A while back, I stumbled upon a fotki album with photos by a natural who had just had her hair styled in a salon for an event. In all honesty, the final look was not cute and the lady in the pictures looked like she was going to cry. She posted up the photos and was highly critical of the style for clear reasons (too scalpy, uneven twists, the back twist out had not really dried before being unravelled which ruined the final style).
The lovely ladies of the natural worlds rallied around to say the pictures weren’t bad and they would even have the style themselves (Pinocchio!!). I think it is a normal and nice thing to want to raise someone’s spirits but I really don’t think it is right to tell a blatant lie. What if this woman did this style again, she looked a mess and knew it, why lie to her?
For the record, I do think it is quite mean spirited to walk up to random people on the street and give hair advice, however, I think that it is a different case when people place pictures up and ask for comments. I rarely if ever see a negative critique of any natural or curly hair pictures. In truth, being natural does not mean that your hair will look good all the time. There are ways to resurrect a bad hair day but how would you know your hair is not cute if we all just say, ‘Oh don’t worry, you look pretty.’
Do you think something negative about natural hair can be said with kindness or is this not possible?