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Portia
If you frequent social media and blogs, then you’re probably aware that singer Ciara is currently dating Superbowl-winning Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson. They’ve been an item since April 2015 and are often seen out and about together with Ciara’s son, Baby Future, occasionally tagging along. Baby Future’s father and rapper, Future, doesn’t like the idea of Wilson being introduced to his son so early in the relationship and this has sparked an ongoing debate about the right time to introduce your child to a new beau. Photos of Wilson, Ciara, and Baby Future taken at Wilson’s training camp were particularly egregious to men in particular, who took to calling Ciara some unflattering names.
The photos even prompted a series of subliminal tweets from Future himself who then went on the popular morning radio show, The Breakfast Club, to publicly state his disapproval of Ciara introducing baby Future to Wilson too soon:
“Of course I wouldn’t want nobody pushing my son [in a stroller] that’s the number one rule. If I was a kid and my mama had a dude pushing me, I woulda jumped out the stroller and slapped the shit out of him. You never do that in our community. You don’t bring a man around your son. You ain’t even know this dude for a few months and you bringing him around ya kid. Who does that?”
Meanwhile, in an interview on CBS’ The Morning Show, Ciara stated that she was introduced to Future’s other children in the beginning of their relationship and even took care of them. She also mentioned that she did indeed try to reach out to Future regarding Wilson, but he declined to speak with her.
We’ve seen this time and time again. Women leave one relationship and people expect them to wait years before they even think about moving on, let alone introduce a man to their child(ren). This seems to be a common idea amongst the black community, as Future stated in his interview. A black woman who expresses freedom in her romantic life is automatically branded a ‘hoe’ or ‘too fast’. It is as though there is a discomfort with black women expressing responsible choice and agency in the areas of sex, romance and love. Ciara offered this closing remark on the subject:
“I don’t know what more they would expect for me to do than just live my life, and that’s what I’m doing. My son is the most important and the person that loves me.”
Honestly, if this were the other way around, Future wouldn’t receive a quarter of the backlash that Ciara’s receiving. In fact, he’s been spotted with a few women since his split from Ciara and who’s to say that little Future hasn’t seen a woman or two in passing? It’s not like Wilson is some man that is passing through. Ciara is clearly in a committed relationship with him and he appears to be an upstanding man, so it’s not clear why it’s such an issue that her son has been in Wilson’s company.
Ladies, what do you think?
17 Responses
If he was so concerned about who was pushing the child’s stroller, he should have married her. The man she is dating is a working professional. I wish her the best.
My thoughts EXACTLY!
Future can keep it moving. Ciara scored herself a fine one and Future is all in his feelings about it. Russell stands heads over Future as far as reputation goes. I wish the couple the best.
For some men the moment a woman becomes a mother she isn’t allowed to have a life outside her motherhood or she’ll be deemed a hoe….
He just seems mad that she moved on from him so easily… just butt hurt… she was supposed to wait forever? Be single and alone forever just to make Future feel better… while he is free to roam…and bring all these random women around their son? #pfft #byeboy
We as women, especially modern black women need to stop falling for the myth of “we both have swagg so we go together”. All i am saying is NOT that you should reject all the guys with swagg who come your way but swagg should NOT be the primary thing we should look for in a man, only a PLUS. Ciara clearly fell for that myth when she got with that rapper.
If you don’t want someone else taking care of your kid then stay with the mother. Stop jump from woman to woman like a bee does flowers. People need to grow up!
What backlash???
I think it ridiculous that her decision has to be justified. The fact that people fight double standards, but the turn around and perpetuate them is beyond me.
My ex husband left and I soon realized it was the best since I had been unhappy for a long time as a result of his cheating. This fool thought I was going to wait for him to come back when he was ready. LMAO! No thanks, I met someone before we were even divorced and was remarried by the end of the Year, right after my divorce was final!!! LOL! I have been with my current husband for 15 years now and he, not the ex raised my four children from my previous marriage, along with the one we had together. Live your life Ciara! Nobody has time for a weak boy that refuses to transition to a man!
Whats hilarious, is the fact that my ex was acting like he was all upset and lost a ish load of weight when he found out I got married and was having a kid from someone else. LOL
On a serious note, I have already warned my boys, if I catch them acting like that, Im putting my foot up they u know what.
I will not have them disrespecting any women and populating the earth every few miles. I do not want my grandchildren all over the place. Ladies we have got to do better raising our boys. We love them but we cannot allow them to remain boys.
Woman of Substance! I applaud you. Now take a bow for your standing ovation. You deserve the best, my Sista?????????
You’re right ! I wish more women speak like you.
Be blessed ! 😉
I think procreating with a man who lives and brags about his drug filled misogonistic lifestyle was her first mishap.
Yes.There is a double standard
No. I don’t feel sorry for her.
Lay with dogs you get up with fleas.
There should be no double standards. This is a discussion adults should have before having children and or right after having a child. If this was how he felt all along then they should have discussed it prior to having kids or during the pregnancy. But for the sake of the child’s well being, I think both parents should wait a while before introducing new partners into their lives because you never the the outcome and or how long the relationship will last as well as how it may affect the child. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it does’t. I would prefer to avoid all unnecessary problems and wait it out a bit.
I think men and women should wait a while before introducing their children to the new people in their girlfriend/boyfriend. There are too many horror stories out there.
Those same dudes who ranted about Ciara most likely have taken their child/ren to meet some woman that they just got into a relationship with. I know from experience as my father used to take me and my brother over to some woman’s house that he’d just met. Why is it acceptable for Black Men to get away with things like this and the community don’t speak out but let Black women do the same thing and the Black community (especially the Black Men) are ready to stone said woman?!
I’ve ranted about this subject since the beginning. It’s absolutely mind boggling at the amount of backlash she received for simply moving on with her life. Ebro, Charlamange, TI and Mike Will were all too happy to call this woman out her name because her baby father who cheated on her, missed the birth of his son, OPENLY admitted to doing drugs, stated that he hasn’t seen his son since April, bragged that he controls all his babymothers by buying them houses was in his feelings. White celebrities(Heidi Klum, Britney Spears, Jennifer Lopez, etc) all had relationships with men who weren’t the fathers of their kids and no one made a damn peep. Ciara does the same damn thing and every one wants to chime in and question her parenting skills, call Russ a simp for being around another man’s child. How stupid
I was absolutely disgusted because people were acting like she should keep her son hidden from Russell which is mind numbingly stupid on so many damn levels, like have we never heard of STEP PARENTS?
Im happy she spoke her side about the insane nonsense she had to endure because her son’s father decided he would go on a slandering tour when his album dropped.
Ciara was enever to move on, she was to be forever Future’s babymother, he was suppose to dip in and out of her and their son’s life as he saw fit. She was never to find love again, she was suppose to be miserable and pining for him. That’s why there were so many black men railing against her. She wasn’t suppose to be nothing but a baby mother and SHE damn sure wasn’t suppose to date a upstanding dude like Russell Wilson
She was suppose to be damaged goods.