A couple days ago, model and new mom, Yaya DaCosta Alafia uploaded photos of herself breastfeeding 6โmonth-old son Sankara to her instagram account with the hashtag #NormalizeNursing. Yaya shared that she is standing in solidarity with model Ashley Nicole, who faced heavy backlash for posting a breastfeeding photo to Instagram a few weeks ago.
Yaya captioned the photos with the following
i know iโm mad late, but i havenโt been on the computer much lately. just heard about the uproar over @ash3nicole pic & had to post a copycat photo in solidarity. hope you donโt mind, beautiful sistren. iโm so proud of you and stand by you! #breastisbest #whattheyaremadefor #getoverit #mamasunite #movement
hubby was like โyou canโt see your face!โ re: yesterdayโs picture. so hereโs the other version. why not post #oneaday? vitamins for society! #normalizenursing
Isnโt she glowing? What are your thoughts on the movement to normalize breastfeeding? (And is her hair not insanely gorgeous?!)
I wish I looked this good breastfeeding. Lol! I hope this does become normal because trust me, this isnโt the simplest thing to do. If I had more support I wouldโve breastfed my daughter for longer than a month. If youโre physically able to breastfeed Iโd say go ahead and do so. #breastisbest
breast fed all 5 of my kids and got to do it a long time, because I was a stay at home mom no wick office for formula, this is free and without hassle โgot one more on the way and will breast feed wherever when ever , the need arises . maybe people are more upset thats its more for self agrandising than to normalize breast feeding in public. but to each his own I am not disgusted or turned off if I see a woman breast feeding uncovered in public,the breast is best and better I.Qs to boot,not… Read more »
Congratulations! Best wishes to you for a healthy pregnancy, delivery, and baby. Iโm mom to 4 and still breastfeeding after 16 months. Remember vitamin D3 and vitamin K2 during pregnancy and breastfeeding. Godspeed for your pregnancy and delivery!
thanks momofiv this one is the last 8 years between the old baby and the new new baby โdonโt have to tell you what happened there lol, though unexpected very welcomed just a bit sad he or she wont have siblings close in age โmy older kids are each others playmates and confidants and this baby may not have the same , anyway on to happier things thanks for the well wishes.
I feel you Kerisha, my two oldest ones are 14 and 11 and my two youngest are 40 months and 16 months (girls and boys respectively). I breastfed all of them. With my youngest two children, Iโve been a stay at home mom. It is a blessing to be home and care for family and have a husband who is 100% supportive of my being a motherโฆWith my oldest two I was a single mom and they were in daycare while I worked and I felt terrible having to leave them with strangers. So, I truly appreciate being able to… Read more »
itโs a beautiful thing. i always felt bashful about public nursing myself, so i would always try to find a quiet place away from random people when i breastfed my son, but luckily for me i was mostly home with him anyway and tried to feed him before going out, so it wouldnโt be an issue. And if we did go out iโd pump (sometimes) so we would have bottles on hand. I nursed for a year, and would totally do it again. I love that thereโs a normalizing movement going on right now, to support those who do breastfeed… Read more »
I donโt have a problem with it because yes it is extremely healthy for the child, BUT if I saw someone breastfeeding their baby like she is (uncovered), Iโm going to honest I would be upset. I think if a woman is in public she should be covered and I think this type of breastfeeding should be done in the privacy of your home. I breastfed my oldest only for a month, I didnโt feel comfortable at all. I strictly bottle fed my second daughter and they both turned out fine.
I agree breast feeding is normal but cover up in public. And if you dont cover up her nor her husband can be mad when fuys are staring at her chest. Its just called modesty. I mean really. I breast fed and bottle fed. If your gonna feed in public use a cover up. Breast feeding is great but it is not an excuse to walk around topless all for the shake of โmy Childโ. Just say you wanna show the world your boobs and have no one say anything to you because now your a mommy.
Thank you!! And once again this is my opinion and how I FEEL ABOUT IT!!!!!
Dear Sweet Rachel and Creneโe, You are both praising that of which is completely legal. As a matter of fact, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures, โForty-five states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands have laws that specifically allow women to breastfeed in any public or private location,โ and โTwenty-eight states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands exempt breastfeeding from public indecency laws.โ So even if you got so upset seeing a breastfeeding mother at a restaurant that you wanted to get her kicked out, thereโs a 90% chance that the management canโt do… Read more »
And by praising I meant condemning.
If a women is breast feeding in public thats her business. I will still think its lascivious and sinful. But people can do whatever they want. I dont care what the law says is legal i dont have to agree with it and i dont. Just like gay marriage i dont agree with it and its becoming legal but i dont like it i think its nasty and sinful just like pulling your boobs out in public for any reason. can i stop people from doing it no but that does not mean i have to go along with it… Read more »
You are indeed entitled to your opinion, but holding a certain opinion doesnโt make you right. In the US, it used to be socially acceptable to publicly discriminate against people based upon their skin color and nationality (it still is in some places). People who were okay with that kind of thinking also tended to hold an opinion that non-White people are inferior to White people. Obviously, that opinion is wrong, just like your opinion on gay marriage. I love how people validate their incorrect opinions by saying certain things are โsinfulโ. What exactly did God make boobs for again?
Wow โlascivious and sinfulโโฆjudgemental much? Also donโt those words apply more to the thoughts of people who cannot differentiate between a body part that provides sustenance for babaies and a sex object?
Whatโs sinful itโs letting your baby go hungry because you are a prude. BTW have you seen the women of some tribes in Africa?? Are they sinful too in your book?? You need to get off that high horse.
i was gonna, but i just CANโT. :/
Rachel Iโm 100% with you. Itโs our opinion and thatโs just how we feel. I donโt care what anyone says if I saw a woman outside the privacy of her own home breastfeeding her baby the way YAya is in this photo I would be disgusted. She can definitely do this in a more discreet way.
In what religion would breastfeeding be sinful? Iโm Muslim and it is not sinful in Islam to breastfeed. It is the right of the child to be breastfeed for 2 years, yes 2 years. You can choose not to breastfeed for the entire 2 years, but it is better for the child. Children have rights and parents are responsible for giving them their rights.
Homophobia is just the same as racism,and gay people canโt help being gay just like we canโt help being black!
You do know Eve breastfed all of her children!? Sinful I need a Scripture!!!!
@shy scarlett โHomophobia is just the same as racism,and gay people canโt help being gay just like we canโt help being black!โ I have to disagree.โฆEven if you disagree with the homosexual lifestyle you are called a โhomophobeโโฆwhich is ridiculous. You are born black and you die black. I never heard of a baby born gay. I say to each their ownโฆbut it bothers me when people compare EVERYTHING black people have been through in this country for hundreds of years to the homosexual movement. I donโt recall gay only waterfountains. Or gays being told to sit at the back… Read more »
Breast feeding in public would be sinfull? That is if you look at breasts as a sexual thing and that is what men made of them. There are commercials where breasts are being used to sell shampoo an hamburgers, things that have absolutly nothing to do with womans breasts. No wonder that a lot of woman themself see it as sinful. I think there is nothing wrong with a woman breastfeeding in public, breasts are made for: to feed your child. that an society made it something you should be ashamed for aint right. If a man can make a difference… Read more »
Personally, even though itโs legal I would want to cover up. By breastfeeding in public and uncovered I risk getting a lot of attention from curious kids/teens or sexually perverted adults, this would definitely affect my baby while he/is is breastfeeding. Additionally,I wouldnโt show off my breasts normally and accordingly I wouldnโt either with my baby attached to my nipple.
Additionally, I just asked a few adult male friends how would they feel if they saw a woman breastfeeding in public. They stated โas a man I just wonโt be able to help myself from staring at her breasts as I would a stripper,โ โthereโs no reason why she canโt cover up, I canโt look at this woman as a [good girl] or a person thatโs morally inclined.โ
Sasha I agree with you. I breastfed my 5 children each over 1 year. I always fed them while at the mall, in the doctors office, wherever. But, no one knew that my baby was eating because I did it modestly. Breast is best. Breastfeeding is normal, but it can be done comfortably and easily with baby and boobies covered up. Overall I am pleased to see many celebrities promoting breastfeeding because many people are still ignorant to itโs benefits.
LolโฆI was breastfed for 3 almost 4 yearsโฆyep, and Iโm 40. So my mom was hip to this 40+ years ago. So, itโs nothing newโฆ
Right?!
Iโm a child of the 70s and 80s and my momโs boobs were OUT and flanging along with all her other friends, everywhere! My grandmother and her generation did it without covering up โ and sheโs Pentecostal, Lol! I know there was a movement to practically outlaw breastfeeding in public, or at all due to GREEDY formula providers teamed up with the evil American Medical Association in the 1980s. However, bringing breastfeeding back to the forefront has been going on for the past 20 years, just ask your crunchy White friends.
#dead at โOUT and flangingโ LOL!!!
If your grandma was really saved/pentecostal she would not have been doing that in public. Being a mom is no excuse to have your chest out. God created the breast for one of those purposes but showing your breast in public that is also gonna cause a man to lust and that is sin on her side and the man.
We live in a society where breasts are oversexualized to the point where a child getting nutrients and bonding is considered sexualโฆ well, at least to your outlook.Your comment is actually fueling the fire in our nationโs view on sexualizing natural things that should not be sexualized. โRejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her, all you who love her; rejoice with her in joy, all you who mourn over her; that you may nurse and be satisfied from her consoling breast; that you may drink deeply with delight from her glorious abundance.โ For thus says the Lord: โBehold, I… Read more »
hi stella even scripture approves,a bare breast while breast feeding is not sinful,i did not think to bring scripture thanks for the scriptural reinforcement.
Rachel, sadly youโre an example of what happens when religious thinking rots the brain and replaces common sense. First, how on earth are you equating breast feeding with gay marriage? Secondly, how are you placing the burden of sin on a woman for a man lusting after her if she is breast feeding? I can only conclude youโre either INCREDIBLY immature or INCREDIBLY misguided. Whichever it is inside your head must be a truly sad and miserable place to be.
Rachel seriouslyโฆ Where has โthe black churchโ gotten you? What kind of car does your Pentecostal preacher drive? What percentage of the women are single and serving in the ministries? Im over you guys trying to make everything about you. Gosh you are so judgemental who are you to say who is saved and who isnt??
Watch out people, itโs the prude police.
what the HELL?! if that male creature is such a stupid horny jerkoff that he canโt control himself and his thoughts at the sight of a mother feeding her baby then the problem is HIM, not HER/THEM.
I donโt know why there is an uproar or why it isnโt already normalized. Iโm not a mother but if Iโm able to become one physically I want to breast feed my child or at least try to because I know some women have a hard time getting the baby to latch and it can also be painful. I dont believe Iโd do it in public but to each her own.
Itโs normal to publicly breastfeed in a lot of countries, but the modern world has really sexualized breasts to the extent where it seems scandalous to do so.
So trueโฆbreasts werenโt designed to feed men or for men to gawk at, they were designed to continue life for a baby through nourishment. I think breastfeeding is beautiful and awesome. Not every woman can breastfeed. I feel sorry for any mother who cannot breastfeed her child(ren) and even worse for the child who never receives the life-affirming milk. I think a lot of those men who have sexualized breasts probably werenโt breastfed enough or at all as babies.
So many people have their breast, butts, stomach, etc. for no other purpose then to show off their stuff. Why get upset when a mother pulls her breast out for the sole purpose to feed her child? Breast on TV, butts flapping around in videos. The picture is in good taste, lovely mother and child, perhaps we need to send more pictures like this. I can think of a lot more things to be grossed out about.
Breastfeeding is one of the most unselfish things you can do for your child, if you are physically able and your circumstances permit. It is very hard in the beginning but if you stick with it, it becomes very natural and easy to do. I fortunately stayed at home with my daughter and breastfed her for a full year. But everyone is not able to do this for various reasons. As far as breastfeeding in public totally uncovered, I think that if you are in a place where you wouldnโt normally flash your breasts at everyone, then you can still… Read more »
Thank you. Itโs practically the same thing. If you wonโt flash your breast in the mall why use your child as an excuse โyes, excuse- to do it? A child can be fed and covered up. Itโs not about trying to go against breastfeeding mothers. Itโs a little thing called modesty and respect for others. Everyone doesnโt want to see your full on breast. And btw this is coming from a mother who breastfed both sons until they were nearly two and currently breastfeeding my daughter.
Good for her. Americans have this warped mentality that breats are only sexual.
There isnโt too much that I donโt love about this picture. Itโs beautiful!
DAMN sheโs hot! O.O sorry I couldnโt help it!โฆHope I look that good after having a baby haha!
There are many things natural in the world, a lot of which we do not share with the world. I donโt think this is about normalizing breast feeding as opposed to formula, but I think is that it needs to be normal to breastfeed our child in public of which I am not a proponent. In the sense that the baby is crying and just like that you pop out a boob. A scarf ok, but all out I say nay.
I personally used a baby blanket when I was breast feeding outside of my home, however it in no way offends me if women and many do across the world take out a bare breast to feed their child. what about that is so offensive to you and others who think like you when it comes to feeding an infant?
It is not offensive to me and doesnโt bother me at all if someone is breastfeeding their child in front of me without a cover. But thatโs me. I am a mother who also breastfed and I think itโs great. But โฆ When I was in public I covered up, not because I was ashamed of what I was doing or trying to hide it or whatever. For me it was simply a matter of respect for others and how they might feel about seeing my breasts or their husband or boyfriend seeing me exposed. I was never accustomed to… Read more »
Here a tip for you and everyone else who is โuncomfortableโ with nursing in public: Donโt look. No one is forcing you to look. Go on about your business, thereโs no need to stare and be offended.
Because breasts are so sexualized, I would prefer not to bare my breasts and I know it would make a lot of people uncomfortable. But Iโm sure a lot of men and lesbos would love it and probably try to push for it.
Oh get the f out of here. This lesbo ainโt interested in your breasts or your ignorance, go sit down and please donโt procreate.
I just think itโs funny (for lack of a better word), how our society LOVES breasts until we see a baby being breasfed than itโs like โew grossโ. But I digress.
Tay, unfortunately, for many in our society, the priority is placed on the manโs desire for the breast instead of the childโs need for breast milk.
Felicia you seriously think men & lesbians walk around looking at breasts all day!??? Donโt be so ignorant!
Personally Id feel uncomfortable seeing a womenโs breast in public. Iโm not โagainstโ it, but yes, because breasts and the naked body is so sexualised in this part of the world, it is a bit uncomfortable to see in public, no matter how normal it is. Personally, I would do it discreetly or cover with a blanket (not really for other people, but to feel comfortable myself, I donโt want my bits out for others to see lol). Again, I donโt have a โproblemโ with woman who breast feed in public, thatโs their choice! But when I see it, I… Read more »
I think this is more about breastfeeding in public rather than breastfeeding in general. Interesting thing about these photos is that they are in support of public breast feeding; but the photos are staged in the comfort(and safety?) of each womanโs home or a photography studio. And who breast feeds standing up? If you really want to make a statement, thatโs cool but breastfeed out in public because thatโs where the controversy is. Not a cheesing pic in your living room. Yes breast feeding is natural. Iโll just put it out there- If any other mother who isnโt flatchested bares… Read more »
Even if she is in her house she is sharing the picture of the public.
Lovely pictures (and great hair), but I agree with people who say that it would be best for someone to cover a little while breast feeding in a public place (baby blanket, etc). I do have a problem with people getting all squeamish over the implication of breast feeding even when nothing is showing, but I donโt necessarily think everyone should be able to whip out the boob without anyone noticing. Breasts are sexualized, and they attract attention. I personally donโt feel uncomfortable about it, but I think itโs considerate to cover for people who do feel uncomfortable, and its… Read more »
And to clarify when I say breastfeeding in public Iโm talking about without a cover as Yaya is.
I couldnโt breastfeed my 2 kids but I did pump my milk out for them. They never latched on. I considered my milk as liquid gold. I was very proud to give my babies my milk. The health benefits r huge for that reason alone. I wish more black women would breastfeed their babies. Sadly I was the only one in my family to give my kids my milk and got some heat for it. Congrats to her for choosing to breastfeed her baby.
I applaud you, Andrea, for your efforts and hard work to give your babies their โliquid goldโ. I remember pumping at work and my job had to set aside accommodations for me and at times it was challenging, but I did it because I wanted my baby to have his โliquid goldโ even when I wasnโt home. I know pumping around the clock is hard and that showed your dedication to give your children the best of youโฆfrom you. Yes, more black women need to nurse and get off the formula crack we give to our precious babiesโฆeven if a… Read more »
Now, seeโฆthis is a double standard in my opinion. Just as mothers who breastfeed should not be judged, neither should mothers who choose formula for whatever reason. Itโs nice that your job provided special accommodations for you, but not all women have that privilege.
Formula is NOT โjunk food.โ The attack on mothers who choose formula is ridiculousโฆand this is coming from a woman who breastfed.
@Really? How is commenting on the positives of breastfeeding a double standard? No one is attacking anyone. FYI, formula IS junk food. Have you read the ingredients? Itโs full of GMO foods, Corn Syrup Solids, vegetable oil, sugars, carageenan, cow milk, soy protein, sodium selenate, casein hydrolysate, etcโฆbasically sugar, processed whey, chemicals, and chemicals in the names of vitamins (because itโs cheaper). Even contaminants such as melamine, dioxins, and rocket fuel has been found in baby formula.โฆlord knows what will be found next. Rocket fuel is the contaminant from cow milk where rocket fuel leaked into the waterways and agricultural… Read more »
Wow. Good for you. I donโt know why anyone would be against you feeding your children your milk. Thatโs what your body produces it for, their consumption. Odd.
Only in Murica
I have no problem with breastfeeding โ in public or at home. The problem
cant be that you can see the womanโs breast. I see more breast walking down the street, on the covers of magazines, and on public transportation. And sadly at work. I have never seen a woman breastfeed in public without covering up somehow. You know what is insulting to me; young men walking around with their pants hanging off their a**es, put a fโn belt on.
Yes, every woman I have ever seen breastfeeding in America was covered with a light blanket or burping cloth. MOST women are modest by nature and donโt have their breasts hanging out, whether breastfeeding or not. It is these attention-seeking models who want their breasts shown on Instagram for attentionโฆI mean, who was really checking for Yaya before this controversy?
I have no problem with breastfeeding โ in public or at home. The problem
cant be that you can see the womanโs breast. I see more breast walking down the street, on the covers of magazines, public transportation, and sadly at work. I have never seen a woman breastfeed in public without covering up somehow. You know what is insulting to me; young men walking around with their pants hanging off their a**es, put a fโn belt on.
I think this is beautiful, but it is also sad.That we need a movement to normalize what is so normal.Absolutely repulsive that the commenters who are also women say these nasty things.I look forward to that day when we are all comfortable enough with our own lives and beliefs that we no longer feel a need to belittle someone elseโs.Because she and no other mother is committing a crime by breastfeeding their babies.Regardless of your โopinionsโ.
I breastfeed my 3 sons for a total of about 30 months altogether, and I am a fierce advocate of the practice. If we care about family finances and childrenโs health, itโs a no-brainer. There are some moms for whom this is not possible, but contrary to popular belief, they are very, very few and far between. Anyway, theyโre great photos and of course, Yaya is nothing short of stunning but I donโt think these pics normalize breastfeeding. I think that if anything, they do the opposite โ posing for a breastfeeding picture suggests that it is more of an… Read more »
Thank You, I completely agree.
Yes, I wouldnโt adopt that pose to bf my little boy but I have a couple of friends who found it easier & more comfy. Really coz their little ones preferred it. Gotta do what works for you & every situation is different x
I respect the right of a woman to breastfeed her child anywhere she wants but what about the right of a man to urinate in public without being sent to jail and put on the sex offender registry? When you gotta go, you gotta go. What makes public urination a sexual crime while breastfeeding is seen as natural and acceptable? I donโt support bashing women for exercising their freedom to breastfeed in public but I am sure any man that bashed those moms resent the double standard in this society of criminalizing men for acts that would be considered โrightsโ… Read more »
Not the same.
Oh so you are saying that a woman can flash her boobs out to breast feed a baby (natural thing), but a man canโt whip his out to pee (a natural thing). Why not? If you see a man peeing (a natural thing) in public you would call that indecent whether he REALLY had to go or not and couldnโt hold it. But itโs ok for a woman to whip her boobs out to feed a child that really needs it. See how ignorant you sound?
P.S. What would you think if you saw a man peeing in public (and he had nowhere else to do)? Would you find that sexual? If so, why? Heโs not doing anything sexual. Heโs doing what his body was mean for. Us guys canโt pee into a bottle and save it for later and use it. Women can do that with their breast milk. So why do it in public? Too lazy? Yeah, they really love their kids โ right! When Iโm out in public I donโt want to see a woman breastfeeding anymore than you wouldnโt want to see… Read more »
This is the best damn comment ever.
I couldnโt care less about the breastfeeding uproar. Iโm just mesmerized by her hair *drool*
THANK YOU!!! OMGโฆIโm just like, โCan we focus on that gorgeous mane??โ
Iโm a little over a week away from a โfa REAL fa realโ trim โ itโs still going to be done by me but Iโm not focusing on keeping length; if itโs damaged itโs going, point blank period โ and as soon as I do that Iโm going back to my kinda-sorta WNGs. These photos are inspiring me!
I miss nursing my children. They are older now. But, I loved it! Go Yaya!
Sick fuck.
I agree Ash. Who enjoys nursing? Think about it. Youโre right sheโs sick.
Hey guess what? Some people do enjoy it. sick, but they do. Check out this short video (below) and this is for all of you idiots who are for public breastfeeding:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/video/zachkornfeld/titillating-facts-about-nipples.
I think breast feeding is both beneficial and nutritious for the baby; I myself gave all my children breast milk. If you need to feed your child in public then do it, the child is hungry. What I donโt agree with, are women breastfeeding their children in public, and donโt have the decency to cover up. Regardless of the reason why your breast are being exposed, they still are being shown to the public which is still showing your nakedness. If you must breastfeed outside, do it discretely. I think that is wear women get it twisted and it is… Read more »
I truly agree with you Penny!
I think a lot of the uproar over breastfeeding is manufactured by these attention-seeking models. (Giselle is another one who makes a big deal out of breastfeeding.) Iโm a working mom and I breastfed my son. It was not a big deal. Just feed your baby and move on.
Unfortunately, it *is* a big deal. I remember a few years back when Beyonce breastfed Blue Ivy when she was out at a restaurant and she caught hell for it. Much like natural hair, a lot of people need to be out and about showing it is a beautiful and viable option so that it can be re-normalized.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/video/zachkornfeld/titillating-facts-about-nipples
I think itโs inappropriate and unnecessary to make a display of yourself and your child in one of your most intimate moments that you two will ever experience.
It really is about normalizing so it is as natural as breathing. A hungry child is a hungry child and a breast full of milk is the answer, not a show.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/video/zachkornfeld/titillating-facts-about-nipples
i never used to see anyone breastfeeding in public until it became controversial to do it and then anyone with a baby and a set of boobs was doing it. so iโm sorry but people canโt tell me these women arenโt doing it for the attention because they are, maybe not all of them but a good number of them. itโs natural yes but so is peeing but we donโt do that where ever we feel like, well most of us donโt anyway
I agree with you Stephanie. Why display yourself when you know how society looks at you. Thereโs a lot of sickos out there.
I completely agree. once my son was born, i had to share him with the world. but breast feeding my son was the one thing only i could do for him. i didnโt want to share that with anyone.
Same here. I didnโt want everyone sharing that beautiful part of my life. I guess some of us have class and other will never have it because theyโre lazy and they donโt want it. Think about it. Itโs much cheaper to breast feed in public than to get their lazy a$$e$ off the couch and go by formula or a pump lol! No wayโ too much work. โWelfare here I come.โ
Bahahahaha! Ainโt that the truth!
I am 3 months in as a breastfeeding mom. My philosophy is do what makes mommy and baby comfortable, donโt worry about any negative opinions when it comes to nursing in public. Not all babies with nurse with a blanket or nursing cover over them, thatโs what Iโm dealing with right now. So I just wear clothes that make breAstfeeding easy and discreet in public. I refuse to nurse in a bathroom. I have all the right to breastfeed in public and I am not ashamed of it anymore.
Good for you Marie! I remember breastfeeding my son at Sea World and using a breastfeeding cover. My son was tugging and pulling at it and throwing it away from his face. Fortunately, I was facing a wall when he exposed my breast for his feeding and no one else saw me exposed. I believe in modesty in public for myselfโฆof course, at home is a different story. Iโve seen some women breastfeeding without regarding modesty as a factor and thatโs their choice. I believe, however a woman chooses to breastfeed is beautiful. Seeing a child being nourished the way… Read more »
http://www.buzzfeed.com/video/zachkornfeld/titillating-facts-about-nipples
There are many natural things best not done in public, incuding breastfeeding. The LEAST that can be done is to cover up. It is RUDE not to be discreet about such things. Men donโt choose to oggle; it is the nature of the beast. Iโm a woman & never let it all hang out; even at the beach I wore a modest suit. It is not necessary to do provocative things to get men to pay attention to you, unless you want salacious attention. Yes. there is TOO much sex oriented ads, etc.. and by breastfeeding in public you are… Read more »
It is normal and natural as breathing. I hope more of society will find a way to re-embrace it instead of shaming mothers who are doing the best they can for their kids.
I also like that these models are showing that you can be a nursing mom and stylish and sexy and everything. I think some people assume you canโt encompass all that, so I appreciate that they are showing that you can be so many things and STILL breastfeed.
Breastfeeding is natural as breathing, but that donโt mean that you have to show everybody what you got.
Breastfeeding a baby should be like a human being eating food, NO DIFFERENT. Babies shouldnโt be punished because adults made their meal a sexual object. Why should a woman feel shame for feeding her child in public? It is only a โBIG DEALโ in these so called โModernโ countries. Iโm from Jamaica where it is expected to breastfeed your child everywhere, itโs actually weird if you donโt breastfeed. It is okay to run around flaunting your milk bags on beaches, showing off those milk bags in magazines, tweeting photos of your milk bags to the world, but the minute you… Read more »
The key words are โshould be like a human eating food.โ Unfortunately itโs not when you show yourself to everyone else. Itโs because of women flaunting their bodies that public breasfeeding becomes difficult and seen as women flauting their bodies and using their babies as an excuse. Just use bottles already. I donโt want to see your boobs out. Geeesh!
What??? Who said anything about punishing babies???????? This is about publicly feeding a child โ not punishing them. If you are a good mother you will make sure the baby is fed. You are not in Jamaica, you are in America. In some parts of Africa some people still walk around without any clothes on. In America thatโs called indecent exposure. In America it is ok to flaunt yourself, but you are not having an infant suck on you in public like some wild animal.
@Carrie I really agree with U. Canโt say it any better than that.
Seems men have a double standardโฆthey donโt want to โsee a womanโs boob when she is breastfeeding in publicโ, but they leer at the women with their boobs hanging out at the beach or wherever. Seems they want it BOTH ways. I breastfed my four children. When I was at church and they got hungry, I would go to the restroom, get into a stall, and nurse them. That was MY choice. I never nursed them in a mall, or anywhere public for that matter. I always took a bottle for them if we were going to be around a… Read more »
I breastfed my girls in the 80โs. Not too popular, but I had read about the health benefits and was amazed. My grandmother was all for it. My mother was a little skeptical. At any rate it should be re-normalized. My grandmother did it, but Mama got away from it. My daughter breast fed her son and is still breastfeeding his baby sister. So normal and so healthy.
We are not simply talking about breastfeeding. I think we are all on the same page that breastfeeding is good. We differ about doing it for all the world to see.
Awww, heโs so cute! Big Boy sheโs got there. I donโt have an issue with breast feeding. I think that do need to relax. If nature did not intend for us to breast feed the baby would have been born with bottle and Sippy cup accessories. I know that not all people werenโt breast fed (my sister wasnโt in a way. She was a premature, so she was fed with a bottle, but my mother still pumped her breast milk for the bottle) for what ever reason it might have been choice or not by choice, but I think that… Read more »
Although I didnโt breastfeed my son, I do agree with it. However, I donโt agree with publicizing it. There are far Too many sickos out there and folks who want to do harm, just for the sake of it. Ladies donโt put yourself in that position. If you canโt cover it up, due to your baby being uncomfortable, then DONโt do it in public. Better yet, use a breast pump and put the milk aside for future use, but donโt show everything to everybody. Not everyone wants to see it and some are offended by it. Would you feel comfortable… Read more »
say what ?!nut sack is a sexual organ lady what exactly does it produce for children to keep them healthy โthis analogy is beyond inane.
Although a womanโs breast is a source of nutrition, it is ALSO considered a sexual organ and you cannot ignore this. A kitchen sink is a kitchen sink, regardless of how you try to use it! First and foremost, I AM an advocate for breast feeding. I simply do not believe that it should be publicly displayed. Do you even realize how breast feeding publicly came to be? (Probably not). Trust me, it wasnโt started by females. Women seemingly jumped on the boat to express their freedom, not realizing that it was a ploy by a man to have the… Read more »
Oh, so youโre saying that breast arenโt sexual organs? Where have you been?
I totally agree with you. But you have to realize that you can take some people out of the ghetto, but you canโt take the ghetto out of them. We brought them here and now look at all of our prisons and the hoods. Just awful. They need to take a loooooooooooooooooooongggg boat ride back home already!!!!!!!!! Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back, Please go back,Please go back,… Read more »
I commend ANY woman,in America who exercises her freedom to breast feed, let alone spontaneously, in public! I breast fed two healthy, happy children:(boy,โ82-โ83;girl,โ85-โ86), for 1yr, apiece. And when it was too hot to be under a privacy blanket, we did what we had to do ANYWHERE and ATE. My grandson has been breast fed for 2 solid yrs, without incidence, YAY! There is no apology and shame when corporations and individuals sell something with big boobs blazing, so what could possibly offend anyone whose not boycotting billboards and bimboโs exploitation in PUBLIC? Yet, you want to set a standard… Read more »
I repeat as Iโve said before, I am an advocate for breast feeding, but just not in public. To go deeper into the matter, I had a cousin who publicly breast fed her infant. That same cousin was raped a short time later and was blamed for โpubliclyโ exposing herself as if she wanted to be raped. Now thatโs sick and terribly wrong!!! However, you cannot shape the way society thinks and feels. When a woman wears a skirt up to her buttocks, is she asking to be exploited or is she simply exploiting herself? Very many gay females that… Read more »
so what your saying is a bare breast in the mouth of an infant can get you raped , more asinine than the first analogy, tell me do you boycott Victoriaโs secret and other such places that display breast , this hypocritical stance you and the backward thinking take is laughable. I am sorry about your cousin though but I think there is more to that incident than you let on โhope she found healing and justice.its sick to you because you view it as sexual and akin to pedophilia especially for older children .here is a tip donโt look!
I feel as though Iโm trying hopelessly to communicate with a moron here. Iโm not saying that breast feeding in public can get you raped. I simply gave you a scenario of something that occurred as a result of public breast feeding. Did you not read the content? Obviously, it was perpetrated by a sick person who got his kicks out of seeing females expose themselves (for whatever reason) in public. Any more to the story is none of your business as the main point is the only reason for the crime. In regards to Victoria Secrets, etc. I donโt… Read more »
Hey Nerida I have to agree with you. My mother breastfed all of us, but she refused to do it in public because my father didnโt want everyone to see her like that. I think breasfeeding is great, but I donโt like it when girls and women do that in public. Itโs just wrong. Iโm just 17 but I now how the boys talk about women and bodies and when they see them doing that in public its a big joke to them & they say a lot of nasty things about girls.
then donโt communicate did I hit a nerve your analogies are stupid period,tsk tsk name calling now, I get it your not against breast feeding your against seeing a bare breast in public with an infant attached to it and it can get you raped if you donโt cover the breast while feeding your child,what did I miss?
Why are you generalizing her. I didnโt read anywhere that breastfeeding can get you raped. She said something awful happened to her cousin as a result. You sound stupid. Get a life already. She sounds like she is trying to protect women and you are trying to exploit them. Just read your texts.
In case you havenโt researched, it is not as healthy for a child to receive breastmilk from a bottle as their saliva tells the body what nutrients to make in the motherโs milk. Without the latch on none of this information gets sent to our body. Furthermore, the normalization movement is taking place in part because many women exclusively breastfeed their child as it is the healthiest route to take. Breastfed babyโs normally eat every 1 โ2 hours. It would be extremely ridiculous for a mother to have to go and โhideโ because certain people think sheโs flashing them and… Read more »
mh.โฆ. it โmay notโ be โasโ healthy, but it โisโ still healthy to bottle feed your child. I had 6 kids and 1 one on the way. None breast fed. All VERY healthy! Great teeth, strong bones, mental clarity, you name it! This is first-hand knowledge. The time that my babies eat varies. There is no set or average time. Take it from someone who knows..no research needed. It would be extremely ridiculous for a nursing mother to be out and about when she she should be home nursing her kid.
I had a situation while breast feeding. A mosquito bit my breast and flew on my babyโs head. It was my own fault because I didnโt cover myself and I shouldnโt have had my poor baby exposed out in the open like that. I only had a tiny red bump on my breast but the doctor told me that I could have caught some type of fever I forget the name but he said we were lucky because the mosquito didnโt penetrate the skin quite enough. I promised him that I wouldnโt take my baby to the park and breast… Read more »
May women could pump if they plan on going out. Why do they assume that society and going out in public is going to be ok with this? They are wrong to think we arenโt a modest nation. It embrasses many people. Be considerate and pump when you are out in public.
Such an idiot. Whereโd you read that at? Iโm sure you donโt have any common knowledge. I bet you try and lighten your skin you hipocrate. But you canโt be like us. You canโt even be like those pretty light skinned ladies.
As a woman, a wife, and a mother, I am VERY adamant about this issue. COVER UP YOUR BODY. Youโre right, you should and can feed your child wherever and whenever you deem it necessary (I certainly did) but no one ever saw any private area(s) of my body. Now, any intelligent human being can come up with their own methods of covering, but I will state some of my personally used solutions here from when I was breatfeeding my son: covering with a blanket (not only does it cover you but it also actually HELPED my son eat more… Read more »
I also nursed my two kids but you never would know because I did not make a show out of it. I donโt think people are necessarily against breastfeeding itself, they are just tired of the women that try to shove it in everyoneโs faces. If someone is uncomfortable with it, they are uncomfortable with it. Trying to push it on them is not going to change how they feel about it.
I really wish that people would understand what they read. This doesnโt seem to be about breastfeeding. Itโs about breastfeeding in the public view.
I agree. There seems to be a lot of people bashing those who donโt agree with breast feeding in the publicโs view. Itโs really not rocket science. Because they are not saying not to breast feed, they are just saying they donโt agree with doing it publicly. Whatโs the big deal? They are not telling people not to do it. They are telling people they disagree with it. Duh.
Hello all! I am for breast feeding (in private). I read all the comments and then I texted six different people to find out what they thought โ see below: Male #1: โIf a woman wants to show her stuff Iโm all for that!โ Male #2: โI canโt understand why women complain about Beyoncรฉ showing everything, when theyโre fighting to show off their tits in public.โ Male #3: โI donโt care either way. But if you show your body like that in public you have to expect people to re-act. How would women like it if we men exposed ourselves for ANY… Read more »
.โฆAnd no Iโm not religious fanatic. Iโm just realistic. Thanks Nerida, you seem very well informed lol!
Iโm not a fanatic either but I believe that because of sin, it became a sin to expose ourselves in public places. I believe the human body is very beautiful but if everyone sees it exposed, then it becomes less attractive to look at except for the perverts of course.
Youโre kidding, right?
Duh, does it sound like Iโm kidding?
good comments. makes sense too.
If women can pull out a boob in public, does that mean men can walk around with their penis flopping around? Lets use some common sense and public decency here. Your baby may be a cute bundle of joy to you and yours but to most of us it is just a poop machine.
Why canโt you women get it in your heads? Stop vying for attention. You donโt need to openly expose yourselves for everyone to see. Are your husbands not giving you the attention that he used to? I am all for womenโs rights but I am against women displaying their nakedness out in the open. I donโt care if you are breast feeding. My wife used to say that her breast milk keeps running out and getting on her clothes so she wanted to breast feed our daughter wherever we were, no matter where. Her mother suggested that she use some… Read more »
Hey Bro I feel ya! I canโt believe Iโm joinin this talk but d$$#! These h##S actually wanna show it all in public? They must not have man sounds pretty desperate to me. Kudos to the ladies who donโt want to show everything to everybody!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would marry you in a heartbeat lol!
How is that an excuse. What if a woman exclusively nurses her child because itโs healthier and the only way for our bodies to know which nutrients to make is from the saliva of our child (pumping doesnโt do that). No one is vying for attention but I will not feed in a bathroom because thatโs unsanitary.
Dear youโve been misinformed. I was not merely speaking from a male point of view, but also from that of a DNP (Doctor of Nursing Practice). We specialize on the clinical aspects of the disease process. With one exception, it is no way healthier for a woman to โphysicallyโ nurse her child than to bottle feed her child. The exception stems from where the milk was derived. If directly from the mother, the milk is healthier. That isnโt to say that formulas are not healthy. Whether the motherโs milk is supplied directly from the mother or pumped into a bottle,… Read more »
I have to agree with you. It sounds kind of dumb to say that saliva knows which nutrients to make. What if the mother is deficient, then her body may not be able to produce the correct nutrients. Please correct me if I am wrong. But anyway like you said (in so many words) a motherโs milk is a motherโs milk whether it comes straight from her breasts or pumped into a bottle. Itโs all good. BTW what is formula made from? Thanks!
Babyโs formulas are man-made, designed and marketed for infants. One of the reasons the motherโs milk is more advantageous for the infant is because since formulas are chemically made, some may contain soy. Some infants (and adults) are allergic to soy or some of the other nutrients. There are also instances where infants may be allergic to some nutrients from the motherโs milk. However, itโs still best to go with the motherโs milk, as the baby will most likely outgrow that type of allergy or even become immune to it. Glad I could help.
@Bartโฆ apparently, according to MidwifeAndDoulaโฆ http://www.midwifeanddoula.com/breastfeeding.htm โฆโA surprising fact is that the composition of breast milk changes with each feeding, so no matter what time of day it is, or what season, motherโs milk will adjust to the specific needs of her baby. This is true for the nursing newborn or the nursing toddler- a motherโs body will adjust to provide exactly what is needed nutritionally. So, as a childโs vitamin and mineral requirements change, so will the concentration of these important nutrients in breast milk . One theory for this is that the babyโs saliva signals specific nutritional requirements… Read more »
Thank you! I was trying not to go back and forth with the Nurse
โMidwifeโ seriously? You believe that sh## over a person in the medical profession? Obviously because itโs what you and dummies like you want to believe. How dumb.
What?
I donโt see anything wrong with breastfeeding a child in public however, out of simple respect for others, cover up the act with a blanket. This is a very simple way to avoid uneeded controversy.
itโs not the breastfeeding in public, itโs the boobs all hanging out in public, why canโt you cover up?!?!?! what and how you feed your child is your business, not everyone elses!
Misogyny, Patriarchal oppression, loss of original culture, self hatred, judgement, ignorance of evolution (by intelligent design even), religious allegory misconstrued, fear mongering, cowardice, and projected sexual dysfunction and homophobiaโฆevident failure of the school system (that dumb health class), ALL this showing itself, from the beautiful pic of a BLACK woman & child, whose HUSBAND, took a picture of them because they both feel strong, fearless enough, and FREE enough, in the wilderness of North America to do so and be right in the eyes of their own enlightened minds. Ethnocentrism, begat Colonialism, which begat being stripped lost and divided (HOUSE… Read more »
Just how do you know who took the pic? Were you actually there? Oh and you read their minds and you know their perceptions huh? You need to give it up. Go and preach that unpatriotic BS to a less knowledgeable person of your kind. I can see a lot of ignorance on this matter. And a lot of people are just SO IGNORANT. Were you born with that ignorance or just never learned anything?
Susan B. Anthony!? what forum are you on? Her husband may not have taken the photo, but supported her doing so. This whole forum is about her supporting breastfeeding, and showing fearlessness as her hash tags and photos show. Living in and being born in America, affords me the right to be ANY thing I choose. And, I do have degrees, but African American studies, with a Poli- sci and Anthropology twists. So my apologies if my far fetched sensibilities donโt agree with your Eurocentric ones. Maybe Iโve been miseducated. Please donโtโ be no white girl on here calling people… Read more »
There some points to consider here. I was quoting you, โwhose HUSBAND, took a picture of them.โ Now youโre changing your tune huh? Living in and being born in America, affords me the right to believe as I choose. I have a degree also, but I donโt need to publicize it to prove anything. โMaybeโ is an understatement if you think that itโs ok to flaunt your boobs in public as those flaunting it on tv, ads, the beach, etc. I couldnโt care less about your heart as Iโm certain you couldnโt care about mine. BTW I can โbeโ anyone… Read more »
Had to give you a thumbs up! You got got me on a miss quoteโฆI have been to nude beaches on several continents after breast feeding two children, Iโm a heathen? GUILTY! and Iโve been myself for over 50 yrs. Iโm Agnostic, so religious zealots, the prudish, the pervs, the insecure, the ignorant and inane..donโt register a blip. At the end of the day, this forum is still about OPINION and Preference as to the lengths some will go to exercise their rights. Peace & Conscious Intuition
keep your boobs under wraps โ no one wants to see you feeding your spawn.
Disgusting, keep it to yourself
A lot of the comments are ridiculous. My view is if you want to breastfeed in public do so, if not then do not. I think that women should be free to do as they want when it comes to breastfeeding. I do not think there is anything wrong with breastfeeding in public when a woman can wear pasties on her boobs or a teeny tiny bikini top which basically shows everything but the nipple. No one is upset with the teeny tiny bikini large breast women, only the public breastfeeders. It is not a big deal. If my child is… Read more »
I agree that everyone should have their own choice. But you canโt ignore the fact that womenโs breast have been portrayed as sexual objects. Because of this, you canโt simply overlook that. I womenโs breasts werenโt perceived as sexual objects then we probably wouldnโt even be having this discussion. It is, what it is and I donโt see that changing any time soon. I truly agree that women should be able to breast feed their child anywhere they want to. But the world doesnโt look at it that way, at least not here in America. We canโt simply do things… Read more »
Amen!!!!
Take a look at this:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/video/zachkornfeld/titillating-facts-about-nipples
โI think that women should be free to do as they want when it comes to breastfeeding.โ Oh yeah? Well look at this & tell us if you still fee the same way:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/every-picture-of-humans-breastfeeding-animals-onโt
What exactly are you paying for. Studies have shown that it is actually the affluent whom nurse more because they have education, support and medical guidance to assist them in making the best decision. Furthermore, employers are required to provide a place for their employees to pump. Additionally, I am an attorney with a 17 month old. I nursed for almost eight months. I pumped while at work. Please advise as to how your tax dollars paid for anything.
Exactly!
I think breast feeding is a private thing between mother & child, and should not BE DONE IN PUBLIC!!!
I seriously donโt understand why Cindy got so many dislikes. She was simply stating her opinion on the topic of breast feeding. In my opinion, if a woman chooses to breastfeed outside the privacy of her home she should use a towel or small blanket to cover herself. Breast feeding is, to me, an intimate moment between the mother and her child. It is also bonding but thatโs just me. Yaya wanted to share a beautiful moment with the world and Iโm happy to see that her and her child are healthy and happy.
Modesty is something learned at home from a good Mother; it appears to be the age of hanging everything out.
I am not opposed to breast feeding in public as long as they cover up. I dont think breast should be exposed for children and adults alike. And moms who says its too hard to cover up โ they are just lazy. You all bring diapers, etc everywhere you go โ add a small cover to your diaper bag โ be responsible and considerate of those around you.
Breast feeding is bonding time with your baby. This is such a special time. Itโs economical. Itโs better then man-made formula. Itโs natural. Itโs the reason why woman have breast. Most of all itโs beautiful. Yaya do your thing.
Breast feed away in public. I think men should stop and oggle while youโre doing it. After all thatโs what men do, right? Itโs natural right?
If a woman wants to breastfeed, PLEASE do it in private. The Mom may not feel uncomfortable, others around might. This is โall about ME generationโ โ I WANT TO DO IT, SO TOUGH ON YOU IF YOU DONโT LIKE ITโ. Come on girls, be polite. Cover up.
I never understood why people get so disgusted by a mother feeding her baby in public, the nippleโs in the baby mouth its not like sheโs showing off her chest for fun. Yet itโs ok for a woman to walk around with her boobs out as long as she has pasties on her nipples. When something is used for what it was actually made forโฆ we have a problem.
It would be so nice if businesses would provide a place for moms to nurse their babies privatelyโฆjust a couch or chair or something in the restroom or a separate room. Who knowsโฆit could boost their sales if a mom goes to their store more often knowing thereโs a place to nurse privately! ๐
Jess, I agree with you. Breasts can be sexualized, but not seen when being used as intended. Thatโs ridiculous.
What? But not seen? Thatโs the problem. The breasts are seen. Some girls or women donโt even try to hide or cover themselves. They just flip everything out right in public and start milking like a cow. Itโs ok for a cow to do it in public because itโs an animal. Humans are supposed to be more civilized.
Since everyone will NEVER agree, going forward why donโt everyone simply say what your opinion of breastfeeding in public is and then be done with it. No one has to agree with you no matter how many people vote + or โ it really doesnโt matter or change the other personโs opinion. Thereโs no need to argue, just simply give your points and have a nice day!
I come to the foodcourt to enjoy my food, not watch someone flop their boob out. You donโt do that where people are trying to eat.
The baby is trying to eat. What makes you eating more important?
I donโt eat with someoneโs body parts in my mouth. Body parts that are NOT only used for feeding a baby, but also centered around sexuality. Where have you been? Ever watch TV. Hell, ever go outside? What did you think? How old are you โ 10?
Mouths are used for sexual acts, so please wear a face mask when youโre eating your burger. Thanks!
i love babes and always take notice of them. they would go into quiet areas and do it. now you see women who donโt cover from the time they whip it out till they put it back sitting out on mall benches or just walking around. the lack of class removes the beauty and makes it a truly disgusting thing
This is a great photo and we should encourage new moms to nurture their babies like this. I nursed my son in public all the time and mostly no one even noticed. I am a modest and discreet person. Regardless, no mother should ever be shamed for making the best choice for their child. They are facing so much already with a newborn (sleep deprivation, change in hormonal levels, post postpartum issues etc.) When I see a nursing mom I usually smile and say โwhat a beautiful babyโ.
I donโt see what is so โdistastefulโ or โdisturbingโ or โdisgustingโ about a woman feeding her child the way nature designed her to in a public place. So long as they arenโt just allowing their breasts to be completely exposed for anyone walking passed to see, why shouldnโt they provide nourishment for their offspring. Thereโs nothing wrong with the likes of Miley Cyrus or Kim Kardashian being damn near publicly nude (I use the word โpublicโ loosely to refer to the national exposure they get) but a non-sexualized breast being used to feed an infant is a problem? Wake the… Read more »
i donโt understand why people in north america are so against women nursing their babies in public. women in some other countries donโt even cover up, they just do their do in public!
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Maybe itโs akin to PTSD (at least for African- Amer), remember forced wet nursing during enslavement? For the life of me I have tried to understand the self deprecation that woman will subject themselves, and their babies to, in the name of not offending, being modest, being civilized, having classโฆand all the other โreasonsโ for the lengths they would have others go to so they wonโt get a glimpse of MAMMARY Gland, with child attached. N. America is the Nouveau riche kid on the block and would so like to forget its, ill-gotten and treacherous beginnings so I have given… Read more »
I have absolutely no issue with breastfeeding. I bf both of my girls for at least 13 months! But I do agree that it is a private thing and that when in public you should coverโฆ Itโs not that hard. I use to bf in public all the time. Being a mother you usually have to unless you are going to stay home all the time. Both my daughters are healthy and hardly ever get sick. They always test high on the test they takeโฆ they are happy and beautiful. Donโt see the problem with covering up while in public… Read more »
People.com
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Mother sentenced to 20 years for passing drugs along to her baby via breast milk, causing the childโs fatal overdose.
โShe loved her drugs more than she loved her child,โ prosecutor Barry Barnette told the Spartanburg, S.C., jury in summation.
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I see black and whie woman in public showing off their boobs with no bra and wearing booty shorts showing their butt cheeks to get attention . I see nothing wrong with woman breast feeding their baby in public . I donโt get why women can show their boobs when their not breast feeding but when they are breast feeding itโs a big problem! Doesnโt make any sense !
please learn to answer questions objectively. the question asked was what were our tots on breastfeeding not wether women should cover up in public when breastfeeding. am sure if she had covered up you guys would have attacked her the same way you did beyounce saying she wasnt actually breastfeeding and looking for publicity.humans are never satisfied,thats y u should always be true to yourself.
Why does she feel the need to share this on Instagram? We have all seen babies breast fed before. Spend less time on social media and more time attending to your child. Thatโs why I love Kerry Washington she would never do anything like this for show.