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Yes, BGLH Is Coming Back… But I’m Done Writing About Racial Aggressions Against Black Women

Avatar • Jun 8, 2017

Hey. So I know I did a little ‘Michelle Phan’ there, aka disappearing completely from my online platform. The reason is that I was just burnt out and exhausted. And a lot of that had to do with the direction BGLH was going in content wise.

I’ve been doing BGLH since April 2008. In March 2015 I decided to include more culture coverage into the platform. And at first things were fine. But over time I came to feel that “culture coverage” was becoming “a meticulous catalogue of racial aggressions against black women including but not limited to erasure by beauty brands, cultural appropriation and racist marketing.” I felt that I was just waiting for the next big scandal to drop, so I could then write about it. And it was eroding my soul.

And it wasn’t just eroding me, it was eroding my reader base. The scandalous stories are the ones that get the clicks, but many longtime fans were telling me that they could no longer log onto BGLH for fear of what they’d find. My platform — that for years had been a safe and comfortable beauty space — was becoming just another trigger in a culture that methodically preys on black women’s self-esteem.

I didn’t plan on taking a break from BGLH. In my 9 years of doing this I haven’t missed more than a couple weeks at a time, and even then that was with advanced notice. But I hit a breaking point and I just couldn’t take it.

Shortly after I stopped writing in April, the whole ‘Shea Moisture having white girls talk about hair hate’ thing broke out. And I was honestly so relieved that I wasn’t blogging regularly, because I wouldn’t have to write about it.

When I initially envisioned BGLH it was supposed to be a site that celebrated the beauty and dopeness of natural hair. This gradually segued into a site that celebrated all things ‘black girl beautiful.’ Somewhere along the way it became a discussion of all things ‘black girl traumatized.’

So I’m done. I’m closing that chapter and moving forward.

After discussing with my writing team (the lovely Portia, Elle and Chinwe), I’ve decided that July 1 will be our ‘reset and refresh’ date (if I’m thirsty, and I kinda am, I might sneak in some posts before that.) I’ll go back to updating regularly, although the posting rate will drop a bit. I’m going to start out with just 4 articles a week as I get back into the swing. And we’ll continue our journey from there.

Thanks for being patient with me. Thanks to those of you who emailed me or called to make sure I was okay. I’m excited to be back.

Much love,
Leila

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Brittany
Brittany
3 years ago

you shouldn’t stop at all about the bashing black women receive I for one love your articles, and a closed mouth will only hinder the nation don’t stop writing the truth, it happens, exhaustion and thinking your not getting anywhere with the subject, you don’t realize that your speaking to black women who embrace your words. that in turn turns into more people listening to what we see from the words of wisdom you gave us. I do urge you to write about other things but don’t stop that.

Nikki
Nikki
3 years ago

You have my support! One reason I liked this site was because it had a lot of positive messages. So many sites dedicated to black women are all misery and despair. Yes, bad things happen to black women, but there are a lot of good things happening also. I refuse to go on the sites you mentioned above because its a constant dose of misery. I do not understand how anyone reads it on a regular basis.

It would be nice to hear positive stories and information on opportunities to advance black women.

Michelle
Michelle
3 years ago

I for one absolutely understand where you’re coming from and I wholeheartedly agree. I am proud of you for not only making the necessary decision to take a step back, take a break and pin point your feelings as well as prioritize what you want this site to get back to being but also for bravely sharing it with us. Bless you all

TWA4now
TWA4now
3 years ago

Excellent! Glad to hear it and welcome you all back, strong, long, and refreshed! It’s important to take a break and keep and reflect on the real purpose of what BGLH is really all about.

LaShon Renee
3 years ago

Welcome back! I for one remember the old BGLH, and I loved it. I know things have to progress and change but covering inspirational stories is more productive as we have too much bad news.

Dee
Dee
3 years ago

I support this entirely for all the reasons stated in the article.

BlBeau
BlBeau
3 years ago

Yes, thank you!! I admit I was one of those readers who stopped coming as frequently because I was scared to read something that would ruin my day. Escapism has it’s own value; I’m glad BGLH is going back to being a place which focuses on the positive.

Melba Pearson-Mecham
3 years ago

Much respect for your new direction. In this very toxic time we are in, we have to find ways to practice self care and uplift ourselves (as well as each other). Do what you feel is best for you — I’ll keep reading!

del
del
3 years ago

Glad you’re ok! I didn’t mind the changes BGLH made over the years; I was, and still plan to be, a regular reader. After seeing other bloggers go through burnout, I completely understand why you had to step away, but it’s nice that you can change your blog’s direction if you have to, start again, and go from there.

I can’t wait to see what’s next.

Carolyn
Carolyn
3 years ago

Thank you -

LBell
LBell
3 years ago

Your site, your choice. I’m just glad you’re still here. (Been refreshing my page for the last couple of months thinking there was something wrong with my browser, lol.)

Crystal Danielle Williams
Crystal Danielle Williams
3 years ago

So glad to hear it! Glad you’re okay, had us worried a bit for a minute there.

Onetallgirl
Onetallgirl
3 years ago

I’m glad you stopped posting all those racial agression article, it was depressing I stopped visiting your site for a while because it was getting to be too much. I want you to go back to writing articles about maintaining natural hair and the trending protective styles.

Nneka
Nneka
3 years ago

Maybe in early 2016 or late 2015 I really got despondent about reading those race based articles. I just felt that there was so much hate and I got tired of it. So I only read the hair articles. It’s a welcomed change.

alison hilaire
alison hilaire
3 years ago

I’m glad you’re ok!!!? I totally understand the change. Our thoughts create our reality. Being constantly exposed to bad news makes you feel like the world is doomed. So you become hopeless, even if you are surronded by love from friends or family. I think it is still possible to address this topic, but from the perspective of hope and overcoming instead of defeat and despair.

Ada
Ada
3 years ago

Yass, I missed yall more natural hair stuff please for the future or whatever your comfortable with ???

Daphne
Daphne
3 years ago

I completely feel you. Constant negativity wears away the soul. It’s why I don’t follow every minutiae of the Trump administration. It’s why I sometimes tune out when there’s an umpteenth story about a black person getting killed by police or a woman being sexually assaulted or some other horrible story. It’s good to stay informed and be aware of the world around you, but if you allow yourself to be consumed by the negative aspects of our society, eventually you will break down and just go crazy. Living your day-to-day existence is already enough of a challenge when you’re… Read more »

kia
kia
3 years ago

Glad to see you’re refocusing. I really missed the natural hair articles. I remember coming to this site every single day *excited* to read new hair articles.

Soph
Soph
3 years ago

So happy to read this! I haven’t been on BGLH for a long time for this reason, and just now I came back because of an old link to a style icon I wanted to look at again now that my hair is getting longer. This was one of my go-to web surf websites and I’m looking forward to seeing more inspiration (personal and hair-related) on here again in July 🙂

Rayven
Rayven
3 years ago

Glad to get an update on the site. But, what’s the saying ” if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”, once you navigated from your original topic and foundation, NATURAL HAIR you lost your readers interest because this site became another gossip blog, which are a dime dozen. This website 5 yrs was best site to visit for all things natural hair, sadly those days are over.

Melinda
Melinda
3 years ago

So glad you’re back, your blog is the reason I went natural! IVE issued those regular updates. So much great info and inspiration…looking forward to the new direction!!

Dee
Dee
3 years ago

I completely understand. The ancestors did not suffer trough trails only to have us get stuck in negative space now. Resets are a good and needed thing. Thank you for your discernment and self reflection — a life lesson for Black women in times of trouble.
Allow me to reset Longfellow — “The heights by great (wo)men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.”
Carry on my sister!

Ticha
Ticha
3 years ago

Sis i was worried.. I kept refreshing my page because i didnt see any new articles.…glad u and the team are back!

RunningRaindrop
RunningRaindrop
3 years ago

Thank you for seeing this. I have been a reader of BGLH since it’s inception and I loved it! I am a black woman but I am not an angry one, I love myself enough to not let the ins and outs of life drag me down. Lately all of this angry reporting on platforms I loved has had me on edge and I have heard black women saying that they were just waiting for a white man or woman to mess up so they could set them straight. All of this anger has been turning is in to the… Read more »

Amber
Amber
3 years ago

Leila, thank you for your honesty. I kept checking the site to see if there were any new posts and had figured that bglh was taking a vacation. I recently ordered some Shea butters from the online store and was relieved to see it was still open .Sometimes we need step back and reexamine our plans, just to make sure that we are still on track. That’s a normal life process. Can’t wait till ya’ll come back!

Laura
Laura
3 years ago

Glad to hear the site is still going to be running and if you need time for yourself then that’s what you need.
I come to BLGH for the hair advice and inspo so I’ll be glad to see a return to that- it did become a bit depressing to always read the latest racial aggression.
Look forward to the new post!
xx

Thetruthisoutthere
Thetruthisoutthere
3 years ago

Thank you — I look forward to renewing my journey with you. Thank you for your candor and introspection.

Lenoire
Lenoire
3 years ago

Thank you so much for this I am new to this site I miss you tremendously I am a 50 year old black woman and I’m so honored there is a site for black women and you are correct please stick to your agenda do not get sidetracked by Propaganda we need you tremendously everything must be organized thought-provoking passion-driven loving nurturing spicy colorful and strong it must be our truth as a Sisterhood tribe

June
June
3 years ago

So um..does that mean style icons might make a comeback?

Epiphany
Epiphany
3 years ago
Reply to  June

please lawd yes

Lita
Lita
3 years ago

Excellent excellent. Thank you

Ambmil
Ambmil
3 years ago

Really great to hear. There are already so many outlets for reading about and discussing controversy and not nearly enough for positive celebration of our joys and frank conversations about our everyday struggles.

Mimi
Mimi
3 years ago

yes! I love the ocus on uplifting black women’s beauty!! Yes hair care articles!! Do self-care too!

SelfCareIsBestCare
SelfCareIsBestCare
3 years ago

Glad you took the time you needed to reassess and take a personal inventory. Kudos for that.

Kristin
3 years ago

I needed to read this today! I have a website and yesterday wrote a short story about an incident I had over the weekend with some white people, and I got the most visits to my site ever… and I was like well damn, maybe I should add this as a whole category (cuz microagressions a plenty).

Your post reminded me that to stay the course. If it’s relevant, post about it, but do not write and share only because it seems to be what people want to read. So glad you are back and feeling better.

Joy
Joy
3 years ago

I’m with you on that. I’m so tired of reading stories about racism against black women that it’s just ridiculous. I feel that the media is pulling race card for me than I am. And I’m the one who’s black here!!!! I just want to get up in the morning and go to work and not spend the entire day reminding the entire world that I’m black woman. I mean if you can’t see that I’m a black woman then I need you to get glasses.

Lakia Nichole
3 years ago

I totally understand where you’re coming from. As a blogger myself, I have also decided to change the direction of my blog. I recently got rid of most of my content about celebrities/entertainment, because I felt I was drifting away from writing content that I felt was most important to my readers. I was also sucked into creating content that was scandalous in nature and emotionally exhausting, because it gave me hits. I no longer want to add to the destruction of black images on social media. As a blogger, it is my responsibility to create quality content that reflects… Read more »

Bellanaija
Bellanaija
3 years ago

I’m so glad you’re moving in a positive direction and focusing more on uplifting stories- stories that build us up instead of adding to the noise that is already out there. I was one of your loyal readers that had to step away a few years ago because of the points you mentioned- it was emotionally exhausting and draining. I voiced these concerns as well in the comments section. I’m glad you’re back and refocused!!!! Peace and light to you.

Charity
Charity
3 years ago

I am so glad to hear there will be a shift. I had to stop reading the posts because it just felt like a constant source of negative energy. I am positive that I unsubscribed a long time ago, so I am surprised that I received an email today.

Marilyn
Marilyn
3 years ago

When I started my HHGJ, BGLH was one of the first places I felt I could come because as an educator by career, I’m always in learning mode when I want to increase my understanding. The Style Icons and the sharing of the hair journeys kept me coming back. along with the other articles that made me see the beauty in women coming together to support each other. I’m looking forward to all the exciting plans BGLH will have to offer to its readers:)!

Donna
Donna
3 years ago

I’m glad you are doing well. Keep doing what you are doing & take care of yourself. Peace

Epiphany
Epiphany
3 years ago

Can we also bring back all the hair types that exist within the rich beautiful tapestry of black women? I would love to see all of us represented again like the site use to be back in the day. I miss the profiles of sisters sharing their regimes for their hair. I referred most of my hair clients here to help them on their journey to knowing and loving their hair as it was one of the best resources for curl knowledge.

Crystal Antoinette
Crystal Antoinette
3 years ago

YES!!! Thank you for following your conscience and choosing to focus on all that is right and beautiful about black women. Overjoyed.

Joy McCracken
Joy McCracken
3 years ago

I understand your point of view and thank you for being so candid and honest. I enjoy your blog and my family loves your shea butter products! I liked the information that was provided even if it was hurtful to read it was informative. But, I understand because it’s simply hard to deal will all the time, and hurtful. However, I love your blog and will continue to await the natural hair care beauty tips. Thank you for creating a space for us to be ‘one’ and united and together. If I can offer some advice, sometimes it may just… Read more »

La Bandita
La Bandita
3 years ago

I understand and its because everyone is already tearing Black women down, so you don’t need to join. But catch Black women doing great things. The Olympics is an example where we saw Black Americans, Afro Latinas, Afro Caribe, Africans and European Black women winning and owning their blackness from across the globe. No one picked up on that. That afro Brazilian woman after her win was like said, “I am Black woman an proud”. That was very, very unifying for us non American blacks. And catch black women being great, falling in love etc — no one else is… Read more »

Rachel
Rachel
3 years ago

I am so happy to hear that! I haven’t logged to your blog in over a year, as I couldn’t take reading articles with so much negativity in them. I understand why you went down that route; denouncing injustices and raising awareness about the various forms racism against us takes is important. But having a place that celebrates us, when it is still too rare, is just as important, if not more. Your blog is what inspired me to go natural, back in 2008, and I was always looking forward to visiting it because of the positivity surrounding a part… Read more »

Ogin
Ogin
3 years ago

Welcome back! I’m so glad to hear you’re going back to your roots. I have to admit, I used to check the website daily, but stopped once it became scandal after scandal. This new start will be good for all of us.

JBL
JBL
3 years ago

Oh my gosh, you listened. I hadn’t been here in months and ended up here by clicking a cloaked URL shortener link. I posted about the black woman hating topics on this site a while back and quite a few ppl agreed with me. There are few safe spaces for black women online and coming here for hair advice only to be bombarded with stories of how much ppl hate us was depressing and soul crushing. I don’t need to hear, see and read every negative story about what Becky and Biff think of us. Screw them. I avoid black… Read more »

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