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The Nive Nulls Cheating Confession Has Us Wondering About the Pitfalls of Daily Vlogging

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Television has a long way to go towards representing the diversity of black women’s experiences, so many turn to YouTube to find black women they resonate with, subscribing to their daily vlogs for an inside look at their lives.

The black woman daily vloggers who have risen to the top have a lot in common; they are young, beautiful, in seemingly happy and stable relationships and have joyful homes. Their viewers see their channels as a respite from the onslaught of media that casts black women as unlovable or not ‘wife material’.

The partners of these dynamic women often gain followings themselves, sometimes creating their own spinoff channels and social media accounts.

Enter Austin and Brittany Null, known as The Nive Nulls, a married Christian couple who have vlogged their early marriage, the births of their 3 children and their daily family life for the past 5 years.

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With 350,000 subscribers and more than 56 million channel views, they are among the most visible daily vlog YouTube families. They’ve parlayed their social media fame into a contract with Ziploc, TV appearances and even music.

A former social media manager, Austin has stated that he started his channel with an eye towards earning a living. After his YouTube revenue began to rival his paycheck, he quit his job and moved his family from Kansas to Los Angeles, California. He has credited his success to his “cute kids”, consistency and authenticity.

Be yourself and find your niche. What is it about your family that is unique in comparison to other families? How do you view family/every day activities/current issues/etc. and how do you communicate that to your audience? Find a way to stick out, AUTHENTICALLY.

Black women are among the channel’s most vocal fans, often praising the Nulls for their home life.

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Which is why many viewers were shocked to learn that Austin had an affair in early 2015, and the couple did not take a break when it occurred, but chose to continue vlogging regularly through Brittany’s pregnancy. In a video titled We Need to Talk the couple confirmed the affair after screenshots, pictures and videos surfaced online in late December.

The couple has no plans to split. Brittany states that she has forgiven Austin and they plan to resume their vlogging after taking a break.

Many fans are already calling for their return.

Like The Nulls, many successful vloggers say they value authenticity and want their channels to be relatable. But the reality is that daily vlogs thrive on being aspirational. Viewers tune in to watch people whose lives seem better than theirs. And this is especially true for black women longing to see women like them living the ‘happily ever after’.

But this places incredible pressure on vloggers to shoot and edit material at a furious pace and present images of domestic perfection — relationships that are happy and light-hearted, kids who are spunky and don’t misbehave too much, homes that are beautiful and well-furnished, lives that are full of rich experiences. Vloggers who veer from this formula face backlash. Whitney White, aka Naptural85, caught heat from her fans when she posted a video showing the aftermath of an argument with her husband. It has since been taken down.

Daily vlogging also introduces the pressure of having fans, some more obsessive than others. In his confession video Austin shared that he met the woman he had an affair with online.

Daily and lifestyle vlogging isn’t going anywhere. And more black women are entering the field with increasingly polished channels.

But perhaps in viewing these women we shouldn’t look for perfection, but honesty. Long-time Hollywood showrunner and Girlfriends creator Mara Brock Akil put it best;

My core audience loves the term, ‘positive image,’ and I actually do not. I don’t believe in positive images just as I don’t believe in negative images. I think they can be just as damaging as negative images, in that it erases our ability to have humanity.”

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I was waiting for BGLH to pick up this story. Having seen the evidence… ‑sips tea‑, ‑clears throat- …I feel really sorry for Britt and the kids. Cheating disturbs me on such a level that i would leave any man over it, no matter the circumstance of our relationship. Ladies, what do you think? In general I do worry for other vloggers because you are putting yourself out there at the professional, public level without professional protections against the public. Ever see Obama daily vlog? What about Beyonce? Donald Trump and the Clintons? Why not? Because that ish is too… Read more »

Eve
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Eve

I think that’s ridiculous. Well I guess to those who are Christian. When we sin we are commiting adultery against God, literally God calls us sinners an adulterous people and yet he died for us while we were still sinners. Marriage is a reflection of Christ’s relationship with his Church, his bride. While we the Church sin against him Christ does not leave our sides but rather he forgives us. In marriage one must forgive especially if the spouse who has sinned repents as in this case. Mr Null confessed and is working on his marriage with counseling while his… Read more »

Miss.
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Miss.

IMO, they use the christianity angle when it’s convenient for them like most people nowadays. I have a feeling if he and his wife were truly following the lead of The Holy Spirit, their channel would not exist anymore.Either way, I wish them luck.

Eve
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Eve

there is a point there I do believe it is somewhat immodest to just expose your life on the internet at the same time they obviously do keep some things private and could also be an encouragement to others so I think it depends on how you look at it. As far as forgiveness goes I think that’s pretty black and white, Christians just have to be ready and willing to forgive because God forgives us our sins.

Miss.
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Miss.

I agree about forgiveness being black and white. God knows their hearts and if they are sincere and he knows their weaknesses and the things they need to remove from their lives. Hopefully, at the end of the day, they do what’s best for their family and are obedient to the God who they want to forgive them. I’m personally not watching anymore because I do not want to contribute to something that IMO from what I’ve noticed, is harmful for their family in the long run.

Rose
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Rose

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tracienatural
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tracienatural

Eve, I probably agree with you the most. I read a lot of the comments. I must say, many of them sound like they are from younger women. I did not watch the video, but at my age, I don’t have to. I think as you age and, hopefully, mature, things will not be so black-and-white. Unfortunately, many spouses commit adultery. It’s not right, but it is something many people will have to deal with, like it or not. As for the outside person, I don’t think people should spend too much time worrying about them. While they clearly have… Read more »

Steve Biko
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Steve Biko

If you really believed in the “babble” the husband should be stoned to death. Have you forgotten that adultery is a crime punishable by death?

Eve
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Eve

He who is without sin may cast the first stone
–Jesus

Victoria Owl
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Victoria Owl

To answer your question, it depends on what one can tolerate. I’m sure there are some things that you can tolerate from a spouse/partner that I will not tolerate and vice versa. But I’m with you, I will NOT tolerate cheating. I feel like if we both are adults and we agree to be in a committed relationship which does not involve cheating of any kind then that is how it should be. There is no compromising. We are no longer single and we are no longer teens. Before you agreed to be a part of a committed relationship did… Read more »

Rose
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Rose

That is why I think cheating is SO selfish and disrespectful: the onus is always on the violated partner to forgive the cheater. In order to forgive a lying, deceptive, lustful partner, one has to lower their own standards and self-esteem so much! It is either you or me, dude, and if you can barely keep your private parts to this relationship, well I will choose me (and my sanity, self-esteem, and STI-free body) over your cheating, lying, lustful behind. Cheaters are the most selfish people. So why can’t the partner who was cheated on be equally selfish and choose… Read more »

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Roseflorie

People have a lot of insecurity issues… what media ”casts black women as unlovable or not ‘wife material’”??? Where? Not the aunties in my family, my mum, friends mums.. blackgirllonghair please start posting more positive stories in 2016 and stop regurgitating negativity. It’s ridiculous to state that thats the reason why black women watch ‘black woman’ vlogs to aspire to them. Honestly, black women are a race, black people, more than a billion, stop the generalisations and stop believing them. This article is sickening. Let’s honestly help our self-esteem as these assumptions are doing no good. It’s simple entertainment of… Read more »

Bellanaija
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Bellanaija

I said the same thing a while ago- that I was getting sick and tired of them always posting negative stories- colorism, racism, African-Americans vs. Africans etc. It’s all so divisive and exhausting! Please publish positive stories as well. This world and the issues we’re so hung up on are so asinine- there’s more to life than worrying about what one group thinks of my skin tone etc. Sheesh.

Roseflorie
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Roseflorie

I’m about to unsubscribe because blackgirllonghair posts negativity.

Yoli
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Yoli

I haven’t subscribed but I would check out this site almost daily when I first started my hair journey. I started taking periodic breaks sometimes lasting months.

getaclue
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getaclue

Yep…ya haf to

4Candproud
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4Candproud

I feel the same way. I never subscribed either. This site used to be about hair, but now it has gotten really negative. It used to bring naturals together with tips and styles and now it has gotten trivial and divisive.

Dana Brown
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Dana Brown

I’ve never gotten into daily vlogging channels or reality TV for exactly this reason: the content producers are forever under a strain to look or behave a certain way. That’s okay for occasional videos, but everyday? Such an expectation is unhealthy for both them and their audience.

Not a fan of Austin, but I wish the Nulls the best in their relationship. I hope that the break renews their love and devotion for one another.

Lovely
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Lovely

wow their followers act like they are celebrities or something. Everything doesn’t have to be shared on youtube and social media they have three kids they should focus on them. How are they with a camera in those kids faces everyday I don’t get it youtube pay sucks also you tube pays like $10 per every 1000 views of people who watch the ad’s most people have ad blocker or skip the ad they then split it youtube keeps 40% and give the youtubers 60%

Hair Anomaly
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Hair Anomaly

I’m sorry to see that they went through this, but I’m not surprised. People covet what they see, and lonely, desperate, pathetic people who have failed at acquiring a good partner for themselves will attempt to steal someone else’s. You can come across a few of these sad people in normal, everyday life, but putting yourself out there for millions to see will exponentially increase the odds of it happening. I’ve personally seen too many instances of social media contact causing serious problems in relationships. Some people just can’t always resist the temptation when it comes. To me, it’s just… Read more »

venezolanatrini .
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venezolanatrini .

Some woman are so disgusted with themselves, and have no morals that they will go chasing after a married man without a care in the world .Yes he was wrong also, but as a woman you should no better, have a higher value of yourself, this is the ish* I cant take with some women, and then they use that “No one takes no one away from nobody” which is the excuse that they all use. Which Im thinking the were taught on their first day at “Thots r Us” class. They have the sickening mindset, “Yeah, I through myself… Read more »

Rose
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Rose

But Austin and Britt actually admitted that Austin was seeing someone else while he started talking to Britt ( in their “How we met” video)! I am telling y’all, some people are *serial cheaters*. If it starts with cheating, it ends with cheating.

venezolanatrini .
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venezolanatrini .

Well then shes another one, like I said I don’t watch them. But how u got him is how you’ll lose him. shame on it all

Laura
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Laura

I’m know their Vlogging bff buddies. Making a living from something fun is great, but what are you sacrificing when your offering up your life for public consumption? The couple I know that does the same thing has shared so much of their baby’s life for clicks and page views that it’s disturbing. She never had the choice of whether her life would be share with tens of thousands of people.

And as someone with a cheating parent, it’s sad that they would reveal this to the public without thinking of how it affects their very public children too.

Sunday rose
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Sunday rose

I thought “they” said only black men disrespect black women by cheating.…so I’ve heard.

fromanotherplanet
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fromanotherplanet

Sips

CocoaGoddess
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CocoaGoddess

Ikr, I’m sipping too, waiting for the anti blacks to come

maralondon
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maralondon

You would think so with the amount of bashing that goes on.

Destiny Parker
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Destiny Parker

wow she must either have no self-respect or is just a strong and forgiving individual, I can’t see how she does it. If she can look past being made a fool out of publicly like that then all the best to her. I wouldn’t be able to put up with it.

Lucky502
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Lucky502

Same here!

Bassey Akan
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Bassey Akan

Famous last words. Everyone says they won’t put up with it until it happens to them.

Miss.
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Miss.

they have sacrificed their family at the altar of youtube money. I’ve seen the daughter say NO DADDY I DON’T WANT TO BE ON CAMERA multiple times and he will keep recording. There’s a bunch of other crazy stuff they have no problem showing their kids doing. You’d think they’d realize that they need to step away from vlogging and find another main source of income for their family. In 5–6 years, it might be VERY hard for youtube to be profitable for most except for large companies. Honestly though, I wish them luck, they are married with kids so… Read more »

Melissa
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Melissa

You aren’t the first person to say that about the little girl saying she didn’t want to be on camera. That’s sad.

Kikolove
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Kikolove

In my opinion, the most disturbing video they did was when they painted the little boy’s nails all in the name of “fun.” He is shown snatching his hand back from several times. But Brittney kept grabbing his hand and painting his nails while saying “he won’t remember this anyway.”

fromanotherplanet
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fromanotherplanet

Chile… I cannot

I watched one of their videos a couple of years ago and they came across as attention seekers to me. He was shoving a camera in her face while she was crying. I think a friend of theirs had a serious disease or something like that and she was reacting to the news. TOO EXTRA. I never watched a video again.

I can’t and I won’t.

KekeBee
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KekeBee

I honestly dislike most lifetime vlogging channels and the nive nulls are no exception. I also wonder about what these youtube vloggers are going to do for money once youtube loses popularity

liya
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liya

Just read this awesome article about David Bowie and Iman and what can be learned by keeping it private. http://madamenoire.com/608939/pop-mom-the-bowies-and-a-thing-called-privacy/

Janet
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Janet

Sadly Iiya this is a show me world now. People have no filters on their life.

Jeanea
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Jeanea

I stopped watching them once I got to college. And when I return to watch them again, I found myself disliking Austin more than I did before. And this right here tops the icing on the cake. How could he do this to his wife while she was pregnant with his child? He disgusts me and I only watched the vlogs for Brittany and the kids because they had more sense. I’m glad Brittany is being strong.

kia
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kia

I don’t like really to watch daily life vlogs. I have my own shit to worry about. I do think it’s weird that people get so emotionally invested in a couple and the way they live

Stacey Herbert
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Stacey Herbert

So you needed to totally change ha? That means behind closed doors when those cameras were off… you were always a douche bag.

mmmdot
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mmmdot

There are plenty of ppl who do daily vlogs or (even worse) are legitimate celebrity couples who have hordes of paparazzo chasing them and literally their their every waking minute in public under the microscope and their relationships/marriages are fine. Something about ppl blaming vlogging/being in the public eye for their breakups, kind of reminds me of ppl who continuously act like antisocial, violent, and/or perveted creeps and bullies on reality TV and blame “editing” for their bad behavior. Like sorry, no, it’s not the vlogging, I think it’s that ppl who’re ALREADY in problematic & vulnerable relationships (for some… Read more »

Ennui
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Ennui

Why was it necessary to post that they are “Christian”? Do I really care?

Keylolo
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Keylolo

Is being Christian a crime? I’m you didn’t care why Did you bring it up?

Ennui
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Ennui

I feel like it was not needed.

Why did you imply that I personally think that it’s a crime? I simply don’t care about their religion of choice and it was irrelevant to the topic being discussed. They don’t identify as “Christian bloggers” do they?

silvia2015
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silvia2015

y most couples stay together after 1 partner cheates??, i just don’t get that! Ppl, who give ppl 2nd chances is fine-but u can always forgive & not continue being in that “partnership” koz u never know maybe God planned for u 2 b with a better person or u are the 1 God wants to be with another person
Imperfection is tolerable if it comes to ironing, washing, cooking some stuff, mopping, steaming, lawn mowning etc…
just saying-:I for any couple!! if u can afford the lifestyle-otherwise…then i get it

Ehi
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Ehi

Maybe because love actually forgives ALL things. Washing, etc. aren’t big deals. Forgiveness really comes into play when it’s in the big things. so yeah, she’s walking in love.

Eve
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Eve

Yes relationships are tough. I am young but even in my experience I have known of many people who have sinned against one another be it adultery or other things. At the end of the day I don’t think any relationships can last without forgiveness because at some point your spouse or friend or loved one whomever will do something big or small that hurts and at that point we all have to make the choice will we forgive? I think that the lack of willingness to forgive comes from an impure place just as the lack of a willingness… Read more »

Victoria Owl
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Victoria Owl

Your wrote in a previous comment; “I believe marriage is for life, unless your spouse outright abandons you, dies, or tries to kill you or your children (your life is at risk), one has no right to divorce or remarry.” What about mental health? What about verbal/emotional and physical abuse? Then what? There are levels to these things. Why wait for it to get worse? I think it boils down to what one can tolerate. I can tolerate many things. But one of the things I will never tolerate is cheating. What if they cheat again? I am willing to… Read more »

Eve
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Eve

“What about mental health? What about verbal/emotional and physical abuse? Then what? There are levels to these things. Why wait for it to get worse?” Um what about them? If I recall the marriage vows read. For BETTER or WORSE in SICKNESS and in HEALTH. Divorcing someone for getting sick mentally is absolutely wrong. And I am sorry but what is “emotional abuse”? We all abuse each other with our words from time to time. The obvious solution to that problem is for the abusive spouse to change. Divorce won’t make an abusive person less abusive, nor does divorce even… Read more »

Victoria Owl
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Victoria Owl

Wow, lot’s of assumptions about me here. You misunderstood me and so I am sorry that I came across as a self righteous person. But I get it. Having in depth discussions like these online can be tricky since you don’t always know where it’s coming from. I will never judge for obvious reasons, as we are all sinners so I am FAR from self righteous and never claimed to be. I will forgive a person but this level of deceit I will not forget and I would expect that same treatment if I were in the wrong. I believe… Read more »

Daphne
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Daphne

LMAO, I hope you end up with a husband who puts you through all the things you think can be “worked through” or “forgiven” to see how long you’ll last before you’re forced to eat crow. Stupid bitch. All this preaching about God and forgiveness yet you’re giving people who mistreat their spouses a pass while blaming the wronged partner for refusing to be a doormat and tolerate it. God isn’t here for people who go out of their way to be wicked. You can’t keep hurting someone over and over again and justify the cycle of abuse by repenting… Read more »

Raze
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Raze

Get a job like everyone else? Start their own business? What else do you expect them to do?

Leshondra Heron
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Leshondra Heron

plus the skills it takes to run a successful channel are definitely transferable to other fields. they will be fine.

Eve
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Eve

“God does not tolerate a lot of things but at the same time he forgives. ” And what does that mean to you? Did Jesus not die for sinners on the cross and yet you are unwilling to tolerate an apologetic cheating spouse? I am sorry but forgiveness in this case would be fighting for your marriage, if you really forgive you will work it out. When God forgave us he suffered for us, he did not merely remain “cordial”, he is allowing us to have eternal life in his Kingdom not leaving us at the gate. So I believe… Read more »

Victoria Owl
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Victoria Owl

Yes right and wrong is relative when it comes to our limited understanding. Only God knows everything. Because your understanding of those scriptures are just that, yours. My interpretations differ from yours and so it is alright for us to agree to disagree respectfully. I believe that there is a back story to each of those scriptures, so you can’t just apply it to any context that you please to justify your belief. Direct me to where God says it is wrong to divorce on the grounds of Adultery even if the spouse claims to never do it again and… Read more »

Jae
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Jae

im guessing they kinda do. really the only way to find out is if they identified as it. either way their choice. dont care? dont bother. one sentence shouldnt bother you so much for not caring. just pass over it and move on.

gigi
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gigi

meh… don’t know em… but I’m sure this little foray garnered quite the many views… hm…

graygreypinkbrown
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graygreypinkbrown

ok optimistic fella‑i hear you but
my angle was from a security standpoint
a cheater could have caught STDs or STi or you name it

but hey, from your point of view‑I support giving 2nd chances to a good father anytime even if he cheated on the significant other–that form of love for a loved one is worth forgiveness!

Charlotte Roberts
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If he cheated twice, I say the divorce is amicable. Once she forgave him but twice no. He will do it again I know. A close family member of mine spouse cheated and had an outside child. They were forgiven but the person cheated again and again. Don’t put your health into jeopardy.

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