so, thanks for all your honesty in responding to the recent post on whether black women secretly hate their napps.
i will say this: i think that hatred or disdain or frustration with nappy natural hair (as opposed to curly natural hair or wavy natural hair) stems from a misunderstanding of how to style it, grow it and care for it. i mean, i really feel that nappy natural hair has been severely isolated in society. even in the media, when they do chose a black woman with natural hair, it’s usually wavy or curly, leaving us nappies to feel kind of freakish at times.
but i’m a firm believer that once we learn our nappy natural hair, and begin to take pride in it, we can *finally* see it as just another texture. i mean, it’s so arbitrary anyway. natural women with wavy/curly hair have their own benefits and challenges. and so do us nappies. i mean, i think the rule of thumb is, the nappier the texture, the more versatile. you can straighten/loosen nappy hair, but you can’t really ‘kink up’ wavy/curly/straight hair without looking a mess. also, nappy hair holds styles like fros, twists and braids much better than looser textures.
i think it’s on us to do right by our nappy hair. as we learn it, we will love it.
that’s my two cents. i really hope that this blog, and other natural hair blogs out there, provides education so that we can spend more time caring for our nappy hair, and less time hating it.
what say you?