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Awesome intentions but, to be honest, I am anxiously anticipating the day when Black women have gotten over the natural hair craze. Why? Because it shouldn’t be a craze, a fad or even a movement. Our appreciation of the hair that grows from our follicles (whatever the texture) should be second nature; it’s hardly a topic of debate and should be a personal choice that is not loaded with commentary about our self-worth. And it will only get to that place if we stop obsessing.
I cut off my relaxed hair at the age of 15 when I looked in the mirror and realized that battling with chemicals and products to make my hair something it wasn’t didn’t make any logical sense. And, just to be real, it also coincided with a fight I was having with my mother about not being taken to the salon often enough and having to deal with my “roots” alone.
This was over 10 years ago — before ladies were all abuzz about their big chop or swapping stories about what $45 emulsion they splurge on to take care of their hair. Back then, I was happy to share a short conversation with another Black woman who wore her hair the same way or who had aspirations of wearing her natural texture. Now, trips to the store for hair products are exercises in dodging the glances of women eager to spark up half-hour long conversations about how I style my hair which, to be honest, doesn’t always look that great. I would love to have a friendly conversation with a Black woman that didn’t revolve around our hair obsession and maybe just have a chat because we both recognize our bond as Black women.
I’ve been in a few other forums that voice a similar dislike of the idea of a natural hair sorority, and I’m curious as to why this has struck such a nerve. Although they aren’t sororities per say, there are several sorority-like natural hair communities that have popped up across the web, and no one so much as blinks an eye. What makes this one any different?
Interesting! Ladies, what do you think? Please keep the comments respectful 🙂