4. Competition & Jealousy
The web is a great resource for seeing the diversity of natural hair styles but at times it can be tempting to compare. Thoughts like, ‘She did the big chop around the same time as I did, how come her hair looks so much better?’ or ‘I tried that exact style and it looks great on her, but not on me’ can linger, but they’re just not helpful. Natural hair is not about comparison, it’s about your own personal journey. Take the information and inspiration you need from the web, and leave the rest.
It can be easy to let your cute new fro lull you into a false sense of security, leading you to believe that it doesn’t need anything to stay cute. Well, it does. While natural hair maintenance doesn’t have to take a ton of time it does require consistency. For most naturals, moisturizing every day is a must, detangling regularly (and with patience!) is a must, caring for your ends is a must. If you get lazy with essential hair practices, expect to see the quality of your hair decline.
6. Extreme Do-It-Yourself
Natural hair culture is very do-it-yourself. I’d venture to guess that there are more naturals who do their own hair than go to the salon. But, if you don’t have the styling skills, there’s no shame in finding a trusted natural hair stylist (or even just a friend or family member who’s good at doing hair) to help you out. Don’t feel like a failure or somehow ‘inauthentic’ if you need help. Not everyone can whip out an intricate flat twist updo with some grease and a rattail comb!
Ladies, have you struggled with any of these attitudes? What are some other mentalities that can hold you back?