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For moooonths, people have been criticizing Beyonce for keeping her baby’s hair “unkempt” and “uncombed”. We have always felt Blue Ivy’s little fros were coily and cute! Well, all the complainers can quiet down because Beyonce has ‘done something’ with her baby’s hair. The Carter family was spotted in Barcelona as Beyonce begins the final stretch of the Mrs Carter Show World Tour, and Little Blue was wearing a top knot! Cute… cute.
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Disclaimer: I love Blue’s hair texture and that she rocks a fro BUT…
I feel that if you’re going to spend so much on clothes for a child who will grow out of them in a few months (despite how much you make)and you make sure you’re always polished when in the public’s eye, then your child should be as well. If they would have picked Blue’s hair out and given it a shape then it would have been better. But when Bey’s hair is laid and Blue is rocking her “I woke up like this” bed head, it does seem as if her head is being neglected. When Blue is out of public sight she can wear her hair however, but if she’s going to be seen (like at her own birthday party) it should at least look like they tried. They are far too invested in vanity to let Blue go out like that.
she’s a baby for crying out loud….
I’m not understanding how q baby’s natural hair that grows out of get head is seen as unkempt. Why does her mom need to comb her? Why is it ‘unacceptable’ for her to wear her natural hair in its raw form. If you want to comb your hair good for you, if you don’t, good for you. I’m tired of hearing people put down the natural hair that grows out of our head and telling us we have to conform to what society thinks is ‘civilized’ and ‘acceptable’. She’s just a baby for God’s sake. She doesn’t need to have her hair in twist, braids, pressed, or any other style. The way her hair comes out if her head is style enough. As for her hair being moisturized, have you touched it? You can’t look at a picture (that’s not even a close up shot of her stands) and determine its dry. Natural hair does not have or always have a shine to it. Unless you’ve felt the quality of her curls then saying it’s dry is just a guess.
All u have to so about your baby hair is put hair oil on it and comb it just like you do yours it is just that she took more of Jays gens as for as her hair and it is not as fine as yours.but she is a little girl and she should keep her hair comb all the time. If you don’t have time make time Bee because she would like it better for her Mom to comb her hair than another person.
My daughter is mixed black and White and I had to learn to do her hair but got used to it. Her hair falls in beautifull curls. I love it and so does everybody in my Country and People here find her extremely beautiful. But despite her beautiful curls I got comments from the black side of the Family. I should braid her hair and put oil. Seemed like anything was better than the natural style. They put wigs and all this fake hair – but in my Country this fake hair is considered ugly – not the natural hair. In my opinion treating your hair well does not mean to expose it to chemicals and sew wigs to your head. You want to teach your children to be proud of themselves and yet Change them into something they are not. I love my daughters hair and hope she never ruins it with perms and wigs.
“Nappy looking” hair is not a negative thing. All natural hair is nappy looking hair. Our hair in it’s natural state doesn’t shine like straight hair because it’s different. Adding tons of oil to my hair so it can kinda be shiny only gave me bumps on my shoulders and back from clogging up my pores. A sure sign that this was not the thing to do. When we nappy in a negative way, it makes the people who try so hard to keep us in ‘self hating mode’ very happy indeed. So please try to look at this issue through new, less brainwashed eyes and check out Blue Ivy’s gorgeous face instead of looking for things to gossip about. THAT is what’s truly ugly.
To all these people whining about how Ivy’s hair is dry and unkempt, what planet are you from? Firstly my own hair is dry naturally, I can put all the coconut oil and water in the world on it but it will still only last till the end of the day when I spritz again before bed. In terms of unkempt, like for real? If you have natural hair that is in the 4s, your hair will always have an element of the unknown – i.e. you do a style and in a couple of hours it’s morphed into something else by itself and that is BEAUTIFUL. Seeing as Blue’s hair is not rubbing on her clothes, it’s still protected in her TWA so like keep moving and stop perpetuating this idea that hair must be “done” and “neat” especially when it’s a CHILD!!
Yes, it’s true about 4s, but that’s because some people haven’t learned HOW to care for their hair. Once you tackle that, there is no problem. With all of the money they’re ‘supposed’ to have you would think there would be no problem in that area. Her hair doesn’t have to be rubbing on her clothes to be fully protected. Have you ever heard of lice, etc. The hair needs hair and special care.
Best if people do what makes them happy or suits them in their own lives and mind their own darn business as to how other people conduct things in theirs. Keep the judgement calls to themselves. If Beyonce chooses to let her child’s hair be what appears unkempt, ugly, disorganized, lazy etc etc to others, that’s her business. Black folks, especially black women, have hair issues and I guess that will never change. The way folks come down on Gabby Douglas and this little baby says everything that needs to be said. Lots of wash and go’s look very chaotic and arguably unkempt to some, how’s it different on this baby. Just live and let live.
I actually love the carters family and I think that what ever you are happy with , is fine too me because everybody knows damn well you can pay for whatever whenever so therefore…do you and keep getting them checks lol Blue told yall remind them niggasz!
Why do you all make the assumption that her hair is not ‘done’, because it lacks the braids, twists, or cornrows that we’ve been accustomed to seeing on children, because it doesn’t have the bows, beads, or other bells and whistles? Blue Ivy’s hair is ‘done’ in my opinion. Blue Ivy’s hair appears to be the equivalent of a natural’s wash and go or something similar. I wonder if we would make these same assumptions if Blue Ivy had type 1, 2 or maybe even 3 hair (which is seen mostly in our white/hispanic/other counterparts. We have to rid ourselves of this self-hate. We impose these silly standards on our own selves that we don’t ever impose on other races. And I’m by no means saying that we should impose different standards on ourselves compared to others, but COME ON…where is the love and acceptance for our own beauty? I thank my mother and father everyday for instilling in me that my black is beautiful, that my coils are just as beautiful (although I hate to say not as accepted). I can’t wait to have a beautiful black child with type 4 hair, a broad nose, thick lips and the like so that I too can teach her how to love herself!
Stop lying! Her own friend and working buddy confirms:
Kelly Rowland – “Beyoncé Is A Slob”
http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_uxaalzwk/
So all of you idiots defending her because (you’re really defending yourselves) FOH!
Mica210,
First off, you vaguely said stop lying! I’m lost…there is nothing to lie about. I’m stating my opinion on the matter.
Second off, how is defending Beyonce defending myself? I don’t have a daughter. As a matter of fact, if I did, I would probably let her wear a number of hairstyles, including rockin’ the “Blue Ivy style”, and even briads, cornrows, twists, bows…why not? To me all of these styles are “done”.
Yeah, sure you would.
Praise the Lord!! I’m soo thankful that she finally did something with Little Blue’s hair!! We didn’t want her to perm it, or put any heat or chemicals on it, we just wanted her to keep it neat!! Thank You sooo much!!!
I am too.
I can see both sides of this issue. I’ve always had thick, fairly long hair all my life, but I do hav a relaxer. My daughter’s hair is natural like Beyonce’s daughter’s hair, and it can be a chore to deal with. I tried just keeping it braided and in twists, but it eventually started breaking. Leaving the hair alone can be very damaging. I will not put a relaxer in her hair, but i hav started getting it pressed more often in a salon & surprisingly, it’s healthier & longer. I kno what Beyonce is doing–trying to just let the hair be so that it can do it’s own thing. The baby is absolutely gorgeous, her hair natural like that is cute to me, but as some of u ladies commented, it can b very damaging too. The baby is getting older so Beyonce will start doing different things with her hair, I’m certain. She’s still a beautiful child as is her mom, grandmother, aunt, and cousin.
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Honestly,
to me there was absolutely nothing wrong with that baby’s hair before. I actually think the topknot is pulling at that baby’s ends.
I liked the wild look all she needs is some hair accessories..cute lil bows and things and then everybody would be trying to do their child’s hair like Bey’s baby (and I am not a big Bey fan, but seriously, people really do focus on the oddest things)
I’m a little low key offended just by the title of this post.. that poor baby.
WOW. Troll alert. It’s very obvious the same person left all of those nasty, stupid comments! Mind your own damn business, how about that??? It shows how pathetic you truly are to be so concerned over trivial things such as a baby’s natural hair. GET A LIFE!
Some one must be highly insecure about their own natural black hair, leaving all these nasty comments harassing a 1 year old black baby’s natural hair. I will pray for them, I will pray that they will get the mental help they need so.
Are you a retard or just an habitual liar? Why can’t you get it through your head that you must change with the times or get left behind. If someone states their opinion and disagrees with yours, so what? It looks to me like you’re the insecure one because you seem to be the only one taking all of this personal. I think you have some skeletons in your own closet and every time you hear stuff like this, it reminds you of your own faults. You can talk all day long and look ignorant, but you’ll never change an intelligent person’s way of thinking. You think that you’re so smart, yet you speak like an idiot. Haven’t you been reading? People are not putting down the child. They are disgusted that the parents aren’t taking responsibility to care for the way that the child’s hair looks in public. Think what you want. Feel what you want to feel. But no one is going to buy your BS. I dare you to post a picture of yourself. That will tell us all a lot. You’re very insecure. I’m an African American woman who’s tired of society stereotyping us. And was trying to get others to wake up. All that you’re doing is the total opposite. Instead of taking notes, you want to call names, falsely accuse and be defensive. Wake up or shut up!
Lol what the hell are you even talking about. Im just irritated at trolls like you who give black or mixed women a hard time because they choose to wear their afro textured hair, instead of drenching their hair in this or that. Or in this case a baby wearimg her natural hair without a style in. No one normal really cares, only scum of the earth like you. Why dont you go help those starving babys in africa instead of whining about a babys hair not being kept how you want it. Why domt you wake up or shut up troll!
“her hair is EXACTLY the way God made her hair. ”
——-> Oh really? Say that the next time that you go out to dinner, work or in public. Don’t wear any makeup, jewelry, accessories and most importantly – don’t comb your hair. After all, that’s the way God made you. Embrace it. Just leave it the way God made it. …. No one’s talking about her hair structure. It’s about how it looks in public. This is not about, “a black child’s NATURAL hair.” It’s about how the child’s parents don’t fix the child hair when in public. Do you see them looking like that in public? Absolutely not because they care about how they look to others. Well they should have the same feelings about their offspring. It doesn’t matter how young or old. Caring is Caring. My daughter is the SAME age as that child and has the SAME texture. Her hair is very thick and curly (not nappy) and I simply take the time to take good care of her hair which makes it very EASY to take care of. When I take her out in public, I make sure that she looks presentable. After all, she is a reflection of myself and I care very much about myself…..my daughter included. Some of you folks are blind and only seeing the famous version of the parents, thus neglecting the fact that they are only HUMAN and must adhere to the same rules that apply to us all. The only difference is that they are given “comps” due to their statuses i.e. get to do more than those who are less fortunate. BUT they are NO MORE HUMAN than the rest of us. Stop making excuses for the same mistakes that you may be making. You don’t get a, “get out of jail free” card. Defending them won’t cover up your own faults. They really won’t. Fix the daughter’s hair already!!! If I can do it and many other parents, I have no sympathy or empathy for their egotistic values that do not include their own flesh and blood.
Im a mixed (half black half white) woman with curly hair both my girls are mixed with black all of our hair is differently curled but never in their life have I let them leave the house without at least some leave in conditioner and a head band or SOMETHING
Beyonce is such a style icon why doesn’t she ever comb her baby’s hair???? I love Bey but I’m confused as to why Blue’s hair always looks a hot mess. Thank goodness she finally did something with it.
Take a look at her videos. Does she show any respect for herself? Always half-naked doing suggestive poses. How could she possibly have any self-respect for anyone including her daughter? She seems to think that she can do whatever she wants and the public will simply accept it. Well guess what? Wrong. When I saw her vagina exposed in a video, I lost all respect for her. I can’t expect her to treat her own daughter any different. Apples don’t fall far from the tree. And JZ is a pimp. Their day will come. Just stay tuned.
I totally was thinking the same thing last night , she’s was never out it in a rubber band or pigtails n her hair is long! I wish I could’ve gotten my hands on her hair sooner, I’d at least put coconut oil on it to moisturize it. But now it looks more presentable.
I was wondering the same thing.
Hey Ashley! This about sums it up:
Kelly Rowland – “Beyoncé Is A Slob”
http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_uxaalzwk/
Hi Carol. You sound a lot me. The same thing happened with my hair as a little girl. My mother didn’t know how to take care of it either and when people would tell her that she needed to do something to it, she would only get mad. But guess who suffered??? Me! She always looked nice and her hair was NEVER out of place. But unfortunately karma hit her. She used to also wear a lot of wigs that suffocated her scalp and weaves that put too much stress on her hair and scalp (you know how tight they braid your hair?) and now she has alopecia, bald spots and her hair keeps falling out. But she’s still my mother, so I did some research and found out some things to help her. Actually I was looking for ways to make my hair healthier and to help it to grow and I stumbled upon some things for her. She always apologizes for not taking care of my hair when I was little, but I told her that we have to move on. Now she is taking care of her hair the way she should have taken care of mine and she’s seeing some improvement. My hair is also starting to get longer and healthier. So don’t feel too bad. There is help if you look hard enough.
I’m the oldest of 8 siblings. My mother used to leave my hair the same way Bey left her daughter’s hair. (She was very young and didn’t know how to take care of my hair) and she was more interested in other things besides taking care of my hair. Later, she learned how to take care of my other sisters’ hair and their hair is either long and thick or long and thin. I’m the only one with very kinky, short, slow growing hair. People used to call me beautiful also, but they couldn’t say that about my hair that’s for sure. I hate my hair now. I wish it would grow better, but I guess the damage is done.
She is a beautiful baby! LET HER BE ONE!!!
I am just happy to see that her hair is done and not looking dry and all over the place. If anyone has natural hair, you all should know how important it is to keep it maintained and moist; otherwise, it will break off.
Amen to that!!
You sound ignorant and deluded. Maybe you’re just a weave wearing troll? Troll either way. GTFO
@Keya, I agree with you all the way. I have natural hair and it’s very important to keep hair moisturized and in place no matter how old you are.
@Ruby, you must have nappy looking hair and don’t know how to take care of it or you have kids and don’t take care of theirs. Otherwise, why so defensive?
LOL. Sorry but you’re a retarded black women too, Alicia. I can’t comment in a rational manner to such rubbish!
I’m done. Taking my daughter to a birthday party tomorrow. I’ll definitely be fixing her hair (as always) to look presentable. Don’t want to offend anyone, and most importantly, I’m teaching my daughter etiquette at an early age. Her hair is half-way to her waist as I take very good proper care of it and IT SHOWS. I’m VERY proud of the way she looks and she’s very happy!
That’s nice 2 hear. I have twin girls & always take good care of their hair. If U don’t then U can’t expect it to grow healthy. Their hair is almost to their waist but they have a few inches to go. Ever since they were born I always kept their hair either brushed neatly or combed into a little style. When it’s very short you can only do so much with it, but you can still do something besides just let it sit on top of their head. If I just leave it alone & loose, the hair will collect a lot more dirt and impurities then if it was fixed. So I made sure to protect my babies hair & their hair is so healthy and shiny. People are always asking me what I do & I just tell them that I take good care of their hair. U will never see my babies walking around with their hair uncared for no matter how busy I am.
How could someone be offended by someone’s natural hair? That you even have this thought process shows what an insecure, racist individual you really are! Placing so much importance on appearance on such a young child is pitiful. Isn’t pride a deadly sin??? I can understand putting a bow your kids hair or dressing her up cute, but that’s nothing to take pride in??? I’m really confused by your demented thought process? Funny thing is, most black women I know think like this and have $1000 weaves and putting perms in their one year olds head. How about spending that much effort in money more important things such as education, then maybe the black community would be in a much better state then it is now in terms of education, crime statistics, etc?? You are the same type of person. You are one of those black women who hate natural kinky afro textured hair and fawn over those Caucasian type of curls. Very sad. You are insecure and in denial about the fact that your hair is naturally dry and kinky, and not those 3c curls! Oh, and my hair has been to my ass and back three times sense I was a child. Now I prefer to keep it shorter, thank you to give it some shape.
How could someone be offended by someone’s natural hair? You are one of those people who flip the hell out over an afro! That you even have this thought process shows what an insecure and racist person you really are. Putting so much importance on appearance on such a young child??? Pitiful. I can understand putting a bow in your kids hair or dressing in cute clothes, but taking pride in that??? Isn’t pride a deadly sin??? Funny thing is most black women I know put this much importance on appearance and are spending $1000 on hair weaves and perms in their one year olds head, you are the same type of person who has a permed mind set about natural hair. You are insecure and in denial about the fact that your hair is naturally dry and kinky, and think you have those Caucasian type 3a curls. You are pathetic. Concern over one’s appearance comes naturally and soon enough, no one has to force anything let people be themselves and comfortable. Oh, and for the record my hair has been to my ass 3 times and back sense I was a child thank you but I prefer to keep it short now to give it some shape. I can understand wanting long hair but black women take it to a whole other level as if it’s an unattainable necessity. How about putting this much importance on education, then maybe the black community wouldn’t be in the hell whole the majority of them are in.
Since you seem to be lacking in the common sense area, let me break it down for you to where hopefully you can understand. When I said that I didn’t want to offend anyone (not that I need to explain, but you’re hopeless) I meant just that. If someone came to my daughter’s party looking unkept, I’d be insulted and offended. “Do unto others…..” I am not one of those people who will spend a fortune on fake hair, because it’s not my preference. I would never put chemicals in my daughter’s hair either but I make sure that her hair looks nice most of the time while at home, but all of the time when we’re out. FYI I do not have naturally dry or kinky hair. Maybe because I’m biracial (Caucasian AND Black) and very proudly take after Both of my parents. I can guarantee you that I’m in no way insecure and I don’t have to “fawn” over Caucasian hair as you said, because I have a mixture of Caucasian and African American hair (2C to be exact). So it sounds like you’re telling us about yourself. Oh, and I highly doubt that your hair was to your ass 3x, but now you have it short to give it some shape (Bahahahahahaha!) That doesn’t even make any sense. What are you trying to say, that those of us with long hair don’t have any shape? I can tell you hate yourself. You wouldn’t be so sensitive about this issue and making mountains out of molehills if that were not true. I can hear the rage in your voice and it doesn’t surprise me at all. I let my husband read your comments (you posted them twice by the way)… and I will not repeat what he said.
Lol alicia you are stupid sorry. Get a life znd worry about more important thingss. I woild explain to you why but you are either a troll and al ready know better or you are deluded to th e point of no reason. You are a nut job and I will pray for you. You said you were mixed well you def take after your black side in your vehememcy towards this matter. White women I know are much more well rounded in their thinking so its the black in you.
@Rudy at first when I was reading your comment I was like oh that makes sense but then tou started talking aboit black people being stuipid and stuff now if you white or black or and race you need to slow your roll because your actually being the rasict BITCH here…..
I am very proud of Beyonce, Jay Z and the grooming of THEIR daughter’s hair..Most two year olds’ hair is broken off and damaged from chemical processing…but her hair is natural and carefree…the way a two-year old should be!! Love n live life….
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@Ruby-Now THIS is one of the ways a baby’s hair should look if natural!! See how it’s properly combed and styled?
Pretty pic
Stop showing your ignorance, Ruby. That’s what they all expect out of us. Your comments are uncalled for and your attacks against other commenters are, also. Pray your way out of this anger that you are holding. You will feel so much better.
What makes you think her hair is dry and not done? That child’s hair is in its natural state. It looks the same in the top knot! Now its just put in a rubber band. I have four daughters and my youngest wears her hair natural we wash it condition it comb through and it curls back up natural and beautiful! There is noting wrong with that!
because it looks dry and unkempt we have eyes we can see. Idk I get really upset when I see little black girls with dry unkempt hair. Nobody is saying to relax it or whatever. I love natural hair. But would it kill her parents to place a little moisturizer in her hair and at lease finger comb it even if they leave it open. for the sake of the child’s hair’s health at least i mean jeez
@Katherine Mae
Wow, is this the way your thought process works? Well if I were to think the way that you do, I would assume that all over weight people are just fat, greedy and lazy slobs. And I would always wonder, how in the hell could they leave their homes in such a state? No matter how successful they are, how much of a great person they may be or how well dressed and well groomed they are I will always be disturbed and disgusted by their appearance. I will judge, criticize and ridicule them solely based on their appearance of being over weight, without considering their situation or background. Is this how your mind works? Do you think this is how we should go about treating people?
Yes there maybe some people that are down right lazy but unless you know someone personally it is unfair to judge especially based on such shallow grounds. There is no need for the name calling, no need to judge, bash and ridicule others to get your point across.
Not that is matters but based on your comment I will tell you this, both me and my daughter have very healthy and long hair. I have hip length hair and my daughter has waist length hair. We have the same hair care approach that Beyonce and parents alike seem to have, which is simple, low manipulation hair care practices. We spend more time on caring for the health of our scalp and hair and less time fussing about super neat styles. The frizz and the curly kinky strands will never be masked with product and accessories to appease anyone because everything is done in moderation and based on practicality. This is a preference that we chose and thats fine. You like to appease others with the more super neat look and that’s alright too. Live and let live.
I find this article and the responses very funny b/c I have seen parents do exactly what you & Beyonce do in terms of child haircare(my sister included). These parents have been Black and other ethnicities w/ children with very curly hair. They clean and moisturize the hair, detangle it as necessary and let it grow freely. The hair looks healthy and the child looks happy…let it ride. I know with my nephew before her turned 2, if you said “comb” he’d become hysterical. Translation, low manipulation.
No the translation is, “discipline. Why do you think the kid hates to get their hair combed? Maybe the person combing it, is too hard on the hair. My Aunt used to comb my cousin’s hair and she would Hate it because my Aunt would pull it, snag it, braid it so tight it looked like she was pulling my cousin’s brains out (ouch!!!!!!) and I could tell that my cousin was in pain. My Aunt combed my hair and it hurt sooooo bad. Not because of the my texture, but because of how rough she was. Hair is fragile so you can’t treat it like a rug.
……..pictures pleez …. need proof then maybe somebody will listen.
Low manipulation doesn’t mean NO manipulation. You have to give your hair some attention. Not by simply washing it and letting it go. You must think about environmental factors and protecting the hair. When the hair is simply left alone without any manipulation, it welcomes dust, dirt and other impurities. Hair styles were not only meant for looks, they were also meant for the protection of hair. I’m a Trichologist and have studied hair for over three years.
I understand what you are saying but my daughter has many classmates that do this. They tend to be mainly boys. They wash their hair 1-2x a week leave in a conditioner/moisturizer detangle with fingers sometimes pick it out with a comb and go. They come to school with big kinky/curly fro’s and they have A LOT of hair! So despite the dust, bugs and lint that their hair attracts, they still seem to have a lot more hair than many women I’ve seen who pride themselves in their super neat, well done hair do’s. And the crazy thing is, they are boys! So you know they are always on the floor and wild. That says a lot.
You know what? After reading your posts I’ve come to the conclusion that you’re actually the troll: a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people. In my own defense, I have never personally given any one a “hard time” about how they wear their hair, nor do I give a shit. I have simply expressed my opinion and that opinion will remain. You don’t know me and you don’t have a clue if I have ever donated to worthy causes. You don’t dictate to me who I should donate to. That’s my prerogative. If you don’t agree with my values, so what? Who cares? And please – don’t try and throw mixed women into this. Where did that even come from? Answer: (see the definition to the word, “troll” above). And please, whatever you do, DO NOT PRAY FOR ME, it’s no telling what you’d ask for. For all we know, you may even be a part of this site and just throwing BS out there to get subscribers. And if not, I believe that you seriously need some counseling.
I agree with you on that. I noticed that you said, “They wash their hair 1-2x a week leave in a conditioner/moisturizer detangle with fingers sometimes pick it out with a comb and go.” This means that they don’t simply leave the house without fixing their hair. And there is some manipulation involved. That’s good.
So why is it not possibly the same thing with Blue’s hair. With kinky afro hair like Blue’s if you just add a moisturizer/conditioner and brush it back in a simple bun like seen in this photo, that method is not enough to stretch out the natural kinks and coils that are around the edges and nape area, and so it would appear that minimal or no efforts were made to style her hair but in actually there was. Do you see where I am going with this?
Some people prefer to hide, layer with product, comb out, stretch out or alter their edges that are frizzy and full of kinks/naps/coils whatever you like to call them, which is fine. And there are others that just simply let it be and that is fine too. But it does not mean that they are not caring for their hair.
The point I am trying to make is that as long as the hair and scalp are clean and healthy then the way it is styled should not be an issue. And since we do not know how Beyonce or other parents a like may be caring for their child’s hair then why assume the worst? Why assume that she does nothing to chid’s hair?
If I thoroughly wash, detangle, condition and style my daughters hair in medium sized box braids by day 3 it is very frizzy but despite that it is clean, well moisturized and extremely healthy. But to another person who is clueless about how I care for her hair may assume that I do not properly care for her hair based on her braids looking frizzy. Frizz is just the nature of afro textured hair and so most times I would prefer to leave her hair until it’s time to wash or re-moisturize but because I know there are so many judgmental people out there I sometimes re-braid the frizzy areas or add a little gel or pomade to slick down the edges and frizz only to appease these people. Because I would hate for anyone to make fun of my child and assume that she is “unkept” even though she has a head full of healthy waist length hair.
I just think that people should just live and let live if there is no harm done to anyone.
I agree with you on that. I noticed that you said, “They wash their hair 1-2x a week leave in a conditioner/moisturizer detangle with fingers sometimes pick it out with a comb and go.” This means that they don’t simply leave the house without fixing their hair. And there is some manipulation involved. That’s good.
Don’t believe you
What is “do something with the hair” besides keeping it clean?? Maybe some of you people who have “fried, died, sewed, glued, and laid to the side” your hair you would have healthier hair or any hair at all. Some of you have really allowed the European community to truly suck you in—it’s pitiful. We as a people have such a long way to go.
“Do something with the hair besides keeping it clean?” What are you? Is that all that you do to your hair? You just clean it and let it sit on your head? Really? Kid or not, hair is hair and it’s to be taken care of. A woman’s hair is her glory – kid or not. It doesn’t have to fried, dyed, sewed, glued, etc. but it does need to be taken care of – more than just keeping it clean. I would not like to see your kids hair if that’s all that you do. Geesh!
Blue is so cute.The hair thing is so not important.
Black people and their perfect hair issues. babies won’t have perfect hair! let them be babies.
that top knot is cute though 🙂
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You sound dumb all black peôple are not the same. Everybody should care about their appearance
HOW dumb can you people be. This childs hair is never unkept believe that…she has tight coils that are NATURALLY DRY….They are letting it grow out right and not yanking it or loading it with product so that she will have edges and hair when she getting older. Thats why black people kids dont be having hair now they try to do waaaaaaaay to much. Let the kids be kids…their hair will grow and be healthy if you just wash it moisturize itand leave it the hell alone
lol, ‘naturally dry’, now that is a new one. There is nothing healthy about hair that is dry. Dry hair equals damage hair that will fall out, believe that.
Actually natural, healthy afro hair is “NATURALLY DRY”. Where is limp white people’s hair is “NATURALLY OILY”. Do you get it, or do I need to explain it more in depth for your shallow mind?
Actually that is so untrue. I am Caucasian and my hair isn’t naturally oily at all. My hair gets very dry if I don’t drink enough water or use moisturizers properly. I think it has a lot to do with the diets. Folks of all races have all types of hair, so please don’t stereotype. You sound young, immature and needs some schooling.
I think you are just upset because your own hair is “naturally dry.” And seeing this type of hair digs into your own backyard and stews up some bad thoughts about yourself. So you are taking the negative comments personally. If you don’t like what you read, then go read something else. You’re not going to change anyone’s views.
I almost died of cuteness overload…I’m loving the bun on her cute little head!
Who really gives a damn..people should stay out of that childs business
It happens to be a hair site and I don’t think people are talking about the child’s hair as much as they are talking about hair care in general. The child’s hair just happens to be a target. IMO.
It’s a hair site the post is about hair I really think everybody who is getting riled up ought to calm down. It’s sad that Beyoncé was told what to do about HER child’s hair but nevertheless when BGLH post about an everyday person no one complains why can’t she post about a celebrities child about a relevant topic which is natural hair??? Black girl long HAIR! If she likes she can post about clogged drains if it’s clogged with natural hair then it’s RELEVANT #hugsandkisses #cantwealljustgetalong #keepcalm
How do you know what Beyoncé was told? Were you there? Maybe she finally woke up. Or maybe she decided to take some time and changes things up. We don’t know.
I think that posting about Beyonce’s daughter’s hair over and over is so pointless. Why are we discussing her daughter’s hair? Of all the issues this world has going on especially within the black community why is the subject even important? The black community should focus on relevant matters and stop focusing upon the most unimportant issues as to how another black chooses to wear their hair. This is the main reason black women go to the gym and that is to help their freaking hair grow not for their overall health. Blacks have such a long way to go! So Sad!
Why Comment if you’re so tired. Ignore it and move to the next news clip. People have a right to their opinion whatever it might be. Get over it and move on.
That’s right. Everyone has a right to their own opinion. If you don’t like it, then disagree and move on hehe.
Uh in case you haven’t noticed….this is a hair site. I go to the gym when I get a chance to and it has nothing to do with hair growth. Maybe some people might, but I don’t. I never even thought about it.
If you don’t find this topic interesting, then why are you on this site and commenting?
Aww she is so adorable in that fur jacket
Adorable! and she is so cute and well dressed, i love seeing her pictures but i also love her hair no matter what hairstyle she is currently wearing, be it a fro, bun etc. Thanks BGLH for posting this. There are a lot of people who, for some strange reason, don’t like seeing her and her hair but I’m not one of them.
All right. I’m just going to post this then I’m not clicking on Blue Ivy articles anymore! I’m tired of you posting so much about a baby’s hair. This is a great site that I visit whenever I’m just chilling with the computer, but the Blue Ivy articles are cheap click bait because they aren’t even about how to take care of curly kids, just baiting people to argue over whether her hair looks “done”. If this is what the site is devolving into I can get my info elsewhere.
Beyoncé’s hair as a child didn’t look coily or puffy at all. In fact, it’s looks very fine, silky and thick. So it was really presentable to wear it out. So there’s really no comparison as there’s a big difference in the way her child’s hair looked. Everybody can’t wear their hair the same way and expect it to look just as good as someone else’s. Obviously someone thought they should do “something with it” or they would have left it alone (media or not). If they did it for the media, then what kind of parents are they? Maybe they were too caught up in their careers to notice the appearance of the child’s hair. Glad they finally woke up. That child can’t wear her hair the way Beyoncé used to because the texture is much different and didn’t look appealing I’m just saying.
SMH. For months after this baby was born, her parents did not allow their baby to be publicly photographed. The public complained and complained “WE WANNA SEE THE BABY…..WE WANNA SEE THE BABY”. o.K. B&J succumbed to the requests of the public and allowed their baby girl to be photographed. Well, What happens. Criticism to the nine. “HOW COME SHE’S THIS…..WHY ISN’T SHE THAT? Blue is perfectly healthy, beautiful, playful, loved, famous and rich. But unhappy people will always have something negative to say about everything positive. sad sad adult grown folks picking on a innocent baby. pathetic.
*begins slow clap for this comment*
I’m waiting for lil North West to start getting the attention…her parents LOVE the media
Yeah but I can guarantee that North West’s hair will not be unkempt or looking wild.
IKR! Why is it that B is always fashion conscious (especially about her hair), yet she let her own baby walk around looking like a child whose mother doesn’t know how to care for her hair. Yes she’s just a baby, but that doesn’t mean that she should look like an uncared for child. I bet B’s hair didn’t look like that when she was growing up. If you have any evidence of that not being so, post the pic here. Thanks!
Candy23 (aka Debby) you must either be illiterate or a troll. Pathetic! Get a life! Innocent people are reading these blog go damage your hair instead and get alopecia from your weaves.
Who the heck is aka Debby? Innocent? We’re all born in sin so who’s innocent? I am a Caucasian and I am proud of it!!!!! My hair is to my ass and I would never subject myself to wearing fake hair (or weaves as you call it). I am proud of what I am. Can you say the same thing. Oh, and BTW – karma!
Oh, you’re white. Your batshit ignorant comment makes more sense now! That’s how a black child’s hair is supposed to look if it hasn’t had the life pulled out of it. I guess a mother who rips through a screaming toddlers head causing tears and headachs just so she can look “cute” or whatever rather then let her be herself is so much more caring. (sarcasm) Not that I don’t think Blue and her hair aren’t cute. Now you may be confused, but that’s because most black women are too busy caring about appearance and usually don’t let their children wear their natural texture, that’s why it doesn’t look groomed to you.
I’m Caucasian also and my hair is just below my waist and still growing fast. I never cut my ends because it only makes it shorter. I never wore wigs or weaves or anything like that because I was told that wigs suffocate your scalp & it can’t get the oxygen it needs. I would never wear a weave because it puts too much strain on the hair & scalp and causes alopecia areata (balding). None of my friends or family wear fake hair. Also, because that hair belonged to someone else Ugggghhhh! People who were either dead or alive. That’s disgusting. My mother is a hairdresser and she said that weaves and wigs are a major market and the distributors don’t care at all about the people who buy them, just want their money. 4 girls in my neighborhood broke into a weave store and stole thousands of dollars worth. They were all caught and went to jail. Now that’s really desperate. Why don’t they just practice good health and hair care like the rest of us?
@ Melanie, I’m both African American and White. My hair is about 2″ above my waist. I agree with you about not cutting your hair. I have the worst split ends but my hair just keeps growing right along. Uneven but it’s growing lol. When it grows just past my desired length I’m going to cut it even – not before. My mom’s also a beautician and she said that trimming and cutting ends are a big money-making business so I know what you’re saying is a fact. But I do understand why some ladies wear weaves and wigs. I just wish that they would be more health conscious and take much better care of their hair and it will definitely grow healthier and much longer. Also patience is a key.
Melanie’s & Casey’s comments do not apply to this thread at all…they are like a non sequitur rants. I get the whole not wearing weaves thing but this was about people having a problem with a child wearing her hair poofy all the time…there are many weave threads on this site.
Also for Candy…BLH has a pic of Beyonce as a baby. Her hair wasn’t as coily as Blue’s but it’s not a tightly pulled back either.
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There was nothing wrong with the public wanting to see the child. It’s that way for most new parents. Just how do you know why they decided to allow their child to be seen? It was inevitable unless the child was invisible. And with the paparazzi, it was bound to happen. How do you know that the child is perfectly healthy? Are you her doctor or better yet, her parents? We all have a right to our opinion, just as you do. Being a child of celebrities doesn’t make things any different as far as appearance goes. A spade is a spade. Since this is a hair site and child’s hair was publicly displayed, there are most likely to be comments both positive and negative. We all have different opinions. Don’t be so defensive as this is a learning tool. You get to see how others think and decide whether or not to post your opinion. And you can either accept it or reject it and move on.
Good Grief!!! We all know that child is well taken care of. Can we report on some real issues like, homelessness, joblessness, the price of gas and milk. Her hair is natural and that’s the was it grows out of her head. Unkempt or not Blue Ivy is doing better than me and I comb my hair everyday.
“We all know that child is well taken care of. Can we report on some real issues like, homelessness, joblessness, the price of gas and milk.”
—> You cannot be serious right now??? The name of the website is BLACKGIRLLONGHAIR. Furthermore the site has ALWAYS uplifted this child and her hair and defended her hair styles so what are you complaining about???? People on the Internet love to make issues out of issues for no reason. Relax.
You must be one of the site mediators posing as a regular commentator.
I know right!
“We all know that child is well taken care of.”
I don’t know that. How do you? It surely didn’t look like it for a long, long time.
I actually LIKE the fact she wasn’t doing her hair. Apparently when I was a baby, if anyone even looooked at my hair I would scream in pain! Lol
You think with all the money and stylists she has, she didn’t know what she was doing??
Also if the child had much looser textured hair… NOBODY would’ve said it was unkempt or uncombed
*sigh* I thought the natural hair community had made more progress than this…
“I actually LIKE the fact she wasn’t doing her hair.”
Yeah I bet you did.
“You think with all the money and stylists she has, she didn’t know what she was doing??”
Yes, but she was only doing for herself and not her kid.
“Also if the child had much looser textured hair… NOBODY would’ve said it was unkempt or uncombed”
You’re right. Because it would have looked more presentable. You can’t simply do something because someone else can. You have to make sure it’s right for you.
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*sigh* I thought the natural hair community had made more progress than this…”
I did too, but after seeing that child’s hair, I don’t think so.
@Nickie
A commenter wrote: “Also if the child had much looser textured hair… NOBODY would’ve said it was unkempt or uncombed”
You stated: “You’re right. Because it would have looked more presentable. You can’t simply do something because someone else can. You have to make sure it’s right for you.”
Afro hair types that are incredibly curly/frizzy/kinky/coily especially around the edges and nape area may sometimes need more than just a brush, comb, moisturizer, oil or conditioner to make them look sleek. The hair can be well moisturized and de-tangled but the nature of our hair is to coil up on itself as well as give off the appearance that it is dry even though it may be moisturized. Not everyone is concerned about keeping every hair in place with super neat edges. So with that being said how does any of us actually know whether or not her hair is dry or unkept?
Now according to your response comment, why is it ok for someone with a loose texture to have the same hair care approach but it looks more presentable when they do it vs someone with hair like Blue’s. If both hair types had moisturizers, fingers, or brushes and combs used to achieve this style then why would the looser haired texture look more presentable?
You can have your preferences and that’s alright. But keep in mind that there may be some people who are not interested in masking, stretching, hiding, and layering the edges with product to hide those natural kinks/frizz/coils/naps. You can have the cutest style but just because the edges are left to be, it isn’t presentable? At the end of the day, if the hair and scalp are both healthy shouldn’t that be the only thing that matters? It would really help if we all accept each others preferences without criticizing and judging if no harm in choosing such preferences are done.
Also, I wouldn’t compare Beyonce hair care approach to Blue’s. Beyonce is a performer and she has to on stage all day everyday. So I’m guessing she does not want the same for Blue. I think it’s all about perspective.
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The owner of this site is crossing the line now with all these posts about this little baby’s hair. She’s a baby let her be, if you want to constantly dissect someone’s hair let it be an adult who can defend themselves if need be not an innocent child. Anything for “clicks and views” right Leila? SMH
Whatever do you understand how the internet and marketing and advertising works? Clearly not. I’d rather my clicks and likes go to this page rather than some gossip site. Articles like this generate enough clicks so that the other meaningful articles that don’t have the immediate shock value can be put up here. Please step back and remember that this site is free so if there are a few articles that are clearly click baits so what? Somebody has to pay the rent.
Sorry to tell you but this is gossip
Idk if you actually read the article but the author wrote “We have always felt Blue Ivy’s little fros were coily and cute! Well, all the complainers can quiet down because Beyonce has ‘done something’ with her baby’s hair.”
Exactly! I’m really perplexed at the angry responses to this article – ON A BLACK HAIR WEBSITE AT THAT. There’s nothing wrong with positively reporting on a child’s hair and calling it cute. D*mn.
I think they’re really going after Beyoncé for not keeping up her child’s hair. They have no other choice but to mention the baby since her hair is point of topic. They really shouldn’t say nasty things about the baby personally. But speaking about the child’s mother who would allow her child to be seen in public the way she had been doing does make people wonder.
why does this site post stuff on this baby?
i’m struggling to find why this post is important.
Everything these days is about appearance and looks.
We all have different textures.
As long as the baby has love and attention and her tummy is full why subject her to having her hair pulled and twisted or braided…she needs to be free and feel comfy, loving herself as she is without any type of manipulation. It’s sending the wrong message in terms of the image she is expected to exemplify as a child being B’s daughter. B is letting her little girl be a little girl and it’s awesome that she isn’t subjecting her to the perfection she is expected to exemplify on a daily basis anytime a camera is around.
We have lost ourselves in texture and neatness when all that matters is after all the comments are said and done u just still love who u see in the mirror.
Let’s get back to just love people. Be nice and know it’s all about the love.
Can Blackgirllonghair please stop blogging about a child’s hair? Stop the madness!!!! is it a bait article only for clicks??
I find it very disturbing that a little girl’s looks/hair is discussed like she was a grown woman.
Duh, this website is about hair. It doesn’t matter the age. It’s called freedom of speech.
That’s not what freedom of speech is. Freedom if speech is freedom to criticize the government. It is not freedom of grown ass woman to harrass a baby about her hair.
Freedom of Speech :the right to express any opinions without censorship or restraint.
Freedom of speech is freedom of speech everybody has a right to their own opinion although you might not like it. It is what it is
shit if I was Beyonce I would leave blues hair in its coily kinky perfect fro. I really dont think Beyonce was thinking about the press when she put blues hair in a top knot. Beyonce does care what blogsites say about Blue and the rest of her family . It pisses me off when other websites and bloggers feel the need to state an opinion. I love Beyonce and her entire family. Im just soo proud of beyonce for never acknowledging the bullshit other blogs say about her and her family. AND Thank You BGLH for acknowledging the beauty of Blues natural hair.
I think Blue’s hair looks unkempt most of time. I don’t think much has to be done to it. I think a water bottle, some oil and just B’s fingers can keep it groomed at the length it is.:)
I really think is so sad that so many people are talking about this little girl and what her mother does or doesn’t do to her hair. If you want to talk about the mama or the father fine or if you were in your kitchen with a few friends maybe but not for the whole world to see. I think its sad to talk about a baby she is so cute and she is always dressed so nice and clean what more do you want. Oh and you never see her with a nanny she is always with her parents.
I’ve seen pics and she was dressed like a little boy and her hair was still like that so if you gone tell it then tell the truth.
Free or in a bun, her hair is appropriate for an active toddler of ANY ethnicity.
Blue’s bun is so cute! As I said on another post regarding her hair, she’s a tot, let her be. Babies and little kids don’t keep their hair impeccable through the course of a day, unless it is tightly styled. Most moms lament that their baby’s hair is a mess at some point in any given day. They learn to keep their hands out of it and not to rub their hair on surfaces when they get older and make the connection between tangles and leaving it alone. I remember even as an elementary-age girl, most of us looked a little ‘off’ by the time we went home-ponytails askew, hair sticking up everywhere, frizzy-the black kids and the white kids. It’s called being a kid. we would get caught in the moment, on the playground, in gym, in art class (glue and glitter in our hair). Blue will learn as she gets older that she likes her hair to look a certain way and will understand how to avoid messing it up; she will likely ask her parents for a trip to the stylist before either of them thinks to take her to one. But for now, she’s just a kid. For all we know her mom or dad fixes her hair faithfully every morning and that’s how it looks by the time they get out the door. Not necessary or healthy to brush and primp over the baby’s hair every time a strand goes astray.
She is so cute.
You would say that. Just look at your mop!
While beyonce always has to look paparazzi ready a toddler should not. So if it means sometimes her hair isn’t combed in pictures snapped as the go about their day today lives oh well it should not have to be. And even if it’s never combed she is a baby so who cares. I kinda feel sad she put it in a bun because I wonder if all the people with opinions pressured it. Because no matter how rich you ate no mother wants to see their baby constantly being talked about. I’m not a beyonce fan but dang people act like blues hair was looking un kept in a family potrait or something.
Some people here need help. They think they know everything about that little girl’s hair just because they see her on paparazzis shot. What is wrong with some of you?
Also what is wrong with this website? Yes, she’s cute but cut the obsessive sh*t with Blue Ivy already! I honestly don’t give a damn about her hair. Is there really anyboby here that give a damn about the litlle girl’s hair?
That right!!!She a baby
Blue is totes adorbz. When my daughter a lot younger, I never did anything to her hair either. Now she’s 5 and her hair, when stretched, is a little past her toosh.
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@ Jasmine Yeah, sure – you did nothing. Uh huh. Any swamp land to sell?
Too cute. I think it’s cool that Beyonce gives Blue’s hair the freedom to do what it wants. I also don’t think she’s neglecting to care for it as it seems Blue’s hair is growing in quite nicely.
I love this little bun, its adorable. I think its healthier at her age to let her hair “be” because ive seen some crazy tightly-painfully-braids with extension on toodlers in france and nobody say sh@t.
I don’t think any baby should have weave in their hair. Their hair will grow when ever it grows. I think its crazy for little kids to have weave in their head.
We don’t see beyonce 24/7, we only see the photos the paparazzi is allowed to take of her and her daughter, so it’s foolish to say whether or not blue’s hair is taken care of or not. How in the world could anyone possibly know what goes on when they are not in the public eye? The only photos I’ve seen is when they seem to be in a hurry, shuffling between flights in the airport, on the move to the next location. So it makes sense that in these situations, the child’s hair may not be up to some people’s “high standards” of how a toddler’s hair should look. I think she always looks fine, clean, happy. It looks like both her parents spend a lot of time with her and have a good relationship with her. That is what is most important. The rest is just superficial.
There have been PLENTY of photos of Blue on the web, and in every single picture, he hair is undone, and not moisturized. This isn’t a one time thing, where her hair is normally moisturized and styled, this is an ongoing situation and it speaks to Beyonce’s laziness or inability to deal w/ Blue’s texture. I honestly do not believe that if this had been any other woman, that folks would not be this defensive.
On almost every natural hair blog, you see women spending hours – even an entire day – to detangle, moisturize, and style their hair. We have women that obsessed product junkies and love experimenting w/ their hair – but when it comes to Blue and Beyonce’s inability to keep her did- people defend it like it’s their livelihood. I’m sorry but there is no excuse. None.
I understand your point. My point is that we have no idea what goes on in their private, personal lives, the part we don’t see in photos, so we don’t actually know what beyonce does to her daughter’s hair. Also it is very hard to see from a picture whether someone’s hair is moisturized or not. Just because the hair is not shiny does not mean it is not soft to the touch and well moisturized.
I am not a beyonce fan, so that has nothing to do with my earlier comment. I would say the same about anyone that I feel is being unfairly judged based on a few photographs.
I have a young daughter and it is very hard to keep her hair in place. If she’s been playing or laying back on the car seat or taking a nap, her hair looks very different from the way it looked when I fixed it. Her ponytails slip off and sometimes I just take them off because there’s no point in keeping them on cuz they are not helping. This is normal with young children. They don’t care what their hair looks like and just wanna have fun.
@Bhamanon’s comment: “They don’t care what their hair looks like and just wanna have fun.”
That’s the whole point. We don’t expect the child to care, but the mother should!!!!
I’m indifferent to Beyonce, it has nothing to do with her social status I like to play “the opposing advocate” at times only bc I believe in fairness and I do not believe in stating one’s opinion as if it were fact. Now if you “feel, think, believe” this way you are free to do so as I also believe in everyone has their own judgements and opinions as they have that right. You just sound like you are condemning another individual whom has the same free will as you to live how they please.
In defense of Beyonce’s styling skills as a mother, anywhere you go you see little caucasian babies with unkempt curls and knots and going all over the place, it obviously isn’t combed and peopole think the child is cute anyways, you don’t hear criticisms as much and its just how kids are. It’s ok because they are toddlers and they are rough, they are being kids. Constant upkeep of their hair is pointless because they are going to get dirty and mess it up again.
Why is it such a requirement, with black women, to have perfectly coiffed hair, even as a child? Are you afraid of what others think of you because of your child’s hair being all over the place. Black little girls are constantly criticized by grown women of how nappy their hair looks. DUH! THEY’RE CHILDREN! Not fashion models.
If anything, if you look at one side of it, ok, maybe Beyonce doesn’t comb her hair(so what?), then on the other hand, maybe she is just letting it be because she is a child and constantly combing her hair is too fussy and it’s telling her child that she has to look perfect all the time. In the pics I see, the child looks clean, she is obviously well taken care of but people choose to overlook that and go straight to the hair.
It’s stupid, imo.
I’m tired of hearing the argument that non-Black people or non-celebrities get a pass on this issue. It’s just not true. If I see an unkempt white/black/asian/purple child and a perfectly coifed mom, I think “Well what is going on there??”…
…and then I carry on with my day. I could care less about if it’s the Carters or the purple family two houses down, I can still have an opinion.
If I see an unkempt white/black/asian/purple child and a perfectly coifed mom, I think “Well what is going on there??”…
So true!
“anywhere you go you see little caucasian babies with unkempt curls and knots and going all over the place,..”
Yeah, but guess what? You can still run your fingers through it. You can pat it, and it goes right back into place.
“Why is it such a requirement, with black women, to have perfectly coiffed hair,..”
It’s not a requirement. It’s pride and dignity.
“Are you afraid of what others think of you because of your child’s hair..”
Damn right I am. My pastor had a talk with me one time. I used to think just like you. He asked me to show the house of god (and others) some respect and comb my child’s hair. Being out in public is NO Different.
“DUH! THEY’RE CHILDREN! Not fashion models.”
I’m confused. So what you’re saying is that unless a child is a fashion model, they can look like shit and expect no one to say anything about it? That sounds very ignorant.
“If anything, if you look at one side of it, ok, maybe Beyonce doesn’t comb her hair(so what?),…”
STFU, just STFU.
” then on the other hand, maybe she is just letting it be because she is a child and constantly combing her hair is too fussy and it’s telling her child that she has to look perfect all the time.”
Do ya think Beyoncé might take hours getting ready for her shows? Why? Because of how she wants to look in public. And she cares VERY MUCH about how people look at HERSELF! What are you saying? She can’t take the extra time to insure that her ‘daughter’ looks presentable? You deplore me.
You sound lazy just looking for excuses. Maybe you enjoy seeing others look bad, to hide from your own ugligness.
How do you know her hair isn’t moisturized? Our hair is naturally dry and can even appear to be dry when its really not. Did you reach into your computer and run your fingers through Blue’s hair? Lol.
I have a feeling this website is being taking over by immature morons with no home training at all.
And so what? Let them do them. You do you. When I don’t wanna comb my hair its really none of anyone’s business.
When you go into the public you make it everyone’s business.
I am indifferent towards Beyonce, so it has nothing to do with who Blue’s mother is. That is not the point!! I will defend any parent who chooses to care for their child’s hair in this fashion. As long as the hair is clean and healthy that is all that matters.
I don’t care what Beyonce will or will not do to her own hair. She is in a totally different space from her child.
Due to the nature of kinky/afro textured hair some hair types need more time and effort in grooming than others to achieve a sleek and neat look. It just takes too much time, manipulation and tension on the strands to achieve it which I feel is unnecessary on a child’s scalp! Why can’t we just view it as an effortless look vs unkept?
Our straight haired or looser textured haired counterparts can get away with the effortless look anytime but the kinky hair folks can’t? Why? Because you are conditioned to see and believe that hair out of place, the frizz, unpicked fro and kinks are unkept, unappealing? Then that’s your problem.
It’s ok to express your differences in preferences. Nothing is wrong with the fact that you dislike the way Blue’s hair is styled. It’s how you go about doing it. Don’t bash others who do not share your preference. Don’t assume, judge, criticize and condemn other people who do not think in this manner.
I agree with you gypsylife…the childs hair looked dry when it should have at least had some “grease and water” on it- I’m just kidding some water and olive oil. Our parents would have “neva” let us out the house like that. I’m a huge fan of B but she needed to get checked about the baby’s hair. Especially since she has so many assistants and her own stylist. When you have a baby girl, hair is a priority- such a priority that Jay should know how to care for it as well. I agree with your opinion- stay strong! 🙂
Just because some of our parents and or grandparents made sure that our hair was thoroughly and painfully combed out and styled neatly does not make it better or worse, its just what they felt was acceptable, it’s what they liked! Just simply a preference.
If the mothers of today choose the simple, low manipulation, carefree bohemian type of look then let them be. Let people have their preferences as long as the scalp and hair are clean and healthy.
Beyonce and anyone else who chooses to care for their child’s hair in this way does not need to be checked. The only people that need to be checked are people like yourself who feel the need to tell someone how they should care for their child’s hair.
Who honestly cares what someone else does to their child’s hair? I think you people are nuts and stupid to the extreme, what kind of low-life even bothers to make that sort of comment. Blue’s not being neglected, her hair is not matted. Get professional help, so innocent people don’t have to hear your demented nonsense.
how can you say her hair is not moisturized? if my hair were moisturized it wouldn’t look much different from how it does when it isn’t. i’m pretty sure blue ivy’s hair is similar, that you can’t tell just from looking at it, especially when considering that afro hair has a tendency to quickly dry out when worn loose. i know my hair is definitely like that. i think blue ivy’s hair is beautiful, looks great, and is very well cared for. at least SHE has edges, unlike the majority of these black girls i see running around here with “done hair” and edges nowhere to be seen.
i don’t know what you expect her hair to look like, but i’m glad beyonce is letting it do its own thing because blue is just a child. children roll tumble and play, and their hair is not always going to look “neat”. it’s going to be fuzzy, because that’s what happens children are allowed to be children.
In all the pics on the internet none of them is playing in. B supposed to be a diva what happened to her diva in training. It’s not cool to look good and your kids don’t. Hell I was taught to do for your kids before yourself.
Why chalk it up to laziness? I highly doubt that is the case, Beyoncé loves and cares for that child I’m sure like any mother. Maybe Beyoncé didn’t know what to do with that hair type, as ding ding many black women don’t??? I’m sure Blue’s hair is as groomed as any white child’s, the only reason you have a problem with it is because she is black. gypsy life, you are a typical “black women” and that’s not a good thing.
Last time I checked you don’t know every black woman cuz I def don’t know you. Stop trying to put all black women in a box and educate yourself. Caring about your appearance is not a black woman thang it should be a everyone thang.
@ Rudy -Unless you are actually Beyoncé, you don’t know what the F you are talking about. “Beyoncé loves and cares for that child I’m sure like any mother.” How the heck do you know? stfu. You keep throwing, “white” children in this conversation. Why? No one’s comparing. All they’re saying is Have Your Daughter’s Hair Look Presentable When In Public. I personally don’t want to see a, “Diva” who’s child looks like a, “Scag.” Look at all of the ads for AA kids hair. Do you see any whose hair looks unkept? Absolutely not! You know why? Because it Won’t Sell!! Being a celebrity means dealing with the PUBLIC and that includes your kids. Aside from that, if you care enough about your kid(s) you won’t have them walking around looking bad – to anyone’s standards. The next time that you see Beyoncé (out in public) and her hair (real hair that is) looks like her daughter’s Then And ONLY Then can you say that she truly feels it’s ok for her daughter hair to look unkept because she would be doing the same thing – if nothing more than to prove a point!!! I can guarantee you that you’ll NEVER EVER see that. Why, because she cares Way Too Much About Her Own Appearance!!! Just as she can lift her up and carry her to a vehicle, she can take a few minutes and comb her child’s hair. Or better yet, have someone else do it! There is no excuse for selfishness (overly concerned with one’s own desires, needs, or interests). This blog has gone beyond the innocent child’s appearance and should focus on your ignorance. You need a wake up call. I can only imagine what your hair must look like. If it looks presentable, then you are obviously selfish and don’t want others to excel or if it doesn’t look presentable, then it’s obvious why you defend such actions. Case in Point: this is only / primarily about a child’s appearance while in public. I don’t care what hair products are used, whether or not the hair is moisturized, etc. IT’S ONLY ONLY ONLY ABOUT PUBLIC APPEARANCE. After all, the parents are both in the public’s eye and they should be ashamed of themselves for allowing their child to be in public causing people to question their priorities. We are not to judge anyone. But we do have the right to an opinion. If someone is in the public’s eye, they must adhere to the rules!!
Bhamanon you do have a point but, if the child’s hair was properly taken care of, it wouldn’t look so bad. It might be a little messed up but geez how bad could a 2yo hair get? It simply looks like it hadn’t been combed or even brushed and just left as it was. Age doesn’t matter. And when you’re in the entertainment business, please note that “appearances are everything.” (including your kids).
As we all know, natural hair requires maintenance. If we, as women, just walked around with our fros unpicked, not moisturized, not detangled, etc., it would look like Blue’s- unkempt and not moisturized. Blue is a child, and I understand that children don’t like getting their hair done, but, what people are saying is, you can style her hair, you can put water/oil in it. I’m sorry but there is no excuse for this laziness. Beyonce has the money and the means to make sure Blue’s hair is properly taken care of. There are too many styles and our hair is too versatile to have it ungroomed. I’m sure Beyonce doesn’t just roll out of bed w/ her hair undone, so why subject your child to the same treatment?
When you refer to beyonce keeping her hair done you do know she is keeping her extentions done right? So that has nothing to do with how she maintains her daughter’s hair as Blue doesn’t need the same maintenance as her mother as Blue doesn’t have extentions nor does she work. And on that note as much as you assume beyonce gets her hair done, is her natural healthy? I think Beyonce takes better care of Blue’s hair as she should. I’m tired of people claiming “so and so” has too much money to “look like this, dress like that, have their child looking like such and such” are you implying that one should spend their earnings on looking nice rather than taking care of priorities?? That’s why people stay in a low social economic status and that’s why those who are truly rich stay wealthy, because they don’t spend a great deal of their own money on materials they are only selling brands to households. They invest their money in their business or line of work which keeps the money coming if you manage it correctly.
@TheGypsyLife:
“If we, as women, just walked around with our fros unpicked, not moisturized, not detangled, etc., it would look like Blue’s- unkempt and not moisturized.”
How do you know that Blue’s hair is not groomed? Why do you assume this? What if she does detangle, but instead of a comb she uses her fingers? What makes you think her hair isn’t moisturized? Because her edges aren’t perfected slicked down with product?
You should know that with afro textured hair, as long as there is no setting with a gel, braids, twist, pomade, curly creme or scarf being used this means that our hair, especially a child’s hair will never stay neat without some type of aid!
My youngest sibling has the most frizziest hair that seems to attract lint in abundance. I comb, and moisturize it, sometimes put on a scarf and she still comes home from school as if her hair was never combed! Even with braids! Less than an hour later her hair has flyaways and frizz. This is just the nature of afro/kinky/textured hair so why fight it?
If someone with a looser texture, or straight hair were to care for their hair in the same simple manner that Beyonce cares for Blue’s hair, no one will complain because the hair wouldn’t be as frizzy, knotted or kinky looking due to the nature of their hair! So why should we kinky haired folks have to do more just so that it mimics the nature of someone with a looser texture? Why??!! Our hair is not like the other.
Shouldn’t the main concern be that the hair and scalp are both clean and healthy. Why should anything else really matter?
I really don’t understand your comment. It’s like we have to do more to appease people such as yourself. Just so that it doesn’t come off as if there is no grooming done to the hair. We have to add a truck load of product, tons of accessories and wear tension headache inducing styles just so that it stays neat for longer and appears healthy and well groomed? Not every afro type hair can stay neat and kink free by just adding oil and water! Not every hair type has sheen! Not everyone cares for ripping through their strands with a brush or comb to achieve the neat look. Just respect the fact there is no one size fit all hair care practice. Let people be! Less is always more.
I agree with you gypsy life…Blue Ivy’s hair is not combed with fingers or anything else. Nobody is saying take the child to the hair dresser or put braids in her hair…you guys are just being faceious with those comments but come one do something with it. And as for all you “naturals”…you are grown women but before you got there, your mother’s/grandmothers/aunts made sure your hair was combed and had clean clothes on. Sorry and some of you can deny it but all children were not born with good manageable hair and all children are not cute and in those cases they look a lot better with their hair combed-Blu Ivy looks like her father (need I say more?). My grand daughter hair looks like steel wool and she needs her hair combed everyday. All us “critics” are saying is, that if you take your child out of the house; comb her damn hair!
Her hair is styled and groomed the way Beyonce wants to style and groom it, not the way you think it should be. Accept the fact that there is no one size fits all for afro hair care practices and let people be. Her hair is very appropriate for an active toddlers age so why fuss? If it’s clean and healthy then let it be. You don’t have to like it but don’t tell someone else what they should do with their child’s hair. The issue isn’t about preference, its about people such as yourself that feel the need to go out of their way to tell someone else how they should deal with their child’s hair. You criticize and assume then have the nerve to tell them what they should do?
You just communicate the problem…based on what I saw of Blue Ivy’s past pictures, her hair was combed…AFRO PUFF. Not sure what ‘look’ she should have at her tender age of …… Natural Afro doesn’t mean ‘uncombed’ it may take on the appearance of unruly..then it should be shaped by padding it down or ect. As a natural, I have learned a lot of about my hair and how to properly do it..now. Some things that my mother did worked, back then, but now I know more and therefore I will do better..that’s what we should all do…learn and do better. Instead of criticizing, maybe you can give her some suggested hairstyles or point her to some examples on the internet. How know, maybe the author of article can do the same..she may not know how to comb her hair since hair styling is not an innate gift to all women.
No excuse……she has hired people.
@ Katren Moss, this is really bothering me, the word ‘unkempt’ is that truly a word? I mean I only see the word when it comes to naturals…is it like the word they made up for example ‘pre-poo’? and YES Blue Ivy looks like her daddy…are you going to give your granddaughter a kiddie perm? since her hair is like steel wool?
@Katren & the gypsie life – I totally agree with both of you!!!!! A toddler’s hair does need to be done. It doesn’t have to be placed in a high fashionable hair style, but it should at least be presentable. That child is also a reflection of the parents. Both parents are in the public’ eye. I am a Hiring Manager and sometimes parents come with their kids to interviews (dumb, but they do). However if one child has well kept hair and the other doesn’t, I don’t care how many skills the parents have, if they allow their child to be displayed in public like they don’t care, then I take that as the parent being lazy and unreliable. I wouldn’t hire them. If they don’t care about their own kid, how could they possibly care about their job? Say what you want, but that’s the society we live in – like it or not. Just show some decency, have some pride and comb your kids’ hair.
This was so shallow. Then Beyonce and other successful and hard working parents, rich or not are all lazy and unreliable then? Why do you have to come to such harsh assumptions? Believe it or not, there are some parents that purposely choose to groom their children’s hair in this low manipulation/maintenance manner. And the ones that do the least to their hair tend to always have the most hair and healthy too.
Please keep in mind too that there are some parents that are genuinely clueless on how to care for hair so instead of criticizing and name calling, show some compassion. Yes there are some parents that might be lazy but you can’t lump everyone into the same category because there are just some parents like Beyonce who as I mentioned above choose the simple, low maintenance route and there is nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to like it, and there’s nothing wrong with that either. Do what you like and let others do the same. What is the point of voicing your dislikes in such a manner?
Also, I know many parents at my child’s school who all have very successful careers and the way they send their children to school you would probably gasp. Their clothes and hair are clean but you can tell that there focus is not so much on their outer appearance. This schools tends to attract free spirited, compassionate, socially aware type parents from all walks of life. These kids all come from wonderful families, they are well loved, appear to be happy, compassionate, very well rounded, open minded and very intelligent. So it’s not fair to judge others solely based on their appearance. This is a very shallow way of viewing things.
You can tell that *their*
I truly believe that all of you who are defending this kid’s ‘unkept’ look are probably the same way with your own kids. That’s why you are so defensive. You have those same skeletons in your own closets. Anyone who cares enough to keep their child’s hair looking ‘public-friendly’ can certainly relate to those of us who think it’s disturbing to see a kid walk around like they’re in the jungle or an alley or just came from outside and their hair got jacked up. No matter how busy you are, you have to take/make the time to make sure that your kids are presentable if they’re going out in public. Just because you choose to skip your own responsibilities doesn’t make it right. I’m so sick of you hypocritical, defensive lazy slobs. Wake up!!!! You live in America! Your image says a LOT about you!!!! Like it or not. As long as you folks allow your kids to look uncared for, you are looked at the same way!!! Take it from me, seeing how you don’t care about appearances, then stop wondering why no one wants to hire you or associate with you, except your own kind. You’re an embarrassment. That’s not the case for all of you, but you know who you are! Face reality. No one wants your “I can do what I want” propaganda. It will get you nowhere but lower than you already are. Your defensive words prove that tenfold. My kids hair is ALWAYS properly done when in public. Now at home, that’s a different story. With the money Beyoncé has, there is absolutely NO REASON not to have the child’s hair looking appropriate. If that weren’t the case, we wouldn’t be having the discussion. Instead of being so defensive, get your act together.
@Katherine Mae
Wow, is this the way your thought process works? Well if I were to think the way that you do, I would assume that all over weight people are just fat, greedy and lazy slobs. And I would always wonder, how in the hell could they leave their homes in such a state? No matter how successful they are, how much of a great person they may be or how well dressed and well groomed they are I will always be disturbed and disgusted by their appearance. I will judge, criticize and ridicule them solely based on their appearance of being over weight, without considering their situation or background. Is this how your mind works? Do you think this is how we should go about treating people?
Yes there maybe some people that are down right lazy but unless you know someone personally it is unfair to judge especially based on such shallow grounds. There is no need for the name calling, no need to judge, bash and ridicule others to get your point across.
Not that is matters but both me and my daughter have very healthy and long hair. I have hip length hair and my daughter has waist length hair. We have the same hair care approach that Beyonce and parents alike seem to have, which is simple, low manipulation hair care practices. We spend more time on caring for the health of our scalp and hair and less time fussing about super neat styles. The frizz and the curly kinky strands will never be masked with product and accessories to appease anyone because everything is done in moderation and based on practicality. This is a preference that we chose and thats fine. You like to appease others with the more super neat look and that’s alright too. Live and let live.
Beyonce has all the money in the world but she chooses to groom her child’s hair the way she think is best. She can easily layer it with gel and curl defining products and mask it with tons of accessories. She can easily relax it or get it pressed but she chooses the simple route. Kinky hair in it’s natural state without the pretty braids, twist etc is just that, kinky. So you can add all the oils, moisturizers and butters but it would not hide our natural kinks, poofiness and frizz. Maybe she doesn’t like braided styles, maybe she dislikes bubbles and hair beads. Someone with a “y7cx0oll@Katherine Mae
Wow, is this the way your thought process works? Well if I were to think the way that you do, I would assume that all over weight people are just fat, greedy and lazy slobs. And I would always wonder, how in the hell could they leave their homes in such a state? No matter how successful they are, how much of a great person they may be or how well dressed and well groomed they are I will always be disturbed and disgusted by their appearance. I will judge, criticize and ridicule them solely based on their appearance of being over weight, without considering their situation or background. Is this how your mind works? Do you think this is how we should go about treating people?
Yes there maybe some people that are down right lazy but unless you know someone personally it is unfair to judge especially based on such shallow grounds. There is no need for the name calling, no need to judge, bash and ridicule others to get your point across.
Not that is matters but both me and my daughter have very healthy and long hair. I have hip length hair and my daughter has waist length hair. We have the same hair care approach that Beyonce and parents alike seem to have, which is simple, low manipulation hair care practices. We spend more time on caring for the health of our scalp and hair by the way we wash and detangle, the products used and how gentle we are on the strands and less time fussing about super neat styles. Our frizz and the curly kinky strands will never be masked with product and accessories to appease anyone because everything is done in moderation and based on practicality. This is a preference that we chose and thats fine. You like to appease others with the more super neat look and that’s alright too. Live and let live.
Please excuse my previous comment. It is all over the place, my computer is acting weird.
What exactly is she ‘subjecting’ HER child to? Critics such as yourself? It’s because of the need for Black folks to nitpick, criticize, scrutinize, and chastise over hair is why so many little Black girls today are running around with chemically damaged hair, thinning to no edges, braids that are in waaayy to tight, all for the sake of those critics who say ‘you ought to do something to that child’s hair.’ Geez, the girl is only 2. Where and what exactly is she going/will be doing, that requires her to have her hair styled to the nines? Beyoncé may not just ‘roll out of bed’ with her hair done, but you’d better believe that Beyoncé isn’t spending her day exploring new sights and sounds, getting to know and see the world as much as a two year-olds mind will process, and running around playing, rolling around on the floor, getting her clothes dirty, etc. With all the activity and energy dispensed by toddlers all day, throughout the day, no one would have time to do anything else if they had to worry about keeping her hair styled. Beyoncé may be wealthy enough to hire nannies, but do you honestly believe that she would require they keep her hair styled, and considering how active toddlers can be, why would she? Beyoncé may be a superstar, but Blue Ivy is still a two year-old toddler, and sometimes her hair gets messed up like all the others.
Preach, Straightnochaser. I couldn’t agree with you more
I believe that you are wrong about why so many little Black girls are running around with chemically damaged hair. I know firsthand that my mother didn’t take care of my hair and getting it chemically straightened was the, “easy way out.” I’ve even heard her say it!!! She called my hair unruly and didn’t want to “bother” with it. It has nothing to do with age. Having a child means so much more than merely spreading your legs. Where is the child going? OUT IN PUBLIC!!! It doesn’t matter the age. My daughter is only 3 and I would NEVER allow her out in public looking like some wild thing! I take responsibility and make sure that her hair is both nourished and well kept, without damaging it. Beyoncé and JayZ have the money to make that happen if Beyoncé doesn’t want to do it herself. It just goes to show you how selfish people are. They only think about themselves. Look how Beyoncé dresses on stage and how JayZ promotes it. You think they really care about how their daughter looks in public? Stop making excuses and get off your a@@@@ and if you don’t care about yourself, at least have a little pride and take care of your kid!!
I agree with you gypsy life. As far as i’m concerned children should look well kept in ALL aspects of their appearance. I don’t care!!
You wouldn’t let your child go out with dirty clothes, you wouldn’t let your child go out with stuff on their face, you wouldn’t let them go out without brushing their teeth… someone explain to me why hair is any different. Explain to me why brushing or putting ribbons in a little girls hair is wrong… i’m thinking, but i cant see the problem. my mum did it to me and my sister. our hair is fine. but pleease lets not lie and pretend that we do not judge parents based on their kids appearance (not saying beyonce is a bad mother cause i honestly think she is). When you see a child on the street looking unkept whats the first thing you think? what kind of parent lets their child leave the house looking like that. and i know kids will be kids and they will get messy, but it just sounds to me like some of you wont even try and tame your childs hair because you think its impossible or something… as a black women, I know for a fact its not. so when I see hair like blues, i’m sorry but i’m not going to give a round of applause because I know that her hair can in fact be made to look neat
This is apples and oranges. Not brushing teeth, dirty faces, wearing dirty clothes are totally different from a parent who has a more carefree simple approach to hair care. If the scalp and hair are both clean and healthy and the mother chooses to groom and apply gentle and simple hair care practices as well as simple and low manipulation styling such as loose buns, or by letting her hair out freely with just a moisturizer or a pony tail etc, then please tell us what is wrong with this and how can you compare that to dirty clothes and dirty face and teeth? I am not understanding your logic.
No one said that brushing, or using combs, tons of product and hair accessories are wrong!! It is just simply a preference! Why does there have to be a one size fits all when it comes to natural hair care?!!!! Why can’t we just accept all the different ways that people choose to care for hair as long as these practices are healthy. Some people like to be extra others prefer simplicity while the few in the middle enjoy a little bit of both. Sleek and neat, free and messy it doesn’t matter! They are all fine!!! You don’t have to like everything and that’s ok. But why do you feel the need to impose what you think should be on others. Why does your dislike or differences in preferences matter? Do what you like and leave people to their preferences and stop criticizing!! I don’t understand why its that difficult to just let others be!!!!!
And apparently, the word “unkept” seems to be all relative? Because someone as rich, who is seemingly happy and that is also nicely dressed and clean can still be labeled as unkept all because to her hair?!!!!!! Because despite how clean and healthy her hair may be, people will still criticize it just because it isn’t their preference. Just because her hair isn’t slick down with product and hidden away in braids and accessories? But let someone with a looser texture style their child’s hair the same way Blue’s hair is style and let’s see who gets the most criticism. Wow just wow.
I know this is just hair but the things you people say makes me wonder, if this is the way your thought process works in other areas of live?
Actually, that’s very much culturally based, judging parenting on a child’s appearance. I know if my Nigerian parents were to see a two year old child with Jordan’s and fancy clothes, while the parents don’t even own a house, they’d say those parents are irresponsible.
White girls have uncombed, unadorned, unruly hair all the time. It’s just straighter. We have been brainwashed to be uncomfortable with frizzy, nappy hair. Look at your language: it NEEDS to be combed, NEEDS to be brushed. Actually, it doesn’t NEED anything other than to be washed.
Mental slavery runs deep. DEEEEP.
Any mother that would allow her child to go out in public without being presentable is probably also lacking in the hygiene area. The child doesn’t know any better but the parents should. Just who does she think she is to allow her little girl to look like her hair is never combed? Before you say it, I know it’s her child and she can do whatever she pleases (and I agree). But I don’t agree with how she’s doing it. Period.
“Any mother that would allow her child to go out in public without being presentable is probably also lacking in the hygiene area.” This is such a harsh assumption. Why are you so quick to assume the worse? Clearly she grooms the child’s hair but I guess it’s not good enough for you. So instead you judge and criticize? People are so mean! Why can’t you just look at it as simply a preference, how some choose to care for their hair vs it being unkept? This child looks very clean and well cared for to me. I’m sure her hair and scalp are both healthy as well. But something as trivial as the way her hair is style calls for such harsh comments? Why isn’t it enough that her hair is clean and healthy?
What’s wrong with the low maintenance look? I’m almost certain that if her little flyways, and tight curly kinks that we see were of a looser texture, there would not be such harsh comments.
@ shallow – What’s wrong with the low maintenance look (as you call it)? Everything. Did you ever try going on a job interview or social event with, “the low maintenance look?” Huh?
@ the gypsy life, I couldn’t have said it better! I totally agree with you. Some knucklehead likes controversy and seem to have their own issue. You see how they continue to use different personas to exemplify their point. SMH
You hit the nail on the head. I don’t think nobody is saying perm her hair but damn make her look presentable.
Preach lol my point exactly
TRUTH! What you described is going on all over the place in Black American homes. The way we treat black women in this Western society is appalling. And guess where the mistreatment starts? It starts with us as black people. We are the ones unfortunately, perpetuating the b.s.
My sisters would see my daughter’s hair just slightly messy after playing outside in the park, and she would say “Oh if I had a child with good hair like THAT, I’d be doing all kinds of styles.” What my sisters failed to realize is,the reason my daughter’s hair looks so good, is because I never put it in tight braids and pony tails when she was younger. She would have a nice curly afro between birth and 2 and half years old and that’s why her hair is in the condition it’s in now. Her hair has always been long, we never had growth problems. Because I took care of it well.
Black people always had something to say though about her afro hair, and I just felt so disgusted, and I knew they wouldn’t say that if she were a white child. My blood just curdles at how black people act about something as stupid as hair sometimes.
I’ve long given up on most black people, when it comes to the “hair obsession” they are just too obsessed with hair. It’s to the point where they care more about their daughter’s hair, than about the relationships with their daughter’s?
In Netherlands, the DUTCH women are very quick to tell men off and they seem to be running the men and making them ACCEPT their no-make up natural look. It’s amazing how different it is over there. Women are very independent and feel they are equal to men in everyway, there is none of this prissy crap that goes on in America, and they don’t take crap from men and pay their own way on a date but they treat their kids great and their men do what they say not the other way around. I’ve traveled a great deal, just like Beyoncé and people in other places don’t obsess over hair like Americans do.
Also, Beyoncé seems like a great mother. No one notices that though, they only notice her daughter’s fucking hair. Wow…just wow…
Dear Crab-in-bucket,
You’ve ‘long given up on Black people’ and so you’re embracing WHAT YOU’VE SEEN of the Dutch? Please continue to tell us how White women are better than Black women.
Thank god our ancestors didn’t have your pitiful, feckless, stereotyped fishbowl view of an entire group of people to justify your inner hatred projected on everyone else. You seem to despise Black people and Americans, despite probably taking advantage of many of the benefits that Blacks and Americans actually contribute to the world. You’re just another confused, ranting child sadly embittered by a world that disappointed you. How dare you stereotype ANY people! How dare you assume the arrogance of a racist and generalize an entire group based on the behavior and people and tiny sliver of life YOU HAVE WITNESSED? Guess what? Traveling ‘a great deal’ doesn’t make you an expert on anything, it merely gives you an opinion of YOUR EXPERIENCE! If you weren’t so transparently tragic, you might try less navel-gazing and being more open, but…crabs like to stay in the bucket.
@Elle…..please be quiet!there was nothing wrong with what landlady said…..it was straight up truth.I think you read but did not comprehend…..come again.thanks
You do know there are black people in the Netherlands right? I found nothing wrong with what she said. I too, felt disgusted that all people could talk about was her hair when I myself, has always worn my hair that way. Its the general mentality that afro hair is bad.
Then go live in the Netherlands if you so unhappy here
If this was a non black child with straight hair who’s mother just left it alone no one would criticize. This is why some black mothers relax I remember when I was younger my aunts would say to my mom it’s time to relax that child hair like it was required for my hair to be relaxed and I had reached the age where my hair being natural was no longer socially acceptable
It could be a black child with straight hair. All blacks don’t have the same texture
People always think little girls need a thousand ponytails and bows…. leave the hair alone and it will retain growth with low manipulation. Im glad she didn’t give in to wht people expect.
My husband sister never combed her daughters Haiti at least it didn’t look combed and as a teenager she has none. Be careful of what you wish for
Yes, because it’s now long enough to (safely) be put into a bun. Before it was delicate and shorter, it made sense for beyonce to “leave” Blue’s hair alone. It is probably because she did “nothing” to Blue’s hair that she’s now able to do a bun; had she manipulated it the way the “critics” kept crying for, this might not be the case!
Blue’s hair looked cute before and it looks cute now!
exactly! Keep it moisturized and leave it alone. Black men are good at this with their hair. If more grown black women would understand this concept, there’d be less of them crying about why its so hard for their hair to grow.
She look unkept. B don’t step out like that and neither do J so why should they child. If she was naynay from the jets the same thing would happen she’ll be talked about. Nobody saying put weave in the babies head or a perm but at least she should be presentable especially in public.
That little bun is too adorable!!!
I think the critics should just move on and leave Beyonce and Blue’s hair alone. As a natural, I try to have a low to minimal manipulation of my hair and I would dare anyone to tell me to do something different with my or my daughter’s hair. Toddlers are very restless when it comes to styling. when my daughter was younger, I did the same (afro puff). The issue is people who claim to love ‘natural look’ can’t stand our natural looking hair. Afro is natural. Toddlers should be able to rock an afro and their parents shouldn’t be subjected to public ridicule because the child is rocking an afro. At her age, braids, and etc would probable cause thinning of her edges…who wants that. Rock your afro…and rock it big.
I totally agree. Why does a toddler’s hair need to be “done”? All she’s doing is playing and running around, I hope. Next thing you know, the people who want her hair “done” all the time will be expecting braid extensions and weaves. smh.