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[Video] White Girl on ‘Toddlers and Tiaras’ Wants to be “Brown like Beyonce”

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Queeen
Queeen
9 years ago

I think this is so cute! But in all honesty I might be holding a double standard because it breaks my heart to hear little black girls say they want to be like Hannah Montana. So I acknowledge my bias but at the same time when do we see little white children trying to emulate black people- in a positive way. This is why it does my heart good. But now for real talk! We should encourage our children to be comfortable in their own skin, what ever color that may be and with their own hair, whatever texture that might… Read more »

Rhonda
9 years ago
Reply to  Queeen

+ 1

suns4i6e
suns4i6e
9 years ago
Reply to  Rhonda

+2

Robin Nicole
9 years ago
Reply to  Queeen

+3

ayomide
ayomide
9 years ago
Reply to  Robin Nicole

so agree. I was thinking the same thing. I was also thinking Beyonce’s music is a little to old for this little girl to listening too…

Lindsey
Lindsey
9 years ago
Reply to  Robin Nicole

+4

Khadijah
Khadijah
9 years ago

How brown is Beyonce though?

deena
deena
9 years ago
Reply to  Khadijah

yeah. Beyonce is only a few shades darker than that little girl and thats with bronzer.…lol.

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  Khadijah

I know right 🙂

With her fake tan, she got to Beyonce’s color.

Kamee
Kamee
9 years ago
Reply to  Khadijah

Here we go with this “light almost white” stuff. When will black people learn that to white people, no matter how dark or light blacks are, you’re still black. Besides, to them, all shades of blacks are considered DARKER skinned complexion. Even if its light to us.

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  Kamee

Please calm down. This thread is jokingly acknowledging the fact Beyonce has a lighter complexion so a couple of tanning sessions can get her close to her goal. Everything is not a battle or a war.

mak
mak
9 years ago
Reply to  June

if this is supposed to be a joke it really isn’t funny

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  mak

To you.….

mak
mak
9 years ago
Reply to  June

heh.….….….….

BlaqueInfinite
BlaqueInfinite
9 years ago
Reply to  Kamee

We shouldn’t be defining ourselves based on what white people think. We can think for ourselves and be our own people without them or their input. Just because white people think any black person is “black” doesn’t make it so. I personally don’t think biracial people are black, and I don’t think people with wavy hair and light skin should be classified as black either. To me, black means you’re medium brown or darker, with kinky hair. To me, Beyonce is MIXED, along with the plethora of other “black” female celebrities that people want to parade around in the name of… Read more »

mak
mak
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

thats the kind of thinking that makes an identity crisis. i am a nigerian (african) girl. basing someones race of how their hair looks or how light their skin is doesn’t make sense. do us as black people see different types of white people? do we see one white person and say “oh he’s american” and “oh she’s Canadian” and “oh they’re Scandinavia”? what is a biracial person?-someone with two races mixed together. so if someone has an white mother and a black father (or the other way around)they’re not any less black nor are they any less white, they’re… Read more »

ifeji
ifeji
9 years ago
Reply to  mak

I agree up until your last couple of statements. Most of the time, there is a verifiable difference between mixed ‑race individuals and non-mixed individualS. Pretending otherwise is just plain disingenous. I’m sorry but a pure-blooded Nigerian would not look like Halle Berry or Tracey Ellis Ross. My beef is that It’s like all other races can have a definite look–an unmixed look throughout the media (equipped with it’s own facial diversities), but Black people have to make a point about our diversity by pointing to the Black chick with Green eyes (REALLY?). We don’t have to use bi-racials as… Read more »

Ayo
Ayo
9 years ago
Reply to  ifeji

Wow! That is all I can say to the comments I see here. I am sad to see some continue to create divisions based on complexion and hair type. We should not allow anyone to define us. What is important is how we see and define ourselves individuals. I am not going to get bent out of shape because a person of mixed race defines themselves as black or white. I would also challenge the ‘verifiable difference’ between mixed-race and non-mixed race individuals. In reality, most African-Americans have a mix somewhere in their lineage unless you can absolutely trace your… Read more »

iFeji
9 years ago
Reply to  Ayo

One can be African-American (of African Descent) but it does not entail that they are Black. My question is why does Blackness have to entail so much ambiguity, but the same isn’t done for White or Asians? It’s like we have to blurr our race to maintain some level of acceptance. I’m not creating a division, I am stating a fact. A person with one white or other parent is not the same as an African with two Black African parents, there is a difference. No offense, but not everyone on this board is American, so some of us can’t… Read more »

delicatemusings
delicatemusings
9 years ago
Reply to  iFeji

Hmmm…My Mom is Mexican from Mexico and my Dad is “black” although since his Mom’s Mom was full Native American I feel like I need to make that clear. So perhaps my Dad isn’t Black judging by the definitions I’m hearing here. Anyway, just trying to figure out whether I’m considered “Bi-Racial” since I’m not white. Seems by definition in these postings bi-racial= black/white. You people need to get off your high horse and brush the chip off your shoulder. If you can’t support and accept your own people then why would anyone else. BTW-The moment a bi-racial person, say… Read more »

Come on People
Come on People
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

So what do you clasify the dark skinned mixed race people?

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  Come on People

Ha! All these demarcations just lead to more issues. Someone with a black father and Bangladeshi mom is what? We were all forced into this big, undefined tent and it is something we are just going to have to figure out and live with. I do understand BlaqueInfinite general point, I just don’t agree with her solution.

Carpathianpixie
Carpathianpixie
8 years ago
Reply to  Come on People

Thank you! I myself is mixed but you would never guess it until you saw my whole family. My mother is haitian with some other stuff mixed in and my father is german yet I look black from the medium brown of my skin to the kinky/curly state of my hair. Does that make me an exception to the rule, a category all onto myself? I always say I’m black because I do not acknowledge my father, not because he’s white but because he and I do not talk, but if we did have a good relationship I would not… Read more »

Doodles
Doodles
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

I agree to a point, it is damaging for a young black girl to only c lighter skinned individuals representing black beauty, because within our on race, being real, darker skin and kinky hair is condsidered as less attractive, so there should be more darker skinned woman representing black beauty!!

Chere
Chere
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

@BlaqueInfinite: Black people come in all colors. My skin is nearly the same color as Beyonce’s and I have 4a/4b hair. Both of my parents are BLACK. I have a sister who is a shade or two lighter than me, she has green eyes and curly hair (maybe 3b), I have another sister who is several shades darker than me with 4a hair and, again, our parents are BLACK, our Grandparents were black as well (one of my grandparents was “mixed”). I am not biracial, I am not “mixed”, I am Black. The color of my skin and the texture… Read more »

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  Chere

I think most of us are on the same page regarding this point:‘Not just the “light skinned” ones or the “dark skinned” ones. We all represent “black beauty” in all of our shapes, sizes and colors.’ We just have to get the black and white media to feel the same way 🙂

EGYPTIANBELLA
EGYPTIANBELLA
9 years ago
Reply to  Chere

BLAQUEINFINITE YOU ARE IGNORANT. I AM DARK SKIN WITH LONG CURLY HAIR. SO DOES THAT MAKE ME MIXED OR NOT? IDIOT! YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO OUR RACE. GO CLAIM ANOTHER RACE.

EGYPTIANBELLA
EGYPTIANBELLA
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

YOUR IGNORANT BLAQUEINFINITE.. I DONT WANT YOU REPRESENTING US. YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO OUR RACE. I AM DARK SKIN WITH SOFT CURLY LONG HAIR. SO YOUR IGNORANCE MAKES NO SENSE.

Jp
Jp
9 years ago
Reply to  EGYPTIANBELLA

@ Egyptian Bella

As hard as this may be for you to believe, the only person who has been ignorant in this entire discussion is YOU. I read through the comments, and saw people articulately expressing their true thoughts and feelings. Although they did not agree with each other, they were still respectful of one another.

Lillian
Lillian
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

Okay, so what you are saying is that since I am light skinned, I am not black and my brother who is dark skinned and shares the same parents is black? No offense, but that is the silliest pile of horse boo boo that I have ever heard! Black people come in all colors shapes and sizes.that is what makes us beautiful!

Erin
Erin
9 years ago
Reply to  BlaqueInfinite

So a person who are light skin with kinky, straight,curly, wavy hair and a brown and dark with “non black hair” with two black parents should not consider themsleves black because they don’t match want you call black. I have yet seen any black person who skin tone match the color black. Anybody with one or two black parents call themselevs black if they want to.

Chrys225
Chrys225
9 years ago
Reply to  Kamee

beyonce does skin bleaching, so whatever.

Anon
Anon
9 years ago
Reply to  Chrys225

proof?

Angela
Angela
9 years ago
Reply to  Chrys225

Did you accompany her to her last bleaching session?????

mak
mak
9 years ago
Reply to  Angela

word

LaDolo
9 years ago
Reply to  Angela

lmao!
wow, that was too funny.

Morgy
Morgy
9 years ago
Reply to  Kamee

so true

Taneica
9 years ago

The kid’s cute, just the way she is. Self acceptance isnt exclusive to black people, or even minorities in general. Every little girl should be raised to KNOW that she is beautiful just the way God made her and that a part of being beautiful means seeing and appreciating beauty of others, even if they don’t look like you.

Natasha
Natasha
9 years ago
Reply to  Taneica

I agree.

binks
binks
9 years ago
Reply to  Taneica

Preach!

whylie2010
whylie2010
9 years ago
Reply to  binks

Agreed!

Giulia
Giulia
9 years ago

It will take more than this to reverse the eurocentric beauty standards.
Little girls might want to be “brown”, not “black”. Light-skinned.
Cause you know, being ‘naturally tanned’ is so cool.

NinaG
NinaG
9 years ago
Reply to  Giulia

+1

Aiesha
Aiesha
9 years ago

One, as a mother why is she letting her daughter spray tan? That’s only reinforcing the “beauty pageants lead to low self-esteem” viewpoint. I think these types of pageants are not only damaging, but completely wrong for kids this young. Getting spray tans, fake teeth, hair extensions and even plastic surgery this year can and will RUIN a child’s self esteem. At a time where eating disorders, and depression linked to low self esteem and worth is so high, you would think we would be celebrating beauty as is, not doing this. Two, I think this video is as equally sad… Read more »

Natasha
Natasha
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

True

Lissie
Lissie
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

+1

dk
dk
9 years ago
Reply to  Lissie

+2

RT
RT
9 years ago
Reply to  dk

+3

Kaci
Kaci
9 years ago
Reply to  RT

+4

JL
JL
9 years ago
Reply to  Kaci

+5

luvmylocs
luvmylocs
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

you make excellent points! that whole toddlers and tiaras thing is sickening to me. that’s why i think these pervs are abducting little girls left and right.

i’m not a parent yet but i firmly believe that parents need to teach self love!! it’s interesting the mom even lets her play with very brown dolls.

now real talk, seeing her sing “if you like then you shoulda put a ring on it” at the end made me giggle, just a little but it doesn’t negate the fact that this is wrong even though who she’s admiring is a black woman.

Samira
Samira
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

Totally agree!!!!

Natasha
Natasha
9 years ago

I’m probably reiterating a few comments that are already here but… Any case of changing ones self to look like someone or something else is never good. It’s so cute that she has brown dolls and she appreciates something different from herself, especially when some adult can’t do the same. But appreciation turns into ‘self-hate’ when we aspire to be someone other than who we are. The same way a little black girl wanting ‘straight long hair’ is wrong and detrimental to her self image is the same way this little white girl trying to be darker, i.e not who she… Read more »

adele
adele
9 years ago

Wow…Maybe she’s getting in touch with her ancient African ancestors (everybody’s African when you get down to it). I see curls…she’s probably got some Africa in that family tree. Oh and correct me if I’m wrong but I always thought beyonce was yellow-brown…not exactly what I would call brown. All jokes aside; I think it’s cute that she can appreciate the beauty in dark skin but as a child I think it’s important that she learn to be comfortable in her own skin as well because she will never have it, (at least not naturally). Everybody’s beautiful in their own way.… Read more »

mikki
mikki
9 years ago

i understand previous comments about the little girl accepting herself but i must say this made me smile just because never in my life have i seen a reverse of this trend. I am sure most have seen that study from last year or year before where the little black girl was choosing white dolls and the white children were choosing white dolls, but i have never seen a white child choose solely black dolls. Also, I must say, pageantry aside, this is one awesome mother to let her child do that. She didnt try to force her to get white… Read more »

Aptlife
Aptlife
9 years ago
Reply to  mikki

+1 That study is what first popped into my head and I agree, I have NEVER seen a positive reversal of that. Her interest in brown skin appears to be completely innocent; she likes how it looks vs. thinking it makes her prettier. And kudos to her mom for letting her get the doll she wants, although I can’t get with that tanning ish.

Clara
Clara
9 years ago
Reply to  mikki

this is one awesome mother to let her child do that.” I 100% disagree with that statement. As someone else suggested above, if this were a black girl with a mother that was encouraging or supporting her daughter in her quest to have lighter skin, we would be up in arms.

The only thing adorable about this video was the way the girl kept drawing out the word “brown”. That was just plain cute. Outside of that, I would like to see her mother reinforce the fact that is beautiful just as she is.

sarah
9 years ago
Reply to  Clara

But I don’t think you can’t really say “if this were a little black girl”. The analogy wouldn’t hold because the circumstances are too different. White girls aren’t brought up with as many negatives concerning their type of beauty, whereas, as I’ve read on this very blog a billion times, black girls are brought up to yearn for light skin and straight hair. I’m not saying that what happens in the video isn’t self hate or not wrong, but the two situations are not the same. Really it seems more like a type of emulation that we don’t get from… Read more »

AnonUK
AnonUK
9 years ago
Reply to  sarah

Really? Have you not seen the tanning adverts? The girls who subject themselves to tanning beds on a regular basis despite the risks of skin cancer? People being mocked for being overly ‘pale’ or ‘pasty’?

Aiesha
Aiesha
9 years ago
Reply to  sarah

People of all races get told they are good enough. White girls have just as much negatives concerning their beauty as black people. More than 85% of the media is aimed towards white girls from the ages of 11–19. They too long for tanner/paler skin, straighter hair, different body types, etc. I don’t think its fair that only black people can complain about people telling them they would be prettier if they were lighter or had longer hair with a looser curl, but white girls can’t complain about being told they would be prettier if they had some color, different… Read more »

ABdS
ABdS
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

Keep the balance Aiesha by bringing the truth! Oftentimes I think we — blacks — pigeon hole ourselves, wearing our disparagements as a badge of my pain is deeper/bigger/more damaging than yours dishonor, more than others. To that I say knock it off and add some ethnic variety to your life.

You’ll learn more and have a more accurate perception of life that way.

Love. Belief. & More.

serenissima
9 years ago
Reply to  Aiesha

i COMPLETELY agree

http://sartorialme.blogspot.com

Anon
Anon
9 years ago

Can’t see the video but I agree with a lot of what people say. My overriding feeling is that she should be shown that she is lovely as she is, taught that all the dolls are equal and not be in pageants being spray tanned and worried about appearance. Let kids be kids.

tiredofthebs
tiredofthebs
9 years ago

I think it goes without saying that everyone should accept themselves for exactly who they are, but on a side note, I believe that some of us take things to seriously and see everything in color because we have and still go through a lot because of ours. We can’t even enjoy a moment that a little girl is having with her love of someone of another complexion, the same way we enjoy the moment when a Black woman cuts off their permed hair and say I love straight hair, but wow my hair is beautiful too, and I can’t wait… Read more »

Lissie
Lissie
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

While I see your point…I really do… yet I really don’t think some of us are trying to get deep (mind you, I believe you’re free to have your own opinions, so no disagreement there). I can’t speak for everyone, but I can speak for myself. 1.) I can’t enjoy the moment because I’m not a fan of Toddlers in Tiaras or any young child, adolescent, or teen entering pagents forced upon them by his/her parents. 2.) I’m not a fan of Beyonce and do not believe that little girls should aspire to be like her; Plus, the fact that… Read more »

tiredofthebs
tiredofthebs
9 years ago
Reply to  Lissie

Hi Lissie, I completely understand what you’re saying. However, I did not see the tape. I’m basically saying that I don’t believe everything is a color issue, and that I believe it’s best to consider someone’s culture when wondering about their well being. Meaning this little girl wanting to be brown could just mean that she wants to look like Beyonce, there are countless ppl who grew up in the Jackson 5 era, like Edwin Mccain, who wanted to be Black bcuz they admired them so much, I believe this Is diff than a Black little girl stating she wants… Read more »

Giulia
Giulia
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

**[…] this little girl will not live in a society telling her that her hair and skin are not the standard of beauty. If anything she will grow up with magazines covers and ppl on tv that resemble her. No I don’t think it’s a good thing to want to be a completely diff person, but I believe many ppl are speaking of her self esteem as if she faces the issues Black little girls face.**

YES. That’s exactly what I was thinking.

Lissie
Lissie
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

You have a point! Thanks for the convo <3 <3 <3

HoneyMiel
HoneyMiel
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

+1

Gabrielle
Gabrielle
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

i agree with you to a certain extent, I personally know many white girl’s who have pressures too. **[…] this little girl will not live in a society telling her that her hair and skin are not the standard of beauty. If anything she will grow up with magazines covers and ppl on tv that resemble her.” There are pressures that are opposite of black girl’s. Ssoooo many white teens I know that get sunburned from tanning and even risk cancer daily by visiting tanning beds for that brown skin. Many people overlook how many white people get lip injections,… Read more »

tiredofthebs
tiredofthebs
9 years ago
Reply to  Gabrielle

I addressed this issue in my other comment, by stating that White people have issues like everyone else because they’re human. However, this is a website dedicated to Black women’s hair and other issues in OUR community. Yes, it’s unfortunate the we have to use the word community, when we should be able to say a community which includes all people, but that is not the world that we live in. All of the issues that you brought up, I’m sure many people of color are aware of them because the media shoves them down our throats. This is not… Read more »

sosoulful0125
sosoulful0125
9 years ago

I heard about this story the other day. Personally I feel like parents should teach thier kids to love themselves and to never try to be anyone but youself. I feel like its not wrong with the little girl appreciating beauty besides her own. However my problem is PAGENT MOMS! I have a serious problem with these pagent moms who enforce self hate. I mean making your child spray on tans, fake teeth, big fake hair. I mean I can not even watch the show I get sick to my stomach. Really what are you teaching your child?

Ain't I an African
Ain't I an African
9 years ago

If you like to put a ring on it,” LOL. I think her mom should be teaching her to appreciate her own beauty, not spray tanning her. She can still have brown dolls and appreciate brown beauty, but going to lengths to change how she looks is excessive.

boho.barbie
boho.barbie
9 years ago

Wow I’ve never seen or heard of this in reverse before.

justsayin
justsayin
9 years ago

The honesty in children is something to be admired. In her childhood innocence, she is admitting something that many older people in her race will never admit; they too want to be brown. Proof in all of the tanning salons and obsession with tanning. In the words of Paul Mooney ” Eveerybody want to be a N****, but nobody wants to be a N*****: On another note, this is very saddening to me. She is a beautiful little girl and her mother should be reinforcing this four year olds self esteem in who God made her. There’s nothing wrong with appreciating… Read more »

justsayin
justsayin
9 years ago
Reply to  justsayin

The dolls and the spray tanning is way too much for a four year old. The fact that she ONLY has brown dolls is a problem. It can certainly run deep into this girl’s psyche as she gets older.

June
June
9 years ago

I am not worried about her. I am pretty sure that has she grows up and becomes aware of her white privilege, she wouldn’t want to be black anymore. I guess she disproves the notion that people are attracted to, will listen to, will only have empathy for, or can only identify with people that look like them is biological and evolutionary.

I think it is wonderful she is playing with brown/black dolls, it would be better if she played with brown and black dolls in addition to a wide variety of dolls.

Leena
Leena
9 years ago
Reply to  June

I think u are overthinking this — she may just like the ‘brown’ asethetic. Not enough has to have some deep racial meaning

Leena
Leena
9 years ago
Reply to  Leena

That should say not everything has a racial meaning

June
June
9 years ago
Reply to  Leena

I never said it has deep racial meaning. Just acknowledging that as she grows she will appreciate her whiteness. There are some white people that believe the reason they do not ‘admire a brown aesthetic’ is biological, which as we know is nonsense. Just trying to join two different ideas that came to mind. I am fully aware she is only 4 and not fully aware of her decisions and choices, which makes her desires even more telling.

anastasia
anastasia
9 years ago
Reply to  June

June and several others have typed with great wisdom behind their words. I have experienced what June is saying from 2 little adorable white children in my life. At her age (child in video), they too wanted to be brown with “big” hair, engaged in play with a diverse set of dolls but played most often with, in their words, “pretty dolls”-those with brown skin. However, as they are growing older and are now being “mis-educated” in the ideology of white superiority, they now ask me: Why don’t I straighten my hair? Why am I not white like EVERYBODY ELSE?… Read more »

yoli
9 years ago
Reply to  June

i get what you’re saying, and i agree. it’s like why all the white kids drops their black friends in middle school and only start hanging with each other, socialization sets in ;).

AfroKisses
AfroKisses
9 years ago

I always get nervous when I see parents allowing or encouraging their child to change. I’m not trying to see a little white girl right now I just see a child and the little girl is adorable but do not sit there and spray tan a baby! I may be black but I have met white girls/women who will tan themselves until their skin is flaking off and I knew at least one girl who actually did it because she hated being white. I know white people hating being white isn’t common but girls and women with low self-esteems seems… Read more »

Jade
9 years ago

I was baby-sitting a biracial girl once (her dad was white and not present in her life), and she asked me if she would be brown and beautiful (like her mother) when she grew up. I told her that she would be beautiful no matter what. I caught her praying to God to become brown before she went to sleep. It broke my heart. She’s 14 now (This happened 7 years ago), but I still wonder if she wishes she were brown or if she’s comfortable in her skin. I thought it was interesting because many black and biracial children fail… Read more »

Kamee
Kamee
9 years ago

I don’t think white people think of skin/body image issues as much as blacks do. I’m willing to bet that all her momma saw, was her baby imagining/pretending she was her favorite pop singer. (Like most young girls do) No harm, no foul. That singer, just happens to be black. If it would’ve been Brittney, Hannah Montanna, Salena Gomez etc, she STILL would’ve been spray tanned.

tiredofthebs
tiredofthebs
9 years ago
Reply to  Kamee

White ppl have skin/body issues as much as anyone else, because they’re human. However, I agree with what u said abt her mother just seeing her daughter as pretending to be her fave singer. I didn’t see the video, but was trying to make that point. Everything is not a color issue, but because we are hurt, scarred and face discrimination, some of us can’t look at situations for what they are. I completely understand this, but at times it’s annoying like now because it stops us from growing (seeing everyone is not racist) and just enjoying a situation (seeing… Read more »

Kamee
Kamee
9 years ago
Reply to  tiredofthebs

I didn’t say that they didn’t have body/image issues at all. But i think they don’t think about skin color as often as us minorities do.

Krystal
9 years ago

The mother should not have given into the spray tan, imo. However, her love for brown dolls and Beyonce is cute.

MsFenty
9 years ago

Well, it’s clear to me that her mom has taught her to refer to black people as “brown” and white people as “peach”, so the little girl saying that she wants to be brown shows that she wants to look like a black person. I think the actual shade of blackness does not have much to do with anything. Case in point, she has black dolls that are not “light” like Beyonce. Also, I don’t think the fact that she wants to be “brown” holds the same weight as a little black girl who wants to be white, both of… Read more »

tiredofthebs
tiredofthebs
9 years ago
Reply to  MsFenty

+1

Eboni
Eboni
9 years ago
Reply to  MsFenty

+2

Fro
Fro
9 years ago

It’s common knowledge that all human beings, regardless of race, struggle with body image. But this one off incident is not the same as what Black people have to face with being constantly bombarded with the Eurocentric ideal of beauty, and the whole complicated history that entails with that; and were still struggling from the repercussion of it because not only does it still exist, but we still haven’t gotten over past wounds from it. And I’m side-eying anyone who tries to say that it is the same as white folks spray tanning. Spray tanning is a white standard of… Read more »

LBell
LBell
9 years ago
Reply to  Fro

THANK YOU. Keeping in mind this is Toddlers and Tiaras, which means we’re dealing with a very special (and thankfully very SMALL) subset of parents and children: As much as some of us want to pretend it doesn’t exist, white privilege is real and most white folks know it. As someone else posted above, most white kids figure it out by puberty and socialize accordingly. For that reason I’m willing to give the mother a small amount of credit for not freaking the eff out about her daughter’s desire for black/brown dolls. Let’s see how she feels in 12 years… Read more »

Rachel
Rachel
9 years ago

I saw this episode. I thought the little girl was beautiful in her peach skin and brown ringlets! I also think- as someone else mentioned earlier-that the mother sees her daughter immolating her favorite pop star. Clearly she is not learning prejudice at home which I am proud of the mother for doing. Although I am not a mother, I imagine it is a hard job instilling in your daughter that she is beautiful when there are billion dollar industries that profit on keeping her self-consciousness and self-absorbed. Is a beauty pageant the way to go? IMO, no, but the… Read more »

Morgan
Morgan
9 years ago

While self acceptance, and encouraging that in your children, is obviously important, I couldn’t help but like this video. alot. This little girl was tooo cute, with both her peach and more brown tones lol. And honestly this really can’t just be made into a linear comparison to when little black girls talk about wanting to be white. In most of those cases, there is at least the possibility that the desire stems from racism and the historical denigration of Blackness. In the case of this little girl in the video, that history isn’t there, she’s not feeling that way… Read more »

Jp
Jp
9 years ago

Brown colored as in a couple of shades darker than she is.…I’m sure tis child doesn’t want to be black (race).

Parisvision
Parisvision
9 years ago
Reply to  Jp

Black people come in all shades,and in thinking that they don’t is sad on your part. She wants to have tan skin that is for sure maybe she doesn’t want to be Black, but she is appreciating the skin tone of Black people.

Jp
Jp
9 years ago
Reply to  Parisvision

Ok…that’s not my point. My point is a child perception of race is far less developed than an adult’s. ?Thinking that black people don’t come in many shades” is sad on my part? Oh..ok.thanks for “schooling me” because I’m just finding out this fact.

rw
rw
9 years ago

its sad because beyonce shouldnt be the standard of beauty, her mom should be telling her she is beautiful

Kesha
9 years ago

More disturbed that Ally is obsessed with being a BRIDE at the age of four. I’m just saying.

Kalamari
Kalamari
9 years ago
Reply to  Kesha

+1 This is certainly a problem as well x__x;

anastasia
anastasia
9 years ago
Reply to  Kalamari

It’s extremely common for little girls to fantasize about being a bride- play is the work of childhood-fantasy included.

Delightbunnie
Delightbunnie
9 years ago
Reply to  Kesha

That was creepy as well. I think this child tends to look at a lot of magazines of bridal gown, since she was referring to the wear then actually getting married with a guy and having babies. :/

tired
tired
9 years ago

i just hate that skin matters so much in our society period im not saying ignore the issues that come with race.…but geez.. it shouldnt matter as much as it does wwhere ppl feel the need to get in arguments abt it especially blck ppl with each other nd on topic i found it alittle funny but wierd since i had never seen this befor but that little girl is beautiful peachy just the way she is and was meant to be lol

Dominique-Alexis
9 years ago

I love that she loves to think outside the box, but I really hope she loves herself even more. I saw this on TV and thought it was sort of cute.

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Victoria
Victoria
9 years ago

it’s cute but scary! It’s only adorable now because she’s so small and the way she started singing at the end was adorable, but if she was 15 and said that it wouldn’t be cute it would seem a bit shallow. I think that her mother should nip this in the bud before he daughter grows up with low self esteem

But in the end, this just shows people always want what they don’t have…

CollegeGrad11
CollegeGrad11
9 years ago

This little girl is from my hometwn, Longview, TX, which is located in East Texas. Let’s just say that it is not the most welcoming area for any person who is not blonde haired and blue eyed. It was surprising for me to see her mother encouraging her daughter to idolize a black woman. Especially since I’ve grown up here, and have witnessed racial discrimination first hand. It was truly a breath of fresh air! 🙂

Monzi
Monzi
9 years ago

I’d never thought I’d see this coming…but she probably would change her mind once high school starts. I remember having a friend in HS who was asian and she was so fascinated with black people and their culture. But once she got to college, she changed and said it was just a fad. That kinda hurt me because I thought for once someone wanted to be like “me”, but at the same time I shouldn’t have taken it personally. For this young girl, as many of you mentioned already, the mom should encourage her to lover herself and the skin… Read more »

B
B
9 years ago

Okay. The Toddlers in Tiaras thing is twisted. And I don’t think we should read too much into this ‘role reversal’ thing. But this makes me remember something that happened to me. I was on a business trip in Utah. I stopped for a late lunch at an Asian restaurant. A White woman and her young daughter came in a little bit after me. The little girl (maybe 4 years old) kept turning around at her booth to look at me (I’m Ghanaian, and West-African dark,dark-skinned). Suddenly she said to her mother, ‘Mommy, she’s brown. I want to be brown… Read more »

AJ
AJ
9 years ago

The comments on Jezebel have interesting views and ideas. Check ’em. Note the difference in tone

http://jezebel.com/5827861/little-white-girl-wants-to-be-more-brown

Margaret
Margaret
9 years ago

I saw the show and I thought it was cute. I don’t mind children “experimenting” with other cultures. I thought it was great that her parents allowed her to embrace her “brown desires.”

Bre
Bre
9 years ago

if i did not need another reason to dislike this show…That ‘mother’ needs to teach her daughter self love, that she is pretty too and that she should love herself but NO! Mom thinks it is cute for her daughter wants to alter herself before she has a real sense of self. I guess this is what i should expect from a woman who gets validation of her own looks through her daughter, a daughter who identify more with dolls and TV stars that what she sees in the mirror. Disgusting! This is not cute this little girl wants to… Read more »

Cassiopeia
9 years ago

This is absolutely ridiculous. This mother is being totally irresponsible and not teaching her daughter to love herself the way she was made.

Being of Afrikan descent, our children go through this problem living in a European dominated country but that doesn’t mean that our culture should dominate over theirs either.

On another level, is spraying a chemical into your daughter’s face and body healthy? This is materialism and vanity at its worst.

Barbara
Barbara
9 years ago

Ironic, considering Beyonce is trying to look like a white woman, blond weave and bleached skin

http://www.thegrio.com/assets_c/2011/02/beyonce-skin-color-thumb-400xauto-16884.png

Lisa
Lisa
9 years ago
Reply to  Barbara

I was thinking the same thing. SMH.

Age
Age
9 years ago

Everyone loves to take it where it needs to be. Clearly we are living in a time whre our own race wont adop little children of our OWN RACE but throw up arms when other races will. We are the first to scream injustice but here’s a little girl being SUPPORTED by her parents for liking another look. sorry ladies but the “black women are bitter” theory always looks more true. Everyday.

Eme
Eme
9 years ago
Reply to  Age

I am at a loss for words at the ignorance of this statement.

I respectfully request that the commenters hereafter do not dignify Age’s comment with a response.

Bre
Bre
9 years ago
Reply to  Age

Are you a troll or just stupid? Your comment can be interpreted as disjointed from the topic at first by bringing up adoption,you then make a blanket assumption (pushing you more into the stupid side vs the troll side), next you move to the original topic (for the first time) but only to be bitter that other do not see the world the way you do (moving you back to troll land). So are you stupid are a troll?

Tyne Swedish
9 years ago

This is so not healthy physically or mentally! It is great that she loves and can appreciate a different complexion other than her own but spray tanning a baby…NOT OK! How have these women not had CPS called on them?

Victoria Tillman
Victoria Tillman
9 years ago

Wow. I think her mom should teach her to love her own skin. But also teach her that all skin colors is beautiful.

India Brown
9 years ago

this is cute, but then again if it was a black child wanting to look lets say like taylor swift then there would be a problem. people would think the child is going through self hate. so why should we praise one and say its cute when it can be damaging to that child even though she is uplifting “brown.”

Morgy
Morgy
9 years ago

wow

monte
monte
8 years ago

loved how her mom is just completely fine with it, that amazed me!

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8 years ago

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abiola
abiola
8 years ago

im appauled and disgusted by some of the comments i have read here. how is this cute or acceptable in anyway? there is nothing positive about this. if this had been about a liitle black girl bleaching people would be all over this! people are so quick to jump at black girls bleaching, wearing coloured contacts, straighting/relaxing their hair? no matter how old they are. but suddenly its cute that a little white girl wants to tan like beyonce? i thought the whole point of this whole natural movement was to promote embracing who are, no matter your skin colour… Read more »

Elodie Careme
Elodie Careme
5 years ago

Spray tan a kid ? What’s wrong with this mom. In France, beauty pageants for minors under 16 have been legally forbidden in 2013 on the ground that they promote the idea that women can only succeed on the way they look and that they “hyper-sexualise”(does that word exists en english) little girl ? Hyper-sexualise means that some adults attributes (generally used for seduction purpose) have been assigned to a child or a teen: heels, makeups, thongs, bikini wax etc. I totally go in the sense of that law…kids should be just kids. As for this case, I think a toddler should not… Read more »

Lovelyevenstar
Lovelyevenstar
5 years ago

I feel this is a refreshing change and an affirmation (not that I need one!) of our beauty. However this isn’t really a first. Alot of white people tan (despite the risks) or spray tan to get the beautiful coloring many of us naturally have all the while secretly (or not so secretly) harboring feelings against us and/or unable to admit they want what we have. But this little girl with that beautiful frankness that children have the gift of is completely transparent about her wish to look brown and her love of the beauty of that and that is… Read more »

SKEEWEE
SKEEWEE
5 years ago

Hmm, not the first of heard. Whites have been tanning for the longest. My husband, who is White, says when he was a little boy he used to pray to turn Black and stayed in the the sun for hours to brown more. Her mom should teach her that yes, Black is beautiful, but to also love herself the way God made her.

Tabatha
Tabatha
5 years ago

For a while now pale skinned people have been tanning and such to get brown. I agree with the others that say that her mom needs to teach her to love the skin that she is in. Just like we should be teaching our kids the same, so they aren’t spending thousands to bleach their skin, or even darken it.

andrice
andrice
5 years ago

Bless her heart! Her idol is a beautiful black woman. I can’t be mad at that!

Rolanda “Roro” M
Rolanda “Roro” M
5 years ago

I want to say I’m a little flattered, but… It doesn’t feel right that she’s developing self-hate either.

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