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Black Girl With Long Hair
We missed this when it happened back in September, but the fro is so impressive that we had to share. Love and Hip Hop New York star Yandy Smith showed off her natural hair on Instagram with the caption:
Took my weave out and look… sheeeeesh. www.yandysmith.com for details on taming the beast. Best products coming next…#myrealhair #toomuchwork #whowantstodomyhair? #notme
Her hair is beautiful and we wonder, again, of why so many celebrities remain undercover naturals instead of showcasing their gorgeous texture.
Ladies, what are your thoughts?
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These women are always in the spotlight and have to have their hair done at all times. Anyone with natural hair knows that that can be damaging and to preserve their hair they resort to wigs and weaves. It’s smart to use protective styling and you can go from straight to curly black to blond to green with no damage.
That’s because Americans have lost the ability, tolerance, patience and discipline to work through long texts, which is a shame. The girl’s long comment was like a tone poem, and I enjoyed it. It was heartfelt and real. I am so sick of this internet culture which breeds short attention spans. It doesn’t take that long to read if you are used to reading to begin with. Beware of soundbite culture. Yeah, I know I will get a lot of crap for saying that, but really, if you read a book a week, her comment won’t seem like such a chore. You’ll breeze through it. She was making metaphors and analogies and speaking her truth. Thank God there are young people in college, thinking things through and willing to put their thoughts out there. We are encouraged, by our own self-set parameters as black people to only be literate and lyrical when we are: 1) preachers 2) rap artists. Long Live Long Posts
Yes, God forbid someone has to read a paragraph. Its embarrassing. You would think they were asked to climb Everest. Some people relax their hair, some wear make up. Some get boob jobs. Some get liposuction. Who the f%&k cares??? “I dont like her hair, i dont like her clothes.” How arrogant to think that these people style to impress YOU personally. People too deep in someone elses business especially if it is a celebrity. What if it were some random woman you have never seen?Would you really care what she’s doing? Wearing? Saying? For that matter how about some of you post your pictures and open yourselves to criticism? See how well you take it.
Oh and I wasnt singling you out or anything. The first few sentences of my post was a response to your response to the whole “too long comment” issue. I just got carried away 🙂
I think that’s not her real hair, i need to see a better picture…lol
Her real hair is really quite beautiful. Too bad we never see it on the show. Grrrr. And yes those who post long comments.. Uhh I don’t read them. I just skip and read the next. I just don’t have time.
Looking awesome! Haven’t seen her in TV, but wow, her hair is AMAZING! Go girl!!!! ????
I call people like this wig or weave naturals. Most of them didn’t GO natural they just ended up that way as a result of not getting perms, their logic is normally “why get a perm if no one will ever see my hair” even in mini reveals like this most of them will have there hair out naturally long enough to snap a picture then they move on to the next wig or weave. There are a lot of reasons for this, some of them have no desire(or hate) to do their hair. Others don’t know how to do their own hair or feel like its too much work to keep it up and then some are just lazy…. Either way their hair is healthy. I don’t believe the point is to “hide” her real hair its probably just not convenient for her to rock it.
Her hair looks good though, and I like her soft features. Black women we have the best features.
Dam that b wrote a loooooong as comment!!! FUCK!!!!!
right!!
I don’t think there is anything wrong with wearing a weave occasionally, but I don’t see the point of having natural hair if a woman is not comfortable with showing it. These are celebrities, so if they can spend hundreds of dollars on their stylists doing a sew in, why not find a stylist who can style their natural hair?
I’m not impressed…(yawn).
I don’t care to see it if you plan to hide it forever under a weave. If you want to show it, wear it when you go out or are on tv. Revel in its beauty, learn to make it stand out and be proud of it. Otherwise, don’t bother showing it. Stop being lazy, or is it laziness or you just are not proud of your own natural hair?!?!?!?!?!?!
Her hair is beautiful and we wonder, again, of why so many celebrities remain undercover naturals instead of showcasing their gorgeous texture.
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Ain’t that the million dollar question? I can see a corporate lawyer saying she can’t go to work looking like Solange (course she could bun it and be good to go) but a hip hop star/model has to treat her real hair like a dirty little secret that can’t be seen outside the bathroom walls?
Viola Davis risked something when she rocked that TWA at an awards ceremony.
I don’t know how I feel about all these celebrity reveals….I mean part of me is like, okay cool I didn’t know you were natural too, great. But then the other part of me is like, okay so what are you trying to do here participate in some celebrity fad, and not even rock it in public? I’m kinda torn….*shrugs* oh well, I need to be thinking about what I’m making for dinner tonight lol
It’s not really a celebrity thing. I have a friend that has been natural for years…. but NOBODY knows it because she doesn’t know what to do with her natural hair and is not really anxious to learn. She wears weave at all times and she is not famous. Lay off the celebrities a little.
Sweet. I love to see celebs rocking their naturals, even if it’s only for show on social media lol
I think it is great that she is showing her natural hair! One main reason people resort to weaves is because doing their own hair is too “hard.” I felt the same way, especially cuz I have SOOO much thick hair. Then I found Nutress Hair products and they made it so much easier for me to rock my hair naturally! Check them out!!
Oh my lawd. Being natural my whole life, growing up in front of a computer, and being broke and in college, i visit hair care sites frequently because doing/maintaining my hair is a big part of my ownlife… but really? Im not going to say “who cares?” but really – “is it that deep?” . It seems as though there is always something to complain or nit pick about. Its just really disheartening to me. Can i live?
1st. “They don’t wear their hair out, only to post on Instagram, if she really wants to prove something I want to see them on the red carpet, on TV, out and about with their own hair”— how do we know what any of the people do every second of the day? Is it possible that these folks take off their lace wigs to knock boots with their man and unleash their sexy curls only in the bed room? Or that there are celie plaits under their beanie when they take their kids to school in the morning and rock a MEAN braid out for afternoon drinks with the girls in that moment where they don’t have 5000000 cameras in their face? Because if there is a single soul that can tell me that then you should work for TMZ instead quit your day job. And how do we not know that this is their way of wanting to reach out to their fans and show that they are simple gals trying to be the black girl with long hair like the rest of us… My boss who is in her 60s wore a curly wig the entire first year i worked for her, pressed her hair for a christmas party, wore it for a week and put it back under a wig for another year then wore her hair in a sickeningly gorgeous WL braid out for a month… then back under the wig she goes… When asked the same question said the same thing Yandy did “its too much to deal with”. I know many women even in their 80s who never missed a hair appointment in their life a keep their hair fried, dyed, and layed for the same reasons… do they deserve the same criticism? Should they be told to just cut their hair off or learn to do something themselves? I hope not.
2nd. “Why grow their hair if they want to hide it all the time with weaves, ponytails, and wigs” — which is crazy in itself because when my hair began to reach the length I wanted I couldn’t fathom having the dedication and will power NOT to wear it out and run my fingers through it and have it blow in the wind the way I have seen other ladies,gurus,bloggers, grow their hair to WL keeping it in a bun or under wigs or in a beehive on their head or wait a whole year to flat iron it only to not comb their hair after words in avoidance of over manipulation. I thought is was called protective styling/this is what works for my hair/protecting ends from clothes/ or just wanting to grow hair to have a big ole sexy bun
And believe you me it is enraging and hurtful as a young black woman to know that SOME women feel unpretty without 8000 inches of hair, that some women feel as though the way their hair grows out of their scalp is not worthy of showing or taking care of. That society and brainwashed SOME men into believing that only hair that is either blonde, pin straight, or down to your ass is sexy and feminine. That I’ve had lil girls tell me how “pretty” my hair was only when i straightened it or to have men tell me how sexy i am only because my hair is a certain length… but damn it! If we never saw these people’s hair SOME of us would be calling them bald headed and accuse them of not taking care of their hair (Naomi Campbell) so it puzzles me that when we see these women with thick, long, visibly healthy hair that then it still doesn’t matter because “oh their rich, they have stylist, they did it just for a fad”. I’ll be the first one to say that if I was stacking paper I probably wouldn’t touch my hair…ever. Also, many of yall have been rocking weaves, wraps, and kool aid dyed fades for 20 plus years and went natural for different reasons – alopecia, chemotherapy, look better with big hair, courage, convincing, a bet, a bad sew in, wanting to be an example to other lil brown girls, went with their personality, personal growth,just to get a fresh start, had a psychotic episode and decided that they wanted to cut their hair.
This must be only on the internet because I wear my hair pin straight in the winter, have lush bantu knot outs in the spring, and get Senegalese twist down to my booty in the summer and have yet to have an actual human being look at me with quizzical eyes or a puzzled face when I told them I was natural… honestly.
Crazy since I know plenty of women that have never touched concealer or a foundation brush in their life (I am one of them). And even some that don’t own make up of any sort (Not one of them). For different reasons – some weren’t raised around people that wear make up, some don’t know how to put make up on, some because have a “revolutionary” or feel as though men walk around with scars, acne marks, zits, all day but don’t have to worry about “concealing” it. IF I wanted to I could say that whatever woman that wears make up of any sort on a daily bases and does not show us the way she looks as if all she did was roll out of bed and wash her face has “low self esteem” blah blah blah. But I know that everyone is different and when I wake up the only person who’s reflection is in the mirror is my own, not the next chic.
But that is the beauty about being a woman, the fact that I can CHOOSE to wear make up as oppose to a man may be accused of cross dressing for wearing makeup. I can choose to wear eyeliner to make my eyes pop and fake lashes, because I have choices. And I believe that is how BLACK hair should be treated – rejoicing in the beauty that I can choose to fry my hair until its straight when wet, braid it so tight the my eyes slant, pick it with a tangle teeze until my SSK become split ends, spend ridiculous amounts of money on murumuru butter (which I have) and oil from bird feathers all day until me credit card bills begin to have bills, use my EBT to buy avocados and the whole damn produce dept. if I wanted, blend until there isnt a bump, lump in sight…ONLY to put it on my hair and leave it on overnight with a slight fear that the ants will carry me away in my sleep and treat my hair like a silk suit every night ritualistically with candles and chants just to cut it all off the next day and face the world as I am.
But i guess natural hair doesn’t mean freedom. And people shouldn’t have options… I am finally enlightened.
Wow! Some people get really ridiculous with their commenting. It’s ok for everyone to have and state their opinions. It’s a free world baby!
So my only issue with the celebrities rocking their naturals is that they only do it on social media. It’s a trend. We don’t know if they really take care of their hair. AND if they wore it out, I’m certain the results would be different. Most people will have ahead full of hair if they keep it in (well maintained) weaves all the time. That doesn’t mean it would thrive just as much without the constant weaving.
Whatevs! It’s their prerogative. But I’m not doing cartwheels!
We don’t know if you really take care of yours either. lol So what are you really saying?
I agree the results would probably be different because most of them have no clue how to take care of their real hair so if she did decide to wear her “long” “natural” hair out it might not stay that way for very long….
@10pcwithsweettea, next time you want to write a long comment like this please call publishing clearing house to write a book instead…lawdy
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Say that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You sound like me!!!!! Nuff said!!!!!
That was a monologue, but I read it all. Some enlightening points.
um this is america. and the internet. aint nobody got time for this long ass comment about hair. I mean, a comment that long better be about politics, making money, or a petition to build a well in africa. About hair?!? girl, bye.
Really??!!! What a long, ranting diatribe about NOTHING!!!!!
That I’ve had lil girls tell me how “pretty” my hair was only when i straightened it or to have men tell me how sexy i am only because my hair is a certain length…
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And what is this hip-hop lady telling those lil girls? Even if you’re rich and powerful you still have to hide your ‘real’ hair under an expensive weave. That your’real’ hair is unattractive and hard to deal with so spending all day and all your money on weaves is the key to success.
Seriously, that’s many teenagers are begging for creamy crack and/or a weave.
….*looks at article, that wasnt even an article, for the comments* wellll, if anyone out there cares for a simpleton’s opinion, this is really unnecessary.. whether they wear weaves for the style, grow their hair, or just too lazy/ doesnt have time to manage their own hair reaallly isnt our problem..well its not mine…i mean, if you want to take a lesson from this, take it for yourself, like, “oh so she hid her hair from the elements”, thats good or, “hm, i wonder what products she uses on her hair” since she mentioned that in the hashtag, but… its obvious.. whether she’s showingoff the hair or not, atleast she’s taking care of it…we should all be thinking of ways we can do the same…ahh alot of words for a simpleton..i know…so sue me
I agree… Whatever she is doing it is working..
Look out! we have entered the year of the HIDDEN FRO – more celeb selfies will inundate us as their afros evolve
I would LOVE if Chris Rock did a “Good Hair: Part 2”. It would be interesting to hear from the horses mouth [no pun intended] why no only celebrities, but other people chose to wear weaves, wigs, extensions, etc instead of their natural hair, especially since there is soooo much more information out there on natural hair.
Am I the only person that doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with her wearing weave? I wear straight wigs 75% of the time, not because I’m embarrassed by my natural hair but because I’d like to keep my hair protected.
I get so tired of this “Holier than thou” attitude where people feel like they’re MORE natural because they wear their fros out. Just because I don’t shout it from the mountaintops doesn’t mean that I’m ashamed of my natural hair!!!!
JEEEEEEZE!!!!
You don’t see nothing wrong with it cause you yourself wear weaves a lot as well. What is so wrong with telling a woman her natural hair looks better than a weave? Why has it become so socially acceptable to wear faux hair so often in the black community? Wearing a wig or weave doesn’t make you less natural but it does make one go hmm to see so many of us not just here in the U.S but in Africa and abroad hide their away to ” protect” it. It is WEIRD. Yes other races wear them too from time to time but not on the massive scale that we do. Weaves and wigs can be fun and a nice brake from the ordinary day to day hair styles we do but come on now wearing one ALL the time? Especially when as the pic above shows The person has plenty of hair to work with.
I agree! I don’t understand why it’s important to wear your hair a certain way to make someone else feel better. I wear hair extensions just as much as I do my natural hair, but I wear it for myself not other people. Natural hair does take more time for me personally and I’ve been natural all of my life so I know the ins and outs of my hair. Only I do my natural hair and my hair extensions, as I love my hair so much that I don’t want anyone to touch it lol. I really don’t like the “Holier than thou” attitude either. They’re not the one doing these celebrities’ hair regularly or know their schedules. If people want good role models for younger people then they should be one themselves rather than hoping for a celebrity, that may already have a bad reputation for whatever reasons. Plus it’s just hair. What’s underneath the scalp is more important, the mind.
I agree I say do you! I’m about 50/50 with the natural to weave ration…. Which is what I love because sometimes I want my hair to be straight and I’m not going to damage my real hair so I get a weave. Sometimes I want to rock longer hair so I get a weave. Sometimes I want big hair so I wear my hair… Options are great!
SEVERAL Times in my journey I’ve worn wigs a lot as well, probably about 40% of the time. I have two of them to be exact. So I get what you’re saying about wanting to protect your hair. But I have to also add, that the more I started wearing my OWN hair out the more I started to feel true to myself. I wanted people to meet me with my own hair, my co workers, my friends, to see who I really am exactly the way God put me on this earth. I’ve gotten to the point where I won’t even wear them anymore because I don’t feel true to myself anymore. It makes me personally feel like I’m being fake or someone that I’m not, and i hate feeling that way. Ive grown to truly love my au natural self, kinky, coiled, shrinkage, short hair, and all and I think that’s where a lot of people are coming from when celebrities choose to never show their natural hair. Either way it goes, I’m sure you are beautiful with your wig and without and so is Yandy.
Keep it under wraps! I’d rather NOT see natural hair associated with the ratchet behavior on those shows.
I’m not sure why this site always chooses to showcase celebrity women who either view their natural hair as a freakish novelty or really dislike it. Look at those hash tags, I doubt she wants to be featured on a site like this.
Why doesn’t she cut it off? If its so hard for her to manage why deal with it if you wear weave 24/7? I don’t understand…
If she only knew how much freedom comes with Natural hair!
Celebrities are undercover naturals because their aren’t enough stylist who specialize in natural hair. Most black women are JUST now starting to actually figure out how to take care of it. We’ve all been lost since birth, our mother’s and their mother’s had no clue what to do. Things will change years from now, when black women aren’t ashamed, but rather proud of the uniqueness in what God gave them. I’m sure all of us were once told our hair was unmanageable, nappy, etc. We’re all on a journey, as women. SO the time will come when our hair becomes “acceptable”, and those European standards will be thrown to the way side. Just a matter of time… We all know PATIENCE is key.
Exactly! They probably have no idea who the next person is that is going to do their hair or how knowledgeable the stylist is on black hair. They are better off playing it safe!
Well Yandy lives in New York, no? There are many natural stylists in New York she could go to.
Maybe you should give her a list…
Fefe I get what you’re saying about stylists. I have heard A LOT of horror stories at the salon. However, if this woman has the status and money, I don’t see why she can’t find a stylist who is talented. A person doesn’t have to be black or specialize in natural hair to know how to work thick, curly hair. I once thought I’d only go to a black salon too. In November I got my hair cut by a man who is a hair wizard. He is white. He is simply an extremely talented hair stylist. I’m a broke college student without fame. So I really don’t see an excuse for celebrities with connections, fame, and money to not find someone to do their natural hair. They do always find someone to do their weave though. Hmmmm…. Anyway, If anyone out there is in Philadelphia and needs the haircut of a lifetime, see James Brown hair salon. Ask for James.
That’s true but, you must have experience to deal with thick Kinky hair which is different then having curly hair…
I think you are mistaking the fact that kinky hair is actually curly, but the curls are very small. I have what naturals call 4c hair. I know that any well trained and unprejudiced stylist will know how to work anything from straight hair to an afro.
Are you willing to take the risk with any stylist? I wouldn’t be willing to… Also not all kinky hair is curly. I have the tiniest of corkscrews and I also have hair that’s like a cotton ball no curl pattern… there are differences and not everyone’s head is the same.
LOL its possible her hair could be relaxed tho, i used to do fros with my relaxed hair b4 i went natural, we wont really know if he havn’t touched or actually seen the hair b4.on a lighter note i love how big the hair issss FIERCE
I saw a younger picture of Yandy and her hair is fierce!!
If it’s too much work, cut it off or get it done professionally. #toomuchwork is SO old, especially when the audience you’re trying to appeal to is natural, working, going to school, caring for kids, etc.. all the things she does too. Time to find a new reason she’s keeping her hair under 10lbs of weave.
Well seeing how she is doing the same things as everyone else, she thinks saying its too much work is acceptable. After all its her time and her head. I agree maybe she should cut her hair. Maybe she’ll consider it.
I think if you can stand to get your hair braided in small tiny sometimes painful braids and then deal with someone sewing a tight weave for about 2-3 hours to then endure about 3-5 days of a sore head…..You can the time to get a good natural hair stylist…NO? But I guess its whatever she prefers but to me saying natural hair is too much work and not a weave is somewhat odd. Weaves are very high maintenance. I am sure she doesn’t just wake up and brush or comb her weave and then be on her way???
I agree. You have to treat your weave like it is royalty. I don’t have time for that.
I don’t wear wigs or weaves but when I read the kind of maintenance involved with upkeep, I say no thank you, I never will. I’d rather spend the time dealing with my natural hair, not someone else’s.
Thats actually true. Some people don’t take care of their weave and that’s why they get them but those who actually take care of them plus the hair underneath realize weaves aren’t easy. Especially at super long lengths.
Because she can. She said it herself. Too much work. I think that she should cut it and be done with it, she won’t have to do too much to it, but she is also someone that wants long hair, but she doesn’t want to do the work to wear it out. It is lovely hair though.
For me weaves were expensive and I found myself taking more care of the weave then just my regular hair, so I haven’t had one since. I like braids and twist better. I’ve never really been a wig person, but I wouldn’t rule it out.
Natural hair is hard to make look as good as you want…it does take a lot of effort and dedication to wear it beautifully. For these reasons I’m locking my hair…the less fuss the better..pineapples don’t work and it’s not ideal to twist every night, these things must be done in order for me to look like something to be attracted to…wrapping relaxed hair took 2 minutes, twisting takes 20… I’ll look for other natural options! I completely understand why some choose to tame with weaves and wigs…
Well I grew up in the era where women used to put rollers in their hair and slept on them, so taking 15-20 minutes is no big deal to me. I guess if you are used to wrapping your hair in 2 minutes, it does seem like a chore. Actually I usually do it while watching TV.
back when i was natural, but i wore weaves all the time (basically ever since i was 13)i found taking care of a weave to be expensive and annoying. I mean after a week it looked like a hot mess but because it costs 200 dollars, to buy and install, it had to stay on my head for atleast 3 months, looking a mess. Back then i also thought that my natural hair was hard to take care of. But now that i’ve been rocking my natural hair, consciously, for about a year, i find it to be a NBD. RN it’s going through a stage where it’s no longer standing up but it’s laying down. But it’s still too short to be laying down so i look weird. But i have no problem i can rock a morehawk, or just wear my hair in a pony tail with a cute braid in the front. I’ve realized that whatever it is, you can make it work, with your hair. And it costs waaay less than 200 dollars a month.
I got a weave my Junior year of Highs School. I just wanted to try a different look. I absolutely HATED IT! I had it in for 1 month and I took it out. I felt bad because my grandmother paid for it, but all I need was that one experience to se me straight that I did not want to wear a weave again.
I’m over this, boring…
Weave is cool but what is the point in growing all that hair and never (well hardly ever) letting anyone see it? I mean I can understand using weaves for protective styling but to me it seems silly to do so when your hair is covered up for more than 9 months out of the year.
And maybe it’s just me but combing and styling natural hair really isn’t that difficult. So why people keep saying that they wear a weave because they don’t wanna do anything to it?
Well seriously feel that its cause they don’t know or want to take the time to be gentle with our hair. I remember when I was little my dad would comb my hair and he would rack that comb through my hair. The rule of combing tip to root never hit his eardrum. He would put that 70’s style metal comb to the roots and rack it on back. Literally by covering it their hands aren’t in their hair possibly breaking their hair off and what not because they don’t know how to be gentle. Maybe they feel that they are doing their hair a favor. I don’t know.
She didn’t say it was her natural hair, she said it was her real hair.
Would look great with a twist out either way….so over these sneak peeks into hair celebs feel needs to be hidden though.
Thank you! Like come on. We want to see their real hair more often
I personally don’t care what their real hair is once I’ve seen it I’m like, “Oh its hair”. Its like Kim’s Hair from Real Housewives of Atlanta. She is white, but everyone was obsessed over her real hair. Then you see it and you are like “Oh, that’s it”?! Seeing a celebs real hair for me isn’t a NEED to see.
Oh okay. Well personally I enjoy seeing more diversity in Hollywood. I feel like we see enough straight hair. Nothing is wrong with straight hair but I want to see something different. I want teenage black girls not to feel like they have to be ashamed of the texture of their hair. Representation makes a huge a difference imo
And that’s where “we” come in. Every day we are rocking our natural hair, we are motivating girls around us and telling them that its ok. That natural hair is beautiful. It’s diverse. And yes, we could wear it in public with our heads held high.
If we keep on waiting for celebrities to do the same, we are all going to be waiting for a llooonnggg time.
Shoot, I’m sure most of these celebrities are envious of us ladies who can walk around freely with our natural hair with pride.
I think most celebrities (i.e Models/Actresses) don’t wear their natural hair b/c of ongoing work changes. Every event, show, gig may require a different look. They would much rather have a wig take that excessive heat, color, cut, etc than their natural hair.
except you NEVER see them wear it out. it’s probably a mix of convenience and strong preference (especially when everyone else around you has straight hair or some type of weave).
Tyra has worn her hair out a few times, but you know its never news worthy.
I cant stand when women say natural hair is “too much” work or “I dont have the patience for my hair”. But yet so many women dont think its too much work to run in behind sorry men that dont want them, or its not too much work to engage in other negative activities. They can do everything else but their hair is a problem? Really, these women have more patience than they think they do, shoot, we all do, if we can have babies,work, take care of families and do everything else on the side we can do our hair. We make time for what we love, and I just want black women to love their hair. She does have pretty hair by the way.
Baby YOU KNOW YOU AIN’T LYING!!!!!
Agree! I believe people assume it’s hard because for decades we’ve been dealing with relaxed hair and ‘taking care’ of someone else’s hair on our head – this, unfortunately, is what comes “natural” to us. Anything outside of that is going to seem alien and ‘too much effort.’ Of course having a wig is “easier” – you take it off at night and simply replace it when it starts to resemble a birds nest. *rolls eyes*
Now for celebrities, I understand to an extent. Their job would likely involve too much manipulation on their natural hair. HOWEVER, never wearing it in it’s natural state? That’s simply a choice and I don’t believe it has anything to with their natural hair being too much effort. Don’t see many of these celebs wearing wigs/weaves which resemble their real hair either.
She looks so much better!!!
well said
*Chuuuurch
Some of our hair can be a chore especially if you’re not used to wearing it out. I’ve been natural for 4 years and I’m not a protective style wearing lady because I don’t think they look great on me. But, I find the busier with working full-time and school I am the more “work” my hair seems to take/need from me. So instead of neglecting my natural hair I will add a weave to give me more time to devote to my studies.
And now that I am expecting my first child I’m constantly tired and I don’t have the time to deal with my hair nightly. Mind you I have 4b/c VERY DENSE hair that’s APL hair… I’ve gotten to the point where I’m trying figure out what to do with during my last trimester.
I wen through something like this when it was taking me 3 to 4 hrs a week to wash, condition, treat, dry, and style my hair….I really wanted to shave my head I was so frustrated and annoyed…I don’t wear wigs or weaves, and I”m allergic to braid hair, and the constant bunning was starting to damage the hair around the perimeters of my head. I eventually had to go to a salon. I needed a break. I went twice in 2 weeks, got a treatment, and a trim, and now Im back to feeling like I could handle my own hair again.
It might be the styles you want to wear require more work, but natural hair does not require more work. I don’t wear protective styles and have been natural for about three years and I don’t think I spend anymore time than I did when I relaxed, other than wash day. But is because of the routine I choose to follow.
I don’t wear intricate styles…. That’s the last thing I would ever do. It’s that my hair needs to moisturized daily and when it get dried out it tangles like no ones business and I must take extra time and care to deal with that. My hair is very very very dense, I have tons of strands that I need need to care for.
I think its too much for them because in all truthfulness I don’t think they know how. You know with the texture and curls and/or kinks, so instead of taking the time to reintroduce themselves to their hair, they do a quick fix. I’ll admit When you are newly natural I know for me because I transitioned I didn’t big chop, it was time consuming cause I had to get the use to the 2 textures and get them to play nice with one another. I usually played with my hair on the weekend cause I had more time to try stuff and wash it out and so on and so forth. On the weekdays I pretty much wore head bands or ponytails. she probably does love her hair, not having patience to figure how your hair acts doesn’t mean you don’t love your hair, it means you’re lazy.
As for the negative things that women are so patient to work through to keep or have or what not. 1. That’s none of my business and its not for me to judge. 2. Its different degrees of motivation. Running after a POS dude isn’t patience its low self esteem, co-dependent problems etc. People stick with things for different reasons other than patience. I mean you have to be MORE patient to get a weave rather than doing your hair, but if that’s what they want to do, then ok its their money. Maybe one day she’ll make time to get reacquainted with her hair, but I guess for her, now is not the time.
Ooooooooo!!!! You went there?!! That was good, girl. That was GOOOOOOOOOOOD!
[dies of laughter]
the reason she doesnt rock her natural hair is because she likes 40 inches of bone straight Indonesian hair on her head instead…
Right lol she has enough money to pay for weave and installs but not enough to pay a natural hair stylist to help her out? Not buying that story ma’am
lmfao get em’!!!
Listen I’m not going to judge someone harshly on their hair choices. Lets not forget that a large percentage of natural hair ladies (meaning women who don’t have relaxers, weave or not) became that way after giving their damaged hair a break with weaves. Women like it for many reasons, but I believe one of the biggest is convenience because so many black women do not know how to take care of their hair without it breaking, because its hard to do with a relaxer. I know many women who wore weaves to grow their hair for the first time in their life past their shoulders and it was the one thing that worked for them without them ruining it. They went natural by accident and it was just what they needed to push them into a new transition. I believe many weave wearers get to this bridge, and eventually let the weave go. But its a transition, and it takes getting to a certain place in life before being ready for it. Not an excuse, but simply another perspective of understanding.
I think the majority of naturals who were once relaxed quickly forget how long it took them to transition to be natural AND how long it took them to be able to do their own natural hair with EASE…. It’s a process.
I’m not here to judge but, I’m just saying…..