By Cipriana of UrbanBushBabes.com
I have received a few emails from women expressing their annoyance in the way I describe my hair as “hard work, which makes it seem as if I am perpetuating the myth that kinky textured hair is unmanageable”…..WHAT? How does hard work translate to unmanageable? Isn’t the definition of unmanageable “impossible to manage, manipulate, or control” Yes my hair is hard work but not unmanageable, because I have been managing, manipulating and controlling my hair for almost 5 years with success. If it was impossible I most certainly would not have half as much of hair on my head as I do now. If hard work was easy then every natural would have successful hair journeys without trials and tribulations.
The reason I am honest in expressing HOURS and PATIENCE that go into my head is because I truly want people who have a hard time retaining length to understand that it is not easy, especially for kinky textures. And I’m honest because I want success for others who are frustrated and looking for results. Long hair, regardless of texture, requires more work. Couple that with the fact that curlier hair is more fragile — and more fragile hair requires more delicacy and patience — and you have additional hours of care. Sugarcoating and beating around the bush does not truly help those who haven’t found success in their current hair regimen. It’s sort of like an intervention for those who want long hair; you have to bare all the facts so their hair can eventually recover and flourish.
Now I am not faulting others for wanting a quick fix. To be honest there have been a many times when I was detangling my hair and thought “Damn, I really wish it didn’t take this long!” Then I rewind and check myself because I am grateful to be healthy, happy and loved by my family and friends. I have a roof over my head and food to nourish my body; I am doing something I love, etc. So through all these blessings, if it takes hours upon hours upon hours to detangle my hair then so be it. And it is something I obviously want or I would have chopped my hair years ago. When I see women rocking short cuts, they sometimes say they prefer it, not just because of the flyness and the look, but because long hair is too much work and they prefer not to deal with it. Moms too — who have one of the hardest jobs in the world — might consider haircare (let alone achieving long hair!) an afterthought. But if you have the time and desire, then retaining length is going to take work.
Now when I go in depth and really give a breakdown of what is involved in the health and growth of my hair — including washing my hair only once a month, updo styles 24/7, scarfing my strands every single night, taking hours to patiently detangle my hair, dry detangling (with oils), low manipulation by wearing protective styles every day and also protective styles during my washings instead of free form — they see that as me perpetuating unmanageability. People don’t view this is as simple, but ‘simple’ isn’t only wash and gos and wearing your curls wild and free. It can also mean washing your hair once a month and leaving it in a protective style for 2–4 weeks at a time. To be honest I don’t know what is simpler than that. The most I do to my hair during the weekdays is take my scarf off in the morning and spray olive oil on my hair before I place my scarf back on at night. Since I wear my hair in protective updo styles during the week which I never take down, my daily morning and nighttime hair routine takes a whopping 5 minutes total each day. Yes 5 minutes total each day, so how does this translate to unmanageable? Now what is hard work are my detangling sessions especially with my length and texture but to me it is worth it. I will sacrifice time that is involved with my detangling sessions to have a simple and easy routine during the week days.
At the end of the day I love my hair which is why this works best for me. Whether you are free and wild or protective and updo’ed never let someone tell you that a regimen that works best for you is not up to par to proper way you should manage your hair 🙂
So ladies whatever your hair goals are transitioning, health, length, etc. don’t let hard work deter you from your path, if that is the path you wish to take. Like anything in life you strive towards you goals and in the end aren’t your goals stepping stones to your dreams?