I have been natural longer than I can remember. Locs for close to 13 years now, just natural and free. I have a 9 year old daughter. Her hair is thicker and kinkier than mines. I used to just keep it braided, but the ordeal of taking it down, washing and re-braiding became too much for the both of us. Also she’s extremely tender headed. When the time would come for her to get it done she would get sad and depressed. My mom felt like there was no logical reason for her to go through such pain associated with her hair and pressured me to let her relax it. Which I did. And now everyone is happy. My daughter no longer dreads getting her hair done, and my mom is glad I’m not torturing her grand baby. But me, I have serious guilt feelings for not standing firm on my desire for my daughter to be natural. I’m wondering; did I do the right thing?
What are your thoughts ladies? Is a relaxer ever an appropriate fix when a child’s hair is difficult to manage? Moms in particular, would love to hear your thoughts!