On the third episode of their OWN talk show It’s Not You, It’s Men, singer Tyrese and hip hop veteran Rev. Run had Amber Rose as a guest. She was there to talk about modern romance but things went left when she mentioned her discomfort with constantly being groped by her fans.
The men didn’t show much sympathy and Tyrese made a weird sports analogy to justify the behavior;
“Like, if you see a basketball player and he’s known as a basketball player, you’ll be like, ‘yo, let’s go play ball’ I’m just saying, the comfortability that people find in wanting to touch and grope you – it’s an energy that’s being sent out there that creates that type of response.”
After some back and forth Rose made a definitive statement;
“If I’m laying down with a man, butt naked, and his condom is on, and I say, ‘You know what? No. I don’t want to do this, I changed my mind.’ That means no. That means f‑ing NO. That’s it. It doesn’t matter how far I take it or what I have on, when I say no, it means no.”
Watch how the exchange went down below.
If you swap Amber Rose out for any number of young black men wearing street clothes, and Tyrese and Rev. Run out for, say, respectable old black folks or racist law enforcement, the hypocrisy of the argument becomes exceedingly clear. When Trayvon Martin was gunned down in cold blood, racist folks rushed to blame his attire — a black hoodie pulled up over his head — as well as the fact that he was walking at night.
To say that Martin somehow deserved to be physically harmed because of his attire is completely disgraceful — just like the argument that a woman wearing revealing clothes deserves to be sexually assaulted or raped. In both instances, it is putting the responsibility to not be attacked on the victim while ignoring the predatory behavior of the attacker.
And then there’s this.
“Gotta dress how you want to be treated” pic.twitter.com/kImUOrazAw
— Yo Mama and Yo Cousin Too (@FeministaJones) February 22, 2016
“Let me dictate how women should dress to be respected” pic.twitter.com/LNVjV4mK1v
— ♈️☀️Chief Blocka🌙♌️ (@FeministaJones) February 22, 2016
Ladies, what are your thoughts?