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10 of the Most Annoying Natural Hair Questions

Avatar • Aug 26, 2013

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By Tamara of Natural Hair Rules

As someone who has been natural since 2006, I think I’ve heard them all. But yet I’m still dumbfounded with some of these annoying natural hair questions. Here are the top most annoying hair questions. Many in which you should never ask a woman with natural hair.

1. Can I touch it?

2. Is all that your hair?

3. Is it hard to comb?

4. What made you do that?

5. Are you really natural?

6. What is it supposed to be doing?

7. Are you going to do/comb your hair?

8. How do you wash it/that?

9. How do you get your hair to do that?

10. Did you cut your hair?

Your Turn! What’s your most hated and annoying natural hair question? How do you respond to some of these annoying hair questions?

Leave your answer in the comment section below.

Tamara is the author of Natural Hair Rules.

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Steph
Steph
7 years ago

How do you get it to be curly?
When are you going to flat-iron it?

Trish
Trish
7 years ago

Did you have to train your hair to do that? Referring to a twist out.

Jessi
Jessi
7 years ago

What’s your hair type?

Kayla
Kayla
7 years ago
Reply to  Jessi

I swear this is the first question naturals ask me when they see my hair. Why?

Nene
Nene
7 years ago

How about, “do you have a curl?” Or “what are you mixed with?” To the latter I reply, “crown and Coke!”

Kayla
7 years ago
Reply to  Nene

I’m Peanut Butter and Chocolate, myself.

Nene
Nene
7 years ago
Reply to  Kayla

Lol!

Maria
Maria
7 years ago

Does it hurt when you comb it?
And
Is that a weave/wig?

Lydia
Lydia
7 years ago

This video about sums it up!

Shanice
Shanice
7 years ago

Some people are actually brave enough to just throw their hands in my hair and I’m fast enough to dodge it. Do NOT touch my hair please! 🙂

Also I recently cut off the rest of my permed ends so for the past 2 or 3 weeks I’ve been getting “Why would you cut your hair off? It was so long! I can’t believe you did that! Don’t do it again!”

knappy
knappy
7 years ago
Reply to  Shanice

Exactly some people don’t understand why perm ends are cut off. I think that this is the most annoying question for me because no matter how I try to educate people about why, they just continue to be rude and ask this question.

Josephine Odion
Josephine Odion
7 years ago

So is this like a fad? You do realise natural hair isn’t ‘chic’, right? When are you gonna get tired of ‘all this’ and get a relaxer again? But black hair isn’t meant to grow long right? You mean men actually like your hair?!
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Sarah
Sarah
7 years ago

Do you know what a relaxer is?”

>_> I do, which is why I don’t use one.

Josephine Odion
Josephine Odion
7 years ago
Reply to  Sarah

Believe it or not… I get asked this a lot; Can I smell your hair? *shockface* What do you mean you only use shampoo once a month?! Hahaha.

tina smith
tina smith
7 years ago
Reply to  Sarah

hahahahahaha

lv
lv
7 years ago

in only a 6 month period of being completely natural, i have heard all ten questions. on a weekly basis People-strangers have put their hands in my hair

. Little girls and their moms have a look of awe and sometimes dread no matter how thin and lifeless their own hair is. The last 6 months have been simply amazing. This natural hair is wonderful. I am blowin it up

Lee
Lee
7 years ago

The most annoying question by far is “can I touch it” I used to think this was ONLY something white people did but no! Relaxed african americans are just as bad. I can’t tell you how many people actually touch my hair then ask for permission after they pet me like a animal before I even have time to say no. Lol oh well! What can I do ^_^ ?

LBell
LBell
7 years ago

The only question I’ve never been asked is “What’s it supposed to be doing?” I’d probably slap someone for asking that…

I have a confession to make though: I was at AfroPunk this weekend and there were pa-LENTY of BAAs that I couldn’t tell were real or fake. If I weren’t properly home-trained I probably would have gone digging in some of those heads and/or asked “Is that all your hair?” lol 😉

Steph
Steph
7 years ago

What are you mixed with?
You’re not all black right?
How often do you wash it?
Why does it look different everyday?
How do you comb it?
When are you gonna get a perm?
Are you going for the “ethnic look”?

A.R.
A.R.
7 years ago

Do You know what an S‑Curl is?
Will My hair be like yours?
Are you trying to be like Erykah Badu?
When will I see it straight?
Did you use a texturizer?
What products do you use so my hair can be like yours?

JustLeavingaComment
JustLeavingaComment
7 years ago
Reply to  A.R.

YES — the “Are you trying to be Erykah Badu?” Also, just getting called Lauryn Hill, E. Badu, or Jill Scott never mind that fact that none of these women even look like each other let alone me or you.

Kayla
7 years ago

2, 3, 6, & 8 get under my skin and I get them quite a lot.

kitso
kitso
7 years ago

Well 33years growing up living in Africa I never got any of those questions and only got ‘did you cut your hair’ once in 1 yr of living in Germany. Funny that didn’t annoy me but surprised me that people thought my twist braid was my hair. Plz excuse my naively

kitsof
kitsof
7 years ago

oops sorcomment submitted beforeI finished.

plz excuse my naivety. but what is annoying with people touching my hair? I also would be wow if people ask if its all my natural hair etc.

never ending learning

Jack
Jack
7 years ago
Reply to  kitsof

Some people like myself don’t like being touched by strangers. It’s like someone walking up and grabby a part of your body, like a breast or butt. Plus it puts people into my personal space. I don’t like being touched by people I don’t know and I also hate dirty hands.

yoco
yoco
7 years ago

Questions: (1) “How long is your hair when you straighten it?” (2)“Are you EVER (big letters for emphasis) going to straighten it?”

Declaration: (3)“Your hair is cute but would be so pretty if you straighten it”

My replies:

(1) I don’t know exactly; haven’t checked.

(2) No plans to do so any time soon

(3) Thanks, but I think it’s pretty as is.

tef
tef
7 years ago

Is it real ?

cocomo
cocomo
7 years ago

lol .. had my hair in a twist out with a head band kinda lik a high puff a lady asked if it was real„, cause she knows some girl wear extra hair.… then she said it was cute and that it looked like a hat lol.….… she meant well it was kinda funny

Random Trini Chick
Random Trini Chick
7 years ago

(1) Where are you from, cause I know you aren’t from here?

(2) You mean you’re not planning on perming it? EVER?

(3) Is it heavy cause that’s a lot of hair?

(4) Do you do anything special to it? Secret creams or conditioners? What? You wash with cheap Suave and VO5??!! No way!

Jasmine
Jasmine
7 years ago

Questions
what are you mixed with?
Is that your real hair?
How did you get it to stand up like that?
Is it really that thick?
How do you wash it?
Can you comb it?
Can I smell your hair (yes someone asked me this).

Assumptions
You have a jheri curl
I know its hard for you to comb it.

Ellie
Ellie
7 years ago
Reply to  Jasmine

.…..smell? Someone actually wanted to smell your hair? But whyyyy?!?!?

Jasmine
Jasmine
7 years ago
Reply to  Ellie

Lol yes, this girl at school came up to me, started talking to me about my hair, and asked to smell it. I thought I misheard her, but I didn’t. I gave her the okay, but I was still like “WTF?” I don’t know what she truly expected it to smell like. I guess like nuts and berries lol. It was a good thing that I had washed my hair recently at the time .

Holly
Holly
7 years ago

1. Can I touch it?
2. How do you get it to do that?
3. Are you ever going to perm or straighten it?
4. Is that a weave?
5. Are you mixed?

Erica
Erica
7 years ago

What do you put in it for it to curl up like that?
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Raven
Raven
7 years ago

I live in a subtropical area and today it was a rainy and humid day. Therefore,my hair had shrunk up. Ironically, my bf asked if I had cut my hair or if I a wear weave because my hair is usually in a stretched state when we talk. We’ve only been talking for around 3 months, but I know that he is going to need some type of small hair talk really bad ‑_-.

Anastasia
7 years ago

Now that your natural what you gonna do with it?
What kind of wig is that?
How do you get your curls to look so springy?

ida voyder
ida voyder
7 years ago
Reply to  Anastasia

How about this one from a much older lady. “You know, you need to stop wearing those wigs, and weaves and things” Me — blank expression, don’t know what she’s talking about — because my hair is in rope twists and you can see my scalp

binks
binks
7 years ago

Most summed it up with the questions but I will add: 1) Are you going to texturize it? Or do a blow out kit? You know you don’t have to get a full relaxer but you can texturize it. 2)Why don’t you do your hair like *insert popular youtuber*? (And mind you, some of the youtubers they name don’t have the same hair texture as mines). 3) How are you going to catch a man with your hair like that? You need to put some weave in it or something… (I actually had a random lady tell me this and MIND YOU… Read more »

Dawn
Dawn
7 years ago
Reply to  binks

Yes to number 3. I actually had a woman “advise” me that I wasn’t going to get married because my hair is natural. It amazes me how people can be so damn ignorant and proud about it.

Tel8
7 years ago

How do you get it to curl like that?
It must take you forever to comb that out.
It’s real isn’t it?
Wow! You have big hair.
Look at all that!
It feels like a cloud or a pillow or something!
How do you… y’know, wow. Just how do you…*gestures with hands like their brushing away a massive fro that is slowly consuming their head*

(What do people think our hair is made of really? Dish sponge? Geez.)

Tel8
7 years ago
Reply to  Tel8

One more: *Pointing to another black girl with a completely different hair texture* “You should do your hair like that! It looks so pretty 😀 ” I actually had a friend say that to me while pointing to a woman an AMAZING, perfectly round gorgeous afro-puff. I looked at her, burnt up with something remarkably like envy and had to suppress the urge to smack my friend upside her damn head as I responded: “I can’t… she has a different hair texture and mine just wouldn’t be able to do that style.” I can get a puff, but it isn’t even close… Read more »

Nkem
Nkem
7 years ago
Reply to  Tel8

OMGEEEE!! I thought i was the only one rocking the 4a floppy fro!! Floppy fros unite!

JustLeavingaComment
JustLeavingaComment
7 years ago
Reply to  Tel8

My Asian friend said that to me once pointing to a mixed girl on t.v. with hair like Mel B. My hair is 4b/c or whatever — all kink, no curl. Not possible.

Alisha
7 years ago
Reply to  Tel8

Yeah, I wish I could get my hair to stay like that. I’ve tried. I even managed it twice. But now that it’s longer, it’s even more asymmetrical. My sister use to call my hair confused, lol.

Meme
Meme
7 years ago

*sigh* Are you mixed? Are you African?
Nope! Just black/African American.
No, really!? But you have such pretty curly hair!
.….….….…-____-

Skyler
Skyler
7 years ago

How do you get your hair to do that? ”
“With straw sets right?”

(Sigh)…No 🙂

Lansky
Lansky
7 years ago

I’m always wearing protective hair style… I know some people gonna say is not good but for me my hair is style going healthy & I still take care of them. Always ask: how long is your hair? Ahaha

Aly
Aly
7 years ago

People tell me how I got my hair to be like that and how I got curls. I tell them two black people had sex. That’s why.

TWAtl
TWAtl
7 years ago

Has got to be “Are you going to relax it?”. Close second “What are going to do with your hair for [insert event]”.

ronx
ronx
7 years ago

did you cut your hair”

Every.single.time I don’t wear it stretched.

Kayla
Kayla
7 years ago

My mother, every time: “You have nice hair. Why don’t you perm it? Just once, please I’m tired of looking at your hair like this just perm it!”

Um, for the 1500th time, no mother. Please stop asking me to relax my hair. One time she even followed me around with a box of ORS relaxer and threatened to relax my hair in my sleep. No joke.

CJ
CJ
7 years ago
Reply to  Kayla

Wow, how does one follow another around with a relaxer?! That is just scary!

Djanira
Djanira
7 years ago
Reply to  Kayla

LOL! My mom doesn’t bug me to relax it but she’s always asking when I’m going to have it straightened at the salon.

Random Trini Chick
Random Trini Chick
7 years ago
Reply to  Djanira

Ah! Let me give praise for my blessings! My mom has locs down to her butt 🙂 She’s all supportive.….but still traumatized from when she had to deal with my hair as a kid.…lol.…so she screams when I am just finished dry detangling it.…lol

mercy
mercy
7 years ago

Is that colored hair? You must be colored” (colored to mean “mixed”)
“How come you have curly hair?”
“How do you get it to look like that?”
“What wig is that?”

4Ckinksandlinks
4Ckinksandlinks
7 years ago

1) What are you going to do with your hair? 2) Why don’t you smooth down your edges? 3) Do you have pieces in? Really? You swear? 4) Why don’t you moisturise it? 5) Is it hard to comb? 6) Why don’t you grow it longer? 7) Why don’t you straighten it? 8) Why don’t you wear it out? 9) Why don’t you do an Afro? 10) Are you going out with it like that? People don’t really understand ‘MY’ 4C hair. I also have my sister who is a low density very fine haired natural asking me why I don’t do what naturals on Youtube do… Read more »

Almost Team natural
Almost Team natural
7 years ago

Then, relaxed: Is that your real hair (disbelief)? Boyfriend: Don’t you mind spending a whole day at the salon to get it done?
Now, 15 months transitioning: is that you real hair (disbelief)? Boyfriend: Don’t you mind doing your hair all day — pre-poo, wash, deep condition, moisturize and twist?
Guess nothing’s changed- LOL

Huh
Huh
7 years ago

Lol why is he asking ‘don’t you mind?’ It’s like asking someone ‘don’t you mind that you have to take a shower every day’. I understand the salon because there’s no way that most salons couldn’t complete client’s hair sooner.

You seem to be enjoying your hair journey though!

rw
rw
7 years ago

*i answer there question*

they follow with:
well, i’m natural.…up under all of this [weave to her ankles]

shelikes
shelikes
7 years ago

how long is it? my answer — u r looking at it, how long IS it? how did u get it like that? — my answer — both my parents had nappy hair. can i touch it? — my answer — dont know u well enough for all that the other day an old black man pulling into a gas station complimented my hair asked it he could touch it. i told him no i didnt know him well enough. he got mad huffed and puffed and asked me what i thought he would do to my hair by touching it. He actually… Read more »

Just Saying
Just Saying
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

How’s about he just grow his own and play with it all. day. long.
The nerve of some ppl.

Jasmine
Jasmine
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

That’s something I never understood. Why do some people get mad because you them that they couldn’t touch YOUR hair. They did ask a “yes” or “no” question.

Rosie
Rosie
7 years ago

When are you going to do something with your hair? (I hate that the most)

rbw
rbw
7 years ago

1) What do you put in it to get it to look like that?
2)Can I touch it?
3)That’s not all your hair, is it?
4)Are you mixed?

Rose
Rose
7 years ago

All of these questions are quite annoying and can be embarrassing. These silly and annoying questions are the reasons why a lot of us don’t go natural.

Well, I’m happy to say that I’m a year and a half into my natural hair journey and it feels wonderful.

Elaine
Elaine
7 years ago

True story while living in Kenya several women, without invite or introduction would walk up to me and scratch my scalp. I guess checking for tracks. A white friend almost peed his pants laughing at me, thinking I’d been making this up.

How about, your hair used to be so pretty, don’t you want to be pretty again?

Deb
Deb
7 years ago

it’s interesting (and sad) the difference in questions when you have visible curls or not.

Afroyoyo
Afroyoyo
7 years ago

It isnt really a question its an assumption that you can just walk up and put your hand in my afro puff. Thats the thing I hate more than anything else. I dont know you from Adam the housecat. Why is your hand in my head?

Amma Mama
Amma Mama
7 years ago

Why don’t you straighten it?
How long is your hair?

Redseouls
Redseouls
7 years ago

Folks have come up with every creative way to ask me if I want my hair straightened. Smdh

Heather
Heather
7 years ago

I personally don’t mind the question to touch my hair — as long as they wait for the go ahead (is kind of awkward if u want to say no though right?)

But I think these questions, touching and general personal space invading is prone by certain people (too curious for their own good) and can target anyone e.g. Pregnant women and touching the belly, being the opposite colour of the local population and pictures being taken … The list goes on

Kadisha
Kadisha
7 years ago

Did you cut it?” is my most annoying

Mac
Mac
7 years ago

From hair care professionals:

PLEASE let me texturize this.
But..but how do you maintain it!?

Nurse at mother’s hospital bedside:

Oh, if you would do your eyebrows and put perm, you would be SO beautiful.

Mother, who is natural but has never grasped the whole must-trim-ends thing, post salon trim that I was actually quite unhappy about, angrily and at top of lungs:

THAT’S RIGHT, JUST THROW ALL YOUR BEAUTY AWAY!

(She’s backed down somewhat now that my hair is the longest it’s ever been, but that hurt.) (And I trim my own ends at present.)

Lebra
Lebra
7 years ago

The questions I get are… is that a wig, when are u going to straighten it, what made u go natural?

kiyla
kiyla
7 years ago

or when you upload a picture and multiple people ask for a tutorial. like my goodness go on youtube and just search the style there are alot of bun and braid tutorials i will not make a tutorial.

cacey
cacey
7 years ago

i actually don’t see what’s wrong with about half of these. i think it all depends on context/tone/intent, etc. if someone’s merely curious and truly doesn’t know, there’s no harm in asking. 1. Can I touch it? — what’s wrong with this one? if someone who’s not familiar with my hair or natural hair in general asks to touch it, then i appreciate them asking rather than just grabbing a handful of hair without having asked first. 2. Is all that your hair? — considering that at least half of black women are wearing weaves/wigs at any given time, i can understand why… Read more »

Lebra
Lebra
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

Everything is not for everybody. What may not bother u, may bother someone else. That’s what makes us uniquely different from each other!

Ebony Beauty
Ebony Beauty
7 years ago
Reply to  cacey

I agree to an extent. The woman who works at one of the organizations I attend has the most massive, beautiful fro I ever saw. I was curious if it was all hers. I didn’t ask though because I wasn’t sure if she would find it rude. Seeing how some of the ladies on this board find it SO annoying for a person to genuinely ask that I’m glad I didn’t. You were stating your opinion which you’re entitled to. If the question is someone just being curious I seeing nothing wrong IMO. But if a person is obviously being… Read more »

Jack
Jack
7 years ago
Reply to  Ebony Beauty

I don’t care about answering curious people questions, because most I find annoying. I have answered people’s questions if they seemed genuinely nice. Sometimes people are ignorant and their ignorance can be extremely annoying. Asking is it all their hair implies that black women can’t grow their hair and just wear weaves. Some people find that state of mind annoying. I can spot the average weave a mile away, so sometimes it’s easy for me to tell. I too hate people trying to or touching my hair. I just don’t like being touched my people I don’t know well or that… Read more »

Kira
Kira
7 years ago

Are you trynna get dreads?” I get that at least once a week.

Jasmine
Jasmine
7 years ago
Reply to  Kira

I get that a lot when I wear twist. Even if I were a curly twist out that’s in an afro ‑_-

Kierra
Kierra
7 years ago

Is that all yours? No like ALL of it? Really?! Can I touch it?

Neece
Neece
7 years ago

Are you going to finish doing your hair?” like bitch this is IT, lol, that was when I had first went natural, now everybody like: How you get your hair like that?

shelikes
shelikes
7 years ago

i forgot about this one. i live in texas around a lot of spanish speaking people. i swear to god. they do not understand that just because i have thick bushy kinky frizzy curly nappy shiny hair that I wear full and afroed out, i am not a native Spanish speaker. TO ALL NATIVE SPANISH SPEAKING PEOPLE THAT READ THIS BLOG JUST BECAUSE A BROWN SKINNED FEMALE HAS THICK (NOT WEAVED AND NOT CHEMICALLY STRAIGHTENED) NATURAL HAIR DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS NOT BLACK. i absolutely hate hate hate for those people to come up to me and start speaking… Read more »

TiTi1003
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

I loved your statement.……

Elaine
Elaine
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

Cept there are Black Latinos so maybe you look like someone from their background. I get columbians all the time, not because I don’t look black but apparently there are a whole bunch of black columbians that look like me. No surprise, diaspora and all

Jack
Jack
7 years ago
Reply to  Elaine

Have you seen Henry Louis Gates’ Black in Latin America documentaries? We got dropped off all throughout (Cuba, Puerto Rico, Haiti, Dominican Republic, Brazil, Mexico…).

RSM
RSM
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

I thought that only happened to me. I live on the north side of Atlanta in an area with a lot of Spanish speaking people. Before I went natural, I would have people speaking spanish to me and now that I’m natural I get it even more. They stop talking once they notice the weird look on my face.

Faatima
Faatima
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

I get that too. But I understand because there are black Latinas all around the world. I’m dark skinned and I got that a lot when I was in the military and I still do.

Anni
7 years ago
Reply to  shelikes

I feel so disrespected by your comment There are many hispanics who are black and Africans were taken to Latin America as well. If you do not speak spanish just say no hablo español and move on. It seems that you do not believe there is such thing as afro latinas and that is in fact ignorant and wrong.

Someone
Someone
7 years ago

straighten it haha

Alwina
Alwina
7 years ago

I’ve had the can I touch it question when I was relaxed. Sometimes I let people touch it but it depends on who. I’m very biased. I’ve also had people dig their hands in my scalp. Sometimes I ask people if their hands are clean before they touch it or as they are doing it. Moreso to make them feel like an ass for touching my hair/scalp with “dirty” hands. But also, if you are trying to figure your own hair and you see my hair, then I oblige. But I do think these questions/comments are annoying. Like our hair… Read more »

Sophie
Sophie
7 years ago

when are you going to get it done” or the even more direct “yah, I need to get my hair done too *tugs a grown out weave*”

And I’m like: did I get carpal tunnel doing this updo for nothing?? It IS done ‑______-

Nicole D
Nicole D
7 years ago
Reply to  Sophie

HAHAHAHAHAH!!!

First of all
First of all
7 years ago

Twice I got asked how do you get your hair like that and when I started to explain, got interrupted with ” I don’t like gel”. Once I tried to explain that I only combed it wet with conditioner and the lady interrupted me “if you don’t comb it it’ll lock”. I just wanna say look google natural hair.

Ja'Nautica
Ja'Nautica
7 years ago

If I get asked “Is that a roller set or just those twisty-thingies 1 more time!!

JustLeavingaComment
JustLeavingaComment
7 years ago

Let me preface with that fact that I work outdoors in a garden/nursery. I wear my hair in mini-twists 95% of the time out of convenience and time management. I wore my afro out and free one day and 2 white co-workers were talking to each other and staring at me when I walked up. The 30-something woman says, “I really like your afro, I just can’t believe you wore it TODAY, aren’t you hot?!”. It had me scratching my head at first. I was confused and responded, “Nooo…my hair isn’t ‘hot’…” As if I woke up on that hot… Read more »

person
person
7 years ago

i get really hot when i wear my fro out; what she asked was fair enough. having alot of hair on your head will make you hot.

JustLeavingaComment
JustLeavingaComment
7 years ago

Also, this is not a ‘question’ because those guilty of this are convinced they already know what they are talking about before hand.
However, I’m tickled when white folks interchange ‘twists’, ‘dreads’, and ‘braids’ like they’re all the same thing…oh and when they call cornrows, “corn rolls”. LOL! Then you explain it to them and then they get all confused.
I dunno there is something embarrassing about someone saying loudly that they like your dreads and when you know you don’t even have any.

*I love dreads and locs btw, no shade.

cocodiva
cocodiva
7 years ago

i have more white people compliment me on my hair than i do black people and that includes folks in my own family! my boss (an older white man) came in my office for something and before he left he said “what’d you do to your hair, it’s different” i didnt take offense because of the way he asked and because he’s an older white man who doesnt know about our hair and i could tell he’s been wanting to ask me for a while so i told him “i didnt do anything this is my hair without chemicals” and… Read more »

KJJ
KJJ
7 years ago
Reply to  cocodiva

To be honest, I don’t get annoyed by most questions. People are asking because they’re curious, and most genuinely don’t know, but want to. Why not spread the knowledge and lessen their ignorance?

Pbotts`
Pbotts`
7 years ago

Try being a natural in China. When I wear twists: Does your hair grow out of your head like that. If I am wearing braid extensions: Does your hair grow of your head like that. So you get the picture. And also, how will you comb it..How will you wash it…Your hair is so strange.…Can you do mine like that.…Very fast way to learn the local language

Monimayi
Monimayi
7 years ago
Reply to  Pbotts`

Do they ask you if your natural hair is a perm all the time? I live in South Korea, and even though I have explained to my students several times that my hair is NOT a perm, they still ask me, “teacher…pama (Korean for perm)???”

Kerra
Kerra
7 years ago
Reply to  Pbotts`

Hahaha so true. I’ve been learning Chinese and Korean for the past two years and when I talk to my friends they all ways ask how come my hair isn’t straight or how I keep my hair so nicely puffy and roots constantly done, doesn’t it wear out XD me it’s not a perm to wear out haha. I had one friend say “Your hair is like the most prettiest bowl of black rameyon” me… O_o

AS82
AS82
7 years ago

What products do you use??????????? I want to tell them it’s not all about th eproducts, alot of it is in the hair and the styling.

Kmar
Kmar
7 years ago

Girl, You’re hair would be so long if you had it relaxed.”

If always had an abudance of hair natural or relaxed. And if I wanted a relaxer I would have one.

Gina G
Gina G
7 years ago

Suh, Wah yu turn Rasta?!

Huh
Huh
7 years ago
Reply to  Gina G

This one is real especially from old people.

RSM
RSM
7 years ago

I’m sitting here reading the post and I can so relate to all of these questions plus more. I don’t mind the compliments, but its the annoying questions I get along with the weird looks when you answer the questions. What’s even more annoying is their comments back to you. “What do you use on your hair?”- You explain, then they come up with a reason they can’t use the product or comment “My hair won’t do that, it’s too nappy.” “How did you get your hair like that?”- You explain your process. “This is a twist out/braid out. Here’s what I… Read more »

Cherise
Cherise
7 years ago
Reply to  RSM

So now, I just make up stuff just to see their reactions.”

LOL!

Nyah
Nyah
7 years ago

I have locs and when i style them differently here are the questions:
Braid out: Are those braids? Pipe cleaner curls: Did you cut your hair?
Weeks after curls go: How did it get so long? Overall: Are you a rasta?
It would bad if this was a stranger but I work with these people for 6 years???

@La_BellaRossa
@La_BellaRossa
7 years ago

I have “curly” hair, and i’m dark skinned. so one qs I get asked the most by black people is, “do you have in a texturizer” & when i say i don’t they look at me like i’m lying. some say it’s the dye in my hair that made it curly, which is just as ridiculous.

white people usually just ask if i used mousse, they’re shocked that i use gel in my entire head. but i also feel like they compliment me more than they ridicule or ask qs.

Mac
Mac
7 years ago
Reply to  @La_BellaRossa

Oh lord, this. The idea that if you’re dark, you don’t actually have a right to the hair on your head. I swear sometimes it seems like they literally get angry.

TT
TT
7 years ago

I’ve been natural since 2007 and I did the big chop, so going from very long hair to no hair I would get this all the time what are u doing to your hair, why would u want to be natural, I could never do that how do u know if u have good hair or not.

Fatima
7 years ago

Your hair don’t look right!
Aren’t you supposed to retwist?
You have spoiled your hair.
You look like a rastawoman.
Why did you decide to do that?
What made you do THAT to your hair?
*touching my hair like it’s a caged beast… with fear and trembling! lol

I have locks that I started myself, so they are different size and form. And out of convenience I decided that I wanted to freeform. There is nothing spiritual or philosophical about it. I’m just lazy!

Keas
Keas
7 years ago

lol “how did you get your hair to do that”. That’s funny. Sorry because these are annoying questions to you but seeing them there made me chuckle. I just ignore people. I find them amusing.

Toni
Toni
7 years ago

I’ve not been annoyed often at questions, but I have been heartbroken at my black folks reaction to natural hair. Many of my West Indian people in particular are still on the good hair, bad hair nonsense and it makes me sad when my “should-know-better” friends say “I couldn’t do that with my nappy hair.” Just sad…as if by just growing out of our scalp our hair automatically needs ‘fixing.’ It’s even worse coming from weavers and relaxers with unhealthy hair.

Senorita
Senorita
7 years ago

Are you going through a natural hair phase?” LOL smh.

Cindy Crawford
Cindy Crawford
7 years ago

I tried a twist out and my hair isn’t really that long and everyone was like are you locking? Whats going on with your hair ??

Ashley
Ashley
7 years ago

Them: “How did you get your hair like that?”
Me: “Um.… I washed it.”
Them: “No, I mean, how does it do that?”
Me: “It grows out of my head this way.…”

Maia
7 years ago

I’m going to second, “Did you cut your hair?”

trish
trish
7 years ago

When are you going to comb your hair?” I get that all the time but unfortunately it’s when my hair really wants a redo. I keep my hair in box braids or twists for about 2 — 3 months before doing it over, no matter how “bad it looks”. I love the “almost rasta” look of my hair, too bad the world doesn’t.

Jasmine W
7 years ago

What is it supposed to be doing?

I have to give my stamp on 6. Because once you go natural, I don’t know why they assume your hair can all of a sudden start “talking” and let you know what “it’s” going to do.…WTH

xyzebra
xyzebra
7 years ago

Oh, it’s soft!” (with surprise)

Tiana
Tiana
7 years ago
Reply to  xyzebra

I’ve gotten that one — as if it’s supposed to feel like a brillo pad…smh

Olivia
7 years ago

When are you going to get a perm?” — Mom

Kami
7 years ago
Reply to  Olivia

Surprised that didn’t make the list! That was my first thought, people always ask me that, smh.

Nikki B
Nikki B
7 years ago

How come so and so’s hair isn’t growing?

Alice
Alice
7 years ago

I wore my afro hair out, for the first time ever last Sunday.
I’ve been natural for my entire life, 20 years and this was my first time — no scrunchies or bobby pins. I feared unwanted attention.

All I got was terrified, perplexed looks and one guy went as far as to ask me ‘What is this crazy hair for?’.
This really perplexed me, to be honest. The ‘crazy hair’ he referred to was that given to me by God. I felt so silly and offended.
So, I’m crazy for wearing my hair unprocessed and without extensions? Okay.

Tessa
7 years ago
Reply to  Alice

First of all you are blessed to natural your entire life!!!!I share your sentiments. When I wear my fro out I get the good bad and the ugly. You would think living in NYC people wouldn’t be fazed by big hair.…
Bump everyone else’s insecurity and rock your God Given Hair!!!

Iseue
Iseue
7 years ago

Why did you went natural? As if you need a “reason” for letting your hair grow naturally.

Dani
Dani
7 years ago

How about: Are you locking your hair?
Are you going to Straighten it?

shera
shera
7 years ago

Can I touch it?”
“Why don’t you have dreads like me? Makes your hair longer” — some people have dreads to have long hair.. SMH!
“Do you mind if I only do your make up? Your hair is too difficult to style”

shera
shera
7 years ago

Or after flat ironing it…
“How did your hair get this long?”

Tiana
Tiana
7 years ago

Why does your hair look so wild?”

Tiana
Tiana
7 years ago

Or “You look like you stuck your hand into an electrical socket!” (followed by laughter)

Zheahra
Zheahra
7 years ago

My__________is natural.”
“I like________hair; you should do that with your hair.”
“Why do you want a flat iron?”
“Can I get my hair to do that?”
“I can’t wait for your hair to get longer and big”

Zheahra
Zheahra
7 years ago

Guys who say, “I like natural hair-the way you’re wearing your hair.” “I don’t care for perms or wigs.”

Some still ask me if I’m “natural”.

I bet your hair is really long.”

Is your hair longer than my hair?” (This question is coming from another natural.)

Talle
Talle
7 years ago
Reply to  Zheahra

I’m so sorry! I was trying to UPvote!

Tessa
7 years ago

How do you have the patience for your hair?
Aren’t you going to do something (style) your hair?
When was the last time you blew out your hair?

Toni
Toni
7 years ago

How are you going to comb it after it starts growing longer?

imani
imani
7 years ago

I’ve been natural 5 yrs& only a few times I get the “can I touch it?” question OR they say “ur hair is nice…” and just touch it without permission! I also love when they haven’t seen me in a while but know I stopped perming so they say “ur hairs nice!” with surprise as if they expected it to be jacked up jbc its natural! Smh Or when they see I have somewhat curly hair and say “oh,u got that kinda hairn..id go natural 2 if I had ur kinda hair!” As if u have to be curly to… Read more »

erigirl
erigirl
7 years ago

I guess you could classify my hair as 3C, but when I get micro-braids with extensions put in:

You don’t *need* to braid your hair” or “Why do you braid your hair?”

X-(

erigirl
erigirl
7 years ago
Reply to  erigirl

i almost forgot the most common one men always ask!

So when are you going to straighten it?” and “How long is it when you straighten it?”

X-( X-(

Natasha
Natasha
7 years ago

I got asked, where’s the track? (The track of hair weave)

Faatima
Faatima
7 years ago

What did your husband say when you decided to go natural?
Does your husband “like” your hair?

Lola
Lola
7 years ago

Are you mixed with anything?” I get this one a lot now?

A.R.
A.R.
7 years ago

Oh another one:

Did you use[INSERT PLETHORA OF PRODUCTS HERE]”
“Did you pre-poo, post-poo with {INSERT PRODUCTS HERE} ”
“Co-Wash?? omg You don’t use shampoo? That’s weird. ”

Morena
Morena
7 years ago

How does your hair looks like when you wake up?”

Tolu
Tolu
7 years ago

when are you going to “make”(braid,install a weave) your hair? if just ONE more person asks me this question I might go Hulk on them

Deyna
Deyna
7 years ago

I’m not bothered by the question “how do you get your hair to do that?” Or anything similar. i remember not too long ago that was me and didnt have foul intentions. I Consider the fact that most black people perm their hair not just because they prefer straight hair but they believe their hair is too kinky to manage. I’ve been natural for a while (stopped perming in my last year of high school). I knew my hair curled when wet but I had no idea how keep it curly when dry and not a matted mess. No one… Read more »

ida voyder
ida voyder
7 years ago
Reply to  Deyna

I must say that some of us has really serious issues, and like to think negatively about some of the most innocent questions. My hair has been natural my whole life, but one day I saw a friend and she had the cutest hairstyle, which i was thinking of trying — when i asked her that question, she got so sarcastic, it wasn’t funny. Right there and then i decided that if i saw another natural person no matter who they were i would never ask them how they achieved it, i would compliment if the spirit moves me to… Read more »

Royalle
Royalle
7 years ago
Reply to  ida voyder

Right Ida, I am not at all bothered by this question! We pre poo, cowash, do acv rinses, deep condition, do protein treatments, twistout, braidouts, bantu knot outs, pineapple…geesh! I don’t know anyone who just gets up and goes. If someone asks what I do to get my hair like this I tell them. It’s usually a twist out on wet hair. I mean, I am natural but my hair has been manipulated to some degree.

Kim
Kim
7 years ago

Stupid Question: Wow, it’s grown long, when are you going to put a relaxer in it?

My response: Never.

Follow up question: Not even a texturizer? It will help loosen the kinks.

Darlyne
Darlyne
7 years ago

Asking “Can I touch it” is not even what they do. They just come up to me and touch my hair and be all up on it.

101Corkscrews
101Corkscrews
7 years ago

Have you ever straightened your hair? This gets me going. Uh.… Have you ever permanently curled your hair? What kind of under-handed question is that 🙂 ha ha ha

Rosebug
Rosebug
7 years ago

When are you gonna relax your hair? I’m pretty easy going, but that one really rubs me the wrong way.

MissJoeyK
MissJoeyK
7 years ago

So how long EXACTLY is your hair if you take that bun/braids down???”

Sandra
Sandra
7 years ago

I have locs pass my waist. An x‑ray technician asked if I could take my hair out for chest x‑ray.

Vina
Vina
7 years ago
Reply to  Sandra

OH NO!!!!!!! WOW!

Thick Nigerian Hair
Thick Nigerian Hair
7 years ago
Reply to  Sandra

Now how would that work? Did you ask how you were supposed to do that?

Rose
Rose
7 years ago

Did you tell him to kiss your a$$?

ericak
ericak
7 years ago
Reply to  Sandra

lol its not funny but seriously?! was she surprised when you told her it was your hair and you cant take it out?

Tisha
Tisha
7 years ago
Reply to  Sandra

did that person mean put your hair up so it won’t obstruct the x‑ray or litteraly remove the hair from your head?? lool

Tiffany
Tiffany
7 years ago

One question that I get asked that’s not on this list is “what do you do to soften your hair?” :/

linnie
linnie
7 years ago

Your hair is pretty but I could never do that because you have ‘good hair’. Then I say, ‘All of us have so-called good hair. When you get rid of the perm, your hair can do this too’.

Vina
Vina
7 years ago

So, black girls hair can get long?

How come your hair doesn’t look like her hair? ya’ll are both natural.

Anthenèe
Anthenèe
7 years ago

Why did you cut all your long hair ?

What do u put in it ?

Is it dry ?

k'zola
7 years ago

My mom asked me once: You will never relax your hair again…???So how you gon wear it on your wedding day???

Can’t even remember what I answered, but with time her attitude changes and she’s now 1 month natural(looking forward to see how long her journey will last)LOL

Karima
Karima
7 years ago

My most annoying qestion is, “your hair looks dry, why don’t you put grease on it?”

Ashley
Ashley
7 years ago

What products do you use?
Your job doesn’t have a problem with that?
How long is it?
So when are you going to straighten it or get another perm?

lol people kill me
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Swirlz
7 years ago

Been natural since 2003, (3c hair type). Got all those annoying question and more but over time people get use to it and new people meet you with only natural hair. Now that folks are use to it or only in awe of it. Now I get, - Your hair is so cool, I wish my hair could do that — I hate you, perfect hair, perfect skin, full lips… uhh (coming from a Greek girl born and raised in Greece) — I just love how you can do anything with your hair, its so versatile — You have like a different… Read more »

Kali
Kali
7 years ago

Girl what is the name of that wig your wearing?” Than after we go through the whole it’s my hair routine. The follow up question “Are you mixed with something?” Well most of us are but both of my parent are African American. “So did you set your hair on rollers or rods?” No this is my natural hair pattern.

Janasia
Janasia
7 years ago

That’s not as bad as when I came to work after flat ironing my hair and a lady said “see that’s how you know your texture is that bad, because if it was you wouldn’t have been able to do all that” ‑____-

Boyhead
Boyhead
7 years ago

You’re so brave…!
Why did you decide to put two strand twists in?
Your hair looks so much better flat ironed!

Nini
Nini
7 years ago

Did it shrink?
Did you wash it?
Can you wash it?
Girlfriend, how are we going to go get cornrows now?
Why did you change it?
Oh, it was Black History Month.
Is that how your ancestors wore it?
What about your boyfriend?
Does he like it?
Ugh, he dumped you?
Could you hook us up?
I’m just kidding!
‑Awkward Black Girl

I haven’t gotten any annoying comments yet, but I’m binge-watching ABG again and I’m on the second episode and J’s annoying boss asked those questions. It reminded me of this article. Sorry if I’m being annoying- couldn’t help myself XD

Erikka
Erikka
7 years ago

Leaving conditioner and gel in your hair wet does’nt make your hair sour?
Did you uses straws to set your hair?

Aree
Aree
7 years ago

Questions I have gotten so far.. “Is that all your hair?” “Is that a weave?” “Are you mixed?” My Answers… Yes its all mine. No it is not. I am Afro American. Comments they’ll say after I answer… “Well you just got good hair.” “You have good genes.” My reply… “All hair is good hair.” If they ask for hair advice after this. I give them the websites that I utilized, that helped me in learning to do my hair, because in my experience most people that ask me for advice are looking for a product that will magically grow or change their hair. They look at me like… Read more »

Francine
Francine
7 years ago

Lol, these comments are funny. I have been natural going on 3 years in October and I get dumb questions/comments a lot, especially at work. Can you wash your hair? How do you wash your hair? Is it hard to wash your hair? “You must not wash it often, because it seem like its hard to wash.” “You probably can’t do much with your hair since its so thick.” When I get my hair braided, omg. More dumb questions/comments. lol. I don’t mind questions because some people are really curious about natural hair, but sometimes its a little offensive. Like, who on this earth doesn’t wash… Read more »

simplezzzzs
simplezzzzs
7 years ago

When I big chopped- it was questions like, “why would you want to be bald?” “Wow, you’re going to have to start (growing long hair) all over again..”
When I would wear an afro or 3‑day twist out, my mum would say “why won’t you wear it curly (textured) instead of that matted afro?”

Dabney
Dabney
7 years ago

You changed your hair again! (yeah that’s a statement but I hate it)

cinje
cinje
7 years ago

Yesterday i wore my natural hair out to work for the first time, an afro puff.…one of my colleague asks:-
ooooh new hair…cute
Me:yeah! thanks
Him:can i touch?
Me:sure
Him:ooh its soft like Christmas cotton!
I had to burst out laughing!
But then later on another colleague comes along and he was all sarcastic and surprised ‚OMG!what happened to your hair!what is that on your head?
What irritated me was the tone of his voice otherwise if he had just asked I would have been fine answering his questions so instead I just chose to ignore him.

Josephine Odion
Josephine Odion
7 years ago

Is that a wig?

Michelle
Michelle
7 years ago

It still look short and picky, are you sure that it’s growing?

Tisha
Tisha
7 years ago

I’ve gotten : “why did you cut it?”, “how do you comb it?”, “how do you wash it?”,“can I touch it?”,“wow, it’s so soft!! what products do you use?”
…and then when they see me a few months/year(s) later :“wow, your hair has grown so much!! what did you use to make it grow?”
I was at a party the other day and almost everyone there, male or female had a comment/question/compliment regarding my hair. boy, was it annoying!!

HappilyNapturally
HappilyNapturally
7 years ago

Lol!This post should be The Most Annoying natural hair QUESTIONS and STATEMENTS. I remember going to my soccer practice wearing my huge undefined fro. I have a team of predominantly white girls. A lot of the girls was coming up to me complimenting me saying how much they liked my hair, then one of the girls came up to me pointing to my hair and smiling and said I like your.…(I said thank you before she could finish her sentence)PERM!I’m like 0_o It’s not a perm it’s my natural hair. I’m sitting here wondering did she even know what a… Read more »

Kisa
Kisa
7 years ago

Caucasian and people with straight natural hair get curly perms, I think that is what she assumed you had done when she seen your natural textured hair.

Fiercely Fro
Fiercely Fro
7 years ago

I get the question can I touch it sooo many times! Since I was a new natural I was still learning how to properly moisturize and seal. So one guy asked me a question about my hair about what I do to it and he went in to touch it and he quickly took his hand back holding it and it shaking like something had bit him and said ewww why does it feel like that? My hair felt really goopy and mushy, and I felt embarassed even though I know I shouldn’t have since he went on ahead and… Read more »

Jo-Ann
Jo-Ann
7 years ago

When I stopped weaving and finally felt ready and confident to wear my afro (very beautiful and had many positive comments), there was a white old lady (an ex-collegae) looking at my hair. Then she told me that I look like a nigger from the woods with that hair. Then she asked how people like us can live with hair that looks like a bird’s nest. All I did was walk away.… I need my energy for other stuff. I am not really bothered by the questions from people who want to learn about black hair. I just hate the questions… Read more »

MommieDearest
MommieDearest
7 years ago
Reply to  Jo-Ann

” there was a white old lady (an ex-collegae) looking at my hair. Then she told me that I look like a nigger from the woods with that hair. Then she asked how people like us can live with hair that looks like a bird’s nest. All I did was walk away…. I need my energy for other stuff.”

You handled that with well. You are MUCH better than I am. I probably would have thrown an orchard full of shade at that old biddy before walking away. LOL!!

Simone Perkins
Simone Perkins
7 years ago

Excuse me… Where did you buy your hair?”
“How do you get your hair like that?”
“Is it real?”

My hair came from my scalp and my parents blessed me with my curl pattern! That is all!
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Wynter
Wynter
7 years ago

A lot of times I get “Can I touch your hair???? .…. Oh wow it’s so soft I didn’t expect that”.… Me: (with a dumbfounded look) “well what did you expect.. please tell me.” That is so annoying.

D.K.
7 years ago

Ha! On the articles’ list, I only found the #6, 7, and 8 questions to be annoying. Mostly all of the other ones are based on curiosity (and you’ve got to admit, black women are enigmas because we’re known to be powerful, confident and alluring, prompting the question of, “how does that happen?” for us out of other races). That being said, the most annoying questions really are the ones aimed at hurting and maiming feelings. A lot of the time it has to do with the tone of voice too.

vertmoot.blogspot.com

Chelsea
Chelsea
7 years ago

I came in to work one day with my two strand twists pinned up and was asked “Did you get dread locs?” ‑_- Also, “wow, your hair must grow really slow, huh?” No, it’s shrinkage.
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Chelsea
Chelsea
7 years ago

I came in to work one day with my two strand twists pinned up and was asked “Did you get dread locs?” ‑_- Also, “wow, your hair must grow really slow, huh?” No, it’s shrinkage. And one more… “So what are you going to do with it now, get dreads?” I’ve actually been asked this a few times, and dreads are beautiful just not for me!

Marilyn Williams
7 years ago

How did you get those curls??
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latreacebeautifulsmile
latreacebeautifulsmile
7 years ago

I realize I was flat ironing my hair extremely to much.…could u PLEASE let me know what to do to get my hair back kinky & curly…right now I’m not using no type of heat and trying out sum twist out styles…hate the fact that my ends r not curly anymore..Help!!!
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Jo-Ann
Jo-Ann
7 years ago

cut them off. they’re damaged

Sammi
Sammi
7 years ago

Yesterday someone asked me what I did to my hair to get it like that. And when I told him I was born like this and that it was natural he said: no! that’s not possible! Hair isn’t like that, did you get a perm or something? I was pretty frustrated but I got him to believe me that yes! some peoples hair is like this! And today someone else said: why don’t you make it straight? me: I don’t want to person: but there’s a really easy way to do it! when you shave curly hair off, it grows back straight!… Read more »

Colalover
7 years ago

“Is that your naturally curly hair?” Me:*sigh…* “Did you get a perm?” Me: “Man, why would I need a perm? I’m black, blacks have from curly to kinky hair silly!!!” “Are you mixed?“Me: “Does it matter?!” “Oh my Gaaawd, I’m going to flat iron your hair**giggles** you’re gonna love it!” Me: “I hate straight hair, yuk!!!” (I really don’t hate straight hair , I just want to piss them off) “So your moms white?,Asian? What is your mom’s race?” Me: Why do you assume that it must be my mom that’s from another race? Are you implying that my mom CAN’T possibly… Read more »

Alexandria
Alexandria
7 years ago

Oh yes the infamous ignorant comments/questions I get on a daily basis. -Can I touch your hair? (As they are reaching out for it anyways) ‑When I wore my hair down, this super rude white guy who has not be cultured said “It looks like a pillow”…then proceeded to touch my hair!!! I literally beat him to the ground, then told him about his life! I don’t play that. ‑Are you mixed? <–This pisses me off, I don’t even looked mixed…I wonder how you came up with that question. ‑Are you going to straighten your hair? No ‑Is that a weave? No..walk away… Read more »

Karen
Karen
7 years ago

I would go natural but I don’t have Good hair like you.”
” You must be mixed with something or your hair wouldn’t be curly like that. ”
“When are you going to straighten it out so you can see how long it is because it’s real long”
Really, seriously… ain’t nobody got time for that…

dalia
dalia
7 years ago

I’ve had locs for almost five years, now. They’re a little past mid-back. Questions I hate:
1. Are they extensions?
2. Do they smell?
3. Can you wash them?
4. When are you taking your braids out?
5. So, do you do that (unloc and then loc them) every time you wash?
6. So are you a Rasta?
7. When are you going to cut them?
8. Why don’t you colour/put shells in them?
9. What does your boyfriend think of your hair?
10. Are you going to loc your childrens’ hair?

Guyana Masala
7 years ago

Oh I think the “is that a sew-in” question was the one I wanted to laugh at the most. I’ve had that so often it scares me. The worst time was when a girl in a cosmetology/hair academy uniform asked me if that was all my hair. I knew I’d never let anyone from her hair school ever touch my head (LOL). No wait…there are always those moments when women slip you the card to their hair dressers. Oh yes…because I want to have your stylist perm me bald, so I can then glue fake hair back to my scalp… Read more »

Simone'
Simone'
7 years ago

This guy at my job asked me if I forgot to comb my hair one day.

Caresscurls
Caresscurls
7 years ago

-is it a weave?
‑you don’t have the genes to get curly hair, black ppl don’t have curly hair.

I mainly went natural to prove black ppl can have curly hair and not be mixed.

Colalover
7 years ago

I wonder what’s with the “You must be mixed” comments all the time? I think we can all unanimously agree, the “You must be mixed” is by far the most popular annoying comment EVER!!

jada
jada
7 years ago

I go back and forth between straightened and natural and I always get the same questions
— Why did you cut your hair?
— When are you going to put a flat iron through that?
— Can my hair do that?

Eno
Eno
7 years ago

Why dont you relax your hair? It’s wasting!” And “I know that one day you will still relax it” and then “how do you comb it?” There are lots and lots of them annoying questions. I have been natural all my life so i’m already quite used to it

Maya
Maya
7 years ago

I have been natural for about a year and a half now. I did the big chop in April of 2012. I rarely wear straight styles (sew-ins, wig) so I decided to switch it up and see what reactions I would get. The first day I wore my wig one of my co workers approached me at work and said “What are you all dressed up for?!?” (Note that my job has a semi professional dress code). The outfit I had on was not extraordinary. It was a blazer, a nice top, and some jeans. The ONLY difference was my… Read more »

Youngin girl
Youngin girl
7 years ago

I don’t have a “most hated question” since I have not been approached that way. I’m reading comments about people’s experiences and what was said to them and I can only imagine how they feel. i guess it depends on where you live. I guess i do have one experience but this is from a family member. My uncle asked his sister,“Barbara, what are you going to do with that(me) hair!?”. My auntie said,“She’s going to have to ask her(My cousin’s girlfriend) that.” I want havana twists but i missed my chance so it didn’t matter. i’m going to get… Read more »

Sahara Wisdom
Sahara Wisdom
7 years ago

You not NAtural right? Your hair naturally wavy not kinky!! Really?? So,k cause my hair is not the kinkiest texture “good hair ” is not natural.. Ignorance! I have Wavy Twirly hair and stopped relaxing over 11 years ago! Yes, I was told even my soft curls were too much..

linda
linda
7 years ago

While i’m in front of the mirror doing a two strand twist right after i washed my hair, my roommate comes to the bathroom to tell me something, then at the sight of me, she reacts,.…“WOW! your hair looks like troll hair”..then catching herself, and a little embarrassed, she murmurs as she walks away…“but..like…in a good way” jokes. Then, just today, as I was talking to my friends, the subject switched to beer, and I chimed in that i read that beer can be used to rinse hair, and that i want to try it. Then one friend snapped, “why are… Read more »

Dee
Dee
7 years ago
Reply to  linda

Those comments were straight disrespectful–Whether the people were ignorant, joking…WHATEVER!

I’m mad for you :/ But I’m glad you were able to answer them graciously.

lala
lala
6 years ago

Did u cut your hair ?
Are you mixed ?
If your black why do you have long hair ?
How come your hair is sooo frizzy ?
You have tiny curls !
Why don’t you get a relaxer ? It would suit you

teamlogiclady
teamlogiclady
6 years ago
Reply to  lala

I am rather light skinned kind of like a caramel tone.( I do go out and tan) And I STILL get the “Are you mixed” Yes I am mixed, but does it matter/ There are very, very dark skinned people like my daughter and my half sister who have very curly hair. I have met black people from West Africa with dark skin who have naturally curly hair with no race mixing involved. Not all black people have the same hair type. People are really starting to irritate me with their crazy obsession with black women and our hair. Hey I… Read more »

tina17
tina17
6 years ago

Hi y’all! I’m a natural teen, and just last week I finally straightened my hair after several months, and I have to say: people are ridiculous! The first thing everybody asked was, Is that a weave? Girl! Your hair looks like a weave! and when I say No it’s ALL my hair, they’re just like, it’s pretty long or, Why is it so long? Are you mixed? Seriously, like, black people can have long, healthy hair. We don’t have to be mixed or wear extensions, we just have to know our hair and treat it well. When they saw me… Read more »

Valerie
Valerie
6 years ago

I get so fed up with other black women going on about my natural hair. I have been a natural for eight years now. Prior to this I use to relax my hair or have extensions in either twist or plaits. I am light skinned with quite fine features. The only reason I mention that is that it will tie in with what I’m going to say later. Every time I walk past a black hairdressers shop I get someone running up to me, begging me to do my hair? Eh? Sorry, my hair is already DONE thank you! Leave me… Read more »

hangergirl
hangergirl
6 years ago
Reply to  Valerie

In my opinion, fine features means well proportioned facial symmetry.. Having fine features doesn’t necessarily mean having NON-black features. Gabrielle Union has “fine features” Her features are very beautiful and very African looking. For me,it’s all about proportion. lol Heck if you were to really take a look at the average white person, they don’t have “fine or well proportioned features “either most of the time! If we are talking about models, well they tend to look androgynous, because most of the people who run the modeling industry are white male gays. There is such a thing as looking too fine… Read more »

mnissy
mnissy
6 years ago

White people and Asians are the biggest consumers of plastic surgery, yet black women worry about their hair? Fo gigure?

Valerie
Valerie
6 years ago
Reply to  mnissy

Yeah mnissy, it’s true. Like their hair is the be all and end all of their existence. In the grand scheme of things, it’s only hair. I’m not saying that it isn’t important but boy! I’ve had white people ask me if my hair is real? One woman said to me that she just took it for granted that it was fake, as there’s so much of it. Cheek! So even if the hair is natural it’s bound to be fake? They make me sick! Your gonna laugh. When I used extension people thought it was natural. Now I am… Read more »

imafoolthen.
imafoolthen.
6 years ago
Reply to  Valerie

Lol! Yes it’s true, I have been through the same experience! I would lay my weave in high school so righteous, no one could TELL it wasn’t my own! Now, many are asking me if I’m,“all real?” :/

mnissy
mnissy
6 years ago
Reply to  Valerie

LOL! yes I get the same dern thing! Drives me nuts sometimes.

Valerie
Valerie
6 years ago
Reply to  mnissy

Yeah. I think what it is is that people are so used to seeing us with our weaves or hair extension whatever, they simply cannot accept that it is entirely possible for black women to have long natural hair. I also think that the sistas who never ever go natural and rely on weaves and extensions are doing us naturals a disservice. People will just take it for granted that naturals are also sporting fake hair, because that’s what they’ve always seen.

Raven Kirk
Raven Kirk
5 years ago

Have you ever flat ironed your hair before? Is that all your hair? Can I have your hair? These are questions i get often lol

sanjidude
sanjidude
5 years ago

I blow dry my natural hair every 6 months just to trim the ends. When I wear it to work in two very long cornrows the next day, every other white person says “I like your hair better that way”. My response: “I don’t — it’s SO boring…but thanks”. One backhanded “compliment” deserves another LOL!

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