Mom Crystal Russ Horace discovered this Halloween that her daughter’s love for her natural hair goes deep. Check it out;
Yesterday I took my daughter to get her shots. I rewarded her for being a good girl by going to get her Halloween costume. She picked out a Barbie fairy costume that came with a blonde wig. I kind of panicked inside but I allowed her to make her own choice. I had her try it on (even the wig) when we got home. To my surprise she said, “No mommy not that hair, I want to wear my own hair. I’m a brown Barbie.” Needless to say, I jumped and did a couple backflips in my head lol! She’s four years old and already knows her brown and kinky big hair is beautiful:)
I put the wig on her this morning and she still wasn’t having any of it so I straightened and banded her hair so she can wear it out tonight. She says she’s a brown Barbie and she likes her own hair better:)
Awesome! Ladies what are your thoughts?
Very nice!
You have done a wonderful job with this gorgeous angel. At four years old, she has more self-esteem and self-confidence than grown women when it comes to our natural aesthetic. Happy Halloween!
I agree, mom is doing a great job. I am glad she prefers her own hair over the wig. Some women {not all} don’t and as a result, I have seen some tragic wigs and lace fronts. I am not against either but some really look bad and hide some beautiful faces. This post reminds me of this You Tube video. Even her co-workers said she looked younger without the wigs..lol
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Awww good for her!! Out of the mouths of babes! Nice job Mom.… Beautiful girl =)
That is amazing!!! This generation will have so much confidence in themselves 🙂
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And there it is. The reason for this natural movement … to change the hearts and minds of the younger generation such that a blonde wig has no appeal. I don’t know you and I am so proud of you, mother. Wonderful, wonderful job! You are raising a self confident, beautiful young lady. Go ‘head!
My heart melted into a pile of goo as I read this…So adorbs! It really gives me hope for this upcoming generation. Radical self love already beginning to flourish at age four. Stay blessed 🙂
That’s awesome! I’m so glad to hear how the next generation feels about their own hair and their blackness. She knew that blonde wig was not happening.
Lovely! Keep up the good job! goes out to her mother.
whooo! *blackflip along with ya* lol
Whoopie! Big deal! Gee just because we come from an ignorant generation, doesn’t mean our kids do…Why are we supposed to be impressed by this. Of course she gonna pick her own pretty hair over that horse hair.
I actually cried when I read this. I wish my mother had instilled in me the love of self. I was made to feel ashamed of my beautiful nappy hair. But, I am all grown up and I have been natural for about 25 years. Happy to be Nappy 🙂
It’s a nice story but.…she did straighten and band her natural hair. Why not a twist out or curly fro like them new doctored Barbies that people give to their curly/kinky haired kids? I am not trying to be unkind, I’m just wondering.
That’s what I thought as well. I would have been more pleased with the story had the little girl worn a big afro or cute twistout…But Halloween is not a holiday I celebrate, so this story didn’t appeal to me overall anyways…
That’s the beauty of being natural you have versatility. Everyone is not opposed to using heat. People always get their panties in a bunch when a natural decides to something other than a twist-out or braid out.
For me personally having the option to wear my hair wild and free or to straighten my hair is the reason why I went natural not everyone fits into one mold.
then don’t be unkind…it’s a beautiful story about a little girl having her own identity at this age.
on a more serious note.…that much hair at age 4??? You go “Brown Barbie”!!!!!
hooooooorrrrrrraaaaaayyyyyyy! Praise GOD! so excited to hear that!!
Thank you ladies for kind words:)
That baby will grow up a strong woman because of you mama! I wish you had been my mom! Keep up the good work!
Proof that our black girls and black teens are listening to us and watching our moves. She is very cute and I like that she stood her ground. her hair is so much prettier and you can see her natural beauty versus someone else “perceived beauty”. Way to go momma.
🙂 I’m doing backflips in my head also!
Yaaaay!
She is a beautiful girl and her hair is beautiful! #goodchoice #greatjobmom
It’s encouraging to read these kind of stories. Thanks for sharing Crystal Russ Horace. On another note, what is your regimen with your daughter’s hair? Her hair is amazing! My little sister is 7 years old, and her natural hair has been at shoulder length for what seems like forever. My mother was never really into taking care of our natural hair (I had my first relaxer by the age of 3), so I never really learned all the tricks and products for retaining and maintaining long natural hair, besides braiding it. I would really love whatever useful pointers/tips that… Read more »
I cowash her hair every two weeks with carols daughter hair milk. I also use the leave in conditioner and black vanilla spray in for detangling. If I braid her hair one week the next week I’ll do ponytails or a puff. I try not to braid too tight and I seal her ends with royal crown hair grease. I am not a naturalist that believes every ingredient has to come from Mother Earth and be absolutely pure lol. Lastly, I only buy carols daughter when they have sales and promotions. It can be a bit pricey.
Awesome!
Thanks for responding back. I’m going to try this, maybe not with the Carols Daughter’s product (I don’t do with pricey. lol)
It’s encouraging to read these kind of stories. Thanks for sharing Crystal Russ Horace. On another note, what is your regimen with your daughter’s hair? Her hair is amazing! My little sister is 7 years old, and her natural hair has been at shoulder length for what seems like forever. My mother was never really into taking care of our natural hair (I had my first relaxer by the age of 3), so I never really learned all the tricks and products for retaining and maintaining long natural hair, besides braiding it. I would really love whatever useful pointers/tips that… Read more »
Yessssssssss! Do that baby girl!! I’m glad she knows her natural hair is better than anything fake. Love self first!! Keep up the good work!
I just love that we have taken back our pride in our hair and the baby girls see the pride and they are embracing it!
Okay that is awesome. She is so cute too! This natural hair movement is an interesting thing. Not only are we educating ourselves, but this knowledge that we have is so valuable to younger generations. Imagine a whole generation of black women who grew up loving their natural selves. What an empowered generation indeed! 🙂
BRAVA BABY GIRL BRAVA!!!
Why wouldn’t she, you made a beautiful baby 😉
Wow 4 years old with such a good head on her shoulders. She has learn to look at herself in a positive way because of the good influence’s encouraging words around her! Looks like she hasn’t been influenced by the t.v. or peers, but my her loving parents! Good job parents!
Awwww!! this is SO adorable! You are right baby, your own hair looks 10 times better 🙂
Amen! I love the fact that that little sistah loves who she is and won’t let society tell her what is standard. Adults can learn a lesson from her!
But you still straightened her hair though…So its like you negated everything you said, because she still likes the more socially acceptable version of herself/hair (straight) instead of her natural (maybe kinky/un-straightened) hair.
I Don’t Get it really Don’t get it…and I’m sure you won’t if you don’t have hair like that. She pressed it out and banded it to take it out later that night because it is more manageable that way. As someone who has grown with a lot of natural hair on my head (A LOT) I understand the need to find ways to manage hair. If she left the hair out it could get tangled (I can’t believe I’m having to defend/explain that woman’s choice) I just dislike seeing when someone shares good news and another person always try… Read more »
I rarely straighten her hair. She was a character and that character had long straight hair. But even with her hair straightened when I took those bands off it was still big, poofy and kinky. But a little more manageable like the lady said above. If she went as the girl from Brave (she has long curly locks) I would’ve did a bangin twist out lol.
i find it so sad when black people repeatedly refer to our hair in the context of manageability. so weird.
although i believe the author can do as she pleases with her child’s hair i had a similar initial thought…
hmmm, interesting
I feel a bit teary!
I was elated that she rejected the blonde wig. I thought I’d be reading something negative but this is a story I will remember. There’s nothing wrong with dressing up and wearing a wig for that particular day. Her poinytail is cute and so is she. Somewhere along, Change should be expected.
uh, but naturals on this very site dye their hair blond and are lauded for it.
if the girl wanted the blond hair, how would she be any different from the grown women on this site who actually prefer to see themselves that way too?
oh the hypocrisy.
This…makes my heart smile. My Goddaughter is the same way.
Always negative nellys have to take something positive and put their negative take on it!
Yas! Werk it baby girl.
I like her natural hair too I never understood why blonde hair was a must with costumes when I was a kid
Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
Though she is not old, this is a reflection of the amazing job that you are doing in raising up your daughter with self-pride and love of who she is! Great job, mommy! 🙂
And she should chose her natural hair, it is gorgeous, it makes her look like a princess! The blond wig was gross! Her hair would have been beautiful EVEN if it were not down to her little waist but oh my word, to have hair that she can sit on…how long and healthy. It shows the world that whether brown, tan, butter yellow, whether coarse or thin, curly or kinky, straight or somewhere in between…OUR little girls are beautiful and growing into a generation of women that will decide what they want to do with their hair. Be free little… Read more »
Nice! She is cute~
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Annnnnnnw! So cute! At her age she already realize that she doesn’t need it in order to look beautiful in real life and in her costume!
Aww, love this story, and she’s so right, her hair looks 100% better than the blonde, and it’s even just as long! She’s a smart little beautiful brown Barbie, I hope she had a wonderful Halloween! x
It just goes to show how much parents are responsible for the self-image of our kids and not just the media can be blamed. We really need to teach our kids to appreciate and love who they are. By the way not only is that little girl’s hair long you can see how healthy it is kudos to her mom for taking good care of it.
I so agree, it’s important that parents instill a good dose of self-esteem and self-love into their children, because if the children don’t get it from them, who will they receive it from. And I agree with many of the comments, the little girl’s own hair is so much more beautiful than that stringy blond wig, I don’t blame her for wanting to rock her own hair. Kudos to this adorable little princess and to her mom!! I wish this kind of stuff could be aired on the news, our people need to see more positive stuff like this.
Good for her!! I think she is a beautiful brown Barbie!!!
This makes me so happy! You are doing something right mom!
wow, at 4 years, she already knows what a brown barbie is. What a smart little girl.
I get uncomfortable when I see a black child with a white doll. it just doesnt look right!
kudos mom
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Amen! My mom made sure I had black dolls! Black girls nowsdays are lucky to not only have access to black dolls, but black dolls with kinky hair!
Good job to Mama! Teaching your child to love herself is paying off!
OMG…I teared up!!!! It is so wonderful to see her loving her beautiful, brown self! YES! 😉
Yes, they absorb so much more than we give them credit for — you are obviously teaching her how perfect she is by example!!
Great post! I am encouraged by this beautiful baby, and kudos to her Mom, too! I wish more Moms could see the beauty of nourishing our daughters and their God given beauty. I was just about in tears a few days ago after seeing a little girl about the same age whose hair was full of fake braids to the middle of her back with rows of beads on the ends. A two inch swath of her little edges was almost gone around the perimeter of her entire head, but she was happily swinging those braids, though! What gives? Although this… Read more »
a bit overdramatic…
No I think Smm is dead on. I seen a teenage girl the other day with missing edges.
I LOVE this… a little girl who loves herself the way she is. Mom, I’m doing backflips with you too! I pray she’ll grow into a teenager, then an adult, who’s grounded and real and continues to love her beautiful self just the way she is.
You’re doing something right mommy!!!
Nice. I would not have allowed her at that age to make her own decision. The wig would have disappeared if at all possible, but the fact that she made the correct choice reflects upon you as a mother and how well you are socializing her in a culturally correct way.
That is beautiful 🙂 She didn’t need that ratchet looking blonde wig anyway! LOL
The great she so beautiful and that great she knows Who she is keep up the good work mom
Now that’s a beautiful child!
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I’m glad she let her daughter decide whether or not to wear the wig. I’m also glad her daughter decided not to.
YAAAAAYYYY!!!! I think we are having a positive affect on our girls! This makes me happy! Way to go Mom and Way to go o your little one!
Cute! You’re doing a good job mama!
ok now we’re getting somewhere.
Well done Mum 🙂
Lets keep pushing the positive vibes down the generation ladies. This post has put a huge smile on my face.
Brown barbie,so cute.I’m glad that she embraces her natural hair.This is part of the reason why i am natural,so that the African children of today and of the future can love and embrace their hair.
and your daughter is adorable
With hair like hers, I can see why she rejected the blonde wig. Her hair is beautiful.
Tears to my eyes.…., Happy happy joy joy dance!
Its great to read this post!
I don’t blame her that wig is unflattering, with her own hair she looks like the fairy-princess she is.
She and that hair are beautiful.
I looooive that I hope my daughter feela so proud of her hair as well one day
Now, if only other black women/girls would ditch the BLONDE WIGS/WEAVES!!!!!!!!!!
Great story BUT I wonder if the child would have felt the same if her hair WAS NOT down her back!
An interesting perspective that I thought of as well. I’d like to be optimistic that regardless of the length that she would have avoided the wig because of the self-love that was instilled in her.
interesting question, bobby ray. i’ll admit i thought that myself the first time i read it. i would like to think that the answer would be yes, but a lot of little black girls tend to favor longer hair, so if she were your typical child i’d bet that if the blond wig happened to be substantially longer than her real hair, she’d probly opt for the wig no matter how hideous the thing actually was, because in a child’s mind ‘longer’ trumps appearance any day. the fact that it’s long makes it beautiful, as kids don’t have a concept… Read more »
She chose her own hair when her hair was braided up. I only straightened her hair after she chose to wear her own hair. When her hair was braided the wig was way longer than her hair.
this is one of the most wonderful stories I’ve ever heard
that’s my favorite hairstyle. I do it all the time.
You are a great role model for your daughter mommy!
Her real hair is longer than the wig too!! Good job mommy!!
I’m surprised you’re surprised… That’s not a flattering wig at all 🙁
This is what I like to hear! There aren’t enough little girls out here loving their hair. They think that crap that we seen on music videos is “pretty”.
I literally almost started to cry while reading this story and seeing the pictures. I am so proud of her mother for giving her a positive self image. This is so needed in our communities. Young girls should fell they are beautiful and unique. I am also proud of the little girl for realizing her own beauty.
I think that this litte girl understand more than some adults.
No need to put this blond wig because she is a real black girl.
She give us one lesson because she is proud of her naturel hair.
Respect princess!!!!
I find this wonderfully awesome. Keep up the great work raising an intelligent and confident daughter!
Black Girls Rock!!!!!!!!!! Good for her and good for you mom.
This put a big smile on my face
um, it could be because her natural hair is completely amazing. Nice to get a solid confirmation of the strength and self worth you’ve worked to grow in her, right?
Awesome! You taught her well.
Bravo Mommy,???????? Thank you for teaching her to appreciate her Black Girl Magic; she will teach the world