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Just Let it Go! 3 Reasons to Cut Off Your Hair (And 3 Reasons NOT To!)

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Actress Tia Mowry rocking her cut

A failed relationship never tempted me to chop off my thick, kinky tresses. In fact failed relationships allowed me to look deeper into myself and spend more time on my appearance, especially grooming my hair. For me, hair care is a necessity and a hobby, but for some women, cutting their hair can be a cleansing process or a way to heal after a bout of what seemed like never ending melancholy. But although emotional times never triggered an urge to take shears to my hair, bad hair days have had me sitting on the side of the tub in my bathroom thinking “Is it time for a change?” Read the check-list below to decide if chopping your hair is a good idea or something you may regret.

A cut is a great idea for change if

• Your hair is relaxed or heat damaged and you’re finding inspiring natural haired ladies at every corner.

Since there is no way to undo the chemical process of a relaxer or reverse severe heat damage, it’s a great idea embrace a change and go for something different.

• Your hair began to shed after the birth of your child. 

The hormonal changes that arrive during and after pregnancy can leave some mothers feeling drained of beauty. Hair may begin to feel abnormally dry or brittle despite your grandest efforts to keep it moisturized, and might eventually snap off. Although there is no doubt that your young children need you at their side and must be well nurtured; it’s important for mothers’ to feel happy about themselves as well. Getting a trim or new cut can rid you of all signs of dull breaking hair and even give you a hot low maintenance look.

• You’ve been wanting a hair cut for months. 

If you’ve been yearning for a new shorter do for some time, a change can still be scary, but it’s safe to say that you are prepared to handle it. It’s important to note that kinky and curly hair shrinks considerably when it is wet, so always take that into consideration when you’re planning for a cut. Also, instead of getting rid of a great deal of length at once, consider dividing the length you want to cut into 2 or 3 haircut sessions just to be sure that shorter hair is what you truly want.

No Don’t Do it, Please Don’t Do it: Reasons you should NOT do a big chop

You saw a beautiful haircut on a celebrity. 

Celebrities have access to an abundant array of stylists who can help them achieve any look they want, and all on a whim. Certain haircuts and styles are not easy to maintain on your own and it may leave you disappointed in how your hair looks after your first post-cut wash. When considering celebrity styles, think about all aspect of your haircut and decide if you’re willing to maintain the cost of your style at the salon.

You’re admiring a haircut on someone who has a different hair type and face/body shape than yourself. 

Every hair type can be styled and molded to become a better version of itself; but there is no cookie cutter style that will suit everyone. A haircut will never be 100% replicable, so take the aspects that you enjoy most about the cut and make it your own. This will ensure that you get an individual look that you suits your hair, face shape and body type.

You had a bad experience with your hair. 

It’s typical to have a day where you’ve used the same products and followed the same routine, but your hair is behaving badly! This is by no means enjoyable and for some it can truly be frustrating and perplexing. Don’t let a detangling session that lasted an hour or 5 too long frustrate you into making a change that you will regret when you become more calm, patient and relaxed. It takes only a moment to remove hair with shears but it can take years to grow back. If you have a friend with natural hair, maybe you both can trade hair help. Having a friend help is another set of eyes on your hair that may be able to help you see what your own eyes won’t allow you to. Take a deep breath, think clearly about what may have gone wrong, switch products if necessary and try to get to a place of homeostasis with your hair. 

Have you ever cut your hair after a devastating time in your life? Did you regret it?

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Terri
Terri
7 years ago

I decided to Big Chop for a number of reasons (heat damage being one). One of the main reasons that I cut my hair is that I will be turning 40 soon, I was ready for a change!!
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Domineque
Domineque
7 years ago
Reply to  Terri

Good for you! The cut suits you well.

Vonnie
Vonnie
7 years ago

I chose to get a haircut like the blogger Faintly Masculine after thinking it was dope, and growing tired of tending to my shoulder-length afro. I just can’t live and breathe this hair mess. My hair is 4c and hers is obviously looser, but besides flat-twisting the top of my head to stretch it and for pattern, no worries. I love it! I may even go shorter in the future…

Dabney
Dabney
7 years ago

OMG! I love this! Because as I was just sitting and reading this Asian woman came in with THEEEE best angular bob and I want to go home and chop my hair off like hers! Okay so would have made the past 6 months pointless! This happens to me all the time! So when I get the urge to lop off my hair I buy a wig in the hairstyle I want or I just braid it up! RESIST the scissors!

DreamGirl
DreamGirl
7 years ago

My hair has been stuck at APL for over a year and I got so frustrated I wanted to cut it all of but I wanna see how long it can be,my goal is WL and I’ll cut it short after that.

Natural Hair Styles 101

I JUST CUT MY HAIR THIS FRIDAY! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! The first time that I big chopped I wasn’t as confident about wearing it out! I hid it under half wigs and weaves! Don’t get me wrong…I Still love weave, but after spending 3 years growing my hair out, I’m comfortable with how my hair coils and curls, and I’m ready to FIERCELY rock a TWA.  At this very moment, I’m in the process of uploading a video of my cut, but trust me the video does it no justice (since I did sleep on it for a few days… Read more »

Natural Hair Styles 101

Here’s a before and after pic as well! 🙂 [img]https://bglh-marketplace.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/TWA-Hair-Styles‑1.JPG[/img]

Alisha
7 years ago

Oh, I looooooove it! Now I want to cut my hair!

Katina
Katina
7 years ago

You look beautiful with short hair!!! I’m big chopping again on August 20th! Major heat damage.

Aly
Aly
7 years ago

@Natural Hair Styles 101

I have been natural for over 13 years, and sometimes I just get fed up and need a change. You look gorgeous with the short hair. I might have to cop that style 🙂

Mariame
Mariame
7 years ago

This article is on point! I did the Big Chop 2 years ago and I loved my TWA and now it’s long and curly but I really really don’t like the fact of spending hours to detangle them. And I can’t be bothered to twist them every day! After a couple of hours they are back to a state that seems like I’ve never detangled them before… So tempted to cut them again!
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KP
KP
7 years ago
Reply to  Mariame

Rock the TWA! It looks great on you!

Tyra
Tyra
7 years ago

I BC’d exactly a month ago & I absolutely love it! Prior to my BC I had a short relaxed Nia Long type of pixie cut. With the rate that my hair grows (especially in the back), I had to relax and cut my hair every 3–4 weeks for the style to look good. TOO much money & WAYYY too much time to be spending once a month on some daggone hair. AND I was living in constant fear of overprocessing. So I said forget it lol now I’m au naturale!
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beena
beena
7 years ago

Prefers booty length hair

Tessa
Tessa
7 years ago

It never fails to amaze me how absolutely beautiful most women look with a twa. Natural Styles and Mariame, twa for sure! 🙂

Also Named Nicole
7 years ago

I shaved all my hair off in February. I did this for two reasons: 1. (the main reason) I had dyed it the first time in a very long time last year (the last time [and first time] was back in 2000). After the plum hair colour faded out, I decided I would try to go black. Not only did my hair feel brittle, but the colour results came close to my natural hair colour (what was the point?!?!). I tried to bear with it, but after six months, I had it and started fresh. 2. I have actually wanted… Read more »

Also Named Nicole
7 years ago

Woah… first time posting with pictures. Didn’t know that would happen, lol. Sorry about that. WIsh I could edit it :/

Raz
Raz
7 years ago

Oh if this article had been available EXACTLY one month ago! Big chopped 9 months ago. Grew to 3 inches past shoulder. Got frustrated and big chopped again! Now back to TWA and regretting it.

Anonty
Anonty
7 years ago

Talking about things you see on other people’s hair — sooo relevant in this day and age of hair blogs, tumblrs, instagrams, forums etc etc. I really want to do the long taper because detangling would take less time, I’d have an actual style, I like the look, I too am sick of this hair mess and have given up on fantasies of long 4c hair especially putting that above my own personal style. I have decided to give myself a few months before I take the leap. Many tapers also colour their hair and I am craving colour. My… Read more »

Pat
Pat
7 years ago

I just love my hair tapered and short, I keep length on top. I always have my hair cut and shaped like this. The upkeep is simple and easy. I grew it out but always go back to this look. It’s working for me big time!!

Anonty
Anonty
7 years ago
Reply to  Pat

Thanks for the input. I am interested in this:
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Taiwo
7 years ago

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Halle Berry — I love her neat, short look — Beautiful whenever I see her. I like her signature look. Here’s mine. I Chose the side-part, cos it suits my oval face. My awesome male hair stylist/barber — women r always unsure about this part — did the designs and gave me the ‘usher’- esque fade cut which I love cos it really suits me. He also finished off the look with wax which I continue to do ‑to give the hair a stylish definition. 

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Taiwo
7 years ago

Mariame, u look gr8 withur hair short!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

shelly
shelly
7 years ago

Loving this post!
But need another set of eyes can’t tell whether this is a behaving badly day or it really needs to go because it’s unhealthy (4c slightly stretched tangled like crazy)
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shayj1127
7 years ago

I had one of those really bad hair days a few days ago. I was looking at all the beautiful tapered cuts and really missed my hair when I big chopped because I had a tapered look then. I had time to calm down and sure enough I used some different products and made my hair feel and look a lot better. Just when you want to give up is when you should plow forward!
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Joyce Waterman
Joyce Waterman
3 years ago

As untrue as it probably sounds and seems, there are those of us whose hair has a shelf life. When I’ve had enough messing in my hair, I get it cut off. I’be been this way since my late teens. I really should be the poster girl for “I am not my hair!”. The only time I was motivated by a “style” was in the 60’s when I begged my father to allow me to wear an Afro.  In my 65 years, I have yet to wear a wig, extensions or a weave. The only time I wore braids was as… Read more »

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