Reader Hyspin left the following comment on Hair Confessions: Are you Attached to Hair Length?
Yes I am a little paranoid about length because one of the main reasons why I went natural was to grow my own hair without the use of relaxers, extensions and weaves. But when you don’t see any progress for 1 year and have people give you same response over and over “Give it time, it will grow” the focus seems to become some what resentful.
Worse when you know what typical hair growth is supposed to be (half an inch per month at average no matter where you’re from). I think I would be less focus on length if I saw some growth. What makes it worse is that I have less breakage/shedding then when I was young (about half), before perming, than I do now, after perming, but still no length.
Also I guess what adds to this focus is my target goal, collar length in natural state slightly shrunken. I want my hair to be healthy too but I want growth just as much. I trimmed twice last year about 1/4 inch each time because I was told up and down that it was necessary but I know for me it makes no difference.
When you have a goal and think you have resources, the time and ability to measure progress, and it is (supposed to be) attainable (SMART goals) your going to focus even more to getting what you want, which can easily become somewhat of an obsession. So new tactics will evolve if the same old tricks don’t work.
If anyone can help me with this I would greatly appreciate it.
I think this is the story for MAAANY naturals (perhaps more than actually vocalize it). One popular YouTuber, Kim Love of KimmayTube, speaks at length in this video about how she was natural for several years (5 or 6 I think) and saw little to no growth.
Has anyone had this experience? Where you went natural and still weren’t able to retain length? Has it been frustrating? Also, have you managed to develop techniques and practices that enabled you to retain length? Please share!