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5 Common Natural Hair Practices that Don’t Work for My Kinky Hair

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By Ijeoma of KlassyKinks.com

One of the biggest mistakes I see people make in their journey toward happier, healthier, kinky hair is holding to every single word, suggestion, or product recommendation that they get from their favorite blogger, their homegirl, or a random commenter on a natural hair forum. I can’t stress this enough: no two heads of hair are the same, so your optimal hair care routine shouldn’t be exactly like that of another kinky haired queen. There are some standard recommendations that the majority of naturals abide by, but I’ve decided not to, for various reasons. My momma didn’t raise a liar, so I’m not going to sit here and say I’ve never done these things – in fact I used to do them all – but I’ve grown out of the need to. Check them out below:

1. My Hair Type Is…

dope hair type

Some people view hair typing as the first objective after their big chop, believing that they will be able to identify with and thus learn from other naturals who share their same hair type. Some bloggers have even branded themselves based on their hair type, and you can easily hashtag #4a or #4c and come up with tens of thousands of hits. In my early YouTube days, I definitely identified as a 4c, and then as my hair grew out more, a 4b/4c. One defining moment that moved me away from hair typing actually happened on YouTube, I had made a length check video at the 1.5 year natural mark of my journey. Yo, people in the comments were straight ARGUING that my hair was not 4c, it was 4a; others were countering that it had to be 4c for reason xyz. Mind you, I was making videos using the webcam on my Macbook, so this was some amateur quality video clarity that commenters felt showed them my definition! At that point, I pulled up my big girl panties, decided not to be hurt or offended, and concluded that hair typing was something that was a personal decision. At some point, I tried again to determine my hair type, only to find 5 or 6 different charts, some of which used pictures of celebrities with afro wigs in the kinkier range. So I made a video on my frustrations with the whole hair typing situation, and shortly thereafter, gave up hair typing for good. Once I learned about other ways of describing one’s hair – such as density, thickness, and porosity – I saw those as far more useful, and objective classifications. Now, if you ask me my hair type, I’ll tell you that it’s kinky. C’est tout.

2. Length Checks

Another change that happened due to YouTube: I don’t focus on regular length checks anymore. For one, I never set out for a certain length goal, so really what’s the point of measuring my length every month or three months? Secondly, YouTube naturals will be like “but your hair is supposed to be x inches long by now, and it’s x‑1 inches long, so you’re messing up!” All I wanted when going natural was to have thick, healthy hair, and I believe I’m doing a good job of achieving that goal for myself. This is another reason why I am diligent about trimming my hair; I’d much rather have 8 inches of perfectly thick and healthy hair than 10 inches of thinned out, straggly ends. If I was striving for waist length hair, I’m already doing a few things that would be setting me back, such as coloring my hair several times and being unfaithful with protective styling. Finally, I don’t straighten my hair enough, and I don’t have the desire to straighten regularly, to do “accurate” length checks. Knowing how much my hair shrinks, it’s highly likely that I will have variable lengths based on how stretched out my hair is, so consistent results can only be obtained with straight hair. My hair is longer than it ever was when relaxed, so I’ve achieved my length goal if there ever was one, so I’m not concerned with length checks.

3. Using a Wide Tooth CombDenman Brush, or Tangle Teezer

Now don’t think that I use rat tail combs and boar bristle brushes to detangle my hair! I used to rely heavily on wide toothed combs in the shower while detangling, and Denman brushes to further detangle before styling. I don’t remember what exactly inspired me, but I haven’t combed or brushed my hair since August of this year (since my last hair color). I can’t prevent hair stylists from not combing my hair, so when I got cornrows for my birthday, trust and believe the braider attacked my hair with a comb. Instead of detangling with tools, I just use my little fingers and go through my hair strands before washing. I spritz my dirty dry hair with a mix of water, oil, and conditioner, cue up a Netflix movie, and go to work. I also don’t believe in having perfectly detangled hair anymore; I don’t see why it’s necessary. As long as I’ve removed major tangles from my hair, I’m not going to worry about separating each of the thousands of strands of hair on my head from each other, knowing they’re going to want to get married again in 5 minutes. Yes, it takes longer, but I’m able to find knots and tangles without first pulling at them, which is what combs and brushes do.

4. (Bi) Weekly Wash Day

Also in the hair maintenance department, a lot of naturals co-wash weekly or more often, and shampoo biweekly or more. This girl over here? In the summers, I MIGHT co wash every other week, but otherwise, I shampoo and deep condition once a month. Considering I exercise semi regularly, you might be curious to how I’m not walking around with smelly hair. I don’t sweat too much from my scalp, but I do very regular scalp massages with a light oil (jojoba most often) to keep my scalp super duper fresh. Tea tree oil is also super helpful when your hair starts flaking but you need to get a few more days (or a week lol) out of a style. I don’t necessarily think that washing your hair less frequently helps with hair growth or anything, but being a lazy time-efficient individual, I feel like I should only wash when my hair needs a serious cleansing. Furthermore, I’d go three weeks without washing my hair when it was relaxed (tryna stretch out the initial style) so I don’t understand why some naturals find it necessary to douse their hair in water every few days. Whatever floats your boat.

5. Having a Hair Twin/Hair Crush?

This final diversion from most natural hair practices is that I don’t have a hair crush, nor a hair twin. I’ve already addressed how no two heads of hair are the same, and an Instagram photo can’t show you a person’s density or porosity to determine whether their hair is just like yours. As for the hair crush, one of my favorite comments I received on YouTube was “I am my own hair crush”. That was the greatest, most self-affirming statement about anyone’s hair that I’d ever seen! Especially amongst kinky haired ladies, some of us crush on people with – let’s be honest now – longer, less kinky hair. Just check out the natural hair bloggers with the most followers, how many of them have a spherical afro? Hair crushing dangerously tiptoes the line of hair hierarchies, so we have to work extra hard to love the hair that we were given. I’ve now adopted the mindset that I’m my own hair crush. I don’t envy anyone else’s hair, and I am flattered, but sort of dismayed, when people say that I am their hair crush. We should strive towards full acceptance of our kinks, and not lust after another woman’s head. It’s not about pomposity, or thinking that my hair is any better than anyone else’s; I definitely look up to other natural haired beauties and respect their diligence towards healthy hair care, their innovative hair styles, their patient approach to educating others about natural hair, or their ability to build a brand. But when it comes down to which head of hair I like the most, it’s got to be my own. You can say the same thing about body type… you’ve got to love your own more than anyone else’s, and even if you’re not completely happy with it, you have to try your best to be comfortable in your own skin.

Are there any common natural hair practices that you don’t do? Do you think there are certain things that all naturals have to do to have healthy hair?

Klassy-Kinks.com founder and editor, Ijeoma Eboh, is on a mission to change perceptions of kinky textured hair around the world.

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I totally agree with you on #1,2, and especially #5. A friend and I were discussing this last week. Now that we’ve natural for some time — 8 years for me — a lot of the things that we obsessed and worried about early on seem pointless. Our regimens have drastically simplified, our product stockpile is depleted. Plus, I have no problem getting a stylist to do my twists once every couple months in order to get out of the salon and into a nap in less than 60 minutes. Blasphemy, I know. Until I cut 3–4 inches last month,… Read more »

Ijeoma Eboh
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8 years natural, go you! And I agree, these things came with time for me too (now over 3 years); before I felt I had to play by the “rules”, and now I just do what works for me. Thanks for reading!

Liz
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Liz

Another 8 years natural like me! Woohoo! I cna relate to everything in this article & your comment. My regime & product heap has drastically reduced. Gone are the days I used to deep condition over night & wake up with messy sheets. My denman & comb are gather a nice layer of dust. I learnt the hard way that my hair thrived when I left it alone. Everything’s super simplified for me, no need to spend over an hour washing & conditioning. & definitely no way I’m spending over $100 a year on products anymore! & I feel you… Read more »

phy356
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phy356

This spoke some truth into me. I can‘t speak for other people, but I know that I can sometimes become a little obsessive when I compare my hair to the people I watch on YouTube!

Candice
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Candice

Strange that an article on how two heads are not the same is still giving advice. That being said, I really don’t personally agree with 1 & 5 at all. In regards to hair typing, as an early natural, I found it really helpful. Looking at videos of women with 3C or 4B hair weren’t very helpful to me. I found Natural Chica and Naptural85 who both had 4A hair like myself, and I followed their tips. This also leads to why I don’t agree with #5. An unhealthy obsession and coveting what others have is never a good idea,… Read more »

Ijeoma Eboh
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Thanks for reading and commenting! If you watch my hair typing video (linked in the post), you’ll see why I think hair type charts are extremely different from other measuring systems… bra sizes are based on a tangible, scientific measurement (inches), and the system is standardized. Also, there’s no hierarchy in the bra sizing charts themselves. Hair type charts are not grounded in data or fact, they’re opinion based/subjective, which also explains why they aren’t standardized. They also position straight hair over kinky hair, both in the numbering and in the visual representations of straight hair at the top or… Read more »

Candice
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Candice

85–90% of women are supposedly wearing the wrong bra size. It’s not that scientific. And there is a hierarchy…A is the smallest and it gets larger as you go down the alphabet. But it has nothing to do with value. http://www.thinandcurvy.com/2011/05/do-85-of-women-really-wear-wrong-bra.html Similarly, there is the Kinsey Scale that measures human sexuality. 0 being totally heterosexual and 6 being totally homosexual. Does that mean that being totally heterosexual is the worst and totally homosexual is the best? Or vice versa? Of course not. It’s a spectrum. Like the light spectrum has red on the left and violet on the right. It’s… Read more »

Jesse
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Jesse

Ijeoma I think you are projecting your own interpretation of a TOOL onto others. Bra sizes are not more scientific than hair typing. Heck even the use of bras is more of a social norm, and there truly is no scientific data for the usage of bras at all. Like bra sizing, hair typing is a tool that people use. If one person uses those tools to create stratification, that is that individual. That does not speak to the usefulness of the tool itself. As for curl defining creams, they are ALSO a tool. I have 4c hair. Just because… Read more »

Tyki
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Tyki

Candice, I totally agree with you. There were a couple of things in this article i didnt necessarily agree with…but to each it’s own.

Jesse
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Jesse

I agree with Candice. Hair typing is a tool. If you use that tool to maybe gain help from other naturals who have similar hair issues, how is that wrong? If you use that tool to diminish the value of your own hair or claim that one is objectively better than the other, well that is on you. However, I think Ijeoma should realize that some people use the same tools in different ways. Just like a person can have a “hair crush” who they admire and get courage from. Another can use a “hair crush” to further lower their… Read more »

Candice
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Candice

Strange that an article on how two heads are not the same is still giving advice. That being said, I really don’t personally agree with 1 & 5 at all. In regards to hair typing, as an early natural, I found it really helpful. Looking at videos of women with 3C or 4B hair weren’t very helpful to me. I found Natural Chica and Naptural85 who both had 4A hair like myself, and I followed their tips. This also leads to why I don’t agree with #5. An unhealthy obsession and coveting what others have is never a good idea,… Read more »

Aya
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Aya

Finally there is someone who isnt obsessed with natural hair. I dont care for 3c, 4a double ds. I just want to maintain my natural hair. Thats all. Thanks for the post!!

lahblooplah
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lahblooplah

LOL at double d’s hahahaha

Caray
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Caray

If she is not “obsessed” why write this very detail article…
I know my hair type, being 7 months natural after 20 months transition I do check my length (growth) I use a wide tooth comb (hate finger detangling, I dont have a hair crush or idol and rarely watch you tube videos, and I wash when my hair needs it no regular schedule! I say do you!

Deb
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Deb

If she is not “obsessed” why write this very detail article…”

Huh? you don’t have to be obsessed with something to write and article about it. Or maybe we are now redefining the meaning of obsession.

Caray
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Caray

If she isnt worried, obsess or care about this items listed why take the time to write about?!?!?!

Lex
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Lex

Because she is a natural hair blogger. That is why she wrote the article for the readers on her blog. Some people are unhappy with their own hair and are obsessed with other peoples’ hair. What I take from the article is be happy with your hair {texture and length}, don’t compare it to anyone else’s and enjoy the journey.

Aya
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Aya

I totally agree with Lex. She is a blogger

Tina
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Tina

I celebrated my 2 year nappiversary this month and I still can not get with protective styling lol.

Aya
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Aya

Tina have u ever tried the crotchet braiding. I just discovered on IG. Then i followed on youtube. This hairstyle is so cool and easy. My daughter installed it. But i chopped it up. I cant stand hair touching my neck. I had it in for a few days now. I havent taking any pictures yet. You should check it out

Dananana
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Dananana

I have so much love for this blog post!! It’s like she just read my mind (excluding #4– my scalp needs a wash at least every other week). I too am guilty of everything on this list, but as my natural journey has progressed, I find that: a) I could care less about hair typing. It seems that the majority of naturals are multitextured, and with 5–6 different curl patterns on my head, typing does nothing for me. b) While I still have length goals, I am not going through the emotional process of straightening my hair every 2–3 months… Read more »

B
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B

Good points that everyone is different. I don’t really follow too many of the natural rules anymore. I use heat to stretch my hair, I don’t sleep with any conditioner or oil in my head, I don’t know or care about my hair type, I only really protective style in the winter. I’ve noticed that many of my relaxed hair days habits have adapted fine to my natural hair; I always washed my hair weekly, rarely ever did any type of weaves, and rarely went to the shop. I feel like because so many are not use to or dont… Read more »

Aretha
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Aretha

I pretty much agree w/everything here, and I’ve felt this way for some while. I have no problem with hair typing in the sense that it’s a good reference (people w/3c hair can do the same styles and someone w/4c hair and the styles will give totally different looks) but not as something to follow religiously. I have learned so much about hair in general since I’ve gone natural, but I’ve also remembered never to take anything to heart. I wash my hair when it’s dirty, I co-wash when I feel like it and I have never “protective styled” (I… Read more »

Ijeoma Eboh
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Yasssss, please remind us of the deeply engrained anti-kinky hair history that this country has and has spread around the world!

Elle
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Elle

This ingrained mindset has actually been used as a tool of oppression without any help from the U.S. in MANY colonized countries, it didn’t develop in the US and get dispersed with the wind. Read historical accounts of Caribbean, South American and African countries and indigenous populations in Polynesia such as the Tongans. It’s hard NOT to find an area or group in the African diaspora and diasporic ‘Oceania’ that didn’t encounter and develop their own domestic-bred sources of color, facial feature and hair oppression.

Aretha
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Aretha

None of that is “domestic bred”. In my post I was specifically talking about Black-Americans, in which case ours was ignited by Anglo people oppressing and marginalizing us. The same can be said for all those other areas of the world. You did not see them wanting straighter hair, lighter eyes etc. until they were touched by Europeans. It actually makes no logical sense to believe that they would covet something that they have never seen. If all you know if wide nose, nappy hair and dark skin, you’re not just going to wake up one day deciding that something… Read more »

Dananana
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Dananana

Agreed, Aretha. I would argue that the cycle is more “Anglo oppression —>ingrained mentality/lack of self-worth—>internal oppression”.

Sometimes, I like to daydream about what our world would be like if the great civilizations of old in Africa never fell.

TF
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TF

THANK YOUUUU.

LaShunda
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LaShunda

Healthy hair over length anyday

JENNID
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JENNID

Hair typing and length checks are the two things ive never really got into. I just don’t see the point. Sure I can classify my hair at 4b/c but big whoop. It doesn’t tell me anything except I belong in this box or corner concerning my hair. These things are just little phases naturals go through until they get the hang of their hair. After awhile most will figure out the best method is their own. Lol at the odd food bits in the #washday pic. I don’t know why people act like wash day is suppose to be a… Read more »

nourisha
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i absolutely hate wearing protective styles for the sake of growing hair. i wear them because they are cute and then i want to try something else. i’m glad i’m not the only person completely confused by the “cover your hair” mentality. to be fair, i understand the convenience, trust me. but i personally like the feel and touch of my hair. if i can’t run my fingers through it something is wrong! i also wash my hair very regularly, like every other day. stinky hair is a big ick. sticky hair is a big ick. hard hair is a… Read more »

Aretha
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Aretha

I think you summed up what I’ve been trying to say. I don’t like protective styling for the sake of growing hair (I think this is fine if someone else does so. We all have different goals), because that’s never been my goal. Having braided extensions, wearing a bun or other wise tucking your ends away into a low manipulation hair style might be “protective” but that does not mean I am “protective styling”. I am just styling my hair! If I only wore out-styles I’d be so incredibly bored with my hair b/c there’s only so much you can… Read more »

coffeeandfingernails
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After 3 years natural I feel like this process has been a lot like having a first child–you read all the advice, make yourself crazy trying to do every single thing right every single day because one slip up will destroy everything forever until you finally realize that your “baby” is a lot more resilient than you think.

LBell
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LBell

Brilliant analogy! You’ve got me thinking of that diaper commercial showing what happens between the first kid and the second kid… 🙂 Upon first reading the title I confess I thought: “How many different times can it be said that THE ONLY THING that all naturals have in common is that we’re not using chemicals that permanently alter our hair texture? What is it with people who insist on thinking that there are rules that all naturals must follow?” I then reread it, and read the article, and saw that Ijeoma is basically saying exactly that. Re hair typing: Used… Read more »

Toni
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Toni

Amen! I’m all on board for 1 to 5. Two years in and my hair is doing great, even though I’m breaking the rules. So much so, I’m my biggest hair crush.

Kay
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Kay

I relate to all of this!! I’ve been natural 10+ years and have never measured my hair. I don’t have the time nor inclination to straighten my hair to do a check. I never understood why a length check is done on straight hair when it’s worn curly, anyway. Also, I like to cut my hair too much for me to do length checks. When wash days (which are as needed) start taking forever, I cut it…and it grows back. My goal is to have healthy curly/kinky/nappy 4x hair. Blogs, boards, and sometimes videos (not into youtube) do provide inspiration… Read more »

cacey
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cacey

Like!

Chiyevo
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Chiyevo

Great perspective Ijeoma! I am almost a year post bc and already feel exhausted trying to keep up with the ever changing/different regiments, suggestions and tips. I appreciate the wealth of knowledge out there but trying to keep up has become cumbersome. I decided that in irder for me to enjoy my hair journey it has to cease being a big production. I will listen to my hair and make adjustments accordingly! Falling in love with it more and more each day!

Missc
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Missc

You hit a home-run with this one Klassy-Kinks. I agree with all of the above 🙂

TINA SMITH
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TINA SMITH

I AGREE WITH EVERYTHING ESPECIALLY THE CONSTANT WASHING ( I CLEANSE TWICE A MONTH), HAIR TYPING, AND HAIR CRUSHING. I CRINGE EVERY TIME I SEE SOMEONE TYPE THEY HAVE A HAIR CRUSH. YOU REALLY HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD. I ALWAYS SAY I CRUSH ON MY OWN HAIR. PEOPLE LAUGH BUT IT’S TRUE. IT’S NOT MENTALLY HEALTHY TO BE OBSESSED WITH SOMEONE ELSE’S HAIR

Missc
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Missc

Agreed. O_o

TMal
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TMal

I get the everyone’s head is different message and I do think it is one that needs to be stressed, but I also feel the writer is projecting, especially with #2. There is no reason to have straggly ends if you care for your hair. There is also no reason to diligently trim natural hair if you care for it. The only reason why many stylists urge relaxed women to trim regularly is because of the chemicals, heat and constant manipulation. So it is okay if you have accepted that you have not had the length gains as other natural… Read more »

ayomide
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ayomide

I strongly agree with #5 bcus i don’t really have confidence for my transiting hair . Hopfully one day ill walk outside with my head held high after this helpful post. i get this post she’s trying to let reality sank in our heads.

Nichola
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Nichola

Great article and on point! I agree with everything, especially #5. Thank you

Hansy
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Hansy

I love this article. Many truths in it. However there are two things I can’t do without. 1. washing my hair weekly. I’ve tried to last longer but I just can’t. I love getting my hair wet and washing it 2. Is detangling. I am obsessed with detangled hair. I detangle almost daily. I know is a bad thing to do but I can’t help myself. I can get away with it now because my hair is short but I am afraid of what would happen when it gets longer. I seriously can’t keep my hands and combs away from… Read more »

WhyMe?
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WhyMe?

u detangle daily??? how? do you work or stay at home?

Hansy
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Hansy

I work from home but I like retwist before going to bed and I detangle every single time. I put a netflix movie in my laptop while doing it and it doesn’t take me that long since it is usually tangle free. Last monday I did a style to last me the whole week and it has taken a lot of will power to keep my denman and my combs away lol. I also detangle my son’s hair everyday before going to school, he has long 3b/c hair. It’s a habit.

Tabatha
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Tabatha

Oh No, I think you need a detangling support group. lol

Hansy
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Hansy

I seriously do. lol

Renee
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Renee

No you don’t! I like to detangle daily also; unless I have small twist then I just play spray my hair and add some butter. I have a hard time keeping my hands out if my hair when it is out.

Niccy
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Niccy

I dread detangling my hair. I love washing it though, and it loves to be washed in return 🙂

Renee
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Renee

I wash my hair weekly but use a homemade hair rinse for my scalp daily. I work out 5–6 days a week and I sweat in my head.

Jessica
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Jessica

What’s your recipe for your hair rinse?

hyspin
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hyspin

I don’t protective style as far as buns are concern, the band being around the my hair causes serious breakage, instead I rely on low manipulation styles like twists, and a few updos that only require hair pins (or maybe bobby pins) and in rare occasions braids. I noticed far more retained length from hair that manipulated for re-twisting almost daily than from hair put up in a bun for a week to two weeks at a time, and that’s I know buns are big NO-NO. Also I ignore the advice of trimming your hair 4–6 weeks. I think it… Read more »

Tabatha
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Tabatha

Coconut oils is awesome in my hair. I do my hair in sections too in the shower. I don’t even really get hair typing Look at different strands in my hair I have 3A all the way to 4C, So I just categorize it as THICK.

Tabatha
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Tabatha

First thing I have to say, That T‑shirt is SO CUTE! I feel that there is nothing wrong with trying something that someone on a vlog is putting out there. I mean you buy it(KEEP THE RECIEPT), you try it, and if it doesn’t work for you, you can take it back and get your money back. I’ve actually gotten some great tips from watching other youtube videos. I haven’t done a length check. The only time I notice it is when it gets caught in something that it never has before. when it comes to washing, I wash my… Read more »

linda
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linda

Thank you BGLH! This article is so on point. The author explained one important thing here: when it comes to your body (hair included) find what works for you, stick to it and help the other find what works for them as well instead of following you. As for #1, I never typed my hair. I know it’s a type 4 and that is enough for me. Why? because I believe that nobody has the same type of hair strands front to back and ear to ear. Even identical twins sharing the same placenta can have different type of hair.… Read more »

Angela W
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Angela W

#1. I disagree…I don’t have a problem with hair typing as long as it not used as a divisive thing; personally, I us it to help me find hair care products that are suitable for my hair. #3. I agree…I have have all three(Denman Brush, Wide Tooth Comb, & Tangle Teezer) & I’ve never used any of them(I strictly finger detangle). #4. Each person has to determine for themselves. based on their own hair care & scalp needs, how often to shampoo/co-wash. I wash my hair every 9 days(Why?.…because on day 9 my scalp starts to itch & I figure… Read more »

nappy headed black girl
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I can relate to everything on this list. I don’t think I’ve ever done a length check in my life. I focus on health and maintenance. The growth will come.

I don’t do the hair typing system, either. I have plenty of pics and videos of my hair so people can come to their own conclusions. I just say it’s nappy and keep it moving.

Caleb
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Thanks for the post. The biggest thing to remember is that different types of hair need different types of care.

TheRYL1
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TheRYL1

P R E A C H! 🙂 You said it all. (But, I do wash bi-weekly or more if needed. Any longer than that, it’s a “Nappy Fruit Jungle”! 😉

When I finally saw my real hair texture, I realized, I’m the only one with this hair…I better love it. 😉

Abra
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THANK YOU very much for this post, I feel relieved to find a person with kinky hair sharing my point of view and especially my habits!
Because, I don’t wash my hair as frequently as most the naturals do, however my hair don’t smell! Sometimes when I browse youtube channels, I think I don’t have a “good hair routine” comparing with other people, but finally, all that matters is to find his own tips. Thanks to you, I know that I’m not alone!
(in case of errors, excuse my English, I am french! 😉

Neesha
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love this.…I use the hair typing system but I do not take it to seriously lol…I do not fully detangle either and I worn my boo not to try to get his fingers from my scalp outward cos he may catch a snag lol…I use my fingers to detangle now because I like to feel the knots etc. My wash days are super fast! lol

I do personal length checks but I do not plan on doing any on my youtube channel especially since I really do not recall when I stopped relaxing lol

Carlita May
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My favourite article so far! I agree with everything. Especially about length check and hair crushes.
I didn’t realise I was my own hair crush till I read this. I keep a photo near my bed side of a collage of me wearing my hair in my fav twist out styles lol. I love my fro. And the length I didn’t care about either until watching YouTube. Love YouTube but sometimes too much of a good thing can be bad for you. Xx

DeAna
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DeAna

Hi! I’m new to this site and this by far the best article that I have read yet. 🙂 I currently have locs seven years in and I plan on going back to wearing my fro after the first of the year. I also am a mother of two girls ages 9 and 6 and I’m so gun ho about teaching them loving and acceping theirselves. And yes! Their naturals are different even with the same mother and father.

tmc (torontomeetup jan25)
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I always use to think there was something wrong with me by not having a hair crush. I don’t know of anyone with my hair struggles and so I can’t have a haircrush. I also do finger detangling because I see it a waste of time to have 100% detangled hair. The styles I do don’t require perfectly detangled hair anyway. I use to co-wash weekly when I used gel and sticky hair products in my hair. But now I do bi-weekly. I do length checks though because my hair grows slow and breaks easily. And i don’t want to… Read more »

Danielle
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Danielle

I like this. I don’t do all the standard natural regimen steps and hoops.. when I day I don’t oil my hair or scalp, even white people look at me like “but you’re supposed to”. I hate twists. my hair gets more knotted being in twists than when I just wear a fro. and my curl pattern varies so much thru my head that I never could figure out my hair type and the tips for my possible hair type(s) yield horrible results… anyway, yea. I do my own thing although I think it’d be easier if I could treat… Read more »

IG: NaturallyPaige_
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This post right here really helped! I’m only 5 months natural so I’m glad I found this relatively early 🙂

Jyl
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Jyl

I definitely agree with #2. I’ve had so many naturals look at me sideways when I say I don’t have a length goal. Long hair isn’t why I started this journey.

Meshaay
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I’m glad I’m not the only one that does some of these. At the same time, I do wonder if maybe I should try doing the opposite of some of these more often, since my hair stays at really slow growth and not the most amazing retention.

jl
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jl

I’ve tried finger detangling and not using a comb for awhile because so many naturals raved about retaining length etc. It didn’t do anything but make me lose length. I dealt with extra tangles, knots and splits all due to the extra hair being stuck in my hair causing problems. I also found it was way too time consuming. I would spend 15 min on a small sections and it still would not be detangled properly. I finger detangle the big tangles so i can avoid breakage but I wont go without a comb again. I also don’t use tangle… Read more »

Claudette UK
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Claudette UK

I agree with all of the above, except that I do have two hair crushes. I don’t bother to crush on someone who isn’t even a 4 type but I wash my hair once a month and it isn’t smelly. Believe me my children would tell me if it was, they have no trouble telling me my bum jiggles when I walk or that I have a fat tummy

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