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Texas Pastor Preaches Against Weaves, Says They Promote a False Image

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A Waco, Texas pastor is taking his dislike of weave straight to the pulpit. Pastor A. J. Aamir of the Resurrecting Faith church has admonished his female congregants not to get weaves. AmericanPreachers.com reports;

Pastor A.J. Aamir recently told his leadership staff at Resurrecting Faith, DO NOT wear weaves. Pastor Aamir feels women wearing weaves presents a false image of themselves and are associated with women who have low self-esteem.

Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself is all I’m saying” said Pastor Aamir.

Pastor Aamir admits he was raised in a strict household. His mother and father are members of the Islamic faith. At 39 years old, he leads a congregation whose average age is 22.

Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads” he told AmericaPreachers.com.

I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. “Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

Pastor Aamir acknowledges he cannot legally prohibit women from wearing weaves in church, but he still highly disapproves it.

Resurrecting Faith was founded by Pastor Aamir and is located in Waco, Texas.

The church itself doesn’t have any social media presence, so onlookers have taken to the article’s comments section with their reactions.

One commenter wrote;

He’s making a powerful statement about the importance of learning to love yourself in the image that God made you. African American women are giving away their power, belittling themselves and making a statement that our natural hair is inferior to the hair of Europeans. Our natural hair is actually beautiful. Can we just give it a chance or do we have to live our entire lives as brainwashed sheep? I applaud this pastor!

Others expressed disgust

What kind of foolishness is this, what does that have to do with living righteous or holy. What does a “real” image look like?

a cult in the making is what it is…God never told us to micro manage people

Ladies, what are your thoughts?

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Trish
Trish
7 years ago

He’s right! There’s a spirit of shame behind weaves that he wants to expose. There are also economic implications that are designed to keep some people poor. Hear him out, I think he is making a valid point.

Seriously
Seriously
7 years ago
Reply to  Trish

We seem to forget that weaves have been around for thousands of years. That they were worn for beauty, art, and expression. I doubt anyone would claim the Egyptians were ashamed of themselves. So why do we act like every black woman wearing a weave is a self hater that needs preaching to. I know there are self haters that do exist, but just because there are some out there doesn’t mean all black women who wear them are. I say black women cause black women are the only ones blasted for wearing weaves. If I can straighten my hair with… Read more »

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Seriously

WHY DOES SOMEONE ALWAYS BRING UP ” WEAVES BEEN AROUND FOR THOUSAND OF YEARS”? SO HAS SLAVERY BUT DOES THAT MAKE IT RIGHT?

JLL
JLL
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Really. You’re gonna throw out slavery for this one. Hyperbole much? It’s just HAIR.

Hilary
Hilary
7 years ago
Reply to  Seriously

But what makes you think the Egyptians wore weaves? Oh the same movies that cast Elizabeth Taylor and Angelina Jolie as Cleopatra? The same history books composed by dead white men in awe of the technological advancement of ancient Black Africans? Couldn’t it have been their hair… Afro textured hair loc’d can reach our ankles… think about it. Egyptians were not all of light complexion, damn sure were not white, and they didn’t wear wigs. The same pedagogy that has lead us to believe the egyptians and jesus resemble white people is the same thinking that cultivates an affinity to look… Read more »

Kani
7 years ago
Reply to  Hilary

they wore fake beards and wigs, that’s a known fact. There’s nothing wrong with that, it was a fashion statement. people of high stature wore wigs and false beards, just the same way that rich Europeans wore powdered wigs. race had nothing to do with it

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  Trish

Please, the church is always asking for money! You see more single black women in Church sitting there putting their money in the plate and all for what? I,can give to charity on my own and can care less if the church gets a new roof or organ. This charlatan rev fails to mention all the money black women waste in the collection plate each Sunday for decades. . I know black women who give to T.V. Evangelists like no ones business, so if she wants to spend 700 dollars on a weave then at least the money is going… Read more »

thefwordprod
thefwordprod
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

I agree with you on this. Putting more energy into your church than your own life is ridiculous to me.

TWA4now
TWA4now
7 years ago

Wow! What a statement! It rings some truth like it or not. We have to start with people’s hearts and minds first before banning “the weave” and the like.

Seriously
Seriously
7 years ago

Me personally I dont wear weaves, but what business is it of mine if someone else does.

How does he know how much they cost? What if someone’s weave is a gift to themself? I know I treat myself to a spa every now and then.
What if their wearing weaves because they work while also take the lead in caring for their home, and feel they don’t have time for their hair?

Bottom line he doesn’t know every persons circumstance. Maybe he should take his own advice and stop worrying about whats on somebody else’s head and focus on their heart.

lansky.r@hotmail.com
lansky.r@hotmail.com
7 years ago

Personally I don’t wear weave. I already twice wear weaves & I don’t feel myself at all… I just don’t like it. I’m natural & I’m just wearing my box braids. I kind of understand his statement. Black woman (not in general) don’t really appreciate their hairs. I don’t understand why because we have beautiful hair like nobody business ahaha. We weren’t born with straight hair. Anyway after all this a personal choice. I already made my choice: I will stay natural for the rest of my life. I’ll just wear my natural hair or braids. I feel good &… Read more »

beena
beena
7 years ago

Braids are fake hair

Lansky
Lansky
7 years ago
Reply to  beena

Oh really I thought it was my real hair thanks for letting me know. If you know how to read I was just saying that I don’t feel myself in weave! I know braids are not natural or whatever. Next time make sure you post something not that irrevelant. The subject was about weave. I can feel you are wearing weaves ahaha! 🙂

Kani
7 years ago

don’t get me wrong, I love Box braids & all other types of braids too, but what makes wearing them more natural than a weave? Either way you’re attaching something foreign to your own hair whether it’s virgin Brazilian hair or kanekalon.

me
me
7 years ago

I had this conversation with my cousin yesterday. I don’t believe in forcing people to do what they do not want to do but I have to agree with the Pastor here. Why do we not see white women buying afro weaves and wearing these to work? I feel it’s really silly for black people to wear fake weaves and hair extensions especially when it’s quite obvious that it’s fake — when the hair is poor quality / synthetic / or not installed properly. Why go through all that trouble to deny who you are, or to try to fit… Read more »

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  me

Lol think your comment rings true with many folks,there is nothing worse then seeing a women with a bad weave.

Lansky
Lansky
7 years ago
Reply to  me

Exactly! I’m totally agree at least if they was wearing fake fro lol but you rarely see that. It was always fake bone straight hair or something ! After all, this is a choice (a fake one but still one lol).

MsKat
MsKat
7 years ago

He does have valid points. While there are some women who wear weave or wigs as a break- it’s normal for someone to want a break or change sometimes- in my travels I have seen many of the women he speaks of, with a pricey weave, often with kids looking a mess. If he knows the cost of a weave it is likely because he has heard that particular woman bragging about it. While I see nothing wrong with someone wearing a weave, I have seen, many times, these women’s decline: they decide there’s something wrong with their natural look,… Read more »

Diamond Vernillion
Diamond Vernillion
7 years ago

Speechless!!!

jemjt
jemjt
7 years ago

Well the bible does say do not just be driven by outside beauty…adorning the hair etc..but focus on inner beauty. So though I think there is nothing completely wrong in wearing a weave or wig etc.…if that’s your focus. ..then its a problem that needs addressing. And its true some people are in debt yet will still find money to get their hair done. ..there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good. .but priorities. .. I don’t think wigs are self hate…especially for those that wear it for change or a break as MsKat says…but there are some that have insecurities.…… Read more »

what?
what?
7 years ago
Reply to  jemjt

I totally agree with jemjt.The most sensible comment this far.No hate/malice or pst/church bashing. 🙂

My view is do you but it needs to look good whatever your style is.
#teamrepresentwellalldayeveryday

Cherise
Cherise
7 years ago

*Grabs a bucket of popcorn*
Let the comments begin.

Anon
Anon
7 years ago

Black women this, black women that…blah blah blah

maxine
maxine
7 years ago

It’s fair to say that today so many black women wear weaves that it’s hard for anybody to realize black women actually wear their own hair anymore,many non black people are under the illusion that black women do so because they have no hair or they want to look like Caucasian women, I also see more and more black men complaining that they are not fans of women who wear weaves I wear weaves but very sparingly 4 months out of a year as a protective style and I only plan on doing so till my hair gets to its… Read more »

Maria
Maria
7 years ago

It annoys me that people feel the need to enforce certain ideas in the name of faith.

When we dye our hair, that’s not who “really” are. When we flat iron our hair, that’s not who we “really” are. Same with makeup, colored contacts, spanx, padded bras…the list goes on!

Teaching a message of self-acceptance is one thing, putting down people’s preferred method of hairstyle is another.

And for the record, I’ve never worn a weave.

Danni
Danni
7 years ago

so here is my two cents. i feel that we as black women are always ridiculed for wearing this type of hair and makeup up. if we wear weaves we are trying to be white , if we wear makeup then we are conforming to European standards. hosh posh. why , when other women (Caucasian, euro-Latino, Asian etc) can do this stuff and worse they are never accused of not loving their selves. tanning and bleach blonde is like the got damn first commandment among Caucasian women and yet they are not accused of not loving their selves? circle lenses… Read more »

mstoogood4yall
mstoogood4yall
7 years ago

wow. i agree with what he is saying, but at the same time guys need to practice what they preach. U can’t be saying u don’t like weave and be hollering at women that do wear weave while ignoring the ones with natural hair or without weave. ask a man to name beautiful women off the top of his head and i guarantee most of them are weaved up. i don’t wear weave but i do see ppl wear it as a protective style. imo if ur hair is healthy that is what matters, i just don’t like when ppl… Read more »

mstoogood4yall
mstoogood4yall
7 years ago

i feel like if ppl are going to be buying this stuff at least try to buy from black businesses. Koreans take over beauty supply stores and a lot come straight from their country and open shop then they be talking about us in their language. In a perfect world ppl would love themselves and not wear makeup or do anything extra to look beautiful or be seen as beautiful. Our hair has always been a major issue. during slavery they cut black womens hair and made them wear headwraps to signify their inferiority. now some black women feel the… Read more »

Sabrina Antoinnette (< link to my instagram profile)

I have no problem with extensions or weaves and will occasionally rock one as a protective style as well… But that’s just it — it’s a HAIR STYLE like any other accessory you take on/off. What I do have a mild mind conflict with is the mentality of those that can only self-identify with their weave or any added feature for that mater (relaxer, eyelashes, face full of makeup.. etc.). The mass public is very brainwashed by this from the media. We even noticed this with the response to Beyonce’s haircut: “Why did you cut your long beautiful hair, Beyonce”… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago

I’m an Atheist for one thing, and I really get tired of Church men telling women how they should be, look or feel. I think any woman who’s a Christian or Muslim and sit in church listening to the utter B.S. Of the so called “word” are misguided and betraying the female gender unknowingly. Do these black women ever realize how chauvinistic or misogynistic religion is to begin with? How do you go to church, put money in the plate, knowing how sexist these man-made Gods are? I say “Gods” (plural) because man made the Gods and from every culture… Read more »

fluffy-in-flight
fluffy-in-flight
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

It’s quite one thing to say that you don’t believe in God and that you’re an atheist. That is YOU, but there are many people who do. It’s one thing to take offense to what one man said, but when you come out swinging at the Bible and Jesus — That is quite another can of worms. I believe in God, I believe the Bible is inspired. You can’t blame God for what men choose to do. Everything in the Bible is there for a reason I might not understand everything, but i’m not going to criticize it because I… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago

Fluffy, don’t you think it does you and other women an injustice when you don’t question the very sick things in this world that are psycholgically harmful to women? And btw it’s a free country so if I want to put the buy-bull on blast for it’s ancient pathetic teachings then I shall. It’s high time someone did! Do you buy a house on faith? Do you cross the street on faith? I don’t think you’d do any of those things based on faith. If you don’t question the lies you’ve been taught then you are just living with blinders… Read more »

Sammy
Sammy
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

Christians are arrogant, lazy, brainwashed? Christian women lack self-respect? Why you so mad? You like logic right? So get this: Not everyone who say they are Christians, actually are. Being a Christian is a lifestyle. It’s not all about sitting in church, listening to preachers, and certainly not about being judgmental. It’s about loving God, loving yourself, and loving others. So I say this with love: You sound like you are unhappy with your life, even miserable. If you are at peace with your decision to deny God’s existence (which we know you aren’t) you wouldn’t be getting so riled up, attacking… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  Sammy

Actually studies show that it’s Christians who are more likely to be divorced. It’s also Christians who suffer most from emotional problems and that is why they become drawn to organized religion. Cakm down, I’m only giving my opinion. You act as though being a Christian is like taking an instant happy pill. Being a Christian doesn’t protect you from depression, disease or unhappiness you dolt. Choosing to live in reality does not mean I’m unhappy. I am happiest when I’m not told how I should believe. I am happiest and most fascinated when I investigate and discover the natural world around… Read more »

Sammy
Sammy
7 years ago
Reply to  Sammy

I can’t help but feel sorry for you. You know nothing about the very thing you despise; confusing hypocrites and overly religious nut jobs with Christians. As I said before, not everyone who claims Christianity is a Christian. Life is not perfect. Christians are human and are subject to making mistakes. But guess what, it feels great to make mistakes and know God is there to make sure it doesn’t break us. Nothing, absolutely nothing can stand between a faith-filled Christian and the good Lord. He watches over us and protects us and blesses us. God never promised an easy… Read more »

Anna lee
Anna lee
7 years ago

Amen!!

If atheists don’t believe in God, why do some get so angry and offended at those who do have faith?

Sounds like a guilty conscience to me.

Anna lee
Anna lee
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

My reply was directed to @Fluffy-in-flight.

Anna lee
Anna lee
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

Amen to Sammy as well!!

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

Uh who said I was angry at you? I just think you live in a fantasy world and feel the need to point out the sick garbage in the bible from time to time. It seems you’re angry because I won’t submit to your madness. How could you not be angry about what you read in the bible? Have you even read the bible and if you have, why aren’t YOU equally as pissed off about what those primative cave men in the bronze age wrote about women, gays and unmarried women. How can you not be angry about a… Read more »

Debroah
Debroah
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

@ Colalover Were you abused? You sound like you are speaking from such a personal place? Sorry if the church hurt you. Don’t turn away from God just because men hurt you. It’s time to heal. There are plenty of vile things that both Atheists and Religious folks have done in history. We can toss around horrible examples back and forth all day. But why? What’s the point? Insulting someone’s faith and their intelligence because their faith makes you angry says a lot about you. We may not be able to agree, but pretending your insults are knowledge…smh. Who cares at… Read more »

fluffy-in-flight
fluffy-in-flight
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

Don’t know — I guess only an atheist could answer that question. But what I can tell you is that I do believe in him.Because you can’t see someone doesn’t mean that he doesnt exist. We obey laws daily that we came on this earth and found. I’m talking about not traffic laws, which is true too, but i’m talking about superior laws e.g like the law of gravity, and the law of thermodynamics’ and i know despite what people say whether they claim to be atheists or not, those laws have to be respected because if we go up… Read more »

AC
AC
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

They get mad because they think those who do are misguided and they think they can be “saved” ironically lol. The same reason religious people try to reach out to atheists.

This I coming from someone that’s neither.

Anna lee
Anna lee
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

An atheist quoting the Bible…calling the Bible an evil book…
May God forgive your blasphemy and have mercy on your soul.

Go from the presence of a foolish and self-confident man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips” Proverbs 14:6.

To those with an open heart: if you are suspicious of preachers (or anyone speaking on matters of faith), read the Book of Jude (the chapter right before Revelations). “It warns believers against false teaching and provides a helpful list of characteristics of false teachers and erroneous teachings. (Description from J. Meyer amplified Bible)”.

God bless

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

Again, which God? God in the CHRISTIAN Bible employs the Devil, so how do you feel about that? The fact that you believe in an oppressive religion is embarrassing. There are some Muslims who call you Christians “infidels” ? So you can call me an Atheist, but please remember how the first group of organized Christians were also called Atheistic,incent practicing cannibals by the ancient Jews. An Atheist is someone who doesn’t observe tradtional religious practices. Since you want to throw verses around here goes, Qur’an 9:5 “Kill those who join other gods with God wherever ye shall find them, and… Read more »

Anna Lee
Anna Lee
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

Satan quoted the Bible too.

So sad.

Nia
Nia
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

@cocalover: “An Atheist is someone who doesn’t observe traditional religious practices.”

According to the dictionary:
Atheist- a person who denies or disbelieves the existence of a supreme being or beings.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/atheist?s=t&path=/

Blasphemer- to show contempt or disrespect for (God, a divine being, or sacred things), esp in speech.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/blasphemer

If you don’t believe God exists, that’s you’re business. But why trash God? So offensive.

annnsow
7 years ago
Reply to  Anna lee

an atheist can quote the bible and call it the way they want fortunately because most of us here are in a free country, and I’m very glad.

alice
alice
7 years ago

One of the reasons the weave topic for black women is a hot topic is because of several reasons. For one relaxers were invented so that black slaves would be considered as proper and acceptable. and most of the relaxers are harmful. secondly we dont have straight hair to begin with and you find women buying long straight weaves which do not resemble their own hair. its only in the last couple of years where afro textured weaves have been invented for black women. I understand where the pastor is coming from. but i also feel that if a woman… Read more »

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  alice

I disagree with what you said but its just my opinion. Relaxers were never invented to give some sort of class position amongst slaves,Relaxer chemicals had nothing to do with hair because the man that invented that formula made it with the intention of modifying the texture of materials and found out it straightened, then came up with the genius idea of applying it to hair and it worked and he was black Also the argument we didn’t have straight hair is a myth..BLACK BABIES are born with straight hair which is soft eventually through the coming months it then starts… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  maxine

I have seen blacks with naturally straighter hair from different parts of African too as well as babies. So for one thing I agree with you even though I think religious leaders don’t have a right to treat women like children about their hair.

Aleyah
Aleyah
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

And random site visitors don’t have the right to troll BGLH and spout anti-Christian rhetoric.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  maxine

WHAT THE HELL

JENNID
JENNID
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Lol that is what I said.

Molly
7 years ago

I have dreadlocks and I definitely have nothing against weaves. I’m from a country where weaves are a huge thing from Indian to Brazilian hair (South Africa) but I believe that as woman we can relate when it comes to hair whether Black, White or Asian and I strongly believe that as people we express our beauty in our own different ways. So even if the Texas pastor can preach about how weaves can promote false image but at the end of the day it’s up to an individual and we know how the media strongly influences the mass.

African Naturalistas Hair Products

There is freedom of speech. The pastor has the right to advise his congregation in whatever way he feels like. At least, it doesn’t seem like he stated it as a rule.

It is left to the congregation to either take it or leave it.

thefwordprod
thefwordprod
7 years ago

right to advise his congregation as he pleases” Nooooo that’s completely wrong.

Holy Nappy
7 years ago

So far I don’t see any problem with wearing weaves cuz if weaves are bad so what about make ups? but my problem is wearing another person’s hair especially a dead person’s hair?? My sisters from Africa and Caribbean knows, if someone wants to curse or kill you by using witchcraft (voodoo) the will ask him to bring your dirty close, nails or hair. This means your hair is a part of you and your hair is you. From a spiritual point of view I’ll say, wearing someone else hair means, you are carrying and sharing all the spirit behind… Read more »

neicey
neicey
7 years ago
Reply to  Holy Nappy

Hair is hair. You can’t be cursed or killed by witchcraft if you are blessed, if you believe in Jesus Christ. No weapon formed against you shall prosper. God will protect His children. Awesome breakdown by Bishop T.D. Jakes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcEoWkIvk8M

Instead of disapproving weaves, I think the Texas Pastor should have (or may have…we don’t know, we didn’t hear the whole sermon) took a loving stance encouraging people to use wisdom when making choices. If you have a choice between styling your hair and keeping a roof over your head, the choice should be clear. But these days, smh.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  neicey

WEARING SOMEONE ELSE HAIR IS DISGUSTING

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Most of us are wearing something or eating something that came from another being if you think about. You think wearing someone else’s hair is disgusting as you eat that fried chicken and consume all that sugar and who knows what else. Honestly, the cloths you wear comes from a dead animal or silk worm. Where the hell do you think most of our food comes from, and yet you have a problem with something on goes on top of your head and not think twice about what goes in your body. Enough of the judgement..let women be who they… Read more »

Holy Nappy
7 years ago
Reply to  neicey

I agree with you, but also we cannot see danger and expose ourselves to it knowing God will protect us, maybe He’ll, but the bible also says… “The sharp man sees the evil and takes cover: the simple go straight on and get into trouble” <> Nowadays Christians are the ones with all kind of problems and diseases, as if God no longer hears our prayers, even though we are the firsts running after troubles. Christians are the light in the world our job is to shine and show the way. We are leaders not followers, the world shall copy us not… Read more »

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Holy Nappy

I think you need to fast forward to the 21st century. The bronze age is over.

Holy Nappy
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

I’m being old school, because I’m talking about curses and witchcraft? Please ignore my comment if you are not a believer, but if you are one, you should know why you believe in Jesus. We believe in Christ to be set free from all curses and condemnations. We pray to get power to overcome the power of the enemy either witchcraft or any other evil power. Now let me fast forward to the 21th century… Would you voluntary wear some else teeth or nails? I know I’m being gross, but that’s reality. Being in the 21th century doesn’t mean we have to… Read more »

manns1963
manns1963
7 years ago
Reply to  Holy Nappy

I totally agree with you. But if I’m not mistaken the hair doesn’t come from dead people. There are hair farms all over seas and these women are paid to grow their hair and then cut it and shipped to merchants. That’s seems to be the process that I’ve been told.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  manns1963

THAT’S NOT ANY BETTER

timber24
timber24
7 years ago

It would appear, to some black women, that it’s more important that their hair is fine, than that they have food to eat, or that they pay the rent/mortgage.

They might be hungry, but at least their hair looks good.

For me, that’s insane.

The pastor should perhaps ask questions, such as, what is more important, their hair, or their children eating?

If he has too, ask questions. Especially if they are struggling financially.

But, honestly, you can’t tell people.

wadadlicat
wadadlicat
7 years ago
Reply to  timber24

I have to disagree with you. You can tell persons what to do but you can’t force them. What does a paster or preacher or minister do at church? He tells persons how to live their lives as a Christian, how to become more Christ like etc. A pastor doesn’t ask you anything. He tells you and those who want to listen and follow will do so. The vast majority don’t however. But in essence the job of a pastor/preacher/minister is to guide to the lost sheep to a path of righteousness not to tell persons what they want to… Read more »

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  wadadlicat

Completely agree with you,wether this man is a man of God he is making judgments,the bible says that do not judge,nowhere in the bible does it God or Jesus judge anyone.
Even if he felt this way he should have kept it to himself

LBell
LBell
7 years ago

(putting on my Spock ears) Fascinating…I’m just going to drop a couple of tidbits here rather than write a long essay: - Certain preachers were doing the same thing over a hundred years ago except they were preaching against black people straightening their hair period. “Hair Story” (Byrd, Tharps) is just one book that discusses this. - African diasporan hair culture cannot be compared with anybody else’s hair culture, past or present. No other race of women is dealing with the kind of cultural baggage black women deal with when it comes to their hair choices. Our history affects our hair… Read more »

Erissia
Erissia
7 years ago
Reply to  LBell

The reason why most black women do not have long hair is because of over processing and too much weaves causing their hair to break off.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Erissia

You’re tight but it’s Not most. It may seem that way if you don’t live around a lot of black women with long hair. We all speak from experience. I grew up around many black women (friends & family) with hair pass their shoulder & down their backs-processed or natural. YES Natural Hair is nothing new… It’s just that more women have gone natural now & we have social network and media attention.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago

Typo: You’re right.

I wish there was a way to edit comments after posting.

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  Erissia

So why do most natural women I see have short hair..sometimes it’s just genetics..most people that are clued up know how to chemically process their hair and maintain it after,their are many black relaxed women with long hair and also the same women who are able to wear a weave whilst ensuring her hair is maintained underneath.

Seriously
Seriously
7 years ago
Reply to  LBell

I didnt have baggage dealing with my hair. I keep hearing people refer to us black women as a whole. Yes I experience things all black women tend to experience , but you know what I am an individual. I make my own decisions. I have my own mind, my own reasonings. I experience things differently than the next black woman. Some black people do the same thing other cultures do which is generalize. Why should I limit what I can do because certain black folks feel uncomfortable. Heck folk feel uncomfortable when I wear my natural hair too. If you want to… Read more »

stephanieb
stephanieb
7 years ago
Reply to  LBell

Exactly Lbell, my thoughts exactly. Although I don’t understand why he is talking about this and what this has to do with a person’s salvation, I do agree that women (all women) can sometimes place too much emphasis on the physical and not enough on what’s inside. Let’s face it, there are some sisters who will avoid exercising and just plain sweating because they ‘re afraid of messing up their hair, which is plain dumb, but then we wonder why we lead in all kinds of illness and in obesity rates.

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago

I’m not particularly religious, so my response will probably be biased and piss people off but I don’t care. I don’t like when I hear someone (especially a man) from the pulpit admonishing women for what they wear or don’t wear. He probably wants the young lady with the $300 dollar weave to spend it more on his salary. Religion is getting into too many areas and people need to start thinking for themselves and not relying on religous institutions or person(s) with obvious agendas to tell them how to act and or behave.

Tink
Tink
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

Oh wow,can you people stop throwing every pastor into the Money Hungry Category?You must of had a bad experience with church or members of it.Anyway I don’t think he would of address this problem if most black women wore weaves that matched their real natural hair(would of been more difficult to distinguish) instead of some other race hair,then he couldn’t talk about their financial problems and honestly not every religious institutions or persons sway other people.Some people do need more help than others even if they realize it or not.

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Tink

Money hungry pastors? I wish that was the only thing wrong with these pastors. But, I digress. The only experience I had with church is growing up and watching for a good part of my life one pastor after another take advantage of the simple minded and vulnerable of their congregation and fleece them into spending what little money they have on them (pastors). When more than half your congregation is on some type of social services be it food stamps and or welfare and the pastor is riding around in a Lexus…something is wrong with that picture. Too bad… Read more »

Bree
Bree
7 years ago

You know. He has a point, most people wearing these extravagant extensions cannot afford it. A lot of women DO suffer from low self esteem from not accepting what we really look like and who we really are, I applaud BGLH for posting this article and for the pastor for being brave enough to say stop with the foolishness.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Bree

I agree there are wonen out there with liw self esteem but for many It’s not about low self esteem (more women than you think) It’s about modern day style and What’s Now. Women who are Natural wear weaves all the time sometimes as a protective style; A LOT OF TIMES just to change things up a bit from Sew-In, Crochet …etc. all while criticising women who wear weaves.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago

Typo: low

Monica Mayon
7 years ago

I just, I mean just blogged about this very same topic a few days ago. I hate to say it, but he has a good point. Read more at Monicamayon@blogspot.com

Megan
7 years ago

*sigh*…the sentiment is nice, but he went about it COMPLETELY the wrong way. If his congregants are having issues prioritizing the way they spend, then he needs to start talking about finances with everyone, male and female. If the women in his church are oppressed because of the way society views them, he should create an environment where they don’t feel judged about their appearances, weave or not. That also means talking to everyone in the congregation, not just the women.

Monica Mayon
7 years ago

I’m with you Bree! If you are struggling financially, then why is there a $150-$300 weave on your head? It must be some dialogue about it.

Deauna
Deauna
7 years ago

From a standpoint of false image, why is weave singled out? Someone posted about make-up, but what about relaxers? Or support garments? False nails? If it’s truly about false image, then this can’t be an issue of picking one ‘image’ to preach about.

I get the financial argument about people not using their money for necessities rather than wants, but that is also a judgment on everyone’s part about something they would/wouldn’t do.

Tink
Tink
7 years ago
Reply to  Deauna

Yea but some weaves cost more that all those stuff combined.

Deauna
Deauna
7 years ago
Reply to  Tink

True. My point is still if it’s about false images, all of those things alter a woman’s true looks.

Jack
Jack
7 years ago
Reply to  Deauna

It seems money was the main issue and people not prioritizing their spending and just used the weave as an example because they cost the most (out of all the other accessories). I would have thrown in designer clothes as well.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Deauna

BUT IT’S SOME ONE ELSE’S HAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!! WEARING A TEXTURE THAT IS NOT OURS. STOP BRINGING UP EVERYTHING ELSE. MAKEUP DOESN’T COME FROM ANOTHER PERSON BODY. YOU PEOPLE DON’T GET IT

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

WRONG…again!!!! Some make-up comes from animal testing or straight from animals. Does that make you more genuine? I think not…but that’s besides the point. You have a problem not only with weaves, but, I’ve seen stupid comments from you Ms. TINA that shames naturals for not being natural enough. You are a troll and I can’t understand why you are still allowed to comment on here with your hate filled rhetoric and your “ALL CAPS” yelling.

Kani
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

with that kind of logic, we shouldn’t be able to donate organs either I guess

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Or give blood

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Deauna

Deauna, you said it perfectly. Where does it end…fake nails, fake hair, make-up, jewelry, cosmetic surgery, hair removal, liposection. All of these things are used by all people of all races not just black women. We all present ourselves differently to the world to some degree. But, it is black women that usually get the brunt of condemnation and judgement. False images can incompass so many things physically and mentally weaves notwithstanding. Why this women has a 300 dollar weave and she is on food stamps or don’t have enough money to feed her children is one example of a… Read more »

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

Mlank64 YOU and Deauna are right on point on This Topic. Rather than using This opportunity to talk about money management, finances and making BETTER FINANCIAL DECISIONS he chose to project his Personal feelings & opinion on women wearing weaves–attacking black women for doing something that is a part of todays society in all races. THE PROBLEM IS $300 weave while struggling financially and the bad spending habits of the men in the congregation as well-very poor choice. He went about it the wrong way. There are women who install 2‑pack total $30 weaves themselves.

coffeeandfingernails
7 years ago

It’s a pulpit, not his personal time to sound-off. What he approves or disapproves of is really nobody’s problem but his own–to conflate his authority as a supposed expert on scripture with his desire to dictate what anyone does with any part of their appearance is so arrogant I don’t have words for it. I don’t care what you think of weaves, this pastor is an obnoxious jackass.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago

Agree!

Coley
Coley
7 years ago

AMEN!

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago

YOU’RE A JACKASS

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Very Unnecessary your comment. Be more respectful.

merry
merry
7 years ago

does this make him a natural nazi?

wadadlicat
wadadlicat
7 years ago

I see what he is saying. People need to have priorities in life. How can someone say they are broke or they are going through hard times financially when they are able to put $300.00 or more worth of hair on their head that they don’t need. That money can be used to put food in the cupboards to pay bills to take care of the children. I mean if a person can afford to have $300.00 or more worth of hair and can still afford to pay their bills, eat well and take care of their children then go… Read more »

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago
Reply to  wadadlicat

Absolutely!

NaturalK08
NaturalK08
7 years ago

He needs to get a clue.. Next

Coley
Coley
7 years ago

Saw a lady use food stamps then walk over to the beauty supply store and buy $160 worth of hair! THAT’S when I have a problem. I also think the whole weave thing is getting out of hand. But, if it makes you feel good, rock on!

Kani
7 years ago

Maybe it’s just me, but I can’t stand how we as black women have to put up with so much scrutiny over how we choose to wear our hair. So what if I want to wear my hair natural one day, wear braids the next, and a straight weave after that? I don’t think that means I have poor self-esteem. People read too much into things as simple as a hair style.

Kinky Curly Marie
Kinky Curly Marie
7 years ago
Reply to  Kani

Totally agree! It has nothing to do with self-hate or low self esteem for too many women which is why people need to stop being so up and arms about this. There are too many REAL issues in the community that need to be addressed.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Kani

SO YOU SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH WEARING STRAIGHT HAIR THAT ISN’T YOURS THAT CAME FROM INDIANS THAT MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE YOU ARE TRYING TO LOOK LIKE A WHITE WOMEN?? YOU SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH WOMEN THAT HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THEIR TEXTURE IS OR HOW TO TAKE CARE OF IT??//

Kani
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Honestly, I don’t see a problem with wearing weave. If it comes from India, Cambodia, or wherever is not an issue. I would rather preserve my own hair underneath than have to subject my natural hair to heat styling. & about women not knowing what their real hair texture is or how to care for it, that’s a result of relaxers and heat damage. Weaves are a way to prevent damage to your own hair while still being able to achieve the styles you want.

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

It’s bad in the same way that asian women get operations on their eyes to look more European. It’s bad in the same way that white women risk getting melonoma by baking in the hot sun to get that rich dark skin many of us have naturally. It’s bad in the same manner that men put chemicals or get hair transplants for their male pattern baldness. How about white women injecting their lips to get what naturally comes to us beautiful black women. How about the butt transplants for fuller backsides. So the question I have is why put this… Read more »

lmoore
lmoore
7 years ago

I don’t care who says it, it’s true. If you look in the mirror and want to look like someone else, something is wrong. Yes, we are constantly told that everything about us is wrong, but we have to be better than that and not let someone else dictate what our beautiful is.

Jordan
Jordan
7 years ago

I’m pretty sure that the women in his congregation have earned the right to self-expression, which is what extensions really boils down to. He needs to be more concerned with spreading the Word and teaching the flock to live that way, instead of judging. Jesus accepts my fro and my protective styles!

marfmellow
7 years ago

people STAY trying to take autonomy away from black female bodied people! and how in the fuck do you know how much a weave costs on the head of someone in your congregation? sounds like a way to other black women by their choices — choices that may or may not be linked to them living in a racist and sexist ass country with a taste for eurocentric beauty standards.

tl:dr stop telling black women what theyr’e doing with their body is wrong — when there’s no one lobbying against white women putting in fucking fusions/extensions.

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago

Hmmmm…I don’t know. I agree with the pastor somewhat; although I also think that it is not his job to speak on hair issues from the pulpit-aren’t pastors supposed to speak on Bibical things when at the pulpit? Weaves are not spoken of in the Bible. He can however as a man concerned for his sheep, speak on it in his “chamber.” Nevertheless, I also wanted to say that I know PLENTY of girls who you would never see without a weave attached to their heads. One girl especially, I hadn’t seen her hair in about 5–6years‑I saw her not… Read more »

'Quel
'Quel
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

Well, you’re right. It’s a style, a fad that’s going around. And there have been fad’s before: the afro, the jerri curl, fingerwaves, mullet (lord have mercy). The list goes on. But, I mean, it’s what’s in style right now. A lot of people wear weaves because they see them look so nice on their favorite star or something. However, that doesn’t mean they absolutely abhor themselves. Again, it’s just something that’s going around. Not really a big deal in my opinion.

Miss T
Miss T
7 years ago
Reply to  'Quel

Wearing weave might just be a style and fad for some, but unfortunately it gets a little deeper than just a “fad”. If that were the case why are there so many black women that you will never catch without wearing a weave? Why are there so many black women who are completely disconnected from the hair that grows out of their heads? Why are there so many black women that pass me everyday and look at my natural hair like I’m doing something wrong (which is funny and sad at the same time). If its just a “fad” why… Read more »

'Quel
'Quel
7 years ago
Reply to  Miss T

Well, maybe you only see them wearing weave because their real hair underneath is so badly damaged that they’re embrassed to show it? AND they haven’t a clue how to get it to grow back in properly? See, you DON’T know. That’s why you shouldn’t judge. You couldn’t possibly know what’s going on in every single woman’s mind who wears weave. So, why are you judging everybody and grouping everyone into the same category. What does the good book say about that? “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” Read it…

Miss T
Miss T
7 years ago
Reply to  'Quel

Quel, judging has nothing to do with it. As a matter of fact we can add your statement that some women wear wigs and weave because of damage and embarrassment to the list of reasons as to why I stated that wigs and weaves are deeper than just fads. Ok, why are there so many black women who are embarrassed of their hair? Why do so many black women have damaged hair? Why do so many black women not know how to care for their hair? This is far from a “fad” or coincidence.

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

LOVE WHAT YOU SAID

Miss T
Miss T
7 years ago
Reply to  TINA SMITH

Thank you Tina, you tell the truth too, but people don’t like the truth sometimes.

stephanieb
stephanieb
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

Love your comment Nicole D, I agree completely!!

'Quel
'Quel
7 years ago

To each his own. Personally, I have a problem with wearing human hair that doesn’t belong to me–it just doesn’t feel right. However, I will put some Kanekelon hair in my head for a fuller bun 🙂 Everybody has their own reasons for doing what they do. Maybe it really is insecurity, maybe it’s just that person’s preference. No one can know what’s going on in somebody else’s head. And I don’t think it’s fair to say that every person that wears weave hates themselves and wishes they were white. That’s taking it to the extreme.

Althea
Althea
7 years ago

The only thing that I find excessive is the fact that he feels the need to tell me what I should or shouldn’t be doing with my hair. Pastor, your job is to teach the word of God. That’s it. Listen, sis, you don’t have to like what I like. But don’t go around putting people against me– or creating this divide– because you don’t like what I have going on. I’m tired of these arrogant people, men especially, who feel like it’s their natural duty to tell women what they can and can’t, should or shouldn’t, do. It’s really none of… Read more »

Kerri Hall
Kerri Hall
7 years ago
Reply to  Althea

Crack open your Bible before you tell a Pastor how to do his job!

Andrea
7 years ago
Reply to  Kerri Hall

Just because they are pastors does not mean they are always right! He is human, after all so he can learn too.

stephanieb
stephanieb
7 years ago
Reply to  Althea

Wow, Althea, calm down girl. And do you really have to say gdamn, I mean really?? The pastor may be wrong but you don’t have to disrepect God’s name because you’re mad.

L.A.
7 years ago

Let me begin by saying that I am not at all religious and that I agree with mlank64 when she says that religion (and men) need to get up out of our business. HOWEVER — I DO agree with Mr. Aamir that weaves and hair straightening needs to GO. We are deliberately deceiving the people we work with and walk past every single day. Just like previous poster LBell said, there are actually people out there who thought Beyonce’s hair was real!!! SERIOUSLY?! I have NEVER met a Black person (who didn’t have a large amount of some other race… Read more »

ModMudd
ModMudd
7 years ago
Reply to  L.A.

Wearing weave is lying to your friends and family? I don’t know anyone born with ruby red lips, is wearing lipstick lying to your friends and family too? smh.

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  L.A.

LA, I agree about the weaves as well, just the context in which the debate started is what turns me off. Just my two cents.

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  L.A.

L.A. you need Jesus! That is it in a nut shell. It doesn’t matter whether you are natural, relaxed or weaved!

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  lil deb

lil deb, you need to read a science book!!!

Andrea
7 years ago
Reply to  L.A.

Are you breasts up and perky, then take that bra off. While you’re at, take those tight panties off and let your butt hang out. Oh, and your hair doesn’t naturaly grow back like that so take that band off your head. Is your torso red?, No. Then take that dress off! Do you get my point? Just because you don’t choose to do somethinf, it is not right to judge others!

AC
AC
7 years ago
Reply to  Andrea

Lol this is a dumb response you know why? Because I personally would have NO problem walking around naked and natural, I don’t wear any make up etc and I can style my hair with water… However it is illegal to be nude in public and my breasts sit up rather nice so no padded bras here, but it would be deemed indecent to walk around with my nips out. I love my body and all of us do not need artificial enhancements that society pushes on us but if you feel so strongly about it continue to use them… Read more »

'Quel
'Quel
7 years ago
Reply to  L.A.

Hello? Weaves and straightening need to go??? That’s absurd. So, one day when I feel like I want to flat iron my hair ’cause I feel like wearing it straight, i can’t because I’d hate myself if I did that??? Girl, get the f outta here with that naturally nappy, hippie bullshit! YOU are the one who wants to embrace nature and be au naturale! Everybody doesn’t want to eat berries and wheat germ and no carbs! To other people who choose to wear their hair natural, it’s just “the way we wear OUR hair.” Ya’ll need to get on… Read more »

La Rosita
La Rosita
7 years ago

I believe he’s right And i applaude him for speaking out.we got used to the idéa that our natural haïr isnt acceptable!we find it normal! Those who have Nothing going on on the inside Will pût their focus on the outside,accept yoyrself the way God made u.$300 weave?!?!i would never!

Estrella
Estrella
7 years ago

This is nonsense. The fact that you disagree with weave has nothing to do with the Word. That has nothing to do with God. I’m natural but if I choose to blowout my hair and flat iron it that’s not deceptive, that’s the style I chose for my hair that day. Some of us natural sisters go to far trying to empress our desire for natural hair onto every other black woman. What about white or Hispanic women that wear extensions, wigs, or other hair pieces? What about dying our hair? Is that “deceptive” too? I say to each his… Read more »

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  Estrella

YOU NEED TO RE READ THE ARTICLE LMAO

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Estrella

Amen sista! Tell it like it is! To each its own. It has nothing to do with the Word that God spoke! Read the Bible and keep it silent about your feelings.

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago

BGLH could you delete my first version and put this this one please. Thank you. Hmmmm…I don’t know. I agree with the pastor somewhat, although I think that it is not his job to speak on hair issues from the pulpit. Aren’t pastors supposed to speak on Biblical things when at the pulpit? Weaves are not spoken of in the Bible. He can however as a man concerned for his sheep, speak on it in his “chamber.” Nevertheless, I wanted to say that I know PLENTY of girls who you would never see without a weave attached to their heads. One… Read more »

beebop
beebop
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

He did not make this statement from the pulpit of his church, this is a small portion of an interview that he did with America Preachers.com. Finally what is so wrong with a pastor of a church to telling his female members that they should love and accept their natural selves?

Andrea
7 years ago
Reply to  beebop

Because he doesn’t know why each individual woman is wearing a weave. He is making a general judgement and he is not to judge. Did he tell the old ladies to take off their wigs or their big ridiculous church hats?! Did he tell the men to not shave or cut their hair and embrace their natural selves?! Some people just don’t like weaves and look for any platform or soapbox to spout their bs!

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

What you said makes sense until you start giving white women a pass for wearing weaves because it looks like their own There is no problem with me if black women wear it sparingly as a protective style but if a black women wears it to emulate other race women then it becomes an issue that she has within herself Just because the hair doesn’t look natural it means she shouldn’t wear it? Why is it white women get acceptance on everything they do by tanning their skin to dyeing their hair..most white women do not need hair extensions but people… Read more »

Jodeci R.
Jodeci R.
7 years ago

Though I’m not sure if I completely agree with using the pulpit as a platform, I think those against this pastor’s stance and approach need to ask themselves, “Well, who else is going to speak up about it?” Many of the African American community are church goers and seek the church as a place not only for faith, but for an education (of sorts) and leadership. While I believe that, possibly, there should be more of an open dialogue (instead of preaching to the entire congregation whose only response is a smattering of affirmations), it’s not a bad thing for… Read more »

Kerri Hall
Kerri Hall
7 years ago

Those who are saying the pastor is wrong obviously don’t know the word! If you can read 1 Peter chapter 3 verses 1–5 and still feel that way, then get a load of 2 Timothy chapter 3 verse 16! It’s God’s way or no way people! The man is just reinforcing the standards set and NO-ONE can change God’s mind!

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Kerri Hall

You need to do some studying of God’s word and not read it on the surface. If you belong to that church, you may be getting the wrong teaching.

Andrea
7 years ago
Reply to  Kerri Hall

The verse you quoted does not mean that one CANNOT outwardly adorn themselves, it means that God will consider what is IN YOUR HEART even if you THINK you are being quiet on the outside, don’t fool yourself.

Robert J. Cooper
7 years ago

God bless this pastor; I heard somewhere the words ‘Speak truth to power’ and that may fit. We are all assaulted 24/7 with — essentially — propaganda that eliminates or denigrates anything to do with us, including looks and diet and history. Unaware of the factual proof of our excellence in world history, and trying to fit in, we adopt certain practices (skin lightening products on Nigeria, etc.)and we need to step up and deal with this Intellectual Warfare, as Dr. Jacob Carruthers taught. To learn more perhaps a reading of “Afrocentricity” by Dr. Molefi Asante would be enlightening. If… Read more »

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago

Robert I bet you are watching the ones with weave and your wife may need some help to.

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago

Robert, you are watching the women with the weave, don’t fool yourself. You are intellectual idiot. You need to come down to earth and get with the program. First of all, are you a Christian/believer in Christ Jesus? If the answer is no, then that is the root of your problem. Forget weave and hair get saved! Jesus is soon to return! He will not come back for weave. Your heart must be right. Weave does not make your heart right. It is the person of the HOLY GHOST!

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago

I LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ENOUGH WITH THE FAKE HAIR THAT YOU DIDN’T GROW. ENOUGH WITH BUYING THE HAIR INDIANS SHAVED OFF THEIR HEAD AND GLUING IT TO YOURS. GLORY!!!!!!!!1111 GLORY!!!!!!! ” HOW CAN YOU FIX WHAT GOD PUT HIS PAINT BRUSH ON” J.COLE GLORY !!!!!!!!

Chicago Chica
7 years ago

1 Peter is talking about the relationship between husbands and wives. I feel it’s an infringement of his position to tell women what they should or shouldn’t do. God has given us free will, and it’s an individual’s decision to decide what he/she wants to do with his/her hair.

illi
illi
7 years ago
Reply to  Chicago Chica

then he shouldn’t be preaching at all if he can’t give an opinion on what ppl should/shouldn’t be doing. Isn’t that his job?

derick
derick
7 years ago

shout out to that pastor!!!!! thank you brother, for not allowing that FAKE SHIT to go unchecked. black women (the mother of alllllll mankind) has become so BRAINWASHED that she feels her most “BEAUTIFUL” when she look her LEAST natural!!!.
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Seriously
Seriously
7 years ago
Reply to  derick

Um…I see a bunch of problems here.
People are not born with clothes, earrings, bracelets, and excuse me it looks like in this pic the eyebrows are tweezed.
That not natural.
Will you take all that off?

Hair is just a small peice of the puzzle people.

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago
Reply to  Seriously

I think the young lady was simply making a point that some black women feel the most beautiful when they look least like themselves. I kinda think she has a point. Clearly nothing wrong with adorning yourself-lipstick, earrings, necklaces, etc, this is clearly different from what I think she is referring to.

AC
AC
7 years ago
Reply to  Seriously

She sure can take off the jewlery and all her clothes too but posting naked pictures of yourself and walking around naked is deemed harmful to the eyes of many including children and its called indecent exposure which is illegal in many states. Stop being a dumb ass! If I could walk around naked I would! That is not the same as not wearing someone else’s hair!!

TINA SMITH
TINA SMITH
7 years ago
Reply to  derick

SAY THAT AGAIN PREACH

Hmm...
Hmm...
7 years ago

I think it’s really intrusive and shallow for a pastor to be worrying about people’s physical appearance at a church.

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Hmm...

Very shallow! We have too many other problems happening rather than discussing weave. Is this church a cult? That is the impression I am getting! Waco Texas? My mind wanders back! Weave cannot be the real issue!

Carla
Carla
7 years ago

Do you wear deodorant? Make up? Brush your teeth? Color your hair? How you choose to groom yourself is up to you. Hair is no different. If the pastor is commenting on finances then do that. Condem the single dad who hasn’t paid child support but has new shoes. The parishioner that is living pay check to pay check but drives a new car. Or taking up a special birthday offering so the First Lady can have a new LV purse when there are children in the congregation that don’t have a winter coat that fits. Don’t pick on weaves.… Read more »

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Carla

Exactly Carla!!!!

Monica Mayon
7 years ago

The pastor said that most of the congregation is struggling financially. How would he know that? Are they asking for prayer for their finances? Are they asking for financial help from the church? If the answer is yes, then he SHOULD discuss the issue of wearing a weave that may be wreaking havoc on their finances. After reading some of the comments, I can appreciate that he may have had the conversation from a different platform than the pulpit, but I still think it’s a conversation worthy of discussing, especially if they are struggling financially.

Katrina
Katrina
7 years ago

A $300 weave? Yeah right, that’s a student loan payment right there.

Is bashing women for wearing weaves really any different than bashing them for wearing their hair “nappy”? Sounds like that 20 something needs a lesson in money management to me.

ModMudd
ModMudd
7 years ago

Tired of the weave-shaming. I agree that it does have roots in white supremacy and self esteem issues but that doesn’t mean ALL weave is inherently bad.

This kind of black and white thinking is overly simplistic and only succeeds in marginalizing and shaming groups of women.

This pastor is promoting the idea that the content of a woman’s character is dependent on her hairstyle. This is dangerous and oppressive. For goodness sake, stop telling black women that their worth as human beings is dependent on how they wear their hair!

Joi
Joi
7 years ago

I think there is a lot of truth in what he said. He has a lot of young parishioners. I have seen too many young ladies with what looks like a dead badger on their heads. Their wigs and weaves look horrible, and they think that they have to have all that extraneous hair on their heads to be attractive. Some women don’t know their own hair texture because their moms started relaxing their hair as very young children. They have been told that their real hair is nappy, ghetto and unattractive. These are the women he is talking to.… Read more »

Jesse
Jesse
7 years ago

I have a problem with this pastor voicing his opinion and using the vehicle of religion to force people who follow him into agreeing with his opinion. This is the very reason why I’m weary of organized religion. He is using a position of power in a bad way. Not too long ago I read a comment on here posted by an African woman who said her pastor asked her if she was “mad” for wearing her hair natural and shamed her for having natural hair (if you don’t already know, some regions in Africa frown upon natural hair). In the… Read more »

Delia
7 years ago

I think the pastor is out of line for targeting weaves. I like having my hair weaved up in the winter because it protects my hair, not because I’m trying to “fool” anybody. I agree that it’s not financially sound to spend $300 on a weave if all your other financial houses aren’t in order, but attacking someone for their personal preference or style isn’t very loving or understanding. Holler at your congregation about building better finances and go to that message, not their looks. I used to be natural for 20 years and then decided I wanted a change.… Read more »

lil deb
lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Delia

Delia you are right! The pastor needs to teach on finances and leave the weave alone. I say that this is a problem with his lack and not the weave!

Simon
Simon
7 years ago

Dumbest thing ive ever heard and I’m a Christian.
“Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself is all I’m saying” said Pastor Aamir.”
So by his logic he shouldn’t be wearing any clothes or shoes cause he wasn’t born with any clothes and shoes, so he need to be real with himself and walk around Naked and not get his hair cut!
Who he trying to be by wearing clothes! Be Real! This man is Real Dumb!

Seriously
Seriously
7 years ago

I just can’t bother with the women on this site anymore. You know why people are always like black folk can’t get along? It’s cause black folks are saying you got to do this that and the other to get along. How do we expect other cultures to see us as individuals when we can’t even accept that we as black people are all different. In one week I have seen arguements in comments on articles of interraicial relationships vs black relationships, weaves vs non weave supporters, whats next…an article to spark the light vs dark debate again. Black people… Read more »

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Seriously

Seriously, you are seriously correct. It’s like there is a barameter on how black you can be. If you wear a weave then black patrol will come around and take your black card away. Don’t have light skin and 3c hair…not black enough. If you are natural and still press your hair straight..damn it you are under threat for losing your black card. The only way you can remain black is to wear your hair completely natural with no product in it to not “fool” anyone into thinking those curls are really curls that come out of your head or just… Read more »

Jocelyn
Jocelyn
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

Best. Comment. Ever!!!! Black police lol…that’s so real.

A.R.
A.R.
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

Preach!!

lost my black card
lost my black card
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

I am actually the very picture you describe but I’m a conservative voter so my black card got revoked .…eh

K10
K10
7 years ago

There are so many other issues that matter more. The importance of saving yourself for marriage, not getting involved in the wrong crowd, how do handle someone being disrespectful to you, how to handle being in an abusive relationship, asking for forgiveness, etc. are all things you should and normally hear in a church. Real life problems. Was there a poll taken where the women that wear weaves in the church have low self esteem? What proof does he have of that? And if they do have self esteem issues, it’s his job to help them through The Word, not… Read more »

JoJo
JoJo
7 years ago

Why not take it a step further and let’s all walk around without clothes. After all we were not born with clothes either! When the pastors trade in their BMW’s for go carts then they will have the privilege to see us in all our natural glory.

Cy
Cy
7 years ago
Reply to  JoJo

A to the men. AMEN.

Sigh
Sigh
7 years ago
Reply to  JoJo

Really? Equating covering your naked body with clothes to covering the hair that grows out of your scalp ? Smh Wow, when did we become this sad and pathetic as a people? From some of the reactions, you’d think the man demanded women to not wear hair hats when he simply suggested it AND made some damn valid points. Black women are free to ignore the man and keep paying out of the ass for the “luxury” of wearing another race of women’s hair on their heads. Black women are free to continue making up a minuscule part of the population… Read more »

Lucy
Lucy
7 years ago
Reply to  Sigh

All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.

- Arthur Schopenhauer

AC
AC
7 years ago
Reply to  Sigh

My sentiments exactly, wearing someone else’s hair isn’t the equivalent of wearing clothes… because not wearing clothes will have your ass arrested. Please stop with the ignorant arguments lol

Guest1234
Guest1234
7 years ago
Reply to  Sigh

@Sigh,

Brava! Ain’t that the truth, the whole truth and nothin’ but the truth! Preach, Girl!

Monica
7 years ago

I’m not christian, I’ve never been to a church so I don’t know if talking about weaves at church is appropriate or not . But I think he’s being too radical. There are cases when weaves are just a hairstyle and others when it’s a sign of low self esteem. If you love your hair, want a little change and can afford a good weave that will look good , then go for it ! It doesnt make you a self hater ! Let black women LIVE for god’s sake ! Why are we the only women that is not… Read more »

Sharon
Sharon
7 years ago

I am a black women who wears natural hair. I’m not against weaves, I just don’t wear them, just my preference. I don’t do glue or thread because I just prefer to be natural. If someone else want to wear weaves, that’s none of my business. I do what works for me, you do what works for you. I understand the pastor’s point, however women should be able to wear what they want!!’

Lydia Shoto
7 years ago

I will say this. He made a valid point in how crazy we as women are in regards to our hair. Struggling financially, but the hair is on point. Baby has no shoes on their feet, but my weave is laid! Really?!?! Priorities is the theme of that statement he made and I agree with him (this also goes or males who have tricked out cars, but not paying child support. I digress). I’m not saying women should look jacked up in the name of having food on the table, but moderation in cost and looking at where our money… Read more »

Tabatha
Tabatha
7 years ago
Reply to  Lydia Shoto

I’m not a person that pays a heap of money for stuff anyways, but I think that its none of his business what people use their money for. For the money that we do in the collection plate I better see something new on the church every time I go or I will wonder where the money is going.

Andrea
7 years ago

I bet this pastor spends a lot of time and money picking out some very, very nice suits and shoes! When hen comes to church naked, then he can try to influence women on what to wear! Men are constantly telling women what to do! Get off it already! And doesn’t he know that hair can be (and is) bought in “natural” kinky textures! So it has nothing to do with women being hung up on European textures! His argument is weak!

aleesha
aleesha
7 years ago
Reply to  Andrea

This makes no sense. If he came to church naked he’d be arrested for indecent exposure. Don’t make this sound worse than it already is. The pastor is doing right by his flock, by telling it how it is. Do you want another race to say it for you? Your argument is weak, as the majority of black women do not wear kinky textures, this wouldn’t even be an issue if they were doing so.
God forbid I end up wearing straight hair weaves, let me pray!!

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago

I would like to add that every single Black Country that exists today has been affected by white ideals. Better yet, every single non-White Country that exists today has been affected by white ideals. And if whites hadn’t appeared in black countries, we would perhaps still be dressing in “tribal” gear. Is tribal dressing bad? Absolutely not; I think most of it is beautiful. Human beings before considering themselves, Americans, Nigerians, French, Brazilian, Somalian, Korean, etc, were simply from this tribe or that tribe. And each tribe although similar had their own characteristics in the form of worship, food, and… Read more »

shelikes
shelikes
7 years ago
Reply to  Nicole D

thank u for the pictures. love reminders of the beauty from whence i come. i wonder what kind of ceremony the beauty adorned in cowrie shells is dressed for?

Kani
7 years ago

Why are we constantly condemning people who have self esteem issues? Telling a woman who wears weave that she does it because she has low self worth isn’t going to make anything better. Crucifying the black woman with the long blonde hair and blue contacts doesn’t help either. Doesn’t God love all of his children? What makes anyone think that because they don’t alter their own looks, that gives them the right to tell others what they can do? We need to be more focused on uplifting our people, not tearing them down.

Kelcie
Kelcie
7 years ago

The pastor said all that just to let you know he would rather that $300 in the collection plate or added to the “pastor’s love offering” instead. I go to church and I believe in natural beauty also. I feel that it is not my place or his place to tell anyone what to do with their money/hair. “God never told us to micro manage people” is a true statement. Just because I’m natural, relaxed, wigged down or weaved up doesn’t affect my relationship with God. When we start picking at small stuff like this (Christians and others), we are… Read more »

Andrea
7 years ago

The only way this pastor can know about his congregations finances (unless someone has gone to him personally) is based on their tithes and offerings. He must feel like they are not giving accordingly. But some people don’t give because they may feel the money is not being used ethically or for the greater good. What kind of suits is this pastor wearing? What kind of car does he drive? Only the women who wear the weaves know why they wear them so I wish people would stop trying to act like they are omniscient and stop judging them! Worry… Read more »

GT
GT
7 years ago

In the UK, most women wear straight, wavy or loose curled weaves and they are mostly horrible, plastic looking, unrealistic and horribly done unlike the weaves of women in the US. I don’t see women wear type 4 weave but it was my understanding that that type didn’t last long and I suppose women don’t want to pay high prices for something that won’t last. If I only ever saw the weaves of women in the US,I would think that although its fake, it looks good and that’s all dandy but the way people wear them here is just awful.… Read more »

Tabatha
Tabatha
7 years ago

Well if you don’t like weave don’t wear it. At my grandmother’s church we gave 50 cents. That collection cam around like 4 different times. Nuh-uh that is too many times to be giving when you are already living paycheck to paycheck with 7 grand kids in your 2 bedroom house for the summer.

shelikes
shelikes
7 years ago

white women process harder than any other race. they blow dry, flat iron, color, straighten, spray, relax, and start all over again till they r just about bald when they get older. criticize them for promoting false image too. whole beauty industry was created for them to minimize nappy frizz and curl. what false image? (sarcastically) the american way IS to follow the next trend whether it is beneficial to black community’s health and well being or not.

A.R.
A.R.
7 years ago

Last time I checked the phrase “come as you are” applies to all. Not everyone who enters the church will be in the image the pastor wants. You can preach beauty and self-love without policing what women are wearing on their heads. Is the pastor going to wake up in the morning or stay up late at night and do every woman’s hair? NO. Nor can he control the women of the church. Encourage the congregation to tithe but don’t start policing everyone’s purchases. That’s not his job.

Jax
Jax
7 years ago

I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads”…

Hilarious that this pastor is apparently VERY focused on what’s ON their heads and NOT IN THEIR HEADS.

Hypocrisy at it’s best…

Colalover
7 years ago

Well anyway how bout them YANKEES??:-)

LeAnna
LeAnna
7 years ago

This pastor is doing too much and his focus is not where it should be. What does a woman’s hair have to do with Jesus. I’m saying this and I am natural. People’s priorities be all over the place

ceecee
ceecee
7 years ago

I may be in the minority here, but i pretty much agree what all the pastor said. There’s so many black women i see who are insecure about their hair and cover it with straight or less kinky weave. This is coming from personal experience though.

Saye
Saye
7 years ago

I don’t think it matters what hairstyle you wear. I am natural and I love being natural. On the other hand, I am not going to judge those who have relaxed or weaves, that is their choice. I have worn my hair relaxed, in braids, weaves and now natural. My preference is natural hair.

aleesha
aleesha
7 years ago

Some of ya’ll are being silly. I honestly don’t mind if black women want to wear weaves BUT you cannot compare white women wearing extensions to black women wearing extensions or weave. On a white woman they are enhancing what they already have, on a black woman it is fake and something completely unnatural. Secondly, you can’t compare wearing bright red lipstick and wearing clothes to wearing weave. Be reasonable. And I see EXACTLY what this pastor is talking about. I went to a church this year where the pastor said she is dismayed by the financial distress of the followers… Read more »

Naturefro
Naturefro
7 years ago
Reply to  aleesha

The only time I’ve seen white girls wear hair weaves (and the average girl you see at the mall or at school or anywhere else is NOT) is to make their hair longer. The weave looks exactly like their real hair, same texture and consistency and all except it is longer.

I dislike weaves and women wearing them (and lets be real, over 90% of them are black women), because weave wearers are sooo consearned about the state of my natural hair and how I wear it. But under their weaves is badly damaged, dry, unhealthy, helpless hair.

chinamountain
chinamountain
7 years ago
Reply to  Naturefro

Myth, myth, myth! I am sorry but that is soooo untrue white women actually purchase and where more weaves than black women. The weaves are made for or are closer to there texture so you can’t tell as well on them. They also tend to have more $ and can afford the top of the line hair fusion, running into $K’s. Asian girls where weaves too. I’ve seen it. Look at the Kardashians, all we’ve out. Popular culture always wants to portray black women as if we are the only ones who where and need weaves. Not true. The Europeans… Read more »

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  chinamountain

let’s say we did make and sell weaves of our texture to ourselves, of course. realistically speaking, who do you think would buy it (among us)? maybe a few die-hards, natural hair fans (like myself), but…we certainly wouldn’t contribute enough to pose an inkling of a threat to the acquisition and sell of straighter hair types. and even if this alone weren’t an issue, given the current climate as it now stands and has for decades, how exactly would you derive this afro-textured hair? even the afro textured hair on the market now is not originally afro hair. how many black… Read more »

Kurly Klips
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

I’m a black woman who designed clip-in extensions specifically for natural hair and the natural hair journey. Personally, I use my own product as a protective style. And I love it! On days when I want to leave my hair braided up, but want the look of a gorgeous fro, I just snap on my Kurly Klips and call it a day. I’ve made it so that extensions are healthier for our hair because you can take them out and put them in whenever (they’re clip-ins) and more economical because you don’t have to pay someone to put them in… Read more »

chinamountain
chinamountain
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

blacks make up 11% of the population and whites make up 75% just on the math alone how can we purchase more weave. I really don’t care where the hair comes from synthetic or human. We need our own purchasing power and distribution power to bring the money into our community. Not to give it to some other racwho knows absolutely nothing about my hair texture… I can relate to kurly klips who is trying to create something for our hair…this or redundant…

Fairy
Fairy
7 years ago
Reply to  chinamountain

Do you see any white girls wearing a weave that’s not there hair texture? These whites and Asians you mention just use extensions to make there hair longer or fuller (enhancing what they already have). Plus there extensions are close to there own hair texture as possible. Can’t say the same for black women. There whole head is covered with a weave that is not there hair texture. It is either bone straight or wavy. Not there true curly/kinky texture. When it comes down to it, it shows you what a lot of black women prefer to be on there… Read more »

Michelle
Michelle
7 years ago
Reply to  Fairy

I will check them out! Sounds like something fun to try on ‘date night’.

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  Fairy

this is in response to chinamountain. let me turn that question around for you in another light. so far as i can tell, white women are the only ones who utilize tanning beds. so so far as pure math goes, being that white people make up like little more than fifty percent of the population, how can it be that they almost exclusively drive tanning sells? i think you might need another argument. i promise you that if black women all said they wouldn’t buy weave anymore, weave sells would take a maaaajor hit and all those asians depending on… Read more »

Jaja
Jaja
7 years ago
Reply to  chinamountain

Let’s see… how many white girls have I known that have worn a weave *crickets* ONE girl who had it done by her black girlfriends and then only had it in for one week of her life. How many white women do I know that live on hair weaves *crickets* How many black women do I know who live on hair weave… hmmm I’d say it’s pretty common and I think I can say it is most.. Imma go with 3 out of 5. I’m still in school and most of the girls with perms DO NOT have “good hair” or hair… Read more »

knaw
knaw
7 years ago
Reply to  Jaja

Why is kinky clips getting so many thumbs up? Weaves are deplorable in any form. I wish the very conception of them would disappear from the face of the Earth. Man invented weave. NOT GOD.

SJ
SJ
7 years ago
Reply to  aleesha

I’m over this. I wasn’t there when the pastor made this statement, so my criticism should be taken with a grain of salt, as context is important, but: 1.Not all black women are broke. For many of us, buying weave doesn’t mean not paying our bills or not feeding our kids. Believe it or not, some of us *gasp* can afford weave the same way we can afford clothes, shoes, and makeup. And weave comes in a variety of prices. Not saying that those women who spend outside their budget don’t exist, but…let’s not let the media and stereotypes justify… Read more »

SJ
SJ
7 years ago
Reply to  SJ

I know my response is long. I was just disturbed by this pastor because, while I think his intentions were good, it reminded me a lot about Don Lemon’s comments about black people needing to pull their pants up and not litter in order to be progressive as a people.…Telling young black men to pull up their pants and not to litter is just a distraction from the real issues of racism and oppression and a way to blame black people for the injustices put upon them. Likewise, if there are women who hide behind weaves because of low self… Read more »

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  SJ

while i agree with what you have said so far as focusing on the issue, in your example, of black men not pulling up their pants and littering is a distraction from the real issues that plague our community that you enumerated, i think there is a lot of merit to examining not only those issues that stem from racist attitudes, but also to the climate of ignorance to which the pants issue speaks (on our end) and our own role in creating it and fostering it- even so far as embracing it, horror of horrors. i can criticize the… Read more »

SJ
SJ
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

But for real.….how many black men ACTUALLY show up to a job interview wearing their pants low? Not saying that those men don’t exist, but I have never seen it. The men in question who do in fact wear their pants low do it in the comfort of a mainly social or casual type of setting.…Never in my life have I seen tons and tons of black going to the workplace with pants below their knees…Wearing pants low is comparable to wearing bell bottoms or mullets back in the day; it’s a youthful sign of protest.…Don Lemon used a caricature… Read more »

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  SJ

I appreciate your response, and i’ll admit you’ve made me think. after examining the article provided through your link, i’ve sampled this quote as the frame upon which i stake my counterpoint (from the don lemon article on the politics of respectability). “But in order to become “respectable,” the targeted group is always encouraged to change. And the changes always, always require the targeted group to become more like the dominant group. If black people act more like white people, or women act more like men, or gays and lesbians act more like straight people, they’ll all see the same… Read more »

Lil deb
Lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  SJ

CJ this is a very good analysis of this foolishness. It was very well said. I am fascinated by the various comments made by different ones. However, the bottom is, “the pastor should stick with what God gave him. I am a Christian and I know that God is not giving us messages about 300.00 weaves. We need to be careful to stick with God Word. It is safer that way!

Lauren
Lauren
7 years ago
Reply to  SJ

Why does this not have more votes up?

Sandy
Sandy
7 years ago

I use to relax and weave my hair and believe the myth (that other black people told me) that my hair was bad and it needed to be straight. At the age of 29 I realized that a lot of my identity was tied into my hair. I also learned for the first time that my hair was curly after stretching out a relaxer and feeling my new growth. I’d been getting relaxers since I was a child because my mother pretended to know so much about hair care ( as most black women in her generation did) and didn’t… Read more »

IA Betsy
IA Betsy
7 years ago

I’m a conservative Christian and I both agree and disagree with what he is saying. I disagree with the aspect of weaves being deceitful. I get his point and I understand what he is saying, but most people can tell that a weave is a weave. However, he is dead on with saying that people focus too much on what they look like on the outside instead of what is in their hearts. Those of us who go to church know that it is true! How many times do we see women who show up to church perfectly made up,… Read more »

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  IA Betsy

i need this 345 dollar a month rent of which you speak. i wish! must be nice, lol!

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  IA Betsy

You seem like a nice person, but you’re wrong. There is no historical proof that Christ ever lived. So what do you mean we should act Christ like? Ok let’s say your Christ did live at one point in history. A person like him would have lived never eating pork, never mixing fabrics together, Afterall he would have been a typical man of his day, sexist, prejudiced, ignorant and a second temple Jew at that. Jesus never had a problem with slavery, or the Old Testament. He didn’t seem to disagree with much of the evil in the OT? So… Read more »

yea
yea
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

You do no evolution and the big bang theory has not been proven either right… so you have no room to talk

Lil deb
Lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

I was gonna leave this conversation alone, but the audacity and gall of this person degrading and speaking ill of God’s Son-Jesus! You sound just like Pharisees and saducees in Jesus’ day. You will see how wrong you are when you die and open your eyes in hell. By the way, it is very real! Continue to disbelieve the scripture.… You will see. Every knee will bow and every will confess that Jesus is Lord.

Fairy
Fairy
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

The article is about a pastor having a problem with weave, stop using it to spread your bile!!!

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

I couldn’t agree with you omore Colalover. However, on this site I think we are in the minority.

Dex in Tex
Dex in Tex
7 years ago

What is this insatiable desire for narrow minded men to control all women… personally I think he knows how much women spend on weaves and he wants them to stop so the women will put some of that weave money in the collection plate!

steel magnolia
steel magnolia
7 years ago
Reply to  Dex in Tex

AMEN!

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
7 years ago

I am so sick and tired of men and women pontificating here and everywhere else on issues that really have no importance in the lives of most black or brown people in this country. If you wear weave..OK!! where it like no one else !!..it you are natural..OK!! wear that like no other person can…just DO YOU!!!ALL DAY.. EVERYDAY..IN EVERY WAY!!!! Now, this Pastor is way out of his lane…How does he know the weave cost 300.00…now I read that his congregation is struggling financially and unless someone is ratting out the women when they are “doing their hair“he has no… Read more »

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
7 years ago

WOW…I am so sick and tired of men and women pontificating here and everywhere else on issues that really have no importance in the lives of most black or brown people in this country. If you wear weave..OK!! where it like no one else !!..it you are natural..OK!! wear that like no other person can…just DO YOU!!!ALL DAY.. EVERYDAY..IN EVERY WAY!!!! Now, this Pastor is way out of his lane…How does he know the weave cost 300.00…now I read that his congregation is struggling financially and unless someone is ratting out the women when they are “doing their hair“he has no… Read more »

Aleesha
Aleesha
7 years ago
Reply to  DianaMarie56

I don’t mean any disrespect but $20 weave ain’t cute so I think even the untrained eye knows expensive weave when they see it. There is no rationale behind someone being so broke that they have no money to pay their bills or care for their children yet spend $300 on priyanka’s hair. The pastor was not trying to rule over anyone and he didn’t say this to the congregation he said it to those higher up as if to ask them to set a good example. The point is, it doesn’t matter what other people or other races are… Read more »

Kade
Kade
7 years ago
Reply to  Aleesha

$20 weave CAN look cute in the right hands. A good hairdresser can do wonders. Just saying…,

cacey
cacey
7 years ago
Reply to  Kade

but you might fork over to the hairdresser that which you might’ve paid outright for a good weave. last time i checked, good hairdressers don’t come cheap.

Keesha
Keesha
7 years ago
Reply to  Kade

People can do whatever they want with their hair, but I would rather get braid extensions than a weave. The reason being, I don’t understand how someone can pay money to get hair that they still have to blow dry, straighten, etc. If I have to pay money for something, it better be as convenient as braid extensions.

Keesha
Keesha
7 years ago
Reply to  Keesha

And in regards to the pastor, I don’t get why he’s talking about this during his sermon. I don’t think the church is the place to be talking about hair weave.

Toni
Toni
7 years ago
Reply to  DianaMarie56

I think you missed the MAIN point of the pastor’s message. If you are struggling then why do you have a $300 weave? He said the young mother is struggling. Two key factors MOTHER and STRUGGLING! She’s responsible for someone else so why spend $300 on some hair? If sickness is involved, wigs are less expensive. Judging by your response your husband’s ministry is most likely NOT operating in apostolic order and he’s probably being ran into the ground by a bunch of self-centered people.

Lil deb
Lil deb
7 years ago
Reply to  Toni

All ministries should be based upon the apostolic. After all, it is what the apostles wrote, being inspired by God!

Colalover
7 years ago
Reply to  Toni

Ah yes let us pick on the young black single mom. But I would wear 700 dollar 3c weaves that my hubby would gladly pay for when I was under 30.He knew he was paying for it and would even ask me if I wanted to treat myself at the spa or hairstylist about every few months. Most of the single black moms the Preacher is so concerned about I might say most are under the age of 34. But whatever happened to the FATHER being around to help these women with household finances? So they can beautify themselves as… Read more »

Aleesha
Aleesha
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

Well my dear if the father is not there, all that you can work with is preventing other young women from making the same mistake. In almost all cases both man and woman take the blame it takes 2 to lay down and make a baby- no one else’s fault but they own. And not to mention this is not the issue at hand.

Evonne
Evonne
7 years ago
Reply to  Toni

How does HE know that the member spent the money for the weave? She could have been given a hair day as a gift from someone wanting to be a blessing to her. People have to get out of themselves and think deeper than what’s on the outside.

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
7 years ago
Reply to  Toni

Toni, I completely understood the Pastor’s message..it is an old one..there is nothing new about what this young and naive Pastor is doing. I think you got caught up in the drama and literalness of what this Pastor presented. How would this pastor know anything about what a woman is spending on such a personal area such as her hair? This is not his wife or daughter..it is a woman within the congregation..simply because he says she is struggling and has a child does not mean he can or should intercede…once again..STAY IN YOUR LANE PASTOR. Toni, it always flabbergasts… Read more »

Lil deb
Lil deb
7 years ago

Diana Marie, you made some good points about this pointless argument of Pastor Armir. There are too many other things to focus on other than weave and hair. We have some serious issues happening in this society for him to focus on how much women are paying on their hair. My advice to the Pastor is teach classes on finances. Insulting someone is not operating in the wisdom of God. He needs to ask for wisdom.

Evonne
Evonne
7 years ago
Reply to  Lil deb

And how does HE know that the member spent the money for the weave? She could have been given a hair day as a gift from someone wanting to be a blessing to her. People have to get out of themselves and think deeper than what’s on the outside. I agree with what you said! There are more things to be concerned with.

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
7 years ago
Reply to  Lil deb

Lil Deb, I agree completely with you and insulting anyone is not a way to as you so elegantly put it “operate in the wisdom of God’ This is also a tell-tale sign of the immaturity of the pastor. I sincerely hope that he is part of a connected church system that will provide him with spiritual mentoring and guidance so that he can grow into the type of pastor that grows and guides his flock to higher and higher heights of biblical understanding and personal happiness and contentment. Right now he is on the road to “Aw..look another church… Read more »

Sammy
Sammy
7 years ago

1 Corinthians 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.…bought…sown in…clipped…don‘t simple believe the words of a preacher, read for yourself.

cacey
cacey
7 years ago

i think a lotta ppl are missing the intention behind his msg. lol at the person who speculated that he’s probly tryna increase his collection plate money. but i digress. he’s speaking to practicality as well as making an appeal to the natural beauty of black women. a good number of black women tie their self-worth to their hair, which is a shame, since the hair to which they attach the most value is fake more often than not, and two, since that sense of worth should never come from something as superficial as hair. but that too, the women in… Read more »

Aleesha
Aleesha
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

AMEN my sister! Truth hurts.

nappy headed black girl

I understand stand the message but I think he went about it wrong. If we’re gonna point fingers let’s not forget the men with $300 sneakers and $500 sound systems in the car. You have to fix the problem within the family and with everyone, not just the ladies.

Versatility Beauty&Fashion

I can understand that the pastors uttering gives different perspectives. What I personally think what the Pastor is Really saying is: “Embrace Your True-God-Giving Beauty and when you do you will spend your money more Wisely!”

Neece
Neece
7 years ago

I understand what the pastor is trying to do. He only wants to encourage his congregation to love themselves instead trying to be something they cannot, but like most people he’s just going about it wrong. The women I know in my family do not wear weave because of low self-esteem they wear it as a protective hair style or just because they are tired of doing their hair. There is nothing wrong with that. Also it’s weird to me that no one has informed him of these point of views.

Anu
Anu
7 years ago

I can understand the pastor’s point and women being something they’re not. Being artificial is so not cool but that seems to be in nowadays (with no benefit to self-esteem). Fake hair, fake hair color, fake nails, fake eyelashes, plastic for fake you-name-its–enough! I’m really tired of seeing people walking around basically wearing a costume. The biggest problem that I have with weave and so-called Christian women is that I can’t understand how a person can call themselves Christian while wearing a sacrifice that was made to a pagan god. Maybe people were in the dark before, but now it… Read more »

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  Anu

Pagans did cut the mane of horses to worship with etc but that doesn’t mean they sold out globally that black women are now wearing cursed weaves, the hair that is used more are from peruvian,Brazilian Indian or European women, mainly poor countries and women who cut off their hair for charity and donate it.

Evonne
Evonne
7 years ago

He should stay focused on souls — preaching the good news of Jesus Christ. That’s what he’s called to do. But trying to “determine” the reason for a woman’s choice in wearing a weave is none of his concern. Some women do it for convenience, some have alopecia, and some do have self esteem issues. But that’s not his position to regulate. That’s like saying DON’T EAT BEEF because the cow is fat! Jesus did not call us to pick on people but to preach the good news and heal the sick! It’s sad that some of our leaders are… Read more »

DeterminedOne
DeterminedOne
7 years ago

Interesting article. This pastor is telling the truth though for most people. Yes, there are some women who can afford to spend 100–300 on a weave every 2–3 months. But, most can’t and that is why you see more people with weaves that they have self-installed. I don’t think wearing weaves is the issue. The issue is WHY are you wearing the weaves, just like WHY are you wearing makeup. Makeup is supposed to enhance your natural beauty–not mask you to look like another person. I think that if you wear weave it should enhance your natural hair. Some people… Read more »

chris
7 years ago

I thank God for my pastor who told his congregation on several occasions and I quote, “I’m going to show you how to take the message and leave the mess. When you leave the church because you don’t like what is said, guess what you find when you get to your new sanctuary, you. Be not conformed to the ways of the world but be transformed by what? Very simple ladies, change your thinking. ( O.K.That will hit you later this week).

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Monica
7 years ago

Wow. The comments. I have no dog in this fight. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve never worn a sew in or had hair glued to my head. Even when I experienced stress-induced alopecia, I would not wear a wig. The closest I’ve come is wearing extensions in my cornrows during my transition. Even then I cut my transition short (to about 5 months) because I hated wearing someone else’s hair in my head. That’s just me. Yet, looking back over my life and thinking about the times I fantasized about working for myself and traveling, I realize that if… Read more »

Michelle
Michelle
7 years ago

I get so tired of the “attack” on type 4 hair. Everyone knows that kinky hair is stigmitized. You can’t wear it the way it is because it is nappy..you can’t straighten then you trying to be ‘white’(don’t understand this point as if white women are the only people with straighter hair types)..you can’t wear weaves because it’s false & displaing a false image. Why do people with other hair types not have all these problems? I especially get peeved when black men chime in..they do NOT have the same hair stigma that black women do..they can just cut it… Read more »

Hilary
Hilary
7 years ago

Can BGLH please do another article about natural hair in the corporate/business/professional world. I believe these recent articles about weaves, straight hair, beauty, and respectability politics are very constructive yet… the last article directly exploring natural hair in the professional world basically said “coming from one person’s perspective whose lived it, my anecdote explains why THIS IS what you should do with your appearance to BE PROFFESIONAL natural women” . But I couldn’t swallow that pill and I don’t feel its right to talk about something like its an absolute truth and it could still possibly be a myth Black… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago

Ah.…Let’s examine the theory of evolution.…wait, never mind, because 1. You need to understand evolution before you can make a serious argument work for ya. 2. Just because you’re too lazy to study evolution doesn’t make the bible’s b.s. Fairytales about a talking snake and trees of knoweledge correct. 3. Even if I sat here and helped you to understand evolution and what the scientific definition of the word “theory“means when scientists use it, you’d still denounce it because Preacher man tells you to. 4. To understand the evolution of any species you’d have to,quit being lazy and try to understand the… Read more »

Nisha
Nisha
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

I think your reply (and others as well) represent the problem we have in the world when it comes to religion. You might not respect a person’s religion or beliefs, but you should respect that person. Speaking in a condescending manner and calling people names will not encourage meaningful dialogue. Instead, it will instigate or continue the vicious cycle of hateful speech and arguments.

Colalover
7 years ago

Oooooo!!!! I is a scared negra woman massa!!!!!!! Geez when is the rapture bus coming already!!? Yes, yes blame the Devil.…But you can’t because for one, Satan is a mythical Christian creature that comes from the Hebrew word ” Ha-Satan which is noun, and not the title of a demonic beast. The word Hasatan means adversary, again not a title.The character of Satan is totally made up. Hasatans were a higher class of angels called ben-Elohim in the kingdom of heaven, meaning son’s of God. The ben-elohim are actually sort of like God’s prosecuting attorney’s. A Ha-satan is fully accountable to… Read more »

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  Colalover

Colalover… I wish more people particularly black people wake up from this delusion. We would be better off but unfortunetly that won’t happen anytime soon. 99.9% of blacks have fallen for this and the irony of it all is that slavery didn’t just take away our culture and language, it replaced it with a European god with blond hair and blue eyes. The very people who denounce wigs weaves and extensions don’t have a problem worshipping an image that is not reflective of their own people. People get upset when you mess this topic. Slavery isn’t just the physical bondage.…but… Read more »

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

Instead of cheerleading others in their misguided opinions, how about you take time to actually read the bible, no where in the bible does it say God is European and it certainly doesn’t tell you he had blonde hair, I find it very offensive as a follower of God that you are sharing something so false with others that is used by man to mislead others, before everyone here starts agreeing with the pastor he has one job only to do and that is to push the good wOrd of the Lord, anything outside that should be done in his… Read more »

mlank64
mlank64
7 years ago
Reply to  maxine

The origins of the bible and where it was written and its history is self evident. The bible you read now was handled manipulated and rewritten by European popes starting with pope constantine. You need to read some history before you start attacking people.

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

I’m telling you something don’t get it twisted.
The bible was first and foremost inspired by those close to God,they included his apostles and other bible writers before it got to man,the bible was then transcriptase and modernised so people of today could understand it ‚there is a big difference between that and man make it up fairy tales

Cameron
Cameron
7 years ago
Reply to  mlank64

It’s no use mlank, trust me. These people are deluded beyond reason. Funny how the things that came out of slavery (straight hair, Christianity) are praised the most by blacks. The irony.

Chose1life
Chose1life
7 years ago

In my opinion, this pastor is making an effort to express his perspective of the women he sees in his own church. He does not appear to be concerned with sensitivity respective of any race. The pastor’s goal here appears to be to encourage his leadership staff to lead by example and to not try to be something or someone they are not. From my perspective the pastor is stating to his members the social responsibility one has to uphold as a Christian. Maybe the pastor did use Biblical scriptures to preface his conversation. Maybe the pastor wants his leadership… Read more »

Yaya
7 years ago

Pastor just wants less money on weaves and more money in his [struggling] congreation. THAT IS ALL!!!

odette
odette
7 years ago

Ok, so if people take off their weave, false teeth, prosthetic limbs, straighteners, colours, false eye lashes, nails, reconstructive breast implants, wheel chairs, canes, ANYTHING that promotes a different image, including clothing according to body type and skin colour, it seems things might get real interesting in that church. The commentators are right, God never said to micromanage people. Also, ahem. ALL ethnic groups wear weaves and hair extensions!!!! Jesus Christ died for us all.

NaturallyLovenMyHair
NaturallyLovenMyHair
7 years ago
Reply to  odette

In most cases a cain, prosthetic or wheelchair is a necessity but a weave is not.The fore mentioned items help people function and maneuver better which aid in enhancing ones life. Apples and oranges all day. Disclaimer~ If one desires to rock a wig or weave…do it as long as I’m not paying for it, lbvs!!

Queen
Queen
7 years ago

This is harmless. He’s just expressing his opinion and quite honestly I side with him. However if he were trying to band people who wear weave from church, well that’s a whole other story. Personally it’s hard to draw the line. If weave presents a false image so we should stop wearing it, it begs the question what else are we doing that presents a false image that we should stop doing. I think if we are honest we will find a lot of external and internal things that are capable of that. Rather than judgin people saying they are presenting… Read more »

Cameron
Cameron
7 years ago

If someone is beleiver in a God, and believe that they are “wonderfully made” in the “image of God” why wouldn’t you want to wear your hair how he created it? And instead wear another races hair? That’s one of the things I don’t get. Don’t you think that would be insulting to the almighty God? Why are blacks even practising this religion, that was introduced to us through slavery and assimilation? There are many other religions, why do blacks hold so tight onto the concept that this religion must be right? It’s that lack of self-reflection and critical thinking… Read more »

Calvin
Calvin
7 years ago

I am a black man and personally hate weave extentions. It is disgraceful. They are an blasphemy to our God. I would never be caught dead with a women with a hair weave. Relax your own hair instead. Be proud of what God gave you. If he wanted you to have indian or a ukrainian womens hair, or synthetic horse hair you would have been born with it.

Tanya
Tanya
7 years ago

… I knew the comments were going to be crazy in this one but, woah! What happened?

PMS
PMS
7 years ago

Dang folks just want to bash Christianity but if you are a true Christian ridicule and persecution is to be expected.

Cameron
Cameron
7 years ago
Reply to  PMS

LOL that’s funny. If you look throughout history and common day Earth, it’s the opposite. Christians are just inclined to be hypocritical that way.

Me
Me
7 years ago

He is right, can’t get mad at him! Just pulled my weave out yesterday! Feels liberating!!!!! I am beautiful without it!

Notunderstandingthefuss
Notunderstandingthefuss
7 years ago

Don’t some women use weave to transition? Or just experiment? Or have a fun style? Maybe I want red hair this week and don’t want to dye my hair. Body image is a problem in our society. I agree. But blanketedly passing judgment on everyone is a little harsh. We should be teaching that its deeper than the clothes and accessories, but how we present ourselves, which is most convincingly done when we respect and love ourseselves.

Azmira
Azmira
7 years ago

NO Hair is not an accessory. A weave should not be done up for “FUN STYLE”. Styling is fine, if done on natural hair. But fake hair is shameful, plain and simple. Weave wearing is a symtom of someone with low-self esteem. I completly content in the mind, body and spirit that God gave me. I am 24 years old and have never had any interest in WEAVE. AND would need to have a self-conscious mindset and that of of someone with a low self-esteem to wear one (which I just cringed in writing; I NEVER would). So that is… Read more »

Jaja
Jaja
7 years ago

Let’s see… how many white girls have I known that have worn a weave *crickets* ONE girl who had it done by her black girlfriends and then only had it in for one week of her life. How many white women do I know that live on hair weaves *crickets* How many black women do I know who live on hair weave… hmmm I’d say it’s pretty common and I think I can say it is most.. Imma go with 3 out of 5. I’m still in school and most of the girls with perms DO NOT have “good hair” or hair… Read more »

Najia
Najia
7 years ago

WEAVES are BAD. I could never where them. Fun style my ass. You’d have to have mental issues to put on those wigs. I LOVE MY NATURAL HAIR. I would never want to hide it under boring weave of white women hair because to me that says YOU ARE FAKE.

And yes BLACK WOMEN wear weaves to look like WHITE WOMEN. Just look at doll tests and black children pointing out the lightest and blondest dolls as being nice, pretty, and good (whilst pointing out the darkest dolls as being bad and ugly). Weave wearing is reprehensible in my opinion.

maxine
maxine
7 years ago
Reply to  Najia

I’m glad you said your opinion.

Fairy
Fairy
7 years ago

I feel sorry for Cameron!!! On the day of judgement you will be trembling in your boots. Can’t say no one told you. You can tell me off, cuss me out I don’t care. It still will not change the fact that you are a loss cause!!!!

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KornerStone
KornerStone
7 years ago

Genuine Souls have no need for a disingenuous appearance …

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Glenroy Steele
Glenroy Steele
7 years ago

Wow! I think the Pastor was quite courageous in highlighting where black women should concentrative: See 1Pe.3;1–4.I have to agree that is Masking or Masquerading. It is giving a false image of ones self. It is another method the enemy is using to distract black women from investing in spending more time on beautifying the inner man. Many Preachers is silent about it for fear of them leaving their congregation. God said He hate every false way Ps119:104. The image we give of ourselves is very important to God. This is a general truth for all of us but I’m… Read more »

sowrong
sowrong
7 years ago
Reply to  Glenroy Steele

Here we go with the opinion and supposedly a revelation of God’s word from another man. I would not be amazed of your actual walk with God. Anybody that can agree this very shalklow and selfish mindset canot be as true to God as htey need to. You sound like you may really be one of these men that could go for a former black muslim. Weave, hair and makeup does not make the woman. Neither does it break a woman. I have seen too many women weaved and unweaved that are so confused and with low selfesteem. We all… Read more »

Caresscurls
Caresscurls
7 years ago

I live near Waco and I think the pastor has a point. Women complain they broke or no money for the kids but they spend hundreds on Indian remy I don’t get it. The same women who feel I’m gorgeous I’m badd and all that crap are laced with weave and make up. Sad.

smile simmons
smile simmons
7 years ago

You should like that the women want to make them feel better about themselves. Thats what it is all about. You should know how to raise money for the church theres more than 23 years old ladys in your church.

rickfli
6 years ago

It’s unfortunate that the majority of the replies that disagree with the pastors objective miss the point and in some ways oblivious to the harm that is being done to black women and black society on a pschological level by embracing this trend of ‘fake hair’. It can be put no simplier than this: What motivation would anyone have to misrepresent what they are naturally by wearing something such as hair that is not their true hairs texture, look, or length? It is no different than wearing a mask to make ones self more appealling because they are not satisfied… Read more »

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
6 years ago
Reply to  rickfli

Unfortunately, the ridiculous standards of beauty that all women are held to in this country prevent me from embracing the Pastor’s statements. So many African-American women receive daily insults about their “natural” hair not only from women but from men as well. The work place for many African-American women is not natural hair friendly either. The church is another “natural unfriendly place” and as such women will be “talked about” because they choose to “go natural”. While the Pastor admonishes women against “weaves” he does not completely support the wearing of natural hair in the variety of ways women can… Read more »

sadcycle
sadcycle
6 years ago
Reply to  DianaMarie56

Hell with the weave wearing…I’m ridiculing these black women who go to church in the first place? Isn’t it equally just as stupid to abide by an ancient book which endorses slavery? These are black women worshipping zombie,poverty stricken 5’3 Middle Eastern Jew with a Puerto Rican name? (JESUS) These foolish women need to speak up against the way religion tries to control women. Religion itself is ten times more unhealthy than wearing a weave! Why are black people attending these churches when the bible endorses slavery and treats women like second class citizens? I have no idea why women… Read more »

dionne
dionne
6 years ago
Reply to  sadcycle

I can’t believe that some still choose to think their is no God,but he suddenly remains recognized when illness or another tragedy appears-
You know nothing about what Jesus looks like especially when western society has given us a false image.
If you read the Bible and stop presuming it based on your interpretation then you would see that many of the stories present was a way of life for them at that time and many of these people chose like you to believe false worship or more bizarrely their own beliefs.

teamlogiclady
teamlogiclady
6 years ago
Reply to  dionne

First of all robot, It’s you who buys all that Westernized brainwashed, right winged nonsense simply because you do believe that Jesus is your savior. How good is a savior if he can’t even save himself from being nailed to a cross? Second, I don’t worship anything because I live in the real world not in the pretend fantasy world you and your slave holders have created. Where do you get your information from?? You must get your information from other religious dolts? How do you know that non-believers “suddenly recognize a God when illness or tragedy strikes?? How do you… Read more »

Candydolts
Candydolts
6 years ago

I can’t believe some of you still don’t believe in Thor the thunder GOD??

Jesus Loves
Jesus Loves
6 years ago
Reply to  Candydolts

JESUS IS THE GOD OF ALL GODS AND THE LORD OF ALL LORDS.

lexdiamonz
lexdiamonz
5 years ago
Reply to  Jesus Loves

Funny I THOUGHT Jesus was GOD’s SON???

Jesus Loves
Jesus Loves
6 years ago
Reply to  Candydolts

JESUS GOD HOLY SPIRIT IS THE ONE TRUE LIVING GOD THE LORD OF ALL LORDS AND THE KING OF ALL KINGS THE LAMB OF GOD AND THE LION OF JUDAH. JESUS GOD HOLY SPIRIT LIVES AND IS THE ONLY REAL GOD.

candydolt
candydolt
6 years ago
Reply to  Jesus Loves

Yes and you can scream that OSIRIS was the ONE true“God” too dear, but you’d still be full of it. Oh and the myth you’ve been taught is bs. And so is the Holy Bible.Just like the TANAKH, The book of Mormon,KITAB-I-AQDAS, THE HOLY VEDAS,THE HOLY PIBY,THE HOLY QURAN,THE BOOK OF SHADOWS,DHAMMAPADA,L.RON HUBBARD,THE SATANIC BIBLE, and many other books of bull crap that you religious morons believe. Your Jesus was a myth that was fed to you by your capture’s duh everyone knows that. Most of us blacks have white ancestors and in the 15th,16th century and beyond, you would… Read more »

fatimah
fatimah
6 years ago
Reply to  candydolt

There is much truth in what you have said. I dont believe Jesus is God but instead a noble messenger of God that has been falsely given the the glory of being God. I am Muslim so you know where I stand. God wants us to think for ourselves but with a humble attitude. You dont have the power to turn the day into night nor do yourself know what will happen to you after your death. These questions must be directed to the power source that brought you into existence. My mother was was on the path to atheism… Read more »

DianaMarie56
DianaMarie56
6 years ago

Actually ladies this my response was more geared towards the harassment and disrespect many of us face in church, school, on the job, within our families and friend circles because we choose to wear our natural beautiful hair the way we choose. Going to church or believing or not believing in God was not the topic and just by looking at how nasty and disrespectful the comments have been I am glad the article that I responded to was NOT about believing or not in God …as no one will win this battle. I guess one of my continuing concerns… Read more »

candydolt
candydolt
6 years ago
Reply to  DianaMarie56

Sigh… I respect what you said, it’s cute and all, makes us all warm and fuzzy on the inside, but do statements like yours really help the millions of black women who walk around feeling shame about their hair and looks? No it doesn’t. All this gives is a warm fuzzy feeling while ignoring how messed up we have become as a culture of sheep women who are willfully ignorant enough to ACTUALLY listen to these repetitious,self serving,black, male Charlatans? Why do we do this? If you want to get to the root of the problem about “hair” in the… Read more »

JJLIP
JJLIP
6 years ago
Reply to  candydolt

You mean: It’s far less healthy to wear a weave than to go to Church and believe in a misogynist GOD.

D A Ballinger
6 years ago

Sorry I’m a guy but I must say something about this: My name is D A Ballinger and I wrote the book on this subject. That’s going viral on the internet. Pastor A J Amir, told his staff and congregation, “No more weaves in the church”. This was when the good pastor realized that a 23 year old member and other ladies in his church , who were struggling to make ends meet finically, but were wearing $300 weaves. Source: http://www.Americapreachers.com, My tell all book, “UNBEWEAVABLE” deals with this problem in the black community. It also deals with the slow poisoning… Read more »

JJLIP
JJLIP
6 years ago
Reply to  D A Ballinger

What the “GOOD Pastor” needs to do is focus less on weave wearing because I don’t know any black women who spends 300 dollars on a weave unless she is wealthy. Why doesn’t the good Pastor worry more about black men making up almost 80% of the prison systems which wastes our tax dollars feeding and clothing them to keep them in their prison apartments with free cable and lights? It costs the states 45000 dollars a year to keep black men in the prison systems which is taking up resources. Why not talk about black men who have multiple… Read more »

Nanoun
Nanoun
5 years ago
Reply to  JJLIP

Ummmmmmm if you didnt know MANY women will spend up to $500 at times thats just hair alone .……you’d be surprised at how many broke women are walking around looking expensive

Adriannan Nonyo
Adriannan Nonyo
5 years ago
Reply to  Nanoun

Why exactly should that matter to you?

TEAMJESUSCHRIST
TEAMJESUSCHRIST
6 years ago

Hair weaves are of Devil and not of God. NAIL POLSHES, eye lashes and etc the devil uses all of those and etc to attack you.
JESUS LOVES

JESUSGODHOLYSPIRIT
JESUSGODHOLYSPIRIT
6 years ago

Hair weaves are of Devil and not of God. NAIL POLSHES, eye lashes Jewelry, necklace earrings makeup and etc ALL MAN MADE GOD DID NOT CREATE the devil uses all of those and etc to attack you.
JESUS LOVES EVERYTHING BELONGS TO THE LORD!!!!!!! JESUS IS LORD GOD BLESS!!!!!! 🙂

TEAMJESUSCHRIST
TEAMJESUSCHRIST
6 years ago

t is very very important not to put attachments and foreign hair (Weave) on ones body. A woman should have her natural hair; if she likes long hair then she should allow it to grow; but should not put the foreign hair, attachments, weaves, hair colouration etc. The body is the temple of The Holy Spirit; whoever put strange hair/weave on the temple of The LORD is grieving The Holy Spirit. Some of the weaves and the foreign hair and attachments are actually from demonic forces that use it to defile the body and spiritual condition of a person. To… Read more »