects of race and color based prejudice in so many corners of this world. The media (white-owned and controlled) is proof-positive of this. Yes, blacks have internalized anti-black sentiments and regulate themselves accordingly; but do you really believe that the folks who taught blacks to hate themselves for centuries have become bias-free in the course of a few generations (because note that a legally-sanctioned race-based caste system in the US and colonial occupation in Africa were only relics of our very recent history)?
Whites may not use qualifiers like “good hair,” but they have centuries of experience in “ranking” blacks. I have very kinky hair, but ironically I was once told by white person, as a “compliment,” that my hair was not like other Africans. My sister who light brown in complexion, once mentioned that a coworker told her that she preferred blacks to have lighter skin tones such as my sister’s. Whites are perhaps less “vocal” about professing their admiration for blacks who “look more like them,” but they have the same preference for lighter skin and loosely-textured hair that blacks do. Why are we holding whites to a different standard than the standard to which we hold blacks?
1,000 Thumbs up Anon & Ann Gree –I hear you both, totally agree, and know what you state is TRUE.
Answer to question: Those in my circle of trust can freely touch my hair, all others need to satisfy their curiosity elsewhere.
Yass!
I’m so exhausted reading these delusional comments from Black newbs fawning over Whites as if they didn’t institute the internalized bigotry that we’ve relentlessly strove throughout 400+ plus years to combat.
To the newbs – STOP perpetuating these myths about hoards of urbane Whites in the U.S., colorblind Canada, mixed Caribbean and Latin America and cosmopolitan Europe – it’s junk and you know it! Do you see dark and kinky Blacks on magazine covers? In TV shows and films? Representing children’s toys? Who do you think makes those decisions?! It’s those same ‘saviors’ you claim love your hair! Stop desperately salivating for crumbs. Wake up to the reality that the revulsion existing around kinky hair is alive and STRONG among non-Blacks. Anyone still living in lala land will get their wake up call to how many Whites still feel.
Wow. Spot on! I’m UK based too and relate to all you’ve just said.
Hmm, I still feel like a co-worker does not have the right to even ask. I think overall it gets frustrating to feel like a damn petting zoo and White people’s carte blanche attitude when it comes to asking and touching can be very offensive. On he other hand I remember the days when I loved touching guys hair although I was in high school. I would ask and tell them I thought their hair looked interesting and I wanted to know how the texture felt. So I get the feeling but it seems immature and rude to think that is appropriate for adults. I think friends may be a different story.
There’s just such a long and sordid history (understatement) of Black bodies, men and women, being at the disposal of White people that it’s such a fine line of when it is okay to ask and touch. Most Black people get their education on everything White very early on in our schools or just through the media. As natural hair becomes more prominent and more people adopt it, I hope to see these conversations happen in our movies and shows so White people can stop being so embarrassing and bothering their one Black friend or acquaintance…If there are any White people reading, THAT Black friend needs a break and gets that crap all the time.
Exactly this!
Yes I would. At my old job I was the only and first black woman to work there, so I often got a lot of questions about black hair. One day one of my customers asked if she could touch my hair and I said yes. I do understand though why some black women may not be comfortable with allowing a white person to satisfy their curiosity on their head.
“For years, most black women were wearing their hair relaxed or pressed. The kinky, curly, coily and wavy phenomenon is still very new for the world” Umm it isn’t new, maybe in your world, but in reality the Kinky coily hair has always been here, the phenomenon is the altering of our natural texture not the return to it. Black people reside in many parts of the world not just America.
I get your stance about hair touching though. Now that we as black women have a lot more access to the world we live in and integrate/ interact more with white people this phenomena of people wanting to touch our hair is going to happen. You just have to make it clear it’s your hair not an accessory.
I have to agree, though the NHC has help in new methods of caring for afro textured hair, black people don’t only exist in America, I live outside of the usa and I’ve been seeing natural hair all my life. Its not new or some phenomenon, natural hair has been around, its just that former relaxed hair black Americans are ccatching on that natural afro textured hair is bomb.
How many of those Black people in other countries have worn anything but braids or locs? Or shaved down barely noticeable hair? How many wear large fros? It’s not just NOT having a perm, it’s wearing your big bada** hair in all types of unadulterated bold styles.
Unless they look unclean I don’t mind letting people touch my hair. They are curious and that is a good thing. Asking first is preferred of course. Plus I ask to touch people’s hair all the time lol white/black/asian. I like hair. In a non creepy way lol.
Unless they look unclean I don’t mind letting people touch my hair. They are curious and that is a good thing. Plus I ask people to touch their hair all the time lol white/black/asian. Im weird. I Like hair. In a non creepy way lol
Great article. I’ve suffered a lot from people touching my hair without permission but it’s nice to know that some people can ask. I always wonder what it would be like of the roles were reversed. What would a white woman (or any woman for that matter who doesn’t have kinky/ curly hair) say or do if strangers just went up to them and started touching their hair? I can expect the reaction wouldn’t be too friendly. No one likes their personal space invaded. NO ONE. So why is it okay to do it to someone with kinky/curly hair? I guess it’s just one of life’s mysteries.
seriously, like literally an hour ago i had a meeting with someone we’re working with for a shoot. she greets me, compliments my weight lost (looking good my friends) then instantly her hand shoots into my hair. like so quickly i can’t even breathe. mind you it’s a purple afro wig, but that is not the point. the point is her hand. was in. my hair. without permission. without any hesitation. without anything other than ‘let me put my hand in your hair and discover….” what, i don’t know.
there are some people who know they are in the hair zone. they can put their hand in my hair cause we cool like that. we been through the struggles. they seen me when i had 1 inch of happy naps. but no. she was not in the zone. she was in the lets meet to discuss this shoot zone.
i gave her this look, cause i knew i could never do the same to her. she KEPT PLAYING, saying it’s so healthy and blah blah blah. i had to step back. step back! to get her hand out of my head.
i’m at a point in my life where i am so overwhelmed with work and my own personal struggles that i would have gone off on her had i said anything. i’m on my 4th b12 for the morning. we can’t do this.
little purple wig, i’m happy everyone thinks i’m a rockstar but seriously i cannot with strangers and the hair. i agree, if someone asks i let them touch and i educate them on the naturals but other than that. no. no no no no no. okay i got that rant out. back to work.