Franchesca Ramsey just initiated an important conversation on the fetishizing of mixed kids. In a recent Youtube video, the actress and TV personality, who is married interracially, expressed trouble at how people obsess over the appearance of her future children. She pointed out how fetishizing bi-racial children often goes hand in hand with rejecting blackness and, consequently rejecting bi-racial people who look phenotypically black. Perhaps most enlightening was her Snapchat snippets from bi-racial men and women who she invited to finish the sentence, “I am a bi-racial person who…” The responses are eye opening;
“I’m a biracial person who had to grow up in sort of a tug-of-war and all my life had to defend my identity in a world that’s so obsessed with binary.”
“I am a biracial person who, throughout my entire life has been asked, ‘What are you?’ In a really, like, condescending way, and it’s really infuriating.”
“I’m a biracial person who doesn’t like being told they’re either/or.”
“I’m a biracial person who often wishes that I didn’t have two cultures to choose from, I only had one.”
“I am a biracial person who has yet to find any community that completely accepts me.”
“I’m a biracial person who is not exotic.”
“I am a mixed-race Japanese-American who’s constantly told I’m not “really Asian”. It’s just this weird obsession with purity with people literally using the word “pure” and “real” and it’s like, ‘Okay what does that leave me?’ ”
“I am a biracial person who is tired of being told that I have to choose which race I have to identify as, and being told that when I identify as being Black and White, that I can only identify as Black.”
“I’m a biracial person who has been told that I’m not really Hispanic, because I don’t look like it.”
“I’m a biracial person who is Latina and black and it’s kind of hard to identify with either or both of those because I’m not black enough or Latina enough.”
“I’m a biracial person who took 26 of her 29 years of life to learn to love both sides of who she is.”
Although the statements are short, they give honest insight into the biracial experience. And this is NOT to say that the biracial experience is fundamentally tragic. It isn’t. However, as interracial partnering increases in America, biracial identity becomes a larger part of the cultural conversation, and that conversation should be meaningful and not based on fetishizing.
Watch the full video below.
Ladies, what are your thoughts? Biracial and multiracial ladies, can you speak to your experiences?