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Elle D.
Sage Steele, ESPN analyst, is currently getting dragged to the high heavens on Twitter for her recent Facebook post about diversity. Here’s what she had to say (emphases ours):
As a self-proclaimed, proud bi-racial woman — my father is black and my mother is white — the word “diversity” is fascinating. These days, I call it “the D word”. Why? Because everyone likes to say it. At work, at home, at the podium, at colleges and universities. Diversity. EMBRACE DIVERSITY! Fortunately, millions of Americans of all races, religions and cultures do just that. But, how many of us actually mean it? Specifically, how many people of color actually mean it? Or is it simply a socially acceptable, politically correct term that just sounds good, and feels good to say, or to demand? Unfortunately for way too many African-Americans and people of color, I believe it’s the latter. I’ve actually believed this for years and have spoken publicly about it a few times recently, contemplating when the best time would be to fully “go there”. In light of recent events around the country and personally, I feel the time is now.
We — as people of color — continue to cry for racial equality, diversity and acceptance, and rightfully so. That said, why must we continue to tear down those within our own race? Why must we shun those within our own race who think differently? Or marry outside of our race? Or vote differently? Or have “good hair”? Or speak differently? Shouldn’t we instead be offering up praise for our wonderful diversity?
My mother is a perfect example. Raised by an Irish father and an Italian mother in a small Massachusetts town, she went against her parents’ wishes and married the black man she fell in love with. What she dealt with fresh off of the tumultuous civil rights era was horrific in so many ways — which is one of many reasons why she is the strongest, bravest woman I know. So, instead of rolling your eyes at my black father for “selling out”, shouldn’t you be praising my white mother for following her color-blind heart and not succumbing to the pressures of American society back then? Apparently not. How about now, more than 4 decades later? Instead of giving me those all-knowing looks of disgust and calling me a sell-out when you see pictures of me with my white husband, or see me with my very light-skinned bi-racial children, shouldn’t you be praising that “white boy” from Indiana who followed his color-blind heart and married into a bi-racial culture completely different from his own, to help create a beautiful, color-blind family? Apparently not. Sadly, the list goes on and on, seeping into just about every social and political issue.
Instead of praising or uplifting each other, way too many people of color choose to tear down, mock and spew hatred at other blacks who feel differently, think differently, or make decisions that are different from theirs. That, my friends, is hypocrisy at its best. Or should I say, its hypocrisy at its worst. Here’s the thing:
You don’t get a hall-pass just because you’re a minority. Racism is racism, no matter what color your skin is. So when you call me a sell-out, or a coon, or an Uncle Tom, or any other derogatory term to let me know that you disagree with me, you lose every ounce of credibility with those whom you deem racist at the drop of a hat. Does racism against African-Americans/people of color exist? Of course! It disgusts me more than anyone knows and as far as we have come, there is still such a long way to go. I have personally felt it on too many occasions to count, and I will continue to fight it for me, my family and everyone else out there who truly does believe in diversity. But the fact that so many of us actually have to fight back against other within our own race, is incomprehensible and frankly, it’s pathetic. So go ahead. Keep on keepin-on with that double-standard. That hypocrisy. Just know that every time you do, its sets us back even further, and I refuse to be a part of it. Instead, isn’t it time to look ourselves in the mirror and be accountable for our own actions, and not just point the finger at others? Isn’t it time to truly celebrate how beautifully diverse African-Americans are? Believe it or not, we can disagree and still be civil. Respectful. Kind. Accepting of our differences. Isn’t that what DIVERSITY is all about? EMBRACE DIVERSITY…but mean it. All the time, not just when it’s convenient for you. I pray that we can all begin to have more open-minded, non-judgmental, healthy conversations to ensure that diversity applies to ALL Americans, all of the time.
So what sparked this rant? Apparently, Sage criticized Mike Evans of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers for his choice to sit during the National Anthem at last Sunday’s game, which was the game that typically honors veterans. Although Evans explained that he was protesting what Donald Trump’s election win represented and meant for America, Sage saw it as disrespectful to the men and women who have served our country.
The backlash from her tweet was strong, with some mentioning her white husband or revoking her “card” as a woman of color. In response, Steele wrote her Facebook post about diversity.
And honestly, she’s not totally wrong. Although I do not agree with her initial critique of Evans, and found her tweet petty, there is a more general issue she is addressing in her post. There seems to be an issue among black people where the overarching “community” tends to shun someone in the worst way when they stray from seemingly objective groupthink. It’s not about having a disagreement with what they say or what they do, it’s attacking their status as a black person. Instead of critiquing their action, their blackness is critiqued. This is inherently problematic because black people are not monolithic, and we should not be expected to act and think as such. It’s even possible that this idealism has a lot to do with the post long-term effects of slavery and robbing black people of their individual identities.
But while her general point may be with merit, I don’t see why she felt like she needed to add the anecdotes about praising her white mother for going against her parents to be with a black man, or her white husband. I’m sorry, but white folks do not deserve cookies for not being racist, and we should not be praising the fact that they want to be with a person of color. If black women are as fly, magical, beautiful and carefree as we often proclaim, why would it be hard to believe that men of all races would desire us as partners? And isn’t it weird to live in a perpetual state of praise and gratitude that your partner selected you despite your blackness? Not allowing negative racial bias to keep him from marrying a woman of color is something Sage’s husband did for *himself*, and given that Sage is beautiful, talented and highly successful, the marriage was certainly beneficial to his self-interest. To paint it as some kind of personal sacrifice or cross to bear feels very off-base.
Those points in her emotional Facebook post are flawed, but her point is not completely invalid. And by people instantly dismissing her post as “cooning” or inserting her into the pool for the race trade, they’re kind of proving her point.
BGLH readers, what do you think of what Sage Steele had to say?
108 Responses
Sage Steele was merely combating the racism that alot of black Americans throw at biracials who dare to claim their mixed race ancestry and don’t marry a black men(yet funny since black men aren’t going crazy over black women in the media. I applaud her as a mixed race women myself. A lot of black people don’t like me claiming my mixed race heritage but screw them.
How about following suit and giving 99% of black people an award for forgiving, caring, working for/with, living beside, etc…. and generally not rising up and exacting revenge on the descendants of their ancestral persecutors? Now, that’s something noteworthy.
Has it ever occured to Steele to think about WHY black Americans often resort to groupthink? Could banding together in this way be one of the few remaining a survival mechanisms of a still oppressed people? Desegregation was a double edged sword in that the physical, geographical and cultural ties the bound us as a people were gradually broken. Good or bad, groupthink is a tie that still binds us. Does it sometimes work against us? Yes. Is it a logical response to centuries of racism? YES.
While Steele does have some valid points, this “proud biracial woman” is a very poor messenger. She seems to think that we can snap our collective fingers and suddenly let it all go. Steele pays lipservice to us with her crocodile tears, overblown praise for her white mother and husband, and superficial acknowledgement of black oppression.
Thumbs WAY down.
MESS.
Sage sounds like she’s still licking some childhood wounds. I recall her smarting over growing up biracial on one of the ESPN podcasts shows (either Be Honest or His and Hers).
I agree with Elle’s breakdown of the rant. All that Sage said went right on over my head and into left field. I had no desire to even use early morning brain power to deduce and reason with such fantastical claims. I see her basic point, but it is moot. If people are calling her a coon, maybe it is because she acts white around certain people and Black around others. Who knows? I’m just not interested, lol. I’s tired too fromanotherplanet!
I am tired.
I have no interest in diversity. I prefer segregation from whites for the most part.
Jesus. The number of times she mentioned “color-blind” in her rant… Does she even know what that means?? That means these people who’ve loved/raised her don’t take into consideration the other half of her culture or heritage. It’s disregarded and considered unimportant. So I implore you all to please SEE COLOR. See it in every hue. It’s the only way we’ll truly be able to accept and learn from each other.
Thank you!!! I despise the term “color-blind” in reference to race. It says to me that you choose to ignore my color instead of see and accept it.
Yes. “Color-blind” is for closeted White Supremacists that bill themselves as “liberal” and “progressive”.
so we must praise her husband for his personal choice when she criticized another for his choice to protest… who exactly is the hypocrite
Essentially she’s saying that men of other races who date or marry black women are a prize. ?
Why do marrying white needs a praise? Love is given without waiting something in return. Thank you for this anyway. I would like to share this new fake ultrasound design from fakeababy. The funniest thing and the smartest partner for gags.
another lost biracial creature. I can’t with those people kmt
She is on of those people that will cry we need to leave her alone because marriage is PERSONAL CHOICE. So I ask why should a personal choice be awarded?
I fail to see why she feels a need to justify it. The only people that need to care are her and her husband. Interracial marriages have been quite common for a long time now. Praise or not they certainly do not deserve to be demonized. They love each other and are married so why waste energy worrying about what some people think??
I didn’t know that people with “good hair’ were shunned or the white women, like her mother, need to be praised more than they already are. Sage is saying that black people aren’t nice enough o white women in IRR and biracial women with type 3 hair. She obviously has no idea how poorly black people treat actual black women.
I think she is a bit mixed up! Giving points and praise, nope! Heck, please marry whoever you truly love and want–that’s your journey! I hope one day we can move beyond this…after all, love–true love is supposed to be colorblind! No praise required.
I am sure Sage has sucked enough white penis, to thank her husband for marrying her. and her white mother gets no cookies for wanting black flesh, that is the same white woman who would scream rape after harassing a male slave that did not want to sleep with her, thats the same white woman who will kill her children and say a black man did it. Sage enjoy your pseudo white privilege, you will learn once things get nasty, Halle Berry didn’t learn anything because she went back to a white man and divorcing again. I will sit and wait for how long it takes for him to call her a nigger.
She seems to have issues about the ‘black’ side of her. As a black woman married to a white man, I think he is lucky to have me as I am lucky to have him. Just two people of equal worth who fell in-love with one another.
Agreed!
I agree with her regarding the double standard of people of African descent. We do war among ourselves to the point that it is detrimental to the entire community. We also seem to believe that the entire race is one size fits all and no individuality is allowed. However, her stating that her mother and husband should be praised because they lowered themselves to be with their spouses in the most racist and disgusting thing I have read in a while. Shame on her for thinking that and saying it out loud!!
She is so stupid. Typical product of a white mother who is proud to be biracial since it makes her anything but black.
Pathetic. She devalues herself. Should the old slave owners be praised because of their hypocrisy; beating and whipping both black men and women while sneaking into their quarters at night to rape black women? I’m certain that our forefathers and foremothers didn’t see it that way. Of course her choice to marry a Caucasian man was voluntary and we don’t his motives or state of mind in marrying her. It might be some deep, psychological notion of the forbidden fruit or it just might be love. Regardless of the motivation I wouldn’t award her mother or her husband a medal for marrying outside of their race.
Sage welcome to the real world and the society which your white mother and white husband ancestors created.
Her comment against Evans shows her ignorance. A white person posted on Facebook last week and I agree 1000%. How does the US fighting in other countries give Americans freedom??? IMO these soldiers are fighting for the corporations for resources and wealth. We just buy the freedom lie. Our black men and women have died for this so called freedom only to return to b treated like 2nd class citizens. Did we give Iraqis freedom? Democracy? We left them worse off then b4. I stop believing all the crap the media spits out bcse you have an agenda. You ask for everyone to b diverse and accepting but yet you work in the least diverse field in America. Start w your field first b4 criticizing everyone else. What are you doing to diversify TV and media and fairness in reporting other then your presence ?
It’s a complex issue. Elle is right when she says black people are not monolithic and we shouldn’t have to all think alike… However when it comes to our most basic desire for HUMAN RIGHTS, equality, and to tear down all instruments of systemic oppression, we all better be on the same page! This is where “black cards” getting revoked and talks of racial drafts come from. They come from a place of “well, if you don’t have the best interests of your own people at heart, you can leave, we don’t need you, have a seat over there with the other team”. While I do agree Sage does have a point, it’s a false equivalence to conflate people of color’s desire for equal representation and social/cultural equality with backlash she receives from black people about her mixed race family. Don’t nobody have a problem with your bi-racial background or your mixed family. The problem arises when you speak out AGAINST black people who are actively trying to affect change for the betterment of POC. You instantly sound like “one of them”. Expect to get dragged for it. Separate your personal issues from the plight of the rest of us for true equality.
I’m as light as a banana, but proud to be Black. Why do black folks have so much self-hatred and hate for others like them? Why is there so much animus between black men and black women in America? I’m talking both genders seem to have serious spiritual issues.
The fact that you had to make SURE everyone knew you were ‘light as a banana’ is the problem. Answer your own question, why do you have such self hatred? Calling yourself a banana is not self love. Do you have a serious spiritual issue. Be the change you wish to see in others.
Not self-hate, just the truth. My skin is not dark, but I am proud of my complexion and who I am. “Light as a banana” is poking fun at myself, something everyone needs to learn how to do. Too many folks take themselves way too seriously. Then when adversity strikes and they’re not sitting on top of their imagined mountain anymore, they fall to pieces (drugs, alcohol, eating binges, self-mutilation).
You asked why do Black folks have self hate as if Black people are monolithic. When your description of yourself is self hate. If you are a human what difference does your complexion makes UNLESS you participate in colorism WHICH then you answer your own question about self hate.
Your last sentence is just a straw man argument.
If I hated myself, I’d be on YouTube looking like an imbecile, having babies I can’t take care of, wearing another woman’s hair on my head and doing everything possible to escape who and what I am. Yes, black folks do hate themselves because no matter what whites do to us, we do worse to ourselves and each other. This can’t be disputed because it’s in the statistics.
There is no statistic on this, so stop your lies. All you’re doing is siting anti-Black stereotypes. There was no therapy after Slavery, reconstruction, segregation, civil rights and now for profit prisons. We have the right to brilliant and be fools. No humans are perfect. You need to learn to words love and loyalty. You banana colored person – that’s what you called yourself.
No her husband is ugly, shorter than her and several leagues below her level in many other eqys! I don’t applaud him for marrying up with some self hating half black loser, Sage Steele! It’s disgusting!
She didn’t get the Brad Pitt of WM, she got the Woody Allen of WM – but he’s still White, so there’s that….
Cold-blooded! LMAO!
Everyone has different tastes, what she may find attractive I consider ugly.
“My white husband” says it all. She feels “Validated” because a white man CHOSE her. Bi-racial people tend to go through these morbid identity crises where they don’t know where they fit in, so they tend to default to the white side. With a name like “Sage”, what did you all expect? She certainly doesn’t look like the type of “woman of color” who could deal with a black man — kinda like Michael Strahan/Tim Duncan/RG3 in reverse.
Too many of our people are dying and being wiped of the face of the earth by greedy Europeans. When people like her husband start standing up to his fellow white men for their horrendous behaviour towards others who do not resemble them then they may get a little praise from me.
This chick is beyond dumb. Why oh why do we allow dumb people to get this far in life, to spew their dumb thoughts. This is how Donald Trump got elected. Dumb people all around.
These are not all love matches but racial power moves. Like the 80% of Asian women with White or 47% of Hispanics. Everyone’s trying to ‘better’ their race by Whitening up.
Where in her article does she say she’s trying to “better”:herself by whitening up? The title of the article brought me here but from where I’m sitting she is praising her husband for entering a situation that many will be critical of and praises her parents for entering a situation that around the time of her birth may have even been illegal.
If I love a white woman or any woman who is not Black like me who is willing to rise above other people’s prejudice and hurtful remarks I think she should be praised. Not because she is better than me or that white is right but because she truly embody’s what MLK wanted and that was for us to be judged by the content of our character and not the color of our skin
Then BOTH parties should be praised or its just an anti Black or anti Asian or Anti Hispanic person making a racial power move. A human loving another human shouldn’t get extra high fives.
This is so dull. Next..,
She’s cooning.
Saying as a minority what the majority want to hear. She’s reassuring the white people that she is “one of the good ones” because she agrees with THEM. So don’t be too worried about me, because I only acknowledge my blackness when it’s needed in a time of having to prove to white people I’m not a threat.
you iterate exactly what she’s talking about. “cooning”? yet we march to kingdom come when a white person calls us nigger, but we call our own “coon”, “uncle tom”, “porch monkey”. grow the f up.
She’s an idiot. You get one point for getting married, but two points for marrying a black woman? Bih, ride your white chariot outta here.
in a world where BLACK PEOPLE WHO DONT MARRY WHITE and AREN’T BI-RACIAL DONT MATTER. The White Woman or the White man who marry a non-bi-racial black person , then has mixed babies SHOULD NOT BE PRAISED because the world STILL disrespects the original black heritage that their mixed children came from. IGNORES us, DISMISSES US, and puts us on the back burner and has not ensured that all black heritage has a guaranteed future, respect, opportunities for each and every generation. It seems BI-RACIAL chidren are getting WAY MORE Opportunities that blacks who DO NOT FALL IN LOVE with another race.
But when did “blacklivesmatter” mean other races matter less or black lives matter first though?
LOVE your pic by the way 🙂
Thanks! ?
Isn’t it hypocritical for Sage to criticize Evans for protesting how he sees fit and then turn around and demand that the Black community be more tolerant of different points of view? Why did she feel the need to challenge Evans’ protest in the first place by questioning his patriotism? She needs to mind her own business. Americans have a First Amendment right to protest and will continue to do so.
By the way, so what if she’s the daughter of a White woman or that she is married to a White man? Does she not know that there are racist White people who marry non-White people, including Black people? To argue that because someone married a Black person, somehow he/she deserves praise is foolishness and embarrassing.
Wait a minute. Is this the same Sage Steele who was throwing herself at Jalen Rose when she thought the cameras were off? Is she married to the same guy. If so, he should be praised…for staying with her.
Ew. “Good hair” let me know where her head is.
Ikr, it’s all good hair! Geez!
The comments just prove the point the writer was making. Bravo, folks.
Yes, it proved we’re not all monolith, but we already knew that so…
So white people should be praised for not being racist, and black people should be praised for loving white folks (the very people society tells us are “better”, that we should emulate, desire to be with, are “trophies”, etc). Got it. Girl, bye. #sideye
So true, this ignorance doesn’t deserve a full speech. I had to stop reading.
She was cool until the national anthem thing. That’s really where she messed up. Because you gon go on this rant about diversity and then someone protests something to do with poc and you’re mad? Girl shhh.
The hallowed hall of Corporate America are rife with this type of “black woman” — the type who will pander to racist b.s. and do anything under the sun to ingratiate themselves to the very white folks who revile them.
Let’s be real, racists folks can still be married to black folks. Let that sink in.
Yes especially if the person of color hates themselves the White person can get away with murder – literally.
Especially when that person of color has a healthy amount of self-loathing already.
Thank you! Two words: Strom Thurmond. Racism oozed out of his pores and yet he had a black daughter! Interracial sex/dating/marriage doesn’t absolve racism.
He has a biracial daughter. As long as you promote the one drop rule, racism will always exist
Reading this made me feel like my brain fell out.
LOL! Sage’s arguments are bizarre and silly. She must have a low opinion of herself and Black people in general. I wonder if she ever tweeted to any White racist to denounce his/her behavior or if she only feels the need to police how Black people protest.
Usually the product of a white mother/black father have no positive feelings about their blackness. She only admits to being biracial because she is too dark to pass.
There is a huge double standard in the black community when it comes to men and women making comments like this. Black male celebrities and athletes say all sorts of things and there is rarely any backlash if it is mentioned at all. This is like a 2 compared to Kanye West. Women who say things like this have their careers affected. I don’t agree with her, but we don’t need a hive mind.
Two wrongs don’t make a right.
It’s not wrong to have a different opinion than other people just because you are the same race.
That wasn’t your argument. Your argument was Black men do it too… Yes they do and it is wrong when they do it as well. We should be fair to good and honest Black men and women when we call them out – no name calling (cooning – I didn’t even know what that was or slut shaming etc.) nothing below the belt. We are not monolith, but it does not mean anyone is above criticism or a good discussion on why we think a certain way about ourselves and each other it’s very healthy to have on going dialogue.
Kanye never attacked black people for supporting black issues like Sage did and he also didn’t marry a woman so far below his level like Sage did her white man. Kim Kardashian’s father is a famous lawyer and she was with Reggie Bush before Kanye. Sages husband meanwhile is just some ugly short white man that’s obviously below her level.
I don’t think much of Kanye but he married a dirty porn star who has been getting the dirty on with so many dudes that it’s shameful. And worse yet now she’s somebody’s mother and still showing off her body for the world to see SMH
…clearly anything (at all) to up the ratings/keep them in the public-interest category.
What does “below his level” mean? What factors are you using to judge a person’s worth? What their father does for a living? Who they dated in the past? Is physical appearance the most important thing to you in a person? If so, then that’s sad.
This is a weird comment. I read up on Sages and her husband. He has a college degree and a job. Kim is making money now, but who was she and what did she do that was so much worse that of Sage’s husband? Her father was a lawyer and had a money and she dated a pro football player…so how does that mean that he Kanye didn’t marry someone below him (career/potential/talent wise)?
Kardashians father was a famous and ingenious lawyer. She comes from a rich family whereby she never had to work. Kanye dates up from the hood he grew up. Sage meanwhile married some awkward looking white dude with an average family and nothing to his name. Sage herself is a famous sports broadcaster. She dated down.
I just looked up her husband and he’s attractive as she is.
So marrying someone of another race should be praised, but peacefully protesting against someone who has empowered racists is an issue?! *finds her a few seats Racism is not racism regardless of color. There may be bigotry, bias, or prejudice , but not racism .An oppressed people can not be racist because they are not oppressing anyone. It doesn’t make them hate free, but they are not racist by definition. Girl, take your 3a curl pattern and go somewhere! lol
Lanatria: best post yet! Exactly right.
True is, we are all mixed up some more than others…she’s way off base…or not on it. Sure, she is free to speak her mind but others may not agree and speak their minds too!
This opinion on racism I’ve heard before, but don’t quite understand. I am genuinely curious. How do you define racism? I understand racism in the way one person feels about another, while a racist white person can have power over a person of color, I’ve seen the same racist ideology in people of color (especially towards immigrants, other minorities that may also lack the privilege or power to oppress, and poor people). I don’t know if there is a term for it, but it’s when those that are oppressed or historically marginalized take on the ideals and racists viewpoints of those that oppressed them. They use the same derogatory language and belief in racist stereotypes. It’s literally the same sort of stuff I’ve heard racist white people say about black people and other minorities. I’m black and I’ve heard other black people say these things as well as other minorities about minorities that they view are inferior to them. I’m like, they have this viewpoint that seems to be more in line with the white supremacist.
racism has many definition and yes an oppressed people can be racist. Women were and still are oppressed but they can be sexist. Jewish people can be racist, Gypsies can be racist, Native Americans can be racist.
Her post on diversity was another shame on you black people type of statement. When she mentioned good hair, biracial and praise the white boy for being color blind I was ashamed of her!!! Why is she posting this nonsense at a time like this? I say ignore her! ESPN hired a nutjob.
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Biracial woman with a white husband here. I don’t know what she’s thinking. Why should the white folks get praise in the situations she mentions, and not the black? Arguably, her father was a lot more brave in getting with her mother than the other way around. Since…. ya know… violent lynchings…
I don’t ever think that my husband got with me “despite” my blackness.What a pitiful mindset. I don’t buy into “color blindness” either. Race is a social construct, but one that has real impact on our lives.
She seems to be living in Stacey Dashland, where her privelege has blinded her. Not everyone can afford to pretend we live post-racially, while simultaneously bowing to the good nature of our supreme overlords and benefctors for allowing it.
It’s too early for this. I’ve seen so many blackface wearing, n-word using, chump supporting people boldly putting themselves on blast in the past week… i can’t even.
According to this woman, white people should be praised for being humans who fall in love with other humans ?????
Because when they marry a Black person, they’re stooping down in the mud, I guess.
Or finally learning to walk upright and be a full human.
Exactly.
I find it pathetic and pitiful! Mixed race children born to white mothers grow up feeling as if they have to apologize for being black. I guess looking nothing like your mother is a helluva mind-f**k to black biracial kids. Its like you can’t even escape what the dominant culture pushes even in your own home. Their white mothers cannot relate to them at all in serious issues that affect their lives and livelihoods.
She just sounds insecure as hell and who can blame her.
White women deserve zero praise for being with black men. Its white women who raise racist white men after all, lest we forget. White men get a bad rep, but no one ever examines who raises them to be how they are. Their white mothers are to blame for why this mixed woman lives in a world that constantly excludes women like her.
GTFOH
Mixed children raised by black women are worse. J Cole and Mike Evans mom’s are white and they’re very pro black. Meanwhile Meghan Markle, whose mom is black, doesn’t identify as black or hang with blacks at all.
Untrue – I think they come out the best more reflective. Tia & Tamara, Thandie Newton, Zadie Smith.
Maybe there’s no correlation between the race of the mother and how the kid ends up. Maybe it’s more about the character of the mother, and how she raises her kids. Imagine that…
She doesn’t identify as black because she identifies with both of her parents. Her father was an active and present parent in her life even after divorce, therefore, she feels safest with white men as partners. This isn’t shocking.
Do not forget to mention that for many of these white women marrying black was a step up for them. They only had access to low class white boys. If they married a man with a job it was a step up. Let’s not forget the white women who married professionals, entertainers and athletes. Most of these women feel as though they gave their husbands a step up.
Or maybe it is because they’ve spent their whole lives being ragged the f#$k out by black women because they have white mother’s who had the audacity to raise their own children. Looking nothing like your mother is only a mindfuck when people harp on it non-stop and say stupid shit like “biracial children of black mothers are better”.
It’d be great if black women would stop with the hating ass attitudes toward white, asian and latino women who are raising black kids. There’s a huge hypocrisy here. THAT culture pushes into their homes. THAT culture causes the huge mindfuck when they realize that they are somehow less because the women who pushed them out of their vagina and raised them isn’t black, or in Sage’s case, not black enough. Accept some responsibility for the shit you just said and how toxic bullshit like that affects black kids with who have a parent who isn’t black. That’s toxic, hypocritical and disgusting.
White women don’t raise racist white men. White men and women do. White people are less likely to be raised in single parent homes than black people. A white man has a greater chance of being raised by both of his parents than anyone except an Asian man. Let’s not forget that it was white men who were out capturing slaves, selling slaves, buying slaves and fucking slaves. Meanwhile they also traded, bought and made deals for to acquire their white (mostly child) brides who barely knew what a period was.
Black women overwhelmingly raise children with little to no paternal relationship. If white women are responsible for raising racist white men then aren’t black goddesses responsible for raising prisons full of black men and whole generations of black men who turn their back on the many children they produce with women of any race that will lay down with them?
Nope, nope, nope black women who hate biracial women, white men and black men who are drawn to women outside the race are to blame for the world that excludes them and pushes attitudes like “their mother’s cannot x,y or z”.
Of course, I’m willing to accept that your logic is that black women are goddesses who should be worshiped and praised and absolved of any and all responsibility for how black people (raised by black women) raise hating ass women who hate on children – CHILDREN – because their hair isn’t nappy. Let’s face it, it all boils down to hair for black women.
GTFHO
Has Sage Steele lost her mind? Why make and issue of race(Only trying to make yourself look excepting into White America)and talk about your “Light Skinned” kids, and the Lucky “White Boy”as you say. Did you ever stop and think that White Man found you attractive and wanted you for that more than a color? Did you ever stop and think you guys had common interest in life? You are now starting to disgust BLACK AMERICA with your selfish and racist rants? So you see every Black Man or Woman in a biracial relationship tooting their horn about their “Light skin kids”. Sage you have become the joke at ESPN. Soon you’ll become their has been.
Wow I didn’t know it was so serious. I agree some of us tear at each other but I am not often around those type, negative people. I am not on social media either although I love BGLH for its valuable hair tips. Sometimes I am appalled at some of the post. Where does all this come from?
My sentiments exactly. Where are the hair posts?
I agree with you Sage. Truth dot com!
I will not celebrate a white woman for having the basic human decency of considering a black man, I don’t care what era.
biracial women stay shooting themselves in the foot smh
All that superiority complex.
They feel superior to BW and inferior to WW – IF they’re moms are White. And they feel safe around WM – IF they’re dads are White. I think as a group Black women in general stay away from WM – unless its a love match.