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You Are Lupita

• Mar 10, 2014

by Candace of Kiss My Curls

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Lupita Nyong’o almost wasn’t.

In the past few months, Lupita Nyong’o has taken the world by storm with her grace, beauty, talent and sincerity. She takes pictures with a soft smile and a calm serenity, all the while totally killing a self-selected couture number (the girl has impeccable taste, yo). Every time she opens her mouth, her eloquent, heartfelt words bring tears to EVERYONE’S eyes, even her own. She is basically a perfect human being. I’ve been totally Lupitafied and I don’t ‘eem care.

The deciding moment for me (well, one of them, let’s be honest) was Lupita’s speech at the Essence Black Women in Hollywood luncheon held last week. Standing in a Giambattista Valli ensemble and a perfectly manicured TWA, Lupita stood on stage and in less than 5 minutes took our breath away with the story of her struggle with her night-shaded skin.  During her speech, Lupita recalled how she would pray each night to become lighter and waking up disappointed to unanswered prayers. She spoke on memories of her peers making fun of how dark she was and how she didn’t believe her mother when she told her that she was indeed beautiful. Had she stayed in this state of mind, we would never know who Lupita was today.

But Lupita saw Alec Wek.

The sight of this dark, sinewy, exotically beautiful model from South Sudan breaking down barriers of her own when she entered the scene awoke something in Lupita; maybe she was beautiful after all. She admitted to fighting this realization at first stating, “I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy.” However, the reflection she saw of herself in Alek was undeniable. This inadvertent validation eventually propelled her to follow her passion and become the breakout star she is today.

If there were no Alek, there would be no Lupita.

Alek inspired Lupita inadvertently and in such a way that Lupita’s life was changed forever, and now she’s doing some inspiring of her own.

Whom do you inspire?

What little girl is looking at your hair and recognizing herself in your natural beauty?

Ladies, we wield more power in our fros than we will ever realize. Kinks and curls like ours CANNOT be just hair. It’s culture. It’s history. It’s a stand. It’s a shining beacon of hope to the generations coming after us who won’t feel compelled to spend copious amounts of money on texture changing procedures because they feel as if their natural texture is inadequate. We are their lighthouses and we don’t even know it. Our seemingly small victories over the daily struggles with our hair, both tangible and societal, are showing little girls and even not so little girls that there is no singular beauty phenotype. There is only beauty. You demonstrate that every time you leave your house, despite the fact that you hate your puff or you’re out of your favorite gel and your hair is doing that weird “thing,” but you walk in stately confidence anyway.

We, as kinky haired women do not have the option of ambiguity. Thank God. God forbid future Lupitas be fated to obscurity because we didn’t acknowledge the power of modeling what nature gave us. We cannot rob the future of these powerful, beautiful women because we didn’t recognize our influence over them today. It is truly our duty to carry on, to become more inventive with our hair and not to rest on the laurels of beauty proclamations of the past. It’s our calling to rock our texture at work, at play and in elegance to show those little and not so little girls that yes, sweetie, you ARE adequate. Your beauty IS enough, all the time, and anywhere you want to go. We tell them with our actions that your uniqueness is not only ok, but it is also special and it is fierce.

We owe it to the little ones and the not so little ones.

We owe it to the future Lupitas.

Candace currently lives in Chicago, IL, where she manages www.kissmycurls.com with her sister, Janna, who resides in Huntsville, AL. Follow Kiss My Curls on Twitter:  http://www.twitter.com/kissmycurls and like Kiss My Curls on Facebook  http://www.facebook.com/curlology 

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Naturally Lovely
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Ok, we get it. Lupita is beautiful, beautiful skin, beautiful hair.
Enough with the fetish already!
I’m starting to think this oggling over her is no different than how she was treated in 12 years a slave.

sara
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sara

its understandable that she has been everywhere since her oscar win, but she represents the person that a lot of black women want to be and can be but believe that cannot. If she begins to fade away and out of the mainstream then we will All be back to square one seeing the same old white washed media with European skin and hair.

Naturally Lovely
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That’s true!

Made in Africa(Zimbabwe)
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Made in Africa(Zimbabwe)

I LOOOOVE your comment, I am not even a teenager (pictured is a 30 year old me) yet as a dark skinned woman Lupita’s entrance in the public scene has done something positive to my being. I know her struggles, I have been there and as a child and teenager it was horrible I thought I was VERY ugly and most of my friends were light skinned and was always reminded I’m dark (and I wished for lighter skin) so yes let us be inspired for as long as it takes for us the present “Lupitas” and to the future… Read more »

Nicole
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Nicole

Wow!! You thought you weren’t nice looking? Lady…You are a good looking woman, woman.

Made in Africa(Zimbabwe)
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Made in Africa(Zimbabwe)

Thank you Nicole, Its interesting how when you believe in something(bad or good) it becomes true…power of perception.

Tonna
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Tonna

You are so beautiful! I’m glad that you realize that now. Be blessed, sister. 🙂

Naturally Lovely
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You are very pretty. It’s a good thing that you know that you are now.

MommieDearest
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MommieDearest

@Made in Africa
Thanks for sharing your story. I can relate in so many ways.
You are, indeed, beautiful. Keep owning it girl.

Naturally Lovely
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I see why black people love her. My inhibitions are why white people are all over her so much like they can’t believe a black woman is intelligent and beautiful.

Dorian
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I hadn’t thought about that before, but I think you are right. They have really gravitated to her, but so have I. But I think it is for different reasons. I think she is simply gorgeous, but like the author says, we all are gorgeous. I truly think that some white people think that we are ignorant until they see something that stands out. Their baseline level for us is low and then something is done to raise that baseline level. It could be conversation, clothing, etc but I do believe it exists. Now I don’t believe all are like… Read more »

Nicole
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Nicole

The same perceptions that blacks have of themselves are usually the same ones that whites have of us. Those ideas were invented by white people though. Blacks need to realize that they are not true though. Unfortunately, many don’t.

Coconut + Cream
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I don’t think it’s like that at all, I think that, much like Jennifer Lawrence, Lupita has become a media darling. Not solely because of her skin colour. Have you heard her speak! She exudes confidence, intelligence and people recognise that and her talent. If you’ve noticed, most of the reports on her have not been “Oh she’s come from this terrible background so let’s just coo her”. So her fame has not come out of patronising opinions. As for me I see no malicious intent from ‘white people’, just genuine infatuation and love, same as black people. But of… Read more »

Naturally Lovely
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Yes, I agree.

Naturally Lovely
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One thing I can say is that if it takes someone like her to push media whores out of the limelight then I’m all for it lol.

mlank64
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mlank64

Frankly, I don’t think all black people love her. There is colorism that runs deep in the black community. White folks don’t have that issue. When white folks enbrace this beauty, it is looked with suspicion or as a fetish.…because black people themselves have a difficult time seeing the beauty in dark skin women in particular. You only have to look at rap videos and see the plethora of light skin women vs. dark skin. Many black males wouldn’t look at luputa or Alek. There too memesmorized by Beyonce and Rihanna. Don’t bash me for telling the truth.

Naturally Lovely
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That could be it but there are plenty of black people who love her. Just look on her facebook page and see that.

But then again, i don’t believe that people should praise celebrities like that b/c beauty is fleeting.

I for one, think that dark skin is beautiful and Lupita is way prettier and natural , in my opinion, than Beyonce, who is waaaaay overrated.

mlank64
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mlank64

Black women in general love her and many white people as well. My feeling is that the black community has not for a long time held darker skinned women in the same regard as lighter skinned women. Black people have a serious problem particularly black men. DL hugley or whatever his name is had nothing nice to say about Lupita… Mocking her hair intimating she looks like a man etc not attractive perhaps too black. It is not just him but many black males dedicating youtube videos trashing black women by promoting the notion that black women are the least… Read more »

lee
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lee

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

Sara
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Sara

@mlank64, but yet the same men who are mocking Lupita for her hair, praised and lusted after Amber Rose whose hair was also short. Black women need to stop giving these black klans men views, money and etc and only support men who cares for black women. There is an article written a black man, who told off this interracial couple(BM/WW)mainly the WW because she was talking negatively about black women. The article is “Why the h*ll am I still dating black women” which was the actual question she had asked him.

the gypsy life
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the gypsy life

Absolutely! It’s almost as if black women that look like Lupita or Alek, have to FIRST be cosigned by white America before black people will accept them as beautiful or worthy of attention. It feels the same way with natural hair. I get the MOST compliments on my afro from non black people. It’s almost always black women that will give back handed compliments or ask why I didn’t “do” my natural hair. I just do not get it. Why wasn’t Lupita embraced for her beauty and intellect via our media outlets first? Lupita had to be splashed around other… Read more »

Nicole
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Nicole

So right. I know many blacks that don’t find Lupita beautiful-men and women. And it is simply because of the color of her skin because no one can deny that the woman has a very beautiful face. I remember I was watching the Wendy Williams show and she had someone from one of those popular celebrity magazines. This white guest was saying how beautiful Lupita was and you could see Wendy not agreeing. She simply said “she has a great upper lip.” And “nice skin.” You could tell that she did not find Lupita beautiful. Black people are the death… Read more »

Como?
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Como?

It bothers me when black people state that whites “don’t have a color issue.” White people have a long-standing, centuries-deep preference for other white people. White people continue to overwhelmingly form close friendships with and marry other white people. White people, who predominate in positions of power within the media, overwhelmingly represent themselves. The same color preference that you attribute to blacks is curiously omnipresent in media and entertainment, where whites are the primary stakeholders. If that’s not colorism, I don’t know what is. We as black people need to be cautious about, on the one hand, absolving white people… Read more »

Como?
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Como?

Also the fact that being fair skinned has essentially been a prerequisite for a female artist to reach the realm of international pop-stardom (as per your Rihanna and Beyonce examples) is no coincidence. It is the same reason that black-owned natural hair-care brands use racially ambiguous and fair-skinned models in an effort to “cross-over:” Proximity to whiteness is more palatable to… well, white people.

mlank64
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mlank64

“It bothers me when black people state that whites “don’t have a color issue.” White people have a long-standing, centuries-deep preference for other white people” Of course white people have an issue with colorism, they are the originators. I give the readers on this site a little more credit rather than state the obvious. My point is that blacks have co-opted this notion and continue to hang on to it as if their lives depend on it. That should bother you more than what white people think or do. It is more perverse coming from our own than from the… Read more »

Ugonna Wosu
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Ugonna Wosu

her fashion sense.

mymy
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mymy

Why do some black people feel so uncomfortable with Lupita being praised by white people but dont have a problem with beyonce,rihanna,zoe saldana, kerry washington,halle berry, and paula patton being praised by white people. The only reason some black people feel so uncomfortable with Lupita getting praised is because she is not the image of black beauty in the black community and the light and brown skin girls are the image of beauty not the dark skin girls. How can white people see Lupitas dark skin as being so beautiful when we in the black community would never pick Lupita… Read more »

making waves
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making waves

In response to that you also have people hating on lighter people because of this self entitlement of being dark means you are are “more African” than the next black person. Light, medium,dark, it’s all relative, in the end you are still black. We all have our own struggles. Would a lighter person with kinky hair be given the same praise? Maybe but you would still have women hating on her for whatever reason and the same colorist topic would come up. So just because a person brings up the topic of Lupita being objectified in Hollywood doesn’t mean that… Read more »

t.c.
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t.c.

So were you this uncomfortable last year when Jennifer Lawrence was the Hollywood “it girl”? Were you concerned when Halle was the “it gurl” the year she became the first black woman to win the best actress Oscar? This happens every few year in Hollywood. There is always some young ingenue who comes from out of nowhere and completely wows everyone. They win awards, become the darling of the fashion industry, land on magazine covers, get interviewed by Oprah, etc. What’s going on with Lupita is the NORM and not at all our of the ordinary. The only difference between… Read more »

Naturally Lovely
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Nope. I don’t follow Jennifer Lawrence and her career.

Naturally Lovely
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I don’t recall saying I was “uncomfortable” or “concerned”.

Naturally Lovely
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I never recalled saying I was “concerned”. If you read my other posts then you will get your answer about my feelings towards this.

And yes, Halle and Beyonce have wore out their welcome as well.
Quit making it a color issue.

everythingl
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everythingl

Are you “making waves” or “naturally lovely”?

Naturally Lovely
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Both. I’m using different devices

MeTOo
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MeTOo

I agree, I asked myself would a lightskin person with her hair and features be given the same praise? Eh, maybe, but not as MUCH as her. It’s because of her skin color. Dark people are trying to prove that you can be beautiful and dark. But, I already know that. It is annoying the way they worship her because I know why: her skin color.

Naijastar
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Naijastar

I think you’re projecting. And it’s light SKINNED (adjective), not light skin (noun).

Naturally Lovely
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Well, I’m not really saying that a lighter woman wouldn’t get the same praise, for one, they have and still do. Secondly, It might have been inadervently because of their color but Hollywood is known for worshipping the european esthetic. Lupita is definately something different and refreshing to see so I can see why people are excited. Heck, I was excited to see her on so many covers. I couldn’t believe that I was looking at a beautiful dark skin black woman that I’m seeing everywhere and everyone, including me, is loving it. It’s nothing new to me, I already… Read more »

t.c.
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t.c.

Too many black people don’t believe black is beautiful. Period. Folks can deny it but it’s the black ass truth. They look at Lupita and they don’t see a beauty for the ages, with the talent and intelligence to match. What they see is something to be suspicious of. Some cruel joke being pulled by white folks because they simply cannot believe that this dark black woman is being celebrated and fawned over. It must be a sneaky trick because no way in hell could any think a dark skinned black woman could be praised on this level as beautiful.… Read more »

Naturally Lovely
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So do you think Gabrielle Sidibe was exploited or do you actually believe Hollywood believes she is physically beautiful?

Naturally Lovely
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Gibourney*

everythingl
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everythingl

It girls” come and go. The fact that praise for this particular “it girl” rubs you the wrong says WAY more about you than it does about us. Or Lupita. And don’t pretend it doesn’t rub you the wrong way. You’ve made way too many comments on here (as at least 2 different people) to convince us otherwise.

t.c.
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t.c.

Gabourey Sidibe is not considered a great iconic beauty and she is not courted by the fashion industry, so go somewhere with that comparison because Lupita and Gabby are driving in two different lanes of stardom. And Gabby is doing very well for herself in the lane she’s in and has continued to work consistently, even though black people insisted her career would flop cause Hollywood would get rid of her because she was dark and plus sized. And I’m sure Lupita will prove the crabs in a barrel wrong as well.

Nicole
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Nicole

Say the damn thing!!!!

Naturally Lovely
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Ok, cool. It’s part of the conversation and I said my piece. No need to get all hype about it. You have your opinion, I have mine.

Toni
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Toni

Really? It’s no worse that the publicity for Jennifer Lawrence when she took up the role of Katniss Everdeen. Hollywood likes the new, beautiful thing and use publicity to make them household names. Don’t worry. The fervor will die down after a while, but I must say that I’m loving seeing Lupita everywhere. I’ll complain when she does.

sara
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sara

lupita has become incredibly influential in such a short amount of time. she is a positive role model for what young black girls can look up to and know that black is beautiful

Sharon
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I love that Lupita can be a role model to young black girls. She has and is a gift.

Naturally Lovely
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I totally agree that she is a positive role model for black little girls, and women. She has come from a family of scholars and artists, graduated from Yale, Portrayed a slave and now, everyone and their mother is obsessed with her like she is some exotic mean that has just arrived on the planet. She did a documentary back in 2009 about life for Kenyan women. Where was the praise for that? All I’m seeing are pictures of her on the red carpet with everyone and their mama oggling over what dress she wore. I’m sure there are plenty… Read more »

Yvonne
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Yvonne

In response to your comment Naturally Lovely, I think you made valid points and I understand what you’re saying. I like Lupita a lot but I don’t think it’s ever healthy to obsess over anyone’s looks. I am not talking about the author of this post or anyone in particular. However, I am talking about society in general. Beauty is fleeting and there is always more to life. Lupita said it best: “And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful… Read more »

lauryn
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lauryn

Thank you, Yvonne!

(Some folk are totally cool with worshipping the crumb of bread that Beyonce or Rihanna drops on the floor, but if we want to lift up the “Lupitas of the world” all the sudden there is a problem. There’s a difference between idol worship and RESPECT.)

Naturally Lovely
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Thank you Yvonne, that’s really what i was getting at. I’m not bashing Lupita. I think she is beautiful inside and out.

Naturally Lovely
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Thank you Yvonne, that is what I’m trying to say. You said it best!

ema
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ema

I wished people would stop putting others down (like Rihanna, Bey) just to uplift somebody else, like Lupita. They all can be great and actually we need more black women, who doing big things in the mainstream media like all the Katy Perrys or Jennifer Lawrences do in this world without a forced competition on them. There is still so many room for many more women of colour to come. So why not welcome each of them. You shouldnt feel the need to put people down just for the sake of uplifting Lupita. She is just great, there is no… Read more »

Jessie
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Jessie

THANK YOU! I think Rihanna, Beyoncé, and Lupita are all gorgeous individuals in their own way and right.

everythingl
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everythingl

In the paragraph before the one you quoted Lupita also said this: “My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then … Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me,… Read more »

Naturally Lovely
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No, Lupita doesn’t rub me any kind of way. I don’t get that hype over celebs. She does peak my interest because she is alluring.

It’s called a conversation. Please don’t put words into my mouth because you don’t know my background.

Naturally Lovely
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Naturally Lovely

piqued*

Kroo213
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Kroo213

I think I have bought into the Lupita hype as much as everyone else. She truly is a gorgeous woman, & I hate to say this, but she gained this almost international renown for playing the role of a slave. Was this really necessary? She is such an educated woman; I cannot think she would have to take that role. Similarly, why are our women praised for playing derogatory roles? Lupita? Viola Davis/Octavia Spencer from The Help? I can’t help but think that America is embracing this talented female for the wrong reasons. You may disagree, but answer this: Why… Read more »

Anon
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Anon

Halle Berry- Monster’s Ball
Denzel Washington-Training Day
I always thought her deserved an Oscar for Malcolm X.

Como?
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Como?

This is why I cannot stomach Hollywood. Such a limited narrative surrounding black lives that it has become formulaic. Talented black actor + [insert low station in life/ degrading stereotype/ marginal side kick designation]= mainstream recognition and praise.

I can’t…

Naturally Lovely
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I would like to see something different. A quirky black family that lives in Portland or something. So tired of the same roles.

mlank64
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mlank64

So would I, I had enough of the slave roles, maids, butlers or the ghetto experience. Black folks come from all spheres of life, listen to all types of music genres, political viewpoints etc. Aren’t we allowed to step out of the stereotypical box and just be human beings?

Nicole
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Nicole

There is always a “it” girl in hollywood at some point. Always!!! Lupita is it now. When she did that movie in Kenya, she was not known here in the USA. It’s that simple. She made a big movie, she became known. Simple as ABC.

cacey
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cacey

beautiful article! well said. i want to see more Lupitas going forward, and luckily for us as a people, they’re in no short supply. the world won’t recognize a different kind of beauty until we ourselves bring it forward. when we acknowledge what we possess and stand proud in it and of it, that’s when we can make a difference.

jillian
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jillian

She is flawless intelligent talented and its amazing to see such a fresh beautiful role model in hollywood and do her own thing. Lets go Lupita!

Brittany. L
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First off that picture of Lupita is like one of my all time faves, and honestly I am a very dark complected girl and I dealt with the same issues also, and as cliche as it is when I first saw Lupita and how beautiful she was with that dark skin immeadiately she was an inspiration for me and I am so happy the world is in love with her.

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Poshnera
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Poshnera

I found this article so inspiring and I am inspired by her. I love to see a woman who looks like me being successful and recognized for her intelligence and beauty. What saddens me is the comment section. It seems like a lot of black women here are cynical and have a “crabs in a barrel mentality” there comments reflect the “oh they can’t possibly like her, she’s temporary, ohhh well she’s the exception and black men will never see her as beautiful bc she isn’t light skin.” Why all of that nastiness? Stop speaking such disgust and hate. It… Read more »

making waves
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making waves

No one is speaking nastiness towards her. W e just know how Hollywood likes to operate

Nicole
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Nicole

I’m sorry but Hollywood is weird. It will always be weird. It’s the nature of the business. On the other hand, (and let me apologize for this comment before hand, but it’s simply what I think) Lupita is simply a good looking woman. Better looking than say Viola Davis, Alfre Woodard, etc. Plus, the girl is mad stylish and speak very eloquently. I can see why Hollyweird is hooked on her. She falls right into the superficial weirdness that Hollywood loves. Hollywood is simple being Hollywood with her. It’s that simple.

Naijastar
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Naijastar

I may get some flack for this, but I think “good looking” black person is often code for someone with finer, more European features. Alfre and Viola both have broader features, so by comparison Lupita’s slimmer nose and facial features are much more consistent with the prevailing beauty standards. Colorism is only one prism through which we marginalize black beauty. The mainstream beauty paradigm has always expressed a preference for the phenotype of my East African sisters, so to me Lupita’s elevation is not particularly surprising. Whereas Alek Wek, while praised for her skin tone, has never been regarded as… Read more »

mlank64
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mlank64

I am inspired by Lupita as well. However, despite being inspired I also have to live in this world and I rather do it with my eyes wide open. Pointing out the obvious is not being negative or nasty, it’s about recognizing that there is a serious problem and opening up that dialog is part of correcting it and moving on to a better place.

Pat
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As Mlank64 said some black men are the worst with berating black women’s beauty. It’s truly pitiful that they are so full of colorism and caught up in hair textures. I feel that they should ask God for forgiveness about this since GOD made the black women with the features that he saw fit. I also feel that DL Hughley is very ignorant anyway and this is sad since this man is at least 40.

Regigi
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Regigi

I rather be dark skin with curly hair instead of light skin with kinky hair.

Naturally Lovely
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Why should it matter? Does it make you feel better somehow?

anastasia
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anastasia

@ Regigi

I wish you an abundance of personal/spiritual/psychological growth in the years to come.

Flynfab (light skin with kinky hair)
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Flynfab (light skin with kinky hair)

@Regigi — wow, what a horrible, rude comment to make.

making waves
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making waves

Gabourey. Geez autotext

Sandi
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Sandi

I think Lupita is okay-looking. I have seen beautiful dark skinnned ladies on BGLH that would rival her, easy. But the way she carries herself makes her so much more beautiful than other ladies one would pick in a lineup of models. She has a grace about her that is mesmerizing. She is like Audrey Hepburn, who wasn’t the most beautiful actress of her time, but the way she carried herself was breathtaking. And for that reason she inspires me. We can’t always be viewed as the most attractive woman in the room but to be confident and hardworking and… Read more »

Finn
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Finn

I completely agree. The most beautiful thing about Lupita (to me) is how smooth her skin is. Like melted chocolate, lord Jesus! But, Black women in general are extremely beautiful. Cruising on this site, and seeing one another in day to day life makes that much obvious. We are in all shades and sizes, beautiful in our own special ways. But Lupita exudes this air of class that you don’t see everyday. I love to see a beautiful black woman, but I love to see an educated/well-spoken black woman of high esteem even more. Lupita is a role model, not… Read more »

Jacky
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Jacky

Great post and beautiful message! I often remind myself that i’m not rocking my natural hair for myself alone but also for the future generations of african children, I want them to not feel the pain, self denial, inadequacy and discomfort that this generation and past generations of african people have felt. I recently started wearing my hair in a wash n go(my hair is 4a/4b)and some people have laughed at me, pointed and stared ( I formerly used to spend hours curling and styling my natural hair in twist outs,flexi rod sets etc but never let my hair just… Read more »

Naturally Lovely
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Love this!

Beverly J
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Beverly J

I have read a lot of comments of “white” people gravitating and “loving Lupita” just a bit too much. Could it be they, as with others, simply find it refreshing and beautiful to see a women loving her full self just as she is regardless of race or color? I don’t know about you but I find it absolutely refreshing and inspiring…simply wonderful!

Naturally Lovely
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mlan64, Great Post! I think some people are getting confused over what I’m saying. I’m not saying she doesn’t deserve the praise that she does because she does. She has it all, beauty, grace, intelligence, all wrapped up in this unconventional package. I love her, I love her beauty, her ‘exoticness’ if you will, I’ve always wanted dark skin like hers. It’s so flawless and beautiful, so for those of you who think somehow I’m worshipping this white beauty standard, you’re preaching to the choir. My point is that in all this, I hope that it is lasting and is… Read more »

Natasha
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Natasha

I believe the comments are drifting away from the focal point of the article. This is my opinion. As a 16-year-old African teenager growing up in Dubai where majority of my classes have me as the only black kid, it’s refreshing to see a better representation of Africans and us, African diaspora, who face the challenges of being overshadowed and ignored due to the stigma created by media about our countries, culture and economic situation. Though I try to display the peaceful middle-class of Africa, it is overpowered by the negative stereotypes that lead to others perceiving my intelligence as… Read more »

Biki
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Well, thats interesting: I had nooooo idea she faced dark skin/light skin issues growing up, she is so utterly confident now in who she is as a person. Well I’m happy she found her inspiration (Alek) and was able to see her beauty, so that we could see and enjoy it now and forever more!!

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