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It Doesn’t Matter if You Went Natural ‘Before It Was Popular’

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By Sabrina of Seriously Natural

Seasoned naturals do not know everything. No, we don’t. I bring this up because a couple of days ago on Facebook a poster was going OFF on natural hair bloggers, vloggers, and Youtubers for acting like they have all the answers on natural hair. They were labeled as hypocrites. I had to think about her statements a little deeper because I really wanted to grasp her anger. Where was this coming from? And why were so many agreeing with her post?

I’ve never really shared too deeply about my natural hair journey. I’ve mentioned it and discussed some portions but I never delved into the unsure Sabrina that was lurking around before and during the beginning. I permed my hair for the last time in August 2005 right before Hurricane Katrina tore into the Gulf Coast. Afterward, we found ourselves temporarily homeless so we moved our little family to Colorado. I went from a humid climate to a rather dry one, and although I had serious stress during that time in my life I still found time to be worried about my hair. I didn’t want it to fall out so I ditched the perming and decided to go natural.

I wasn’t a “here I am, I’m a natural woman!!” back then. Back then I was sporting braids and wigs and covering my tresses 100% of the time. I did that for about three years always wanting to go all naturale but not mentally ready. Yes, back then there weren’t that many of us and yes, I was self-conscious, unsure…just really not ready to expose myself to the world.

My husband and sister told me to just do it already and even explained that my hair looked nice. Despite their insistence whenever I did take a break from the braids and wigs and stepped outside of my comfort zone (my house) I made sure to cover my tresses. Was I a chicken? Sure, but I had no knowledge on how to take care of my hair and what products to use.

I had done a big chop even though it had no name back then and had ultra short hair. I found some curl hydration crap on a shelf in Target and slathered it in my hair while sporting a scarf as a headband. Then on one frightful day in October of 2008 I bore my hair and my soul to the world. Luckily, the world was inviting. I walked into work and I was showered with “ahs” and “oohs” by mostly white co-workers. Even the meanest of the meanest supervisors smiled a genuine smile and told me she loved my hair. It was the reaction I so needed.

I needed the love, the like, the acceptance. I was unsure, insecure, and afraid. Yes, seasoned naturals had or HAVE doubts, fears, and failures, but those failures have led us to successes and valuable knowledge on what to do and how to do it. Do we know everything there is to know about natural hair? Hell no, but we have been where you are right now and have learned how to overcome the obstacles that some may be facing. It was HARD to be natural when there weren’t many around to gain support, knowledge and acceptance. So yes, that does make us a little rough around the edges but the love is still there.

I’m not making excuses for the rudeness, the shortness or the nastiness that some receive from seasoned naturals. I’m giving my take on what it was like for me and why some may be unwilling to share that dark past. There may be a lasting hurt and insecurity from when being natural wasn’t so accepted. It may be hard for some to admit they were afraid or worried about how they looked or even that they felt alone. It’s not always easy to look into your soul and admit you were unsure about a natural path you feel so strongly about now.

So, what is my point? My point is many of us have been where you are today and if some are ugly about it then just brush it off and take it in stride. We aren’t ALL like that and I guarantee you will find many to help you and understand your plight. I envy your chance to go natural when there are tons of products, advice and support to guide you. Am I bitter? Not at all because I am the confident natural I am today because I was the clueless natural eight years ago. My past is my past and it makes me stronger everyday. So the best advice I can give to those feeling anger from some seasoned naturals:

Ignore the hate, embrace the love and enjoy the journey.

Ladies, have you ever gotten the side eye from women who went natural before it was popular? And if you’re a seasoned natural, does the increasing popularity of the natural hair movement bother you? Why or why not?

Sabrina is the author of Seriously Natural.

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Beautyismiree
Beautyismiree
7 years ago

I’ve been natural since the day I was born and during my life I’ve seen my hair be hip length and then cut it to shoulder length, which I have now. All I can say to those who have recently turned natural is to embrace the journey and have fun. One thing I don’t like about some ‘new’ naturals is how they try to tell you what to put on your head and try to classify what is natural and what isn’t. Im not trying to be mean, but dontvgive me any advice if your hsir has been twa for 3… Read more »

Glo
Glo
7 years ago
Reply to  Beautyismiree

ITA, with everything you’ve said. You have been natural far longer than me, but I still have 11 years in the game. NOTHING was out there, but Nappturality, Roshini (now Glamazini), MotownGirl and a few Sisterloc blogs. I BC’ed in 2002. Wore my hair loose for 4 years and have had locs for the rest of the time. It’s the folks who are 6 months in who think they know EVERYTHING about natural hair AND feel they need to give folks who have done it for YEARS advice, that give me pause. Not saying old heads know everything either, but honestly,… Read more »

Honey
Honey
7 years ago
Reply to  Beautyismiree

Thank you Ma! Your so right, I don’t have to wear a afro that looked like I just had a electrical shock, to prove I’m natural. I was natural until I was 14, my mom wash and pressed my hair and my hair was to the middle of my back until I started getting perms. Perms, stunt the growth or maybe the shedding, either way, its does grow as much as when your natural. After a decade of perms I’ve been natural now for almost 7 years, since 11/06. I MADE THE DECISION TO GO NATURAL W/O KNOWING ANYTHING ABOUT… Read more »

Barbara
Barbara
7 years ago
Reply to  Beautyismiree

Exhibit A.

So you’re telling me some of those awful new naturals ordered you to use a certain product/technique OR did they simply SHARE advice based on THEIR experiences? Did they force feed you advice against your will?
GTFO

Beautyismiree
Beautyismiree
7 years ago
Reply to  Barbara

No, but when you’ve been told by a girl who turned natural 3 months ago or a naturals who’s hair has been twa for 5 years that a comb doesn’t make you natural, long hair is trying to be white, or weave breaks your hair (it’s how I got to hip length with no breakage). Then I have a problem. Don’t tell someone who’s been natural since the day they were born or before it became a trend what they should do or shouldn’t do with their hair. I’m okay with your advice hear and there, but don’t tell me… Read more »

Maria V.
7 years ago

I first went natural in 2006, and I have to agree that at the time there was very little info out there. Nappturality.com was my favorite go-to source for styling, hair care and everything else!

I am so glad that newly natural women have more resources and information than we did back then. We’re all learning with each other! With Youtube, blogging, and natural websites in full effect, everyone has an endless supply of information at any point in their natural journey.

I’m so proud of the progress that the natural community has made. We are so diverse and beautiful!

Deedeemaha
Deedeemaha
7 years ago

Here is where the problem is “going OFF on natural hair bloggers, vloggers, and Youtubers”. They are watch, & reading to many sites. It’s called, information overload. Then you become confused and angry at the advice. Why? Because differnt products , and techniques work for different people, but in their mind they think the blogger is a know it all. Pick a few sites ( I like this one a lot! ) one that has a variety of textures. Use what you can and throw the rest away. I had a perm for 28 years. I had no clue what to… Read more »

LBell
LBell
7 years ago
Reply to  Deedeemaha

THANK YOU!!! for this. I wish I could thumbs-up x100! I just commented on here the other day how by watching a woman’s “unicorn braids” video I learned a new way to do a style I’ve been doing for years. Since I took my locs out in 2007 I’ve learned a LOT of cool new tricks from the new naturals and I learned ALL of them via the Internet. For that alone I am GRATEFUL for their contributions. However…Not only did I go natural before it became popular, I was on the Internet talking about hair before it became popular.… Read more »

kb
kb
7 years ago

I’ve been natural since ’97. Who remembers the book “Good Hair” by Lonnice Bonner ? I have two other friends who have basically been natural since then. I don’t think there is much shade, I am happy to see black women embrace their hair. It is annoying that some younger folks, think they invented it 🙂 But I guess that’s what young people do 🙂

Caresscurls
Caresscurls
7 years ago

Being natural is trial and error until you find what works for you. The hair bloggers, vloggers and YouTubers are just showing what they do and tips they have picked up. So why get mad.

tina
tina
7 years ago
Reply to  Caresscurls

You hit the hammer on the head with this comment.

Amma Mama
7 years ago
Reply to  Caresscurls

I agree a lot of the ladies I follow via You Tube and blogs simply share what works best for their natural hair. A lot of new naturals and even veteran naturals learn from some of them. The ladies I follow do not claim to know it all. I’ve come across some natural hair dressers that throw shade at the bloggers and You Tube ladies who share their natural hair care tips. Some of them seem to be upset with the natural hair information provided online. I think it is great that women are learning how to do their own… Read more »

Barbara
Barbara
7 years ago
Reply to  Caresscurls

Seriously, lol, 3 comments from old naturals and the 100 + old timers who thumbed them up speaks to EXACTLY the type of attitude the author addresses. WTF are some of them so angry? It’s as if some are pissed off that they didn’t get credit for being trail blazers. Why so much anger at new naturals learning from each other? Is it because the “infinite wisdom” of these old timers are being ignored or is it just plain cattiness?

TWA4now
TWA4now
7 years ago

No real side eyes only from people who don’t get what natural hair is all about. Some of the best compliments have come from non-blacks. I think it is great more people are going natural, but some seem to want to constantly define for ME what natural and being natural is hahhahah. I think it is a good thing…more should go or return to natural.

coffeeandfingernails
7 years ago

Credit where credit is due. I first thought seriously about going natural back in 97 but it took finding the online community 10 years later to give me the courage to actually do it. I can see why someone who stuck it out back then might be a little resentful now. Still, ask yourself why did you do it in the first place? Were you really just looking for props? Or did you want to stay true to yourself? If it’s something like the latter and you achieved that, why you mad sis?

Deedeemaha
Deedeemaha
7 years ago

I so agree with your comment. Like I said I had a perm for 28 years, and never once let it rest from it. I knew many in and outside my family who had natural hair. They ould press and flat iron it so hard you thought they had a pem. What I saw from young people was the will o break free from all of the damage. They had the energy and boldness, much like the afro movement in the 70’s. At the time I went natural I had not went to the Internet to see what was happening. However,… Read more »

Juanita
Juanita
7 years ago

I love all the guys and gals going natural. Especially as an African American in at a predominately white university it’s heart warming to see all the fros around campus. The only thing that bothers me is going natural is more of a popular trend then an actual choice. I just want to see how many women stay natural.

Pam
Pam
7 years ago

This article has definitely blessed my soul.…I truly gave up asking for help from people who say they are experienced, and can help you, but yet there seems to be a catch to it, a loophole if you will. One example, this person actually implied that if I didn’t say I was jealous of her hair or admit I had hair envy that I was just being phony…and I thought to myself if I did not love her hair I would not follow her blog or pay for her services. Which will never happen again.….I’ve had several problems like this… Read more »

Pam
Pam
7 years ago

Pamelanicole66@gmail.com spelling error for my email address.

Lily Madu
Lily Madu
7 years ago

As someone who has been natural almost all my life, I’ve learnt alot from the current movement. I personally think that the Internet spurred the new popularity of natural hair. Those with the same interests easily find each other online. Before the internet people struggled and experimented alone. Before the advent of the movement I would braid my own hair every week. Slapping grease on dry hair…and combing it like that. I was one of those girls who style hair for others from home for some pocket money, like braids and cornrows. But I didn’t know about sealing in moisture,… Read more »

Goldeelocks
7 years ago

The rudeness and bitterness is most definitely not called for.Like, what was she even trying to accomplish?

I’m a seasoned natural of over 10 years. I’m glad that more women have embraced the amazing hair that God blessed with and rock it with pride. It’s not this “political movement” that’s changing world though. You’re just finally rocking wonderful locks God gave you. I will say that it does get annoying when people try to classify what is natural and what isn’t, like what’s all the judgment for? Because you became natural you have classify other people. Come on…lets just play nice.

Sjamie
Sjamie
7 years ago

Really.…this is just another division to cause women of color to bicker over non-important things. So many bigger issues in life. “I am not my hair..” Just be glad to have hair. How about women in chemo that have lost there hair? Just do whats best for your hair type and don’t sweat what people say. Life is too short to care about veteran natural vs. newbie..smh

gapch
gapch
7 years ago
Reply to  Sjamie

so true

BM
BM
7 years ago

I have been natural all my life. Out the womb. And YES, you natural newbies are annoying af! Congrats, on finally finding your new found beauty after many years of destroying it. And PU-LEEZ DO NOT call yourself NATURAL with a full remy set, plus bang on top of your head!!! No-No Shoo-Shoo! You “may be” natural underneath but clearly you do not know how to be it 100%. And to a real natural woman, you appear ashamed of it and a big fat poser. And they now call wearing the weave, “a protective style” =___= GTFOH! If you truly know… Read more »

Michaela
Michaela
7 years ago
Reply to  BM

I’m not a new natural but even I am annoyed by this comment. It’s those who act like that who are giving us naturals a bad name. You can’t tell people who they are based on their hair and if they want to wear a weave to protect their hair (as I do from time to time) then they have the right to wear a weave if they please. Please inform me on how hair is protected all the time?

Jaz
Jaz
7 years ago
Reply to  BM

Soooo you are one of those mad heifers.

Eve
Eve
7 years ago

I have been accused of being one of those “old school” naturals who is annoyed by SOME of the comments made by people who have more recently embraced their natural hair. These are some of the reasons why: 1. Hair is hair. Some days it will be cute, some days it won’t. This need to beat natural hair into submission doesn’t sit well with me. 2. I don’t have curls, or coils… I have naps. Sometimes it feels as if there is an attempt to “anglo-ize” natural hair by making the best known youtubers women with looser hair, or longer hair..… Read more »

BM
BM
7 years ago
Reply to  Eve

I am 100% with you!!! Especially with #1 and #2

I have been Natural all my life and if I am being honest Natural Newbies erk me.

BM
BM
7 years ago

I have been natural all my life. Out the womb. And YES, you natural newbies are annoying af! Congrats, on finally finding your new found beauty after many years of destroying it. And PU-LEEZ DO NOT call yourself NATURAL with a full remy set, plus bang on top of your head!!! No-No Shoo-Shoo! You “may be” natural underneath but clearly you do not know how to be it 100%. And to a real natural woman, you appear ashamed of it and a big fat poser. And they now call wearing the weave, “a protective style” =___= GTFOH! If you truly know… Read more »

Tracy
Tracy
7 years ago
Reply to  BM

That’s great that you’ve been natural your whole life and you may not understand what the newbies have gone through. First, many of us did not chose to wear perms/relaxers that choice was made for us. Second, when we actually learned about the alternative we decided to go that route. I don’t remember anyone being natural when I was growing so I had no point of reference. What is so wrong someone celebrating their natural beauty!? #TEAMNATURAL 4 years strong right here! Why does our joy cause you so much anger? Also, I wear weaves and YES I am natural! Sometimes… Read more »

Honey
Honey
7 years ago

I became natural in 2007, I also knew nothing about a big chop or natural youtubers. The only person I knew was natural was a 65 year old lady with a twa that was fye, but wasn’t the style I was going for. I have lost about 11 to 12 inches of hair because I didn’t know I could flat iron my hair as much as when I had a relaxer, I still use pantene original shamp/cond, and it left my hair healthy and soft. Yes, their are exceptions to the rule about sulfates. Funny thing only when I tried… Read more »

Rochelle
Rochelle
7 years ago

Going natural is fine and all that too, I’m proud of myself too, but females should go natural and then shut the hell up like ok big deal you’re wearing your own hair like should reward and blogs like this be written because of it, anyway sometimes I feel like going back to my dumb blonde weave or creamy crack which I never really used but at least it’s not complicated. Y’all make going natural complicated, with the what kinda hair you have 4c/3c and density test and all the 50 million products that came out, cause we wanna go… Read more »

AnonSince87
AnonSince87
7 years ago
Reply to  Rochelle

Argh, I hate poor sentence structure, poor grammar and incoherent rambling.

That is all.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Rochelle

SPEAK ENGLISH

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7 years ago
Reply to  Rochelle

Any woman who refers to herself or other woman as “females” doesn’t have shit to say that’s worth listening.

Sit your ass down.

Epic Realist
7 years ago

This article is true. I made a similar post about this last year. http://curlsofinnocence.blogspot.com/2012/12/i‑was-natural-first.html

Rori
Rori
7 years ago

I’ve been natural for 21 years, I cut off all of the perm when I was 19 years old. I’m glad that more women with varying types of curly hair are going natural. However, I despise the attitude that you have to “define” your curls and have long length to look good and/or be professional. We need to love our hair at ever stage of growth and how it looks when combed. I want to see more Afro acceptance among black people, plain and simple.

sandy
sandy
7 years ago

As human beings, why do we tend to focus on the negative? For every 10 complements that we receive about our hair, we may get one negative comment. Yet we will focus on that one negative comment and will take precious time out of our lives to write an article dedicated to that one insensitive and asinine comment. SMH

Mey
Mey
7 years ago
Reply to  sandy

Nay, I don’t see it like that, this article was about self righteous naturals, who want tell new naturals how they should be natural. When some of the new naturals are doing it better than they are!

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Mey

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT I GOT FROM THIS ARTICLE AS WELL

Iva
Iva
7 years ago
Reply to  Mey

That’s what I got too! And it’s interesting that most of the responses seem to be from long-time naturals doing EXACTLY what the article was complaining about.

Desiree
7 years ago

Interesting discussion. I’m newly natural but have found input from newer naturals just as helpful as tips from seasoned naturals. I originally looked to the online natural hair community for the most basic tips (ie. how to detangle and moisturize my hair) and of course benefited from naturals that have been doing it forever. Now, I love my hair and know how it responds in different circumstances and seasons. These days I am usually searching for styling tips, thoughts on products and just folks that are as excited about the flyness of natural hair as I am. These things are… Read more »

Natalie
Natalie
7 years ago

I loved my relaxer of 20 years but went back to natural 5 years ago. My natural journey began when I rushed a relaxer in my hair to get to an event. I felt bad and decided to give it a break. I love my textured hair, it is so me. My only gripe is…No,you are not natural if you put texturizers in your hair. You have chemically changed the natural pattern of your hair so natural does not qualify. Other than that, I don’t understand the venom spewing from everyone. Those that are upset that natural girls wear weaves etc.,… Read more »

eve-audrey
eve-audrey
7 years ago
Reply to  Natalie

you think that a woman who has texturized her hair is not natural but a woman who covers her hair with a weave is? well… there’s a place in this world for every opinion. however i agree with your last sentence

Ebony Beauty
Ebony Beauty
7 years ago
Reply to  eve-audrey

Covering your hair with weave you can still be natural underneath. Chemically altering your natural curl pattern is another story. Two COMPLETELY different things.

yaz
yaz
7 years ago

It’s really hurtful to see that and knowing that some women experience that with “older naturals.” This isn’t a competition and I hate that some naturals capitalize it on being a trend. It’s like they’re saying, “Oh well I went natural in 2007 when being natural wasn’t even popular, therefore I know more! Be jealous of my longer hair and my more knowledgeable brain on natural hair!” Even sadder is that I feel like this is another way that the natural hair community is divisive in itself. Older Natural vs. Newly Natural. 3C vs. 4C (including the stigmas that go… Read more »

Sandy F
Sandy F
7 years ago

“Seasoned naturals do not know everything. No, we don’t. I bring this up because a couple of days ago on Facebook a poster was going OFF on natural hair bloggers, vloggers, and Youtubers for acting like they have all the answers on natural hair. They were labeled as hypocrites. I had to think about her statements a little deeper because I really wanted to grasp her anger. Where was this coming from? And why were so many agreeing with her post?” We are consistently finding reasons to tear each other down to build ourselves up. Yes I am one of those… Read more »

Luisa
Luisa
7 years ago

I got into this “Natural World” by accident. I was just tired of not finding a good stylist that could take care of my hair after having my second baby, I also got postpartum depression and that did not help. But anyways, when searching for information I got caught in between all this Drama about hair. Is it that important who got it first or who knows more? I’m just thankful I found some information because the last time I saw my natural hair I was 14 years old. Now I’m in my mid 30s and this is so unreal for… Read more »

Panamishe
Panamishe
7 years ago

Seasoned natural here! Texturizer-free since 2001!!! And I learn new stuff about natural hair care all the time! It doesn’t bother me at all that so many are going natural now. I don’t really care if its a fad. Natural hair is beautiful and it’s nice to see it all around me. It was kinda lonely a decade ago!

Sana
Sana
7 years ago
Reply to  Panamishe

lol

Ann
Ann
7 years ago

black woman always have some to argue about who was natural first next they going to be having arguments about who had the first big apple bottom or i bleach my skin first

Serenity
Serenity
7 years ago

I have been natural since the day I was born (15 years ago) Not a single chemical has ever even so much as grazed my head.I was never allowed to have a perm or wear weave, and I am still not to this day. For the longest I would wonder why this was so, and now looking at all of these statistics and topics being researched by faithful and deeply rooted people I see why. I find myself again asking: Why? My reason being, if tearing newer naturals down for becoming natural, wouldn’t that be promoting chemicals? Then, wouldn’t that… Read more »

TWAtl
TWAtl
7 years ago
Reply to  Serenity

wow! what a well-thought out comment. and you’re only 15? I wish i had half as much wisdom as you when i was 15 (or 25…)

Serenity
Serenity
7 years ago
Reply to  TWAtl

Wow thank you so much! God bless!

Iva
Iva
7 years ago
Reply to  Serenity

. For a young woman of any age, your reasoning skills are exceptional.

Serenity
Serenity
7 years ago
Reply to  Iva

Thank you so much!

Sana
Sana
7 years ago

Wow. Does it really matter? From the posts here it sounds like we are all benefitting from the new and old naturals. I personally go on you tube and blogs get the information I need and want. I decide what I want to take from it. Not everyone is going to do something how YOU want, or say something how YOU wanna hear it. If you learnt something great if not move on if not go find someone you like. That’s what I do:) I really don’t care who is new or old as long as the satisfy what I am… Read more »

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago

THIS IS WHAT BOTHERS ME I WAS NATURAL BEFORE AS WELL AS A CHILD UP TO MY TEENS THEN OFF THEN RIGHT BACK ON UNTIL MY 20’S ( EARLY 2000’S) WHICH IS THE CASE FOR MOST OF US. I DO NOT ANNOUNCE THAT TO ANY ONE WHO IS NEW TO THIS. WHAT IS THE POINT. IDK HOW MANY TIMES I’VE BEEN ON THE WEB AND SEEN COMMENTS SUCH AS ” I WAS NATURAL BEFORE IT BECAME POPULAR” “I WAS NATURAL WHEN NO ONE ELSE WAS”?? REALLY NOW? SO YOU CREATED NATURAL HAIR?? IT PISSES ME OFF BC I DID NOT… Read more »

kerisha
kerisha
7 years ago

I want to say that I have been natural before it was popular,since I was 20 , I turn 36 in a week ‚you would think I had long hair down my back for all those years natural,not I knew nothing about taking care of my hair or that of my daughters ‚I discovered curlynikki and youtube this year ‚and those led me to blackgirllonghair,everything I have learned are from younger sisters and I appreciate it, haircrush,naptural85,mahogonycurls,taryn guy,african export,kimmaytube,and so on all have had natural hair for a much shorter time than me except maybe ms kimmy, my point is… Read more »

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago

ALSO JUST BECAUSE I EDUCATE MYSELF MORE THEN YOU AND THERE’S MORE INFO DOESN’T MEAN MY HAIR IS MORE ACCEPTED NOW THEN BACK IN THE DAY. THE STRUGGLES ARE STILL THE SAME IS SO IS THE IGNORANCE. LOOK AT HOW Y’ALL TALK ABOUT SOLANGE, BLU IVY, AND OTHERS THAT SHOW THEIR TEXTURE.

Kayce
Kayce
7 years ago

So I have never had a perm before so I never went natural “per se” but I think the issue I as a “old natural” have with *some* “new naturals” is when they tell me I’m not natural because I wear a wig every now and then or I decided to wear a weave once in awhile. When they tell me I can’t be considered natural anymore because of a temporary styling choice. I never had to hear anybody tell me I wasn’t natural because of a style choice until this movement and I do find it irritating that some… Read more »

Stephanie
Stephanie
7 years ago

The last time I permed my hair was in the summer of 2004 and then that winter it broke off. So I just cut it all off. It was about an inch long. I knew how my hair behaved because I didn’t get a perm until I was 14 years old ( I wanted to have long straight hair for high school, just like my cousins ) I was really more concerned not about the texture but about how it would look on my big head. ( Like the article the other day about big girls not being able to rock TWAs )… Read more »

Jasmine
Jasmine
7 years ago

To me it seems to be the other way around. My last relaxer was May 2010 so I started in the beginning of the “natural movement”. So now 3.5 years later my hair is reaching MBL and I get some of the nastiest looks from newly natural women. It kinda bothers me because if they would ask about my regimen or products I would gladly give them insight but instead they just throw shade.

Alwina
Alwina
7 years ago

Wow!!! Personally, I came in the game in the middle, I’m not seasoned nor brand new. I’m still figuring out this game and going with the flow. I honestly wish I was natural my whole life, because I didn’t have a choice at age 6. Some were natural before it became trendy like my sister and I know more than my sister does about natural hair. So, it really is a case by case situation. At the end of the day, IT’S HAIR! Not that serious! 🙂

lala
lala
7 years ago

I did not even know natural hair was a movement or a trend. I just wanted healthy hair. I went natural in 2008.

KinksAndFashion
7 years ago

Ive never understood why some people act like that! heck I’ve been natural all my life & I just BC’d!

maralondon
maralondon
7 years ago

I’m one of those old school naturals. I grew up only knowing natural hair until the curly perm days. After a few years of frying my hair i’d had enough but the last straw was when I went for my final touch up and was told by the hairdresser that I was imagining the burning sensation on my scalp. It took about 3 months after that day to get a pair of scissors to my raggerdy permed ends. That was circa ’93 and i’m happy to say I have never looked back and was happy to return to my twists… Read more »

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7 years ago
Reply to  maralondon

Females?

Ebncurly
Ebncurly
7 years ago

I never talk about how long I’ve been natural unless absolutely necessary because this gate swings both ways. I’ve been natural a long time with pretty good results but I don’t have any magical knowledge to give— and this makes some women angry and even verbally abusive.

…Hair is an emotionally charged topic for Black women and unfortunately negative aspects tend to get noticed more but everyone & situation is different — it’s best to take the positive and leave the rest.

linda
linda
7 years ago

Veteran or newbie does it really matter? I don’t think so because we were all born natural and somewhere along the way we or somebody else decided to perm it. Some who’ve never altered their hair don’t know how to care for it and are still learning and some do. Some Naturals who just rediscovered their hair texture know more about their hair than others and some don’t. But I really want to stress something here: whether vet, newbie or in-between naturals, we all learn from our OWN texture of hair and those who had lot of information to share… Read more »

CB
CB
7 years ago

Nothing annoys me more than natural hair nazis who believe that your hair defines who you are. So annoying.

Ashley
Ashley
7 years ago
Reply to  CB

What a harsh word to use. Some naturals believe that their hair defines who they are. It doesn’t make them wrong or nazis.… Nothing annoys me more than people making judgements off of what naturals believe about natural hair.

Sabrina @seriouslynatural
Reply to  Ashley

I agree. Why we have to be called such ugly and extreme terms as Nazis if we choose to go no heat, no color no.…whatever? You do what you like and let me do what I like.
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JC
JC
7 years ago
Reply to  CB

I understood what CB meant. She’s not talking about ALL naturals. She meant those who define themselves AND OTHERS by their hair and says critical things about OTHERS hair based on THEIR definition of what a “true natural” is. Things like whether or not you use all natural products, wear weaves/wigs or not, or wear your hair curly or straight. And they bully others with their narrow view. In which case it IS annoying. Whether it is flat-ironed or curly, in a big fro or under a wig — THAT doesn’t or shouldn’t define you. Hair should NEVER define you.… Read more »

Sopleased
Sopleased
7 years ago

Well, I’m here to tell you that for many months since happening upon this site, I’ve been bursting at the seams, ecstatic, blown away, overjoyed at all you young ladies — SO ABSOLUTELY PROUD OF YOU ALL. I’m not old as the sun or anything, but I was a lonely, natural in a bone straight world in the early 90s, dreaming of the day you guys would show up and you have not let me down. Like the sky opened up or something ! Please do not pay attention to someone who might give you a little hard time. We’ve… Read more »

NappyGoddess
7 years ago

Great article. As a pre-movement natural I have to admit I have been harsh on newbies. I think you hit it on the nail. We didn’t have all this love and support and we caught a ton of flack for going …as I like to call it…Back to Black. Now we have what is feeling a lot like a trend going on…not at all a movement anymore. Every natural blog now is covered with “How to Go Back to Straight!” And very few people are doing the big chop anymore (a mental shock to the system, journey in its self)…everyone is… Read more »

Cater love
Cater love
7 years ago
Reply to  NappyGoddess

I went natural 6 years ago and the ‘trend’ may have started back then but I didn’t know. So I wore a puff all summer and when winter hit my hair was so brittle and dry I gave up. I wasn’t trying to be part of a movement I just wanted healthy hair, plus I was broke. So I BC’d before I knew it was a term. This time around I have been ‘transitioning’ for a year. And it’s not because I want to hold in to my straight hair. My permed hair was gorgeous. I refuse to change my license… Read more »

Sabrina @seriouslynatural
Reply to  NappyGoddess

I really enjoyed your comments. You understand what I meant in this article. No, by no stretch of the imagination have I been natural for as long as some but even back in 2005 there wasn’t much info or products out for us as there is now. It is much easier to go natural (or back to black, I like that by the way) now and transitioning does seem like a headache and prolongs getting to know your hair. I BC’d before I knew what it was but if I tried to hold onto those straightened and sad ends I would… Read more »

mannylo
mannylo
7 years ago
Reply to  NappyGoddess

A BC isn’t mandatory. I went natural over 10 years ago and I didn’t cut my hair. I just stopped getting relaxers because my stylist at the time said I didn’t really need one and I didn’t think another thing about it. I didn’t know it was transitioning or that transitioning is a way to hold on to long hair or that I needed to braid my hair or cover it with weave or even be embarrassed by it. It wasn’t a “journey” and it definitely doesn’t have to be a traumatic or strife-ridden experience. I’ve been told that I’m… Read more »

JENNID
JENNID
7 years ago

Being new or older in the game doest really matter. Good advice is good advice. What your seeing is a community growing and simply getting a different. Viewpoints that are new and sometimes I’m sad to say a carry over from the straight hair world. People GO natural and STAY natural for many different reasons. We are all never going to be on the same page about things for that very reason. These days everybodys definition of natural is so diffrent now. Weave, heat, commerical hair products, silicone grease etc are all up for grabs Lol. The funny thing is… Read more »

nappy headed black girl

I’m going on 10 yrs natural so I guess (?) that makes me a vet. I don’t care who goes natural or why. I’m just here to help any way I can. I don’t call myself an expert or a guru. I’m still learning just like you are. The reason I started my blog was so that all naturals ‑no matter texture or time in the game- can bond, share experiences, and learn from one another. Yes, some of us think we’re better or more “real” because we were natural before it was trendy. Oh well. So be it. I don’t… Read more »

Ashley
Ashley
7 years ago

I just read the title and skimmed through the article. To me it really does matter if you went natural before it was popular. To go natural 8+ years ago meant doing something with your hair that no one else was doing. Especially if you big chopped… So it it really a badge of honor just for the guts it took to do it. Now I see so many naturals and I love it but it won’t discount the people who went natural when it wasn’t popular because that was hard. It also depends on the reason why you went… Read more »

mannylo
mannylo
7 years ago
Reply to  Ashley

It wasn’t a source of pride for me because I never viewed relaxers as trying to assimilate. My skin makes it very apparent that I’m a black woman and I’ve never wanted to be anything else or cared if anyone else wanted me to change. Relaxers were something I tried out. No longer getting them wasn’t an attempt to embrace my ‘African-Ness’. No motive behind it. No bad relaxer. No hair thinning or breakage. No need to save money. I just did. Am I somehow less ‘African’ and less worthy of ‘respect’ because my viewpoint is different? That’s obnoxious and I… Read more »

Viewer
Viewer
7 years ago

I think that an important point in this discussion is that Black women are not monolithic. I mean that we all are not robots that think and behave and do the same things. The fact that some people went natural when it was not as supported and some people went natural more recently or the fact that people have as many reasons as there are personalities for going natural makes us rich and NOT one-dimensional as a people. It would be boring if we were all the same way. I hate it when people fall into the thinking that all Black… Read more »

Mikenoise78
Mikenoise78
7 years ago

I’m 35 and I’ve never had a relaxer. My mother wouldn’t allow it. Before moving to Oakland a few years ago, I’d never really had a conversation with anyone about ‘why’ I wear my hair natural. Of course I understand the historical politics of natural hair for many black women. However, I have to admit that it’s not really something I want to talk about with strangers and it’s a turn-off when anyone (male or female, black or other) uses the way I wear my hair as an entré to getting to know me better or a way of expressing… Read more »

Dee Kemper
7 years ago

I never talked about being natural until recently, I even created some teeshirts.www.cafepress.com/iscobiss. I digress, my mother never allowed me to get a relaxer. She was afraid I would damage my hair like she did. So I wore big dukie braids, until Jr. High when I was allowed to get press and curls. But only on special occasions, so my sister would use conditioners and make concoctions to make my hair manageable. I wore lots of tight ponytails and my edges fell out. In high school it was tough because everyone had nice haircuts. I by this time perfected China… Read more »

Jazz
Jazz
7 years ago

I really liked this conversation. Which was talked about alot when I was in college from 2008–2012. Many of my friends and I slowly transitioned to natural. Some wore braids, weaves, did the big chop, or found natural ways to keep their hair straight. What I learned in that process is that we as black women, often judge other women’s hair journey in comparison to what we think is the proper way to be natural… Whatever that means. If a woman didnt do the big chop on campus or wore her head under braid, basically not going thru the tiny… Read more »

JustLeavingaComment
JustLeavingaComment
7 years ago

Time doesn’t stand still for anyone. Therefore, ‘unseasoned’ natural today will be totally ‘seasoned’ tomorrow. The amount of time I’ve been natural is awesome to ME, but I don’t expect accolades from anyone else on the count of that amount of time. It’s a long time to some and also considered a short time to many. It’s completely arbitrary. Also, going natural may be slightly easier at this time, but it’s certainly not simple… It has been overly complicated, commercialized, overly marketed for monetary gain. Sifting through the mountains of lies, false claims, and flashy advertizing campaigns isn’t my idea… Read more »

cacey
cacey
7 years ago

outta curiosity where do those of us who’ve been natural for all of our lives fit in? lol do we count in this number or is it just for those who’d been relaxed?

Sabrina @seriouslynatural
Reply to  cacey

Of course you count! I can only discuss my experience that was from relaxed to natural before it got big. I cannot explain what you may have gone through but respect and appreciate your journey.
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Rou
Rou
7 years ago

This is my second time being natural, since childhood. The first time I went natural was in 2002. I stayed natural, until 2005. At that time, the only naturals I saw were either mixed girls or women who had locs. I didn’t think about it much at the time. I was a college student and kept busy, so my hair was not my primary focus. In fact, my hair probably looked like a hot mess, until I discovered two-strand twists. After that, my popularity grew! Hehe! 😛 I guess I was lucky, since I didn’t really focus on the opinions of others… Read more »

Anquinette
Anquinette
7 years ago

I’ve found some of the newbies can be harsh, like they can’t understand why everybody doesn’t have it together. They talk down to people who suggest old school products as a suggestion if the new stuff isn’t working. They talk like these new natural products have been on the shelves for decades and you should know what to use right off the bat. And a lot of vets seem to be VERY harsh and mean to people who may still perm and/or have tons of questions because they still haven’t come to grips with becoming natural yet. I will answer… Read more »

Tee
Tee
7 years ago

I am a Veteran Natural since 1999. I transitioned for a semester and then cut my hair off for the New Year. I didn’t hide it either–I wore my fro and never got a relaxer again. As a Veteran natural I AM SO GRATEFUL for the new natural hair movement and more important for TECHNOLOGY for bringing us together and making the knowledge accessible to all. In 99′ I knew nothing about how to care for natural hair! My styles were limited and my hair was crunchy!! Because of the natural trend and the knowledge that came with it, my… Read more »

Sophie
Sophie
7 years ago

I just feel like there is no place for harshness in this whole conversation. If you’ve been natural all your life that’s cool, you got a head start! Complaining that people have it easier now and so it’s less authentic is like saying people can’t make real friends becuse they can call instead of writing letters. Resources become available in time for some people and not for others, that’s just a feature of the passage of time. Plus, going natural is just realizing that you should be yourself. It’s just something that you are and the length of time is… Read more »

Cater love
Cater love
7 years ago

So I work in a professional fashion based industry and I am the first person in my building to go natural. I am still a newbie. But the only thing that frustrates me is the time I’m taking to learn my hair and experiment with styles meanwhile there are girls in my building that decided to go natural after me and they come to work looking ridiculous. And I want to say this a sentiment I felt even when I had relaxed hair. We all know as black people we all get judged on someone else’s bad behavior. And I… Read more »

Dotty
Dotty
7 years ago
Reply to  Cater love

You sound shallow and sadly confirm the largely untrue stereotype about people in fashion. You’re wasting your time on what other people are doing and thinking. I don’t think you’ll have an easy journey if you keep worrying about being a self appointed natural ambassador at work with ‘super on point’ hair. Chill out.

CozyVon
CozyVon
4 years ago
Reply to  Cater love

Is it really that serious, though? And I’m just curious as to what constitutes looking “ridiculous.” Edges not laid? Curls not “poppin’ enough? Maybe they’re not feeling yours, either–but to each her own. It’s the shallow-sounding natural types like you that give the natural game a bad name. Relax a little–do you, & let them do them. 🙂

ohsnap
7 years ago

I’ve been natural since 2002 and I don’t know everything about natural hair because I’ve had locs for 11 years. Went straight from relaxer to locs. I plan on cutting my locs in a few months and I feel like I have to learn about my hair all over again.

LOL
LOL
7 years ago

People on here talking about they are veteran naturals or were “early” in the “movement” in 2008 or 2010!? LOL.

Shit, you are/were a renegade if 1) you’ve never had a relaxer or 2) you went natural in the 1980s or 1990s.

Otherwise, you stand on the shoulders of those who came before you.

xyz
xyz
7 years ago
Reply to  LOL

I think you’re comment just shows how meaningless all of this line drawing and labeling one “renegade” can be. I went natural in 2001 at 17 and can tell you I had “no shoulders to stand on” in the early years of my journey. I think a persons perceptions about the popularity/ appropriateness of natural and the resources available varies with environnment. I’m not really sure what’s really to gain in a conversation about who went natural first. There’s no prize for it.

xyz
xyz
7 years ago
Reply to  xyz

*your comment

Chan
7 years ago
Reply to  LOL

I Agree 2008/2010 doesn’t make someone a veteran natural. That is quite funny. I also have a ton of respect for those who returned to natural hair when it was a lot harder to do so. But I will say that when I started transitioning in 2008 I had never seen anyone nor did I personally know anyone with natural hair that actually wore their hair in the styling options that we are exposed to now. When I decided to go natural I had no idea there was a movement going on until I came on line and starting looking… Read more »

Anna
Anna
7 years ago
Reply to  Chan

But you have no idea whether or not it really was harder to do. For all you know, someone who went natural 10+ years ago could have had tons of family and friend knowledge and support. While someone who just went natural last year may have no support other than online. That online support doesn’t help much when you walk outside and get ugly stares and rude comments or when your family and friends bash you for your decision to wear your hair natural. Going natural or staying natural is easy for some people. They have the proper support, the… Read more »

jeanettesdaughter
jeanettesdaughter
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna

Why? Why is this so hard? WHY? Why are black girls still traumatized by hair? WHY? FYI- the afro hairstyle was popularized in the 1950s and 1960s. That there are black girls who have never heard of or seen Miriam Makeba, Nina Simone, Cicely Tyson, Abby Lincoln, Pam Grier and too many more to name wearing their natural hair and looking gorgeous, including a top black model from the 1980s whose name escapes me — WHY?! in 2013 are we talking about veterans who have been wearing their hair natural for three years. Come on now people. A little honesty… Read more »

bsbfankaren
bsbfankaren
7 years ago
Reply to  LOL

Please! I stand on no one’s shoulders. Like the OP I made the decision to go natural without provocation and did so without knowing there were FB pages and websites where other’s were discussing natural hair, and did so for the second time in my life. It would be very helpful and people didn’t feel they had to one up each other. If you’ve been natural for a decade or more, good for you. If you have not, you shouldn’t be made to feel like you have to bow down to those who have been natural longer. This is just another… Read more »

Whitney
Whitney
7 years ago

This is a very important discussion, and I appreciate all sides and perspectives. To answer the question and share my personal perspective, it does get annoying that so many people seem to be hopping on the bandwagon and going natural. I agree, there is a distinction between embracing one’s hair as it grows out of your scalp and falling in with the crowd because Elle Varner looks good doing it, or Solange looks good doing it. Big difference. Glad you’re getting somewhere, but still a difference in motive and intention — and we have nothing in common. It is sometimes… Read more »

lauryn
lauryn
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

My mom first took me to the salon at 13 to get a relaxer and before that, my hair was always straightened or in braids. My hair was down my back and thick as all get out. So, to answer your question, YES, some of us new naturals have no idea what our hair looked or felt like before making the transition back to natural (and in my case, very curly) hair. Do not pass judgment on me because of that. Thank you.

lauryn
lauryn
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

Nor did I have any idea of how to take care of it. And that’s not a fatal flaw either. 9 months into my natural “journey,” I’m figuring it out, but I had to start FROM SCRATCH.

You seem to discount that some of us never knew anything BUT the straightening comb/relaxer from a young age. ps. That doesn’t make our families any less “pro black” than yours… especially for those of us with “too much” hair, as you said.

Seeker
Seeker
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

If someone has been continuously getting their hair done by others whether it be relaxers or using excessive heat and has been doing so since elementary school age into adult hood or late adolescent years then yes, it is very possible that they have no idea what to expect when they decide to go fully natural. In many cases, there are generations of family members that use relaxers and heat to maintain their hair so much so that even they(the moms, grandparents, great-grandparents) do not remember exactly how their natural texture use to be so as you can see, this… Read more »

kaylene
kaylene
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

Oh Whitney!!! We’re so glad that you have come here today and graced us with all your knowledge about being natural and the “blackness”. We can’t get enough of your sarcasm and “My natural is better than your natural” attitude. We’re so happy you grew up in a perfect home where relaxers weren’t the norm. NOT!!!! Girl get over yourself. Yes, there are some of us who have been relaxing their hair since grade school; me since I was 7 or 8. I’m 31 and no I can’t remember what my hair looked like or remember what products was used… Read more »

Shelly-Shelle
Shelly-Shelle
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

So I agree with the 1st paragraph of Whitney’s response. It is TRUTH! It appears that lots of new naturals are going natural because it’s trendy. These are typically the ones packing on 5 different products filled with 15+ TOXIC ingredients (per product) trying to get the Elle Varner curl pattern instead of embracing what they have. The dialogue of a new natural doing something due to a trend, versus someone embracing their God-given beauty is unmatched. However Whitney, the majority of Black Americans were what one may consider “pro-Black” during the late 1960’s through the early 1970’s (ie. Black… Read more »

R
R
7 years ago
Reply to  Whitney

I agree with your post but I got a relaxer when I was 5 years old. The only memories of my natural hair were pictures taken prior to that. So, no, when I went natural at the age of 20- I was LOST!

Nikki
7 years ago

I first went natural back in 1995 and I have been natural on and on for the last 18yrs. For the past 11yrs I have been exclusively natural. I have rocked locs to Caesar hair cuts. There wasn’t any YouTube or blogs when I went natural…and not as nearly many hairstyles as there are now. I have learned so much in the recent years with technology…but I do miss the simplicity of natural hair care. We can learn a lot from each other if we’re open to it…but I can say I was one of the first and be proud… Read more »

Ari
Ari
7 years ago

If making a conscious decision to take better care of your hair, thereby making it more healthy, is a trend, wouldn’t this same argument apply to those who make the conscious decision to eat better and get in shape? Is all healthiness a trend just because some “have been healthy all their lives?” Let’s think about the bigger picture.

Tabatha
Tabatha
7 years ago

Man people give people the side eye for every little thing that makes you want to be a better person. Whether its to go natural with your hair or do a cleanse for your body. Haters going to be haters and everyone is going to think that they no more than you and what is better for you. I mean its crazy that what I decide to with my body and myself upsets people’s lives so much. Its ri-donk-ulous. To Answer Whitney’s question. Yes I am one of the females that have had their hair relaxed for SO LONG that… Read more »

Jesse
Jesse
7 years ago

I’m tired of people calling natural hair a “trend”. Growing hair that comes out of your own head can never be a trend, or are we just that screwed up as African-Americans?

TMarie
TMarie
7 years ago
Reply to  Jesse

I agree but for some it is a trend b/c the truth is everyone won’t stay natural. It’s ok to make that choice if that’s what u choose.

Shelly-Shelle
Shelly-Shelle
7 years ago
Reply to  Jesse

Yes Jesse, we as African-Americans have been screwed up as a result of being screwed, and sometimes screwing ourselves. We are no more screwed up than other people of African Diaspora, Indians, Polynesians, or any other group that has been colonized by European monarchies. However, we also are pretty awesome. Despite our journey, we have been graced as a people to influence culture around the world like no other group in the history of mankind without military force! We as African-Americans have issues but this particular issue is NOT UNIQUE to us; so give us a break. The style of… Read more »

Dotty
Dotty
7 years ago

I have spent more time as a natural than a processed head, mainly because my relaxed hair only lasted for two year stretches before it became expensive and broke off. I was natural all through high school in the late 90s. I wasn’t the only one but I was the only 4c. The rest had loose curls that could be slicked back into buns. I was the only one who really had to figure out what to do so I was twisting and individual braiding my hair. Butttt… So what? It didn’t make me a hair expert, there were no… Read more »

cherishbomb
7 years ago

These comments are like listening to old folk say, “Back when I was young, we had to walk ten miles to school in the snow, uphill, downhill, and back again… barefoot!” Other comments from said “veterans” sound like croons of bitter birds. You didn’t have all the support and info that’s so readily available now. We get it, but don’t try to climb up on the high horse and try to tell the new generation and neo-natural movement they aren’t doing anything special because you did it first. Sometimes they just come off as being envious of the support available… Read more »

T.C.
T.C.
7 years ago

I guess I’m not understanding the bitterness or the self-scorn. I used to rock TWA’s at various points going back to the 90’s and we’re talking low cut TWA’s, like that group Zhane used to wear. But lots of women chopped their hair off at that point. Like, the first time I did it, I went to the barber’s chair and cut off my hair. And he “laid it out” too! The thing is, when the hair started to grow back, women were told to texturize it so that it looked curly and pretty as it grew in. I didn’t texturize… Read more »

Nikhaule
Nikhaule
7 years ago

What does it matter when or why a person went natural? It doesn’t make “veteran naturals” any more insightful.

Merinofro
Merinofro
7 years ago

Finding ways to have one up over someone else.… I can’t think of why anyone would have a problem with any of it except for comments about it being a fad…

Ev
Ev
7 years ago

I went natural in 1995, as a teenager, in the “deep south.” My mother was supportive but would have probably been happier if I kept straightening my hair (pressing comb, relaxer, whatever) as the prevailing attitude then was just that–straight, not natural (or “nappy” as most people there called anything not straight). Going to school being the only girl with her hair corn-rowed (not extensions) or in bantu knots was challenging but I made it through the insults and dirty looks from my peers…Sadly though, most of the disapproval came from my fellow black students, and white students usually saw… Read more »

mrscharmain
mrscharmain
7 years ago

Who cares??? New natural, old natural, curly natural, nappy natural…at the end of the day.…ITS JUST HAIR! DO YOU BOO! I fall in both categories. I went natural in 03 when it was not as popular, and ended up perming because I had no idea what to do with it for a wedding I was attending. I went back natural in 2010, and as many times as I say “if I only know then what I know now”, I’m still loving this journey. I grew up on an island with plenty naturals, and as much as some tried to make… Read more »

soulmama
7 years ago

I started my nature after the riots of 1968 and have moved on to dreads 10 years ago. It’s been a beautiful journey!
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Shell
7 years ago

I returned to natural way back in 98′. At the time, my best friend went natural too. Being an actor, I was surrounded with a lot of creative sistahs who were wearing their hair natural too. My mom gave me flack at first, then she grew to like my hair and saw more natural hair women as the years went by. My only wish is that there were as many products and books that are now. It would have made things easier for me. It was trial and error with my hair. I am delighted to see so many naturals now. I… Read more »

Zenith
Zenith
7 years ago

I have been fully natural since 1999. Big chopped and all. Do I feel that anyone stands on my shoulders because they decided to go natural when natural has become more popular? Absolutely not. This is a personal decision which for many people is not taken likely. Is there more available now , in terms of resources and products, as compared to when I made my decision? Yes. The irony, however, is that the products I have found which work best on my hair have been around for many, many yrs (natural oils, apple cider vinegar, shea butter). It is… Read more »

AJ
AJ
7 years ago

I’m actually happy more people are going natural…No on is looking at me crazy anymore..LOL
I went natural in 1998 (stopped perming) but I pressed my hair a lot. I’ve only now started to take care of my hair.
I say.…whatever veteran or not take care of your natural hair.

lady2c
lady2c
7 years ago

Why cant we as ONE in the black community shut up about who the hell was ‘first’ or ‘last’ and just support each other 😉 even if its just for once gosh. You know who is a VETERAN NATURAL ?? my aunts, cousins and grannie from Africa! Did the big chop and evrything!.. ridicilous ‑_- Now that my frustration has been outed, I can move on 🙂 Dear black sisters. Let’s embrace ourselves and our lovely sisters who have put their energy and time into providing the information needed out there for us to even embrace ourselves MORE. Having hair is a… Read more »

Sashatu
Sashatu
7 years ago

Went natural about 17yrs ago but didnt know how to care for my hair until 3yrs ago so thanks to all the naturals that came after me!

toyabg
7 years ago

Natural hair is a beautiful thing. I’ve been natural 4 5years. A lot of the black women I know weren’t natural and looked at me funny when I did the big chop. I love touching my hair and twisting it. I like walking in the rain and how it feels against my head. The first time I showered and wet my hair, it was a rap. I feel in love with my original hair

toyabg
7 years ago

fell my bad

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

I did experience a lot of flack about going natural when I thought about it. “Natural isn’t for everybody.” And it really discouraged me from doing so. A lot of mean discouraging remarks about my transistioning just did me in.

DBlkMoses
DBlkMoses
6 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

I just have to disagree. Natural if for all of whom God created that way. He didn’t make any mistakes.

Q
Q
6 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

What grows out of ur scalp is for you!it’s how you choose to flaunt it which isn’t for everbody

Carla
Carla
7 years ago

I don’t consider myself “seasoned” though I’ve been natural my entire life (never had a relaxer). I honestly love influx of blogs, videos and websites. Just because I’ve always had my natural hair it doesn’t mean I always knew what I was doing!

Hildiebee
Hildiebee
7 years ago

I have been natural since 2001. I had locs for 10 years cut them had braids did the perm thing once for about 3yrs. Grew it out chopped in 2001 other people had a hard time with how my hair looked (girl your hair looks a hot mess) but I never did I’m glad to see so many coming into their natural self feeling confident, and secure. Welcome

tasha fierce
tasha fierce
6 years ago

i wanted to go natural back in 2000 but i didn’t know much about it and the few women i knew who were naturals either kept their head shaved (which was not an option for me) or they wore locks.personally i thank God for all the bloggers that show the versatility of natural hair and share their knowledge on keeping our hair healthy.

caribbeancurl
caribbeancurl
6 years ago

Like the author I have been natural for a long time, since 2000, and have had a serious up and down journey. Things that I have done now have a fancy name for it…transition, big chop, dust ends, deep condition and the list goes on. I honestly thought there were very few like me and had to learn some hard lessons by trial and error. I even went as far in 2005 to believing that if I used a texturizer it will wash right out. The whole Youtube generation has certainly cleared up some misconceptions I had and made me better… Read more »

Tikvah
Tikvah
6 years ago

I have been natural for about 12 years. I told myself that I needed to learn to love and appreciate my natural hair. Once I did that, I could go back to straightening it if I found the maintenance preferable. Admittedly, I wore styles that covered my natural hair for much of the time. I loved low maintenance braids and twists. Up until only several months ago did I eventually decide to get serious about wearing my hair lose and learning how to care for it. It is evident to me that I am still not fully confident with my… Read more »

deRHEA
deRHEA
5 years ago

I’ve been natural all of my life and I do not have a problem with the natural movement if people are serious about it.I’m not opposed to perms “to each their own”.I just have problem with people jumping on the band wagon just because it is a trend to them.I’m not saying It is anything wrong with trying it out but don’t go along with it because someone told you to.It is very hard and time consuming I can say that and I’m still learning and thats why some people still have their issues with going natural or maintaining it.I… Read more »

Phoxxie
Phoxxie
5 years ago
Reply to  deRHEA

Why do you even care?

Lisa
Lisa
5 years ago

I spent my childhood and early teenage years natural. I knew all the styles, treatments, etc. Since I was about 15 I began relaxing my hair through the salon and it looked great. My hair didn’t go through the break odds and extreme damge because I never neglected the treatment of my hair. I still knew how to keep it healthy while relaxed. I don’t like being judged by new naturalists as if I no nothing about my hair just because it’s relaxed. If the new naturalist had decided to learn about their hair care when they were getting their… Read more »

Andrea
Andrea
5 years ago

WE WERE ALL NATURAL BEFORE IT WAS POPULAR! Because, at some point, WE DID NOT HAVE A RELAXER!

collegechick
collegechick
5 years ago

I went natural before it was popular on my college campus, but It’s current popularity doesn’t bother me, what bothers me is that a lot of people are going natural but allowing their hair to look like who did it abs what for, as if you don’t have to put in effort to care for natural hair

KI
KI
5 years ago

Who cares! I’m just glad we are embracing our natural hair and now my daughter can grow up and feel confident about her big beautiful hair!

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