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Black Girl With Long Hair
Television has a long way to go towards representing the diversity of black women’s experiences, so many turn to YouTube to find black women they resonate with, subscribing to their daily vlogs for an inside look at their lives.
The black woman daily vloggers who have risen to the top have a lot in common; they are young, beautiful, in seemingly happy and stable relationships and have joyful homes. Their viewers see their channels as a respite from the onslaught of media that casts black women as unlovable or not ‘wife material’.
The partners of these dynamic women often gain followings themselves, sometimes creating their own spinoff channels and social media accounts.
Enter Austin and Brittany Null, known as The Nive Nulls, a married Christian couple who have vlogged their early marriage, the births of their 3 children and their daily family life for the past 5 years.
With 350,000 subscribers and more than 56 million channel views, they are among the most visible daily vlog YouTube families. They’ve parlayed their social media fame into a contract with Ziploc, TV appearances and even music.
A former social media manager, Austin has stated that he started his channel with an eye towards earning a living. After his YouTube revenue began to rival his paycheck, he quit his job and moved his family from Kansas to Los Angeles, California. He has credited his success to his “cute kids”, consistency and authenticity.
Be yourself and find your niche. What is it about your family that is unique in comparison to other families? How do you view family/every day activities/current issues/etc. and how do you communicate that to your audience? Find a way to stick out, AUTHENTICALLY.
Black women are among the channel’s most vocal fans, often praising the Nulls for their home life.
Which is why many viewers were shocked to learn that Austin had an affair in early 2015, and the couple did not take a break when it occurred, but chose to continue vlogging regularly through Brittany’s pregnancy. In a video titled We Need to Talk the couple confirmed the affair after screenshots, pictures and videos surfaced online in late December.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLNxv0zK27E
The couple has no plans to split. Brittany states that she has forgiven Austin and they plan to resume their vlogging after taking a break.
Many fans are already calling for their return.
Like The Nulls, many successful vloggers say they value authenticity and want their channels to be relatable. But the reality is that daily vlogs thrive on being aspirational. Viewers tune in to watch people whose lives seem better than theirs. And this is especially true for black women longing to see women like them living the ‘happily ever after’.
But this places incredible pressure on vloggers to shoot and edit material at a furious pace and present images of domestic perfection — relationships that are happy and light-hearted, kids who are spunky and don’t misbehave too much, homes that are beautiful and well-furnished, lives that are full of rich experiences. Vloggers who veer from this formula face backlash. Whitney White, aka Naptural85, caught heat from her fans when she posted a video showing the aftermath of an argument with her husband. It has since been taken down.
Daily vlogging also introduces the pressure of having fans, some more obsessive than others. In his confession video Austin shared that he met the woman he had an affair with online.
Daily and lifestyle vlogging isn’t going anywhere. And more black women are entering the field with increasingly polished channels.
But perhaps in viewing these women we shouldn’t look for perfection, but honesty. Long-time Hollywood showrunner and Girlfriends creator Mara Brock Akil put it best;
“My core audience loves the term, ‘positive image,’ and I actually do not. I don’t believe in positive images just as I don’t believe in negative images. I think they can be just as damaging as negative images, in that it erases our ability to have humanity.”
Word.
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If he cheated twice, I say the divorce is amicable. Once she forgave him but twice no. He will do it again I know. A close family member of mine spouse cheated and had an outside child. They were forgiven but the person cheated again and again. Don’t put your health into jeopardy.
ok optimistic fella-i hear you but
my angle was from a security standpoint
a cheater could have caught STDs or STi or you name it
but hey, from your point of view-I support giving 2nd chances to a good father anytime even if he cheated on the significant other–that form of love for a loved one is worth forgiveness!
meh… don’t know em… but I’m sure this little foray garnered quite the many views… hm…
im guessing they kinda do. really the only way to find out is if they identified as it. either way their choice. dont care? dont bother. one sentence shouldnt bother you so much for not caring. just pass over it and move on.
“God does not tolerate a lot of things but at the same time he forgives. ”
And what does that mean to you? Did Jesus not die for sinners on the cross and yet you are unwilling to tolerate an apologetic cheating spouse? I am sorry but forgiveness in this case would be fighting for your marriage, if you really forgive you will work it out. When God forgave us he suffered for us, he did not merely remain “cordial”, he is allowing us to have eternal life in his Kingdom not leaving us at the gate. So I believe it should be the same with a spouse, in the case that a spouse leaves there is no chance to salvage the marriage and so it is understandable that a person may move on with life but like I said the spouse who wants to work it out should be give that chance.
“Well right or wrong is relative. Where in the bible does it say that divorcing a cheating spouse is wrong?”
Um really? It’s all relative.? Um no. Jesus said divorce is the result of hardened heart and that marriage is unbreakable. He said what God has joined together let no man separate not only that but marriage reflect Christ’s relationship to his Church and he will never leave us no matter of our sins. The only exception was if your spouse fornicates as in leaves you and goes with another (fornication is sex between unmarried people). So I don’t think this is relative, Christians MUST forgive in order to be forgiven, and we will be judged by the same measure we judge others. You say you will forgive and leave well perhaps God will do the same to you, forgive you yet leave you out of the Kingdom. Would you accept that?
Yes right and wrong is relative when it comes to our limited understanding. Only God knows everything. Because your understanding of those scriptures are just that, yours. My interpretations differ from yours and so it is alright for us to agree to disagree respectfully. I believe that there is a back story to each of those scriptures, so you can’t just apply it to any context that you please to justify your belief. Direct me to where God says it is wrong to divorce on the grounds of Adultery even if the spouse claims to never do it again and wants to work on the marriage. So again, unless God gives me a clear sign to stay in that marriage then so it shall be but until such time I will not mindlessly rely on anyone else’s opinion or their limited understanding of the bible. This is between me and the Creator. I can listen to my elders or anyone with wise words as a way to look at the situation from a different perspective but at the end of the day it is a choice that I have to live with. I believe that as long as I forgive my spouse then it is ok if I decide to move on. God says to forgive and that’s what I will do. There are many cases where spouses continue to cheat whether it be emotionally or physical. Am I suppose to continue to hope that after a dozen times one day they will change? No! This is not healthy and families will suffer like this. God wants us to forgive but He did not make me for a fool. Since there is no where in the bible that says it is wrong to divorce a cheating spouse God gave Me the option to choose, It is not for anyone else to decide. So let only God direct me and judge me. We will agree to disagree.
You asked; “perhaps God will do the same to you, forgive you yet leave you out of the Kingdom.”
Again, that is how you choose to see it but that is not my understanding of how God works. God forgives us knowing that we will continue to sin because he is the Almighty. I am not, I’m only human so I will forgive as God ask of me and continue to pray for them as I move on. Only God knows our heart.
plus the skills it takes to run a successful channel are definitely transferable to other fields. they will be fine.
Get a job like everyone else? Start their own business? What else do you expect them to do?
Yes relationships are tough. I am young but even in my experience I have known of many people who have sinned against one another be it adultery or other things. At the end of the day I don’t think any relationships can last without forgiveness because at some point your spouse or friend or loved one whomever will do something big or small that hurts and at that point we all have to make the choice will we forgive? I think that the lack of willingness to forgive comes from an impure place just as the lack of a willingness to humble oneself and apologize. A wise man once said the secret to long and happy marriage are the phrases “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you”. I do believe that if many more people were willing to apologize and forgive far fewer marriages would fail.
Your wrote in a previous comment;
“I believe marriage is for life, unless your spouse outright abandons you, dies, or tries to kill you or your children (your life is at risk), one has no right to divorce or remarry.”
What about mental health? What about verbal/emotional and physical abuse? Then what? There are levels to these things. Why wait for it to get worse?
I think it boils down to what one can tolerate. I can tolerate many things. But one of the things I will never tolerate is cheating. What if they cheat again? I am willing to forgive but that is not something I can forget. Yes forgiveness is important but we will have to eventually go our separate ways in peace. I cannot be with someone I do not trust.
We are both adults and if we both agreed to be in a committed relationship which does not involve cheating of any kind then that is how it should be. There is no compromising. We are no longer single and we are no longer teenagers. I prefer brutal honesty over anything else. If you are tempted, if you are no longer interested, if you cannot see yourself faithful to one person at a time then let’s discuss it and we will end it there. Why waste time, sneak around causing more pain and suffering? That is beyond selfish and it says a lot about one’s character. We’re both adults so it shouldn’t be that hard to practice honesty even if it hurts. You always have a choice.
This is why before marriage, it is imperative that both parties have these types of conversations. I cannot fathom why a grown man or woman would go behind their spouse’s back and cheat. It makes no sense to me. If something is wrong why not talk about it? Why marry in the first place? In that moment you were well aware of what you were doing and you had a choice, but you choose to carry on cheating.
I do believe some people can change, and maybe some may deserve a second chance. Only God knows their heart. But for the most part, many will cheat again. Let’s be realistic. And I’m not one to wait around for it to happen again.
“What about mental health? What about verbal/emotional and physical abuse? Then what? There are levels to these things. Why wait for it to get worse?”
Um what about them? If I recall the marriage vows read. For BETTER or WORSE in SICKNESS and in HEALTH. Divorcing someone for getting sick mentally is absolutely wrong. And I am sorry but what is “emotional abuse”? We all abuse each other with our words from time to time. The obvious solution to that problem is for the abusive spouse to change. Divorce won’t make an abusive person less abusive, nor does divorce even keep a person from dating again. So all divorce does in cases of “emotional abuse” (something which cannot even be objectively defined) is release an abusive person out into the dating scene. Like I said unless a person feels their life is at risk which would fall under physical abuse, then they should work through their problems with their spouse not jump ship. I believe that true love is committed and doesn’t give up on people. Period.
“I think it boils down to what one can tolerate.”
It all boils down to what is right. This isn’t about what we WANT to do it’s about what we SHOULD do. Some men can’t “tolerate” being faithful that does not make cheating okay? I don’t think so. And as a Christian I can confidently say that God cannot “tolerate” sin and yet how many people who refuse to tolerate the sins of others expect God to forgive them? The truth is that if we do not forgive we will not be forgiven, period. It is extremely self righteous then to be unwilling to forgive others when we all are guilty of sin.
“We are both adults and if we both agreed to be in a committed relationship which does not involve cheating of any kind then that is how it should be. There is no compromising.”
Where did I say compromise I am talking about forgiveness not accepting sin. A person who sins must be forgiven if your spouse leave you for another you are free to remarry but if your spouse cheats and apologizes and seeks to work it out then you must fight for your marriage this is the situation that has occurred with the nulls and this is what I am talking about.
” I cannot fathom why a grown man or woman would go behind their spouse’s back and cheat. It makes no sense to me. If something is wrong why not talk about it? Why marry in the first place?”
Um you sound extremely self righteous why does anyone ever sin? All sin is harmful to others period be it a lie, cheating, disobeying parents, drinking and driving, sex outside of marriage whatever it’s all wrong yet people do these things all the time. Instead of acting above those who cheat examine your own sin. And marriage is honorable and good, a man and a woman marry because that is the ONLY time sex is appropriate in God’s eyes there is no “I’m not gonna marry but still have sex” option, that is also sin EQUALLY as wrong as adultery. Literally the Bible says neither fornicators or adulterers will be in heaven so again before judging cheaters make sure you are not involved in sin.
“But for the most part, many will cheat again. Let’s be realistic. And I’m not one to wait around for it to happen again.”
Yep and you will probably sin again before you die we all will. And God will forgive you but only if you are willing to do the same, only if you are making a whole hearted effort to do the right thing.
Wow, lot’s of assumptions about me here. You misunderstood me and so I am sorry that I came across as a self righteous person. But I get it. Having in depth discussions like these online can be tricky since you don’t always know where it’s coming from.
I will never judge for obvious reasons, as we are all sinners so I am FAR from self righteous and never claimed to be. I will forgive a person but this level of deceit I will not forget and I would expect that same treatment if I were in the wrong. I believe in treating others the way you would like to be treated. My stance remains the same, I just simply stated that I cannot understand married adults who cheat and that adultery is something that I personally will not tolerate(I will forgive but I will move on.) I’m sure there are things about me that others will not tolerate and rightfully so!
God does not tolerate a lot of things but at the same time he forgives. And that’s how it is with most of us right? I believe that when a spouse commits such acts, you can still have great levels of understanding, compassion and forgiveness towards them while going your separate ways. We can be friends and maintain a cordial relationship. I am not saying my way is better than the other. That is why I believe to each their own and which is why I said it boils down to choice and what one can tolerate. No judgement here.
You say it’s not about toleration its about what’s right? Well right or wrong is relative. Where in the bible does it say that divorcing a cheating spouse is wrong? There seems to be many different interpretations regarding certain bible verses which is why studying the bible is a personal journey between the individual and Creator.
When it comes to reading the Bible my understanding is this; firstly it is imperative that we ask the Creator for a clear mind and guidance in order for one to have some type of understanding when studying the biblical context. It’s all about one’s intent, along with the unlearning of previous teachings based on man’s limited understanding and knowledge, removal of biases, and pre-conceived notions. This greatly helps in approaching the bible objectively vs all the confusion that is currently out there. Which is why I stress that it is a personal relationship between the individual and God vs making decisions based on someone else’s understanding.
You stated, “Divorcing someone for getting sick mentally is absolutely wrong.”
You consider cheating a a mental sickness? I can’t say that I agree with this at this time. But I am open minded and willing to at least entertain the idea. So please explain to me how this is the case?
Now I am only speaking for myself but unless you were drugged, had too much alcohol, untreated mental disorder/condition, medically unstable then you always have a choice to cheat or not to cheat. How do you consider cheating a mental sickness? God gave us free will so how is the will to cheat a sickness? Please enlighten me. And yes we all have free will and we continue to sin everyday of our lives but as a human, there is only so much I can tolerate from others and I expect others to feel the same way towards me.
You stated; “Some men can’t “tolerate” being faithful that does not make cheating okay?”
Obviously not. That is not what I meant. I think you took what I said out of context. When I said it boiled down to what one can tolerate I was speaking in the context of cheating, choosing a partner or remaining in an unhealthy relationship with someone who continuously displays certain(unhealthy) characteristic traits. If or when you decide to get married if you’re not already, I am certain that there are things you look out for when choosing a husband. There are many cases of people not showing their true colors until after marriage. What if your husband began displaying certain character traits that you tried to avoid after marriage? If he turned out to be abusive both verbally and physically, he says he will never kill you but he abuses you for any and everything. Does he not have a choice? Or are you just going say he has an illness?
How are you going to be a good mother and a productive human being when you are abused in such ways? You asked what is emotional abuse? Emotional abuse does not necessarily leave physical scars,but it can have a huge impact on your confidence and self-esteem. There are a couple of different types of emotional abuse, feel free to look it up. But unhappy marriages leads to unhappy relationships with children. Not everyone is willing to change, some people choose to stay damaged. How would you deal with that? There are many cases like this. And I believe God has given us the freedom of choice in how we decide to mover forward in these matters.
Your wrote; “A person who sins must be forgiven if your spouse leave you for another you are free to remarry but if your spouse cheats and apologizes and seeks to work it out then you must fight for your marriage”
In this case, I totally understand where you are coming from but for the sake of this discussion, the only way it is possible for me to even consider staying in that marriage, is if I get a clear and direct sign from our Creator along with some intense soul searching. That is the only thing that will keep the marriage together because I do not see any where in the bible where it says you cannot divorce a husband that committed adultery nor does it say it is mandatory to divorce a spouse for such reasons. Which again boils down to choice.
The bible does speak of how Jesus rebuked the pharisees and correctly taught them that divorce should not take place for merely any reason. And yes God hates Divorce but adultery and or fornication among other things are serious acts that God frowns upon so with that said, my understanding is that as long as the grounds for divorce were not based on frivolous unbiblical reason then it is a choice that the individual has to make. Whether or not one decides to stay with the adulterer, it is a matter of choice and it’s not up to anyone else to decide. So I would never say my decision in this matter is better than the other.
I wish this couple nothing but the best and I pray that he never cheats again, only God knows his heart.
LMAO, I hope you end up with a husband who puts you through all the things you think can be “worked through” or “forgiven” to see how long you’ll last before you’re forced to eat crow. Stupid bitch. All this preaching about God and forgiveness yet you’re giving people who mistreat their spouses a pass while blaming the wronged partner for refusing to be a doormat and tolerate it. God isn’t here for people who go out of their way to be wicked. You can’t keep hurting someone over and over again and justify the cycle of abuse by repenting each time you do it. That’s not how atonement works. And not being a perfect person (which absolutely no one is) doesn’t mean you deserve to be mistreated. So spare me the “we all sin and therefore we can’t judge” bullcrap. That’s the favorite cop out of people who refuse to admit that they’re terrible people who do terrible things. No, not all sins are equal, dumbass. This kind of thinking is why pedophile priests are allowed to keep their jobs. Their moron supporters who share your mentality are the first to deflect criticism with “well, we all sin” and blame the victims for not forgiving. Nah, miss me with that.
y most couples stay together after 1 partner cheates??, i just don’t get that! Ppl, who give ppl 2nd chances is fine-but u can always forgive & not continue being in that “partnership” koz u never know maybe God planned for u 2 b with a better person or u are the 1 God wants to be with another person
Imperfection is tolerable if it comes to ironing, washing, cooking some stuff, mopping, steaming, lawn mowning etc…
just saying-:I for any couple!! if u can afford the lifestyle-otherwise…then i get it
Maybe because love actually forgives ALL things. Washing, etc. aren’t big deals. Forgiveness really comes into play when it’s in the big things. so yeah, she’s walking in love.
Why was it necessary to post that they are “Christian”? Do I really care?
Is being Christian a crime? I’m you didn’t care why Did you bring it up?
I feel like it was not needed.
Why did you imply that I personally think that it’s a crime? I simply don’t care about their religion of choice and it was irrelevant to the topic being discussed. They don’t identify as “Christian bloggers” do they?
There are plenty of ppl who do daily vlogs or (even worse) are legitimate celebrity couples who have hordes of paparazzo chasing them and literally their their every waking minute in public under the microscope and their relationships/marriages are fine. Something about ppl blaming vlogging/being in the public eye for their breakups, kind of reminds me of ppl who continuously act like antisocial, violent, and/or perveted creeps and bullies on reality TV and blame “editing” for their bad behavior. Like sorry, no, it’s not the vlogging, I think it’s that ppl who’re ALREADY in problematic & vulnerable relationships (for some inane reason) often decide to start vlogging as a couple, become “YouTube famous”, try to hide/sugarcoat sh!t, & can’t keep up the facade forever.
Sometimes it looks great all the way through and you’re shocked by a breakup, other times you can actually see the cracks in their relationship as they vlog over time and you’re saddened but not totally surprised by the break up. Ex: Ambers Closet and her gf Kiarra. People (facilely) blamed “vlogging” and “putting their business out there” for Amber and Kiarra’s breakup, but their relationship had some (obvious) major vulnerabilities and weaknesses from the very start. Some vloggers have even acknowledged this in hindsight. Instead of blaming “vlogging”, ppl just need to be brutally honest about themselves and their relationships. If their relationship is iffy, weak, vulnerable, or problematic for ANY reason at all (or if their behavior makes them look like a creepy two-faced phony Jesus Freak who shouldn’t be trusted with other ppl’s money…ahem Austin) don’t vlog as a couple, if at all. Turning on a camera probably isn’t going to help.
So you needed to totally change ha? That means behind closed doors when those cameras were off… you were always a douche bag.
I don’t like really to watch daily life vlogs. I have my own shit to worry about. I do think it’s weird that people get so emotionally invested in a couple and the way they live
I stopped watching them once I got to college. And when I return to watch them again, I found myself disliking Austin more than I did before. And this right here tops the icing on the cake. How could he do this to his wife while she was pregnant with his child? He disgusts me and I only watched the vlogs for Brittany and the kids because they had more sense. I’m glad Brittany is being strong.
Just read this awesome article about David Bowie and Iman and what can be learned by keeping it private. http://madamenoire.com/608939/pop-mom-the-bowies-and-a-thing-called-privacy/
Sadly Iiya this is a show me world now. People have no filters on their life.
I honestly dislike most lifetime vlogging channels and the nive nulls are no exception. I also wonder about what these youtube vloggers are going to do for money once youtube loses popularity
Chile… I cannot
I watched one of their videos a couple of years ago and they came across as attention seekers to me. He was shoving a camera in her face while she was crying. I think a friend of theirs had a serious disease or something like that and she was reacting to the news. TOO EXTRA. I never watched a video again.
I can’t and I won’t.
they have sacrificed their family at the altar of youtube money. I’ve seen the daughter say NO DADDY I DON’T WANT TO BE ON CAMERA multiple times and he will keep recording. There’s a bunch of other crazy stuff they have no problem showing their kids doing.
You’d think they’d realize that they need to step away from vlogging and find another main source of income for their family. In 5-6 years, it might be VERY hard for youtube to be profitable for most except for large companies.
Honestly though, I wish them luck, they are married with kids so if they break up, it will be devastating all around. I just hope Austin doesn’t resort to cheating again after all this cools down and they work out what’s really wrong with their marriage.
You aren’t the first person to say that about the little girl saying she didn’t want to be on camera. That’s sad.
In my opinion, the most disturbing video they did was when they painted the little boy’s nails all in the name of “fun.” He is shown snatching his hand back from several times. But Brittney kept grabbing his hand and painting his nails while saying “he won’t remember this anyway.”
wow she must either have no self-respect or is just a strong and forgiving individual, I can’t see how she does it. If she can look past being made a fool out of publicly like that then all the best to her. I wouldn’t be able to put up with it.
Same here!
Famous last words. Everyone says they won’t put up with it until it happens to them.
I thought “they” said only black men disrespect black women by cheating….so I’ve heard.
Sips
Ikr, I’m sipping too, waiting for the anti blacks to come
You would think so with the amount of bashing that goes on.
I’m know their Vlogging bff buddies. Making a living from something fun is great, but what are you sacrificing when your offering up your life for public consumption? The couple I know that does the same thing has shared so much of their baby’s life for clicks and page views that it’s disturbing. She never had the choice of whether her life would be share with tens of thousands of people.
And as someone with a cheating parent, it’s sad that they would reveal this to the public without thinking of how it affects their very public children too.
Some woman are so disgusted with themselves, and have no morals that they will go chasing after a married man without a care in the world .Yes he was wrong also, but as a woman you should no better, have a higher value of yourself, this is the ish* I cant take with some women, and then they use that “No one takes no one away from nobody” which is the excuse that they all use. Which Im thinking the were taught on their first day at “Thots r Us” class. They have the sickening mindset, “Yeah, I through myself at a MARRIED MAN, but,its not my fault he took a bite.” There used to be a time when the other woman had shame and actually stayed behind the scene cause she knew she was wrong in every which way, and that she was the other woman, now these Hoe’s from Hoeville are breeding a new set of thots, who could care less that they are damaging a home, and taking a child away from their father, and actually think that there ish* is made of gold, so there is no way he can turn around and do the same thing to them. But God dont sleep, sometimes you see woman suffering, catching they a$$ and you feel sorry for them and wonder how this woman cant catch a break, its only suffer after suffer and she such a nice person. its because you dont know what happen in they past for them to be sucking salt now. I done talk, this video get me so vex and I don’t even follow them, He get me vex, but them men does have they crisis, but as a women, intentionally hurting another women who is married and have kids with this man, she wrong on so many levels.
But Austin and Britt actually admitted that Austin was seeing someone else while he started talking to Britt ( in their “How we met” video)! I am telling y’all, some people are *serial cheaters*. If it starts with cheating, it ends with cheating.
Well then shes another one, like I said I don’t watch them. But how u got him is how you’ll lose him. shame on it all
I’m sorry to see that they went through this, but I’m not surprised. People covet what they see, and lonely, desperate, pathetic people who have failed at acquiring a good partner for themselves will attempt to steal someone else’s. You can come across a few of these sad people in normal, everyday life, but putting yourself out there for millions to see will exponentially increase the odds of it happening.
I’ve personally seen too many instances of social media contact causing serious problems in relationships. Some people just can’t always resist the temptation when it comes. To me, it’s just not worth the trouble.
It makes me wonder how many other Blog/Vlog/YouTube couples have been through this. Kudos to them for their transparency and for working through it.
wow their followers act like they are celebrities or something. Everything doesn’t have to be shared on youtube and social media they have three kids they should focus on them. How are they with a camera in those kids faces everyday I don’t get it youtube pay sucks also you tube pays like $10 per every 1000 views of people who watch the ad’s most people have ad blocker or skip the ad they then split it youtube keeps 40% and give the youtubers 60%
I’ve never gotten into daily vlogging channels or reality TV for exactly this reason: the content producers are forever under a strain to look or behave a certain way. That’s okay for occasional videos, but everyday? Such an expectation is unhealthy for both them and their audience.
Not a fan of Austin, but I wish the Nulls the best in their relationship. I hope that the break renews their love and devotion for one another.
I’m about to unsubscribe because blackgirllonghair posts negativity.
I haven’t subscribed but I would check out this site almost daily when I first started my hair journey. I started taking periodic breaks sometimes lasting months.
Yep…ya haf to
I feel the same way. I never subscribed either. This site used to be about hair, but now it has gotten really negative. It used to bring naturals together with tips and styles and now it has gotten trivial and divisive.
People have a lot of insecurity issues… what media ”casts black women as unlovable or not ‘wife material’”??? Where? Not the aunties in my family, my mum, friends mums.. blackgirllonghair please start posting more positive stories in 2016 and stop regurgitating negativity. It’s ridiculous to state that thats the reason why black women watch ‘black woman’ vlogs to aspire to them. Honestly, black women are a race, black people, more than a billion, stop the generalisations and stop believing them. This article is sickening. Let’s honestly help our self-esteem as these assumptions are doing no good. It’s simple entertainment of joyful families.
I said the same thing a while ago- that I was getting sick and tired of them always posting negative stories- colorism, racism, African-Americans vs. Africans etc. It’s all so divisive and exhausting! Please publish positive stories as well. This world and the issues we’re so hung up on are so asinine- there’s more to life than worrying about what one group thinks of my skin tone etc. Sheesh.
I was waiting for BGLH to pick up this story. Having seen the evidence…
-sips tea-, -clears throat-
…I feel really sorry for Britt and the kids.
Cheating disturbs me on such a level that i would leave any man over it, no matter the circumstance of our relationship. Ladies, what do you think?
In general I do worry for other vloggers because you are putting yourself out there at the professional, public level without professional protections against the public. Ever see Obama daily vlog? What about Beyonce? Donald Trump and the Clintons? Why not? Because that ish is too public and will leave you open to all kinds of personal scrutiny. Why would anyone put themselves or their *CHILD* on display for public consumption? Vlogging is the epitome of the millenial age of over-sharing, and it will not end well for many people.
I think that’s ridiculous. Well I guess to those who are Christian. When we sin we are commiting adultery against God, literally God calls us sinners an adulterous people and yet he died for us while we were still sinners. Marriage is a reflection of Christ’s relationship with his Church, his bride. While we the Church sin against him Christ does not leave our sides but rather he forgives us. In marriage one must forgive especially if the spouse who has sinned repents as in this case. Mr Null confessed and is working on his marriage with counseling while his sin was very serious, he has humbled himself before his family and God which is the right thing to do. No one is without sin so to divorce a spouse for sinning is wrong, it is self righteous. If we do not forgive those who sin against us God will not forgive us our sins. I believe marriage is for life, unless your spouse outright abandons you, dies, or tries to kill you or your children (your life is at risk), one has no right to divorce or remarry a Christian must be ready to forgive instead and work through problems that is a true testament of one’s faith and of true love which is patient and kind and never fails.
IMO, they use the christianity angle when it’s convenient for them like most people nowadays. I have a feeling if he and his wife were truly following the lead of The Holy Spirit, their channel would not exist anymore.Either way, I wish them luck.
there is a point there I do believe it is somewhat immodest to just expose your life on the internet at the same time they obviously do keep some things private and could also be an encouragement to others so I think it depends on how you look at it. As far as forgiveness goes I think that’s pretty black and white, Christians just have to be ready and willing to forgive because God forgives us our sins.
I agree about forgiveness being black and white. God knows their hearts and if they are sincere and he knows their weaknesses and the things they need to remove from their lives. Hopefully, at the end of the day, they do what’s best for their family and are obedient to the God who they want to forgive them. I’m personally not watching anymore because I do not want to contribute to something that IMO from what I’ve noticed, is harmful for their family in the long run.
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Eve, I probably agree with you the most. I read a lot of the comments. I must say, many of them sound like they are from younger women. I did not watch the video, but at my age, I don’t have to. I think as you age and, hopefully, mature, things will not be so black-and-white. Unfortunately, many spouses commit adultery. It’s not right, but it is something many people will have to deal with, like it or not. As for the outside person, I don’t think people should spend too much time worrying about them. While they clearly have a role to play in all of this, the husband and wife took the vows before God, so they are the ones who will have to repent and repair the damage done. The outside person will have to deal with God in a different manner. Let’s be careful not to judge. As they say, “today for me, tomorrow for you.” What tomorrow may bring, nobody knows. I pray that none of you have to live through this experience, but if you do, may God be with you. Blessings.
If you really believed in the “babble” the husband should be stoned to death. Have you forgotten that adultery is a crime punishable by death?
He who is without sin may cast the first stone
–Jesus
To answer your question, it depends on what one can tolerate. I’m sure there are some things that you can tolerate from a spouse/partner that I will not tolerate and vice versa. But I’m with you, I will NOT tolerate cheating. I feel like if we both are adults and we agree to be in a committed relationship which does not involve cheating of any kind then that is how it should be. There is no compromising. We are no longer single and we are no longer teens. Before you agreed to be a part of a committed relationship did you think twice? If so, then you should not be involved in such relationships and chances are you will be unfaithful. I prefer brutal honesty over anything else. If you are tempted, if you are no longer interested, if you cannot see yourself faithful to one person at a time then tell me and we will end it there. Why waste time, sneak around causing more pain and suffering? We’re both adults so it shouldn’t be that hard to practice honesty.
Now, when it comes to cheating, can people change? Yes I believe some can and maybe they are worth a second chance. If we expect God to forgive us then we should forgive others right? But sadly, in most cases people will cheat again and I’m not the type of person that will wait around for it to happen again. I forgive but I will never forget. Once I loose trust I can never look at you the same. Again, I will forgive you eventually but we will have to go our separate ways in peace.
And I am not judging anyone who can tolerate cheating. To each is own. Only God knows the heart. It’s not for us to judge. I wish them both the best and I pray that he will never cheat again.
That is why I think cheating is SO selfish and disrespectful: the onus is always on the violated partner to forgive the cheater. In order to forgive a lying, deceptive, lustful partner, one has to lower their own standards and self-esteem so much! It is either you or me, dude, and if you can barely keep your private parts to this relationship, well I will choose me (and my sanity, self-esteem, and STI-free body) over your cheating, lying, lustful behind. Cheaters are the most selfish people. So why can’t the partner who was cheated on be equally selfish and choose their own mental health and physical health over such baggage and dead-weight, like a cheating, lying partner. It is more than sex. It is the deception, selfishness, and uncaring that I cannot deny nor live with. Cheating is a personality flaw. Some people are drawn to polyamory, attention-seeking, instant-reward systems, and lustfullness. No matter how good of a partner you are, that personality flaw is still deeply rooted there. If I learned that my partner had that personality flaw, I would leave their sorry behind. I’ve had to do it twice in the past. Both situations were similar to what Britt and Austin experienced (i.e. online affairs, online flirting, nudes/sexual images and texts being shared behind my back). I think too highly of myself to take a dirtbag who treats someone like that.