Hot on the tail of Bonnet-gate 2015 with Real Housewives of Atlanta couple Todd and Kandi, we decided it would be nice to have a real world opinion of bonnets in the bedroom. Does the use of a satin bonnet really stop the show? Or can you throw on Ginuwine- “So Anxious” and proceed like nobody’s business. We had our writers survey their significant others to get the low-down on how they really feel about bonnets in the bedroom! And they did not hold back! Two questions were asked:
1. If I was wearing a bonnet at night, would that stop you from wanting to have sex?
2. Does the presence of the bonnet decrease your sexual appetite at all?
Peep the responses below!
1. No (in a confused voice)
2. No (in a confused voice with a confused expression). Who answered yes to these questions??
1. As a man madly in love with his wife, a bonnet is too insignificant to destroy my sex life. However I must admit, during my first year of marriage, I (and every man for that matter) imagined sex to be like the Hollywood motion pictures always portrayed it to be: perfect hair, perfect makeup, perfect timing…every time! But as I matured in my marriage, I learned quickly that those expectations were too unrealistic and too demanding for a sustainable, healthy marriage.
2. Occasionally, when she wears the bonnet it can be a “party pooper”. Especially when my wife and I return from a romantic evening where she looked so gorgeous that she captured the attention of everyone, only to return home to hide all the “glory” that I had been fantasizing about all evening. Men are visual creatures and a bonnet doesn’t always turn us on. But a bonnet wouldn’t cause me to not want to make love to my wife. That’s silly.
[My husband refers to any hair covering — bonnets, scarves etc as hair socks. I find this very amusing.]
1. You wear a hair sock every night and no it is not a deterrent to me or you.
2. No, I do not really think about the hair sock. It is normal for us to take all articles of clothing off, and the hair sock is one of them. Afterwards, it is my job to find where it landed so you can tie it back on and we can sleep.
1. Nope, it wouldn’t stop me at all. You’re beautiful either way.
2. Seriously, why would it? Touching, feeling, and having contact is way more arousing than hair — whether it’s covered up or not. At the end of the day, sex is for my penis. I’m just saying.
2. “Not a bit, if anything it indicates that she is feeling comfy and open to some snuggling. She’s always beautiful, with or without her hair out but it seems like more play is had when becoming a mess isn’t a concern.”
2. Yes. Reminds me of my grandmother a little bit.
Wrapping it Up (pun not intended)
Wearing a satin bonnet to bed can be a fairly crucial part of one’s personal natural hair regimen. However, if you ever want to go “commando”, for any reason, here are 3 ways to retain moisture at night without a hair bonnet.
Does your significant other express distaste for your bonnet? Do you take it off or let them deal with it? Share your experiences below!