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Black Girl With Long Hair
In a Q&A in Los Angeles on Saturday, the Halle Berry spoke candidly on the ending of her marriages. From People.com;
“I have learned to deal with three failed marriages, which has not been easy, especially when there’s children involved,” the actress admitted.
Berry has two kids from previous relationships — 3-year-old Maceo with latest ex-husband Olivier Martinez and 8-year-old Nahla with ex-boyfriend Gabriel Aubry. The actress was also previously married to Eric Benét from 2001 to 2005 and David Justice from 1992 to 1997. Her marriage to Martinez was finalized in December.
Going through these breakups have led to disillusionment for Berry, who says that women “go into marriage thinking it’s going to last forever and that this is our prince on a shiny horse. That’s what fairytales taught me as a kid.” But the actress no longer believes in the fairytale love, saying she’s “anti-fairytales today.”
“But we go in there with that hope, so when it falls apart it feels like a huge failure and a huge disappointment. I’ve often felt guilty and responsible. I’ve suffered a lot of pain and anguish,” she added….
Right now, being mom is my most important job and I now know that everything I do, everything I say and everything I offer them is really important,” the Oscar winner said. “I say lots of things, but I think what’s more important is that my children watch what I do. I’m more mindful of how I live my life and what they see me do.”
In an October 2016 W Magazine interview Berry spoke about her beauty not sparing her any pain in life.
With Monsters Ball, Lee Daniels didn’t want to see me read. He was actually disgusted by the thought. He thought there’s no way and my argument to him was, just because someone looks a certain way doesn’t mean that they are spared adversity. Adversity does not discriminate. I thought, “My looks haven’t spared me one hardship or one hurt moment or one painful situation. So please, you know, give me a shot at this.” I said, “I often think it’s more interesting when you see someone that looks a certain way struggle in ways that you wouldn’t think they would be struggling with.” He ultimately gave me a chance and that sort of changed the course of my career in so many ways.
Ladies, what are your thoughts on Berry’s words?
6 Responses
I did not realize Lee Daniels directed Monsters Ball. What Halle said made a lot of sense. We girls are taught that fairytale about princes saving damsels in distress and we grow into women thinking that is how it is and it is not realistic. We cannot raise our girl children to think that some man is going to come along and make everything right with the world. It is a set up for failure.
Halle is VERY beautiful inside out. Her comments are very humble and so REAL! Sometimes we keep picking the wrong men and sometimes we give up too soon! Other times we don’t give relationships our best consistent effort or we have UNREALISTIC expectations of others so they are bound to fail because the bar is so high it’s unreachable.
Halle is a beautiful woman but she must take ownership for the dissolution of those marriages. It’s not all about men that have done her wrong, she needs to reflect on the role she played each time things fell apart.
Those who do not learn from the past are doomed to repeat it.
“My looks haven’t spared me one hardship or one hurt moment or one painful situation.”
I like Halle, but the evidence suggests this statement is not true. Halle Berry is light-skinned and widely regarded as extremely beautiful, and we know this confers privilege. Just because you have suffered adversity doesn’t mean that your looks haven’t made life easier for you.
Thanks Elle for this video in her recent article. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgdR4DOwtZM
Very true….
True hardship comes to us all even the movie stars some times more. Being beautiful doesn’t spare us from life’s ugly trials.