Where do you live?
N: I live in N.Y.! I rep Brooklyn (*sings Brooklyn we go hard, we go hard lol)…can’t u tell? lol j/k. People always claim to be able to spot a Brooklyn girl.
Why did you go natural?
N: I had been neglecting my hair for yeaaarrrsss (no exaggeration about 7+ years worth of processing, from perming to coloring to glueing in weaves without any deep conditioning or protein treatments in between) and my once bra-strap length hair was brittle and choppy from all the damage and breakage. Just a mess to say the least. My, now, fiance and I had just moved in together and I couldn’t help but wonder if he had any idea what I really looked like without all the added enhancements. I felt insecure without them. I got so tired of hiding behind a facade! I just couldn’t keep up with the act any longer. I wanted to be free of the shallow perception of beauty I was plagued with. That was the catalyst that prompted my transition. That, and simply wanting long hair by any means necessary lol.
I transitioned for about 14 months total. I was already 3 months post relaxer when I officially decided to go natural. I big chopped on April fool’s day of this year. I opted for a straight weave ponytail, but I had to press my hair to camouflage the new growth. Not such a good idea. I was oblivious to such a thing as permanent heat damage. Luckily I didn’t suffer any. I also utilized half wigs to avoid using heat all together. Later in my journey I went back to sew in’s as a protective style once I had armed myself with information on how to properly care for my hair, no matter what style it was in.
Now that I’m natural i can admit out loud that my transition was EAAASSSYYY BREEZZZYYY! No breakage what so ever! My two textures got along just fine! and my protective styling kept my hair tucked away for 2–3 months at a time so that I maximized growth retention.
I’m content! I’ve never been as pleased with myself as I am now! The anguish and anxiety that my damaged hair caused me have subsided and I’m in love with my hair! I’ve even embraced its lack of length lol.
What’s your regimen?
My regimen goes as follows:
* Co wash once a week with VO5 moisture milks conditioner
*Deep condition once a week with Queen Helene’s Cholesterol
* On wash days I pre poo with extra virgin olive oil and shampoo with clarifying shampoo that I dilute in a spray bottle with 50% water and 25% conditioner.
* Apply my leave in conditioner, Kinky Curl Knot Today, and a little castor oil and tie my hair down and let air dry overnight.
How do you retain length?
I’ll admit. I’m a girl very much into glam and it’s rare that I’ll sacrifice that desire lol. So with that in mind I continue to use sew ins as my protective style now that I know how to properly care of my hair underneath. They keep me presentable, and keep my hair tucked away and off my mind. Other wise I’d be co-washing and manipulating daily (serious hand in hair syndrome lol)
What mistakes have you made with your hair that you’ve learned from?
N: I’m a person that takes calculated risks. I don’t sign up for anything I feel I cant win. This mentality hasn’t allowed me many (if any) mistakes thus far. I like to keep things simple so I often resort back to practices and things that I know worked for me in the past.
What’s the best/most effective thing you do for your hair?
N: Moisturizing my hair. I’m not afraid to ruin a style by jumping in the shower lol. I only go a couple day at a time without doing so.
Is there a blog/webpage where we can find you?
Anything you want to add?
N: The tangible part of my journey was easy. The mental part, however, required alot of attention. In the beginning of my journey I felt I had so many flaws working against me and that having no hair and/or natural nappy hair would only highlight them. No more weaves to hide behind. I was terrified! I’m sooo grateful for the natural community online on both blogs and Youtube that help me reprogram my perception of beauty. I’m elated to be able to finally contribute by sharing my experience. THANK YOU for allowing me to do so!!!