I’ve been following your blog for a while now and I must say I’m quite the fan. I feel like I have a different perspective on things, because unlike (I’m assuming) most of your readers, I was natural first THEN relaxed. Now I’m not talking I was natural for a few years, no, I was natural for 18 years until college made me take the relaxer plunge. I don’t regret my decision and I think it’s very much a person’s choice. When I was natural, there certainly weren’t the amount of resources and it makes me smile to see the proliferation of the natural hair community. As someone who was rampantly teased for my “naps” and “fuzzy hair” and who longed for straight sleek relaxed hair like all the other girls in my class, it’s nice to see other black women embracing their curls and kinks.
Growing up, natural hair was always an option. My mom never believed in relaxing my hair and BC’ed her relaxer when I was 7. What I guess I want to address is the supposed ‘societal divide’ between relaxed women and natural women. I’m sure you have a decent amount of relaxed readers and I think it’s equally important to note that hair tips are hair tips. Basic hair care is the same (shampoo, deep condition, moisturize and seal) and I really don’t think there should be such a divide between relaxed and natural women. We all have hair, it all has needs.
Having a good helping of both experiences (I’ve been relaxed about 5 years), I think it would do more good for relaxed women to read natural hair blogs. There’s more than being a slave to a salon or a flat iron. In fact, since I’ve been following natural hair blogs my relaxed hair has FLOURISHED. I started at SL last year and I’m right on the cusp of BSL now. Mastering a braidout, twistout, bantu knot out can really and truly help relaxed hair too. Although it seems that society strives to stress the differences between relaxed hair and natural hair, I think it’s important to focus on healthy hair habits and what works best for each person, relaxed, natural, or transitioning.
Ladies, do you think there’s room for relaxed women in the natural hair community? And do you think there should be more of a focus on healthy hair as opposed to natural hair? Share your thoughts.