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Bema // 3B/C Natural Hair Style Icon

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Introduce yourself!
B:
My name is Bema. I’m mixed with Russian and Ghanaian, but I’m from and currently live in Toronto.

Why did you make the decision to go natural?
B:
I’ve been natural my entire life, but growing up I didn’t know how to manage my hair. Being mixed and not having anyone in my family with my texture made handling my hair challenging. As soon as I discovered the straightener it became a part of my daily hair regimen. Of course my hair would shed a ridiculous amount and my length wouldn’t go past shoulder length. Once my edges began to thin out I decided I needed to make a change, so I researched as much as I could about my hair on blogs and YouTube. I started by working with my damaged curls, but got fed up and decided to do a big chop in September of 2011.

How would you describe your texture?
B:
My hair is predominantly 3b/3c. My hair is constantly surprising me with different textures depending on the products I use, the techniques, temperature, etc. My hair responds to a wash and go the first day by giving me tight coils, but as the days go on my curls loosen. My hair is also extremely thick so it’s important for me to use a leave in conditioner before my styling products to make managing it less challenging.

Describe your styling regimen over the course of the month.
B:
My hair regimen consists of shampooing (which I am phasing out of my regimen), deep conditioning, co-washing, applying a leave-in conditioner, styling, and sealing/locking in the moisture with an oil. I avoid damaging my hair by limiting my use of the straightener and blow dryer. I’ve straightened my hair once in two years.

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What does wash day look like for you?
B:
I shampoo about once or twice a month and deep condition my hair weekly. My go-to deep conditioner has been the Mixed Chicks Deep Conditioner. My hair loves moisture, so whenever I find my hair getting dry during the week, I co-wash my hair with Tresemme Naturals Conditioner. My current favourite leave in conditioner is Kinky Curly Knot Today and my favourite styling product is the Kinky Curly Curling Custard. I use just a bit of the Curling Custard when I’m going for a defined curl look, but some days I don’t use it at all. Sealing my hair and locking in the moisture with almond oil is extremely important and I focus on oiling my ends to prevent breakage.

Describe your favorite go-to hairstyle for days when you don’t have a lot of time to style.
B:
My go-to style is a wash and go. I love a big foxy fro and I don’t care too much about frizz and having defined curls, most days. However, when I don’t have much time I usually lean towards a mohawk, pigtails, a big curly high ponytail or a bun. I’m currently a student and rushing to get ready for class in the morning doesn’t leave me much time, so I usually put my hair in a curly and “messy” bun.

How do you combat shrinkage?
B:
When I first started my healthy natural hair journey I was obsessed with length, especially after doing my big chop. However, I’ve learned to embrace my hair at every step because I’ve realized there are pros and cons at every stage. Honestly, there are times when I see a lady with a banging’ TWA and miss when I had mine. So I’m not concerned about shrinkage because I’m honestly enjoying the stage my hair is at, knowing my hair will grow longer in due time. I am aware of some stretch techniques, but the furthest I currently go to stretch out my uneven curls is pulling them gently when my hair is dry and holding for a few seconds.

What are some of your problem areas (if any) that require special care and attention?
B:
Because of my former heat damage, I am very gentle with my edges. I avoid wearing tight ponytails and buns. My scalp is also very sensitive and loathes product buildup, so I co-wash once or twice during the week. I also make sure to oil my hair (the ends especially) during the week to keep my hair healthy.

What are 2 do’s for your texture?
B:
Deep conditioning my hair and applying a leave-in conditioner are important for my hair. My hair responds to deep conditioning by giving me healthy, strong, and lively curls. Applying a leave-in conditioner moisturizes my hair, detangles it, makes it more manageable, and allows my curls to last longer.

What are 2 don’ts for your texture?
B:
Combing my hair when it’s dry and going too long without washing my hair are two things I avoid. Combing my hair when it’s dry causes a lot of damage, breakage, and did I mention it’s torture? My hair thrives with moisture, so going long periods without washing my hair is something I don’t do.

Is there a blog/webpage where we can find you?
B:
My Website/Tumblr: http://xobema.com
Instagram: http://instagram.com/xobema
YouTube: http://youtube.com/xobema

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Just another lover of natural hair and expression. - Style Icon Coordinator for BGLH

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Antoinette Stewart
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So naturally beautiful!

Chat1
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Chat1

Lovely hair! Great style :).

Ari Kai
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Ari Kai

Stunning (:
For some reason I see a hint of Beyoncé in the 7th picture.
I love your style and your hair is amazing. It’s great that you embrace your hair instead of constantly turning to heat! Keep rockin’ those curly pigtails girl (:

Ugonna Wosu
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Ugonna Wosu

I was thinking she looks like Solange actually

Andie
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Andie

Eii, Ghana gal, eti sen? Love, love, love the hair 🙂

gena
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gena

I sense a future style icon coming on. 🙂

WhyMe?
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WhyMe?

ok

A.Buttafly
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A.Buttafly

Love, love, love. I especially adore the afro puffs, they are normally reserved for kiddos much like the pony puff but we all do the puff right. I might rock rough and stuff with my afro puffs tomorrow.

alice
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alice

Your style and hair are so fierce… Why isn’t she featured on the BGLH style list as well???

Justine
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Shes pretty, & looks like Solange! I wouldve never guessed she was mixed though.

helio
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helio

Just curious, why wouldn’t you have guessed that she was mixed?

Nicole
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Nicole

I see a bit of Solange in her. I love her hair, it soo diva.

sweetapple
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sweetapple

Looks alot like Solange. Pretty. Lol Russian wow? She looks Spanish black or Dominican.

gigi
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gigi

devotchka! 🙂 loving that ‘vibe’ t‑shirt!

mlank64
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mlank64

Gorgeous, love the afro puffs

Dotty
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Dotty

In the picture with the white leather jacket, she reminds me of former YTber ChiselleCouture. Nice hair!

lahblooplah
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lahblooplah

WOW… you are gorgeous and so is your hair.

Dr. Shmenkleman
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Dr. Shmenkleman

never fails… the obligatory lame celebrity comparison & ethnicity speculation posts — like they’re running their own human genome lab & have cracked the illusive genetic code on racial mixtures, but her existence & appearance confounds them allllll! bahahaaa!

lahblooplah
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lahblooplah

I really hate that

WhyMe?
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WhyMe?

what do you hate?

Quan
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Quan

Yasssss! What is that about?? What is the “mixed” or “part Russian look” that she supposedly doesn’t have and why does it matter?

Michelle
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Michelle

If there are bi-racial people who have a ‘whiter’ appearance like Rashida Jones then surely there are bi-racial people with a ‘blacker’ appearance like this young lady.

takumi
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takumi

Yeah, some of my cousins are white as fuck … I however have similar coloring to this girl. That’s just how mixed families turn out.

Christina
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Christina

The thing is that she is actually half black and half white, i.e. half African, half European, as opposed to half African American and half white. The majority of African Americans are mixed (i.e.) not fullly black, therefore if an A.A. person procreates with a white/European person, the offspring is in most cases genetically more white than black, thus the very light-skinned appearance. People who are half African and half white appear “darker” because they are a 50/50 mix. Therefore I don‘t think that Bema looks extraordinary “black” given that she is mixed. Here in Europe are many half African/half… Read more »

Christina
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Christina

By the way I‘m half German, half Ghanaian and I love her hair and style; she‘s beautiful and a real style icon!

maralondon
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maralondon

First off many Europeans are mixed with African or Asian and many Asians with African, has been like this for centuries. So when talking about the 50/50 ratio you could be so far off the mark. The fact is there are many non Africans who have non European ancestors and are completely unaware of this or in denial. To say that you can define one’s complexion by knowing their genetic mix is ludicrous. I live in Europe, England to be exact and i wouldn’t even make such a sweeping statement. The African(as well as people of non white appearence) presence… Read more »

takumi
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takumi

oof I have hair just like hers! Mine is a bit longer but I am LOVING the shape of yours and the little afro puffs. 🙂

ammamama
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Ghana in the house {whoop whoop}! She is gorgeous!

Asana
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Yes Ghana in the house indeed! Lovely hair and style.

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Nkem
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I like your hair and your sense of style too.

Ugonna Wosu
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Ugonna Wosu

oh my, she and her hair are gorgeous.

Lyannis
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Lyannis

Finally found my hair twin!!

kay
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kay

OMG shes so pretty loving the curls so unified

naya
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naya

i love my hair but i’ll trade it in for yours any day! lol!

geri
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geri

sooo beautiful!! love everything about her

BBKola
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BBKola

So BEAUTIFUl!!!! n you look a bit like Solange.

Tishirae
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Tishirae

I just haaaad to leave a comment? I absolutely loooove your natural hair. It’s gorgeous and compliments you very well. Reading your interview questions and seeing your pics was so inspiring. I’m on year two of being natural and I always feel like my hairstyles are boring, while everyone else always tell me how they are so fierce. Seeing your hair reminds me that no matter how regular I think I look, on any given day, my natural hair is fierce and gorgeous. Your Frohawk pic is what attracted me to the page. I was like hey, she looks like… Read more »

youngin girl
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youngin girl

Couldn’t have worn it better.

BeUtifully Human
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BeUtifully Human

Nice!

Stella WaAfrika
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I absolutely love your hair. Very beautiful! The one thing about having natural hair is the many diverse ways to maintain your hair. Being open minded where your hair is concerned is vital, you learn so much about it at every given phase whilst experimenting different styles. You get to learn something new everyday and it gets easier with time knowing what works for you. I find that exciting.
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Aicha
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Hey!
First of all, I would like to say you’re hair is absolutely beautiful!:-)
I’m malian, ivorian and polish and have the same type of hair as you. It’s much shorter though and i alot of trouble making it look as good as yours.. I’m definetly going to follow your advices :-)! I live in Belgium and I don’t really know where to buy these products though. Have you got any websites that deliver these products(international website)? Anyway I’ve found your advices very helpful, thank you very much

louloumatou
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louloumatou

Hey Aicha,
You can buy products from:
— Mariposa Import (in the Netherlands, http://www.mariposaimport.com)
— British Curlies (in the UK, http://www.britishcurlies.co.uk)
i am in the Netherlands and i purchase from those 2 websites.
Hope it helps.
Au cas ou tu parles Francais, les frais de livraison sont un peu cher de British Curlies, mais les produits sont nettement moins chers qu’a mariposa!
Bonne chance!!

ManeOriginsHair
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Your hair looks amazing. Big hair is beautiful 🙂

Andre C. Hatchett
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Amazing!!
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Short Natural Hair Styles
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Hello Meosha, Your hair looks awesome. I like your hair & site. Thanks for sharing.

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