If you frequent social media and blogs, then you’re probably aware that singer Ciara is currently dating Superbowl-winning Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson. They’ve been an item since April 2015 and are often seen out and about together with Ciara’s son, Baby Future, occasionally tagging along. Baby Future’s father and rapper, Future, doesn’t like the idea of Wilson being introduced to his son so early in the relationship and this has sparked an ongoing debate about the right time to introduce your child to a new beau. Photos of Wilson, Ciara, and Baby Future taken at Wilson’s training camp were particularly egregious to men in particular, who took to calling Ciara some unflattering names.
The photos even prompted a series of subliminal tweets from Future himself who then went on the popular morning radio show, The Breakfast Club, to publicly state his disapproval of Ciara introducing baby Future to Wilson too soon:
“Of course I wouldn’t want nobody pushing my son [in a stroller] that’s the number one rule. If I was a kid and my mama had a dude pushing me, I woulda jumped out the stroller and slapped the shit out of him. You never do that in our community. You don’t bring a man around your son. You ain’t even know this dude for a few months and you bringing him around ya kid. Who does that?”
Meanwhile, in an interview on CBS’ The Morning Show, Ciara stated that she was introduced to Future’s other children in the beginning of their relationship and even took care of them. She also mentioned that she did indeed try to reach out to Future regarding Wilson, but he declined to speak with her.
We’ve seen this time and time again. Women leave one relationship and people expect them to wait years before they even think about moving on, let alone introduce a man to their child(ren). This seems to be a common idea amongst the black community, as Future stated in his interview. A black woman who expresses freedom in her romantic life is automatically branded a ‘hoe’ or ‘too fast’. It is as though there is a discomfort with black women expressing responsible choice and agency in the areas of sex, romance and love. Ciara offered this closing remark on the subject:
“I don’t know what more they would expect for me to do than just live my life, and that’s what I’m doing. My son is the most important and the person that loves me.”
Honestly, if this were the other way around, Future wouldn’t receive a quarter of the backlash that Ciara’s receiving. In fact, he’s been spotted with a few women since his split from Ciara and who’s to say that little Future hasn’t seen a woman or two in passing? It’s not like Wilson is some man that is passing through. Ciara is clearly in a committed relationship with him and he appears to be an upstanding man, so it’s not clear why it’s such an issue that her son has been in Wilson’s company.
Ladies, what do you think?